seriously struggling :(

DD2 13 months is doing my head in :( the screaming is almost non stop, she wants to feed all the time, cluster feeding in the morning. she pretty much wont eat brekky, i can sometimes manage to get 1/4 of a weetbix into her, she used to eat toast but not any more, this is all before i feed her because if i feed her then she wont eat at all. wont eat much lunch, i managed to get morning tea into her today, raspberry pancakes but next to no lunch , just screaming for boob, she pulls my top down continuously, now dont get me wrong i like to demand feed but its getting rediculous. she will eat dinner most nights, thats the easy meal of the day. she used to eat heaps of stuff but has gotten fussier, she will eat rice cakes.

so what do i do??

limit the day feeds to say 3-4?? after brekky lunch dinner etc..???
help, i really need help as im not coping with the constant demandings and the screaming :( and i need her to eat then have boob but shes not happy with that

Is she teething hun? My DD has molars coming through and wants to feed a lot too. Has also gone off food but eats dinner & corn thins - are we sharing the same baby? ;) I'm only trying to feed morning & before bed at the moment but not always working....:doh:

Good luck hun, screaming sounds terrible. :hug:

No advice, but I just wanted to give you a big :hug:. I hope someone has some advice for you.

If she's at the uber-separation-anxiety stage then I think you may just have to ride it out. She "needs" to be very near you, and BF is her really effective way of making Mum sit with her for ages. Will she eat brekky if she's sitting on your lap or beside you on the floor rather than in her chair?? Or is she able to nibble on things throughout the day (like grapes or little bits of cheese or anything else that's not too messy or chokable)??

big hugs!

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Anyone else out there got any advice for Olive? cos I'm really interested too ;)

Hmmm must be the age cos we are having similar issues with that here too. :hug: I know how frustrating the screaming can be and also the pulling at your top saying "boo bee" every 30mins or so!! LOL it's very tiring at times. I reckon some days if DD wasnt offered food she wouldnt care as long as she has her booby milk !!
DD still wakes every 2-3hrs most nights wanting boob to comfort her too. (no matter how often we feed during the day time!) you aren't alone!

I don't have any advice sorry.... but am interested to read other posts. :D

Hang in there, this too shall pass xx

Olive we have are going through the same thing & i can't handle it either.
We are trying to do only 3-4 feeds a day & when she starts pulling at my top i usually get up & find something else for us to do read a book, go outside, put music on anything to take her mind off boobies and it's working so far.
We have gone from demand feeding to having 3-4 feeds a day & now we are doing that K's eating has picked up & she is almost sleeping through which is huge for us considering she was waking every 3 hours for booby.

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:hug: Jols. I hope it's just a passing phase for her, that she needs you extra in the morning. What's the time of her earliest bf? Can you possibly get someone to come over and help to distract DD for a while a couple of mornings in a row (like a playdate or something)? Or perhaps that's a good time for a trip to the park!

Oh darl this would be a big demand on you. The only thing I could think of is using the distraction technique if you need a break. I'm really no help I'm sorry. Best of luck darl, hoping this passing really quickly for you. Praying someone will have some good advice for you.

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Is she teething hun? My DD has molars coming through and wants to feed a lot too. Has also gone off food but eats dinner & corn thins - are we sharing the same baby? ;) I'm only trying to feed morning & before bed at the moment but not always working....:doh:

Good luck hun, screaming sounds terrible.

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im not sure, i did suspect it but cant see anything or feel any bulging teeth, maybe we are sharing bubs today!!

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No advice, but I just wanted to give you a big :hug:. I hope someone has some advice for you.

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thanks hun

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If she's at the uber-separation-anxiety stage then I think you may just have to ride it out. She "needs" to be very near you, and BF is her really effective way of making Mum sit with her for ages. Will she eat brekky if she's sitting on your lap or beside you on the floor rather than in her chair?? Or is she able to nibble on things throughout the day (like grapes or little bits of cheese or anything else that's not too messy or chokable)??

big hugs!

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yes we've bee going through that for months now, shes very attached to me! i always sit with her when she eats, i have bought some more nibbles for her today like those weet bites and cheerios to see if plain unmilked stuff will appeal to her

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Hmmm must be the age cos we are having similar issues with that here too. :hug: I know how frustrating the screaming can be and also the pulling at your top saying "boo bee" every 30mins or so!! LOL it's very tiring at times. I reckon some days if DD wasnt offered food she wouldnt care as long as she has her booby milk !!
DD still wakes every 2-3hrs most nights wanting boob to comfort her too. (no matter how often we feed during the day time!) you aren't alone!

I don't have any advice sorry.... but am interested to read other posts. :D

Hang in there, this too shall pass xx

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so is A feeding alot during the day???

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Olive we have are going through the same thing & i can't handle it either.
We are trying to do only 3-4 feeds a day & when she starts pulling at my top i usually get up & find something else for us to do read a book, go outside, put music on anything to take her mind off boobies and it's working so far.
We have gone from demand feeding to having 3-4 feeds a day & now we are doing that K's eating has picked up & she is almost sleeping through which is huge for us considering she was waking every 3 hours for booby.

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mmm i might need to try and distract her more.. i swear the neighbours must wonder whats going on with all the screaming, will definatly try and distract her more!!

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:hug: Jols. I hope it's just a passing phase for her, that she needs you extra in the morning. What's the time of her earliest bf? Can you possibly get someone to come over and help to distract DD for a while a couple of mornings in a row (like a playdate or something)? Or perhaps that's a good time for a trip to the park!

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jen i sometimes give her one side when she wakes so around 6.30 then brekky then more boob, but she prefers to by pass food and wait for boob! same happens if i dont feed her that first side!

DH wants me to consider weaning her :o im not ready, either is she so weaning isnt going to change much, buti might need to limit the feeds

Oh hun :hug: I wish I had a magic wand that would make everything better! :hug:

Oh Jols, babe :hug:
Just wanted to offer some support. Nate was fairly easily distracted, but then he usually is lol.
I hope you find a solution soon.

oh I thought of something else you wrote in relation to the food thing....he is chopping and changing his preferences like a dirty nappy too. Can't figure out what he will have one day to the next, and he will only ever eat 1/3 of a weetbix - even on the days he likes it. Thats about the size of his meals all the time.

thanks amber!

kim ...mmm so maybe my expectations of food quanities are wrong???? my thought has been eating less food is equating to having more boob when it should be the other way around

aww hugs hun
i wish i could offer a magical solution, but there isnt one-the best thing to do is WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!!!!
There is nothing wrong with DD wanting a feed all the time- If it suits you- perhaps she is having a bit of a moment and needs more bbs at the moment.

If it is a problem, then perhaps it might be time to look at offering more water throughout the day in a sippy cup, or space out her meals a bit so that its food and then boobs. Perhaps even offering more snacks as well- say every two hours.

Boof doesnt eat a huge amount either some stages- its not use forcing it- when they want it- they will take it.
Just remember that she wont be 21 and still having booby's- it is such a short time in her life!- hang in there you are doing an awesome job!!!!

:hug: :hug: I also hope this is a stage that passes quickly as well. Is he getting sick? or going through a developmental leap? I know my DS seems to want to feed like a newborn when he is teething, getting sick or going through a leap.

I also think distraction is the key to extending time between feeds knowing it isn't always going to work ;)

:hug: I dont have a lot of advice. I think everyone has given some good points. Just thinking of you and hope this stage passes quickly for you :hug:

Hopefully it runs its course soon. :hug:
One thing with DS I found worked was to go out - he was always too distracted to feed if there were interesting things to see and do, and would much rather run around and eat on the go. So yeah, a playdate or park trip maybe?
He also didn't seem to make that switch over to eating more than drinking till 15 months or so.

ETA - just another thought. Have you taken her to a gp just to check there's nothing else going on?

det she drinks heaps of water and i mean to the point shes getting tested for diabetes! (as soon as i get a urine sample) she can have a full feed then go and drink half a sippy cup of water, its crazy.

kelebrek not sick as far as we know.

ali thanks love

marcellus, she had on going ear issues but i dont suspect anything at the moment is wrong!

she ate some brekky today,some dry cheerios, a little jar food and yogurt she hasnt had a feed yet either! spoke too sooon, shes undressing me !!

no advice, just a big :hug: hope it passes quickly for you.

:hug: my DD at 15 months still breastfeeds more than eating. Yesterday I think she ate an orange and a banana and one piece of pasta all day :rolleyes:

I too wanted to cut back on breastfeeds in favour of food (we want to ttc) but then I realised, she probably knows what she needs better than I do, so we're just running with it.

Its tiring isn't it? But at least I can still eat huge portions and heaps of chocolate without it showing :)

Breastfeeding is a wonderful gift to your bub. You're such a great mummy!!!!

:hug: it sounds really tough. Has this been going on for a month or so or just in the last week?

I know when DS would want to feed a lot before he get's sick that it can take upto a week for any sickness to come about which meant that I would be frustrated cause I couldn't see why he was feeding so much until he got sick (hope that made sense)

I agree with Marcellus DS is always more distracted when we are out and about and tends not to feed so much... is it an option for you to get out of the house for a few hours?

Does she drink milk? if you are comfortable with that could you offer her milk or yoghurt?

Are you wanting to cut feed backs? or just the screaming?

I hope something works for you soon :pray:

Hey hun, just saw this now.

If it makes you feel better, remembering that Miss I cut herself down to 4 feeds a day, then I went back to work and now we only have two, well on the weekend she was all over me crying and pulling at my top, then she'd lie herself down on my lap in our primary BF position and keep pulling on my top until I gave in.

Maybe it is something to do with the age they are? She also ate hardly anything over the weekend and I was getting concerned until I rememebered she had twice the BF she normally does.

I know if I don't feed her first thing (like as soon as she wakes up) she is a terror - if you feed Miss M, does she calm down for a little bit after that? Is she interested in food 30 or 60 mins after BF? Or does she just want more BF?

Big hugs for DH wanting you to wean... I know what you're going thru, DH keeps saying the same thing to me too :hug: