How do you deal with the unrelenting-ness of it all?

Maybe I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, but I just seem to have a very short tether for being a mummy today. It just DOESN'T END. I am sick of waking up tired far too early, every morning. I am sick of having to go to bed so early I feel like a school child to try to avoid said tired waking. I am sick of constantly, constantly, constantly cleaning up. I am sick of all of my stuff being thrown around the house. I am sick of sharing my food, my drink, my toothbrush for goodness sake! I am sick of being crawled over ALL THE TIME. I am sick of reading the same book for the 20th time while the house remains a pigsty. I am sick of trying to do everything one handed while I carry a heavy, squirming toddler. I am sick of being patient and understanding trying to get my DS to sit and eat. Sick, sick, sick of it.

I really need a break- a whole weekend for just DH and I would be so, so, so nice. But its just not possible, we just don't have anyone who can do that for us.

I do try to take little breaks (a few hours here and there), but it just seems like its not enough atm, like I need something longer and bigger, and there is just no hope of it.

I'm just having one of those days- and its only 7:45am!!!

Thanks for letting me rant!

Aww hun :hug: it sucks sometimes doesn't it.

DD1 is teething and DD2 has slept in my bed the past 2 nights, DP wasn't home last night so both the girls decided 6am this morn was time to get up.. which would be FINE if DD1 would stop sooking! :wall:

Hope your day improves.... just think when they are older and making us grey we will wish they were little and under our feet again... :rofl:

:hug: I hear ya :hug:

I hear you too. :hug: I was on a rampage yesterday because I'm sick of cleaning the same messes, sick of answering the same questions over and over, over the 5am waking, and the sleepless nights (don't even know why I go to bed some nights)......I'm over it all too. It makes me really sad that my mum and brother and SIL live 10mins up the road but don't look after my kids ever. I need time with DH, time alone. More than just a few hours too. I really hear ya!

:grouphug: honey, it's hard not to let it all bring you down sometimes. I hope something fabulous happens to brighten your day today!

Oooohhh yeah. It's so tough some days. Blame it on the sleep deprivation. I do. It's so hard to have time to ourselves at this stage of motherhood. Let yourself feel like you do and don't feel guilty about it. We all have days like you are describing. Is it possible for your DH to look after your DS for a day and you go and have a break from the routine? I finally worked out that all I needed was a break and it renewed my ability to endure it all. We've now made it so that I have a weekend to myself every six months. I actually go away somewhere for the weekend. I have to do it or I will go crazy. DH also has weekend camping trips every now and then too. It is essential to have that time to yourself just for sanity. Sending you big hugs xxx

I think it always feels worse on long weekends or holiday times.... You (the collective you) think of all the people that get to have a break & time off & go "Well where is my long weekend? Where is my break?" Or at least I know that is true for me.

Try to hang in there :comfort:

Hang in there darl!! We are right there with you - it just sucks some days. My DD's behaviour the last week has had me in constant tears of frustration!!! She is being a complete nightmare which makes everything worse. Hope you get a rest soon

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I think it always feels worse on long weekends or holiday times.... You (the collective you) think of all the people that get to have a break & time off & go "Well where is my long weekend? Where is my break?" Or at least I know that is true for me.

Try to hang in there :comfort:

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This is so true! Weekends/holidays are just not really breaks with young kids! I know DS is growing up really quickly, but days like this it sure seems slow!

Thank you for all the love. I knew I wasn't alone! ;)

Ohhh Jess, I could of written your post word for word man. I feel the same. I have had a few weekends off, and yeah it's nice. But it's not often enough AND when she comes back she's even WORSE cause my IL's let her get away with absolute murder!

:hug: hun.

Regards,
Dianne'

Oh I so know how you're feeling!! :hug:

:hug: another person here who could have written your post word for word. :hug:

I get it too :hug: We're doing renovations this weekend and it has been a nightmare with 3 kids in the house. If I hear myself say 'go and play outside!' one more time I think my ears will start bleeding :wall:

I hear you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DS2 has been in our bed everynight for a week from midnight!!! He wakes as soon as I lie down and will only go back to sleep with me! and if I move him when asleep he wakes!!

DS1 is always making a mess and wants attention as soon as I sit to feed DS2.

So true that weekends and public holidays are not a break!!!!!!!

Hang in there!

Know how you're feeling. :hug: It's really tough some days. Sleep deprivation does horrible things to tolerance levels!

Wow - yesterday I could have written your whole post word for word too. Today, things don't seem so bad. I just kept saying to myself 'this will pass'. Being aware that I have bad days makes it a bit easier to cope I think.

:hug:

I'm housebound because of health issues to do with this pregnancy and don't drive so I've basically been stuck in the house with a toddler since Week 11 so I can well relate to the monotony of it all.

Some days are truly horrific. Others are not so bad. The horrific ones are when I'm trying to get stuff done (we're buying/selling/moving house) and DD won't let me. Some days I literally can't get on the computer for 30 seconds to look up a phone number. On those days, I just have to give in and resign myself to the fact that I'm not going to get anything on my To Do list done. Otherwise, I can spend the whole day trying to do something that should take 10 minutes and just get really frustrated.

The good days are where we change things. Because I've got limited options, that might be that we play in my bedroom rather than the living room or we do a new activity like painting or making muffins or I teach her to give me the washing out of the washing machine. My favourite de-stresser when I could actually get into the bath, was to have a bath with her at any time of the day.

It's mentally draining though, especially when you're sleep deprived to start with, to keep coming up with new things to do.

Hope tomorrow is better for you and you get a good night's sleep tonight.

just sending you big hugs, hope your day got better!

Amber, I can kind of relate to what you're feeling. I say 'kind of' since DS is only 7mths old so he's not at the crawling on me stage, but I've been in my house for 4wks and still have about 10 boxes to unpack, pictures to hang, just basic normal life stuff to do that I can't get done unless I resign myself to literally no 'me' time at all.

For what it's worth though, DS IS only 7mths old, very portable (albeit with 4 bloody bags full of gear) and will fall asleep anywhere, anytime. Probably the only perk of having a baby who spent the first 6wks of his life in the hospital - he can adjust to anything.

AND...I live in NW Melb. If you ever want a break and can deal with placing your son's life in the hands of an Internet buddy, and a crazy Canadian one to boot, I'm here and more than willing to take over for a night, or a weekend even, to give you a break. And I'm serious about this offer. I wouldn't make it - in writing even!!! - if I wasn't.

I hope tomorrow's a better day Sweetpea!!

S xo

I can relate to everyword in your OP.

Sometimes (alot of the time) it feels like the only thing you ever do is look after everybody else. The cleaning never ends and there is never anytime for yourself.

I get a bit of a reprieve by going to work 3 days a week, but then find i come home and everything is waiting for me and I havnt even thought about dinner yet :wall:

Its damn hard being a woman in todays world...and i blame those womens libbers who fought for the right to go into the work force and earn their own living. That was a good idea wasnt it! Now i have all the housework and the kids PLUS i'm expected to work on top of it all. :wall:

Im sorry, this is your rant... i completely understand your pain.

i felt that today i was going to get a break but that fell through and i was so upset hopefully i get it 2moro xoxoxox :hug: