Can anyone recommend a good toddler parenting book???

Hi guys, I'm hoping some of you lovely ladies will be able to recommend a good toddler parenting book for me. We've hit the tantrum throwing stage and I honestly don't know how I should handle it. I know DD is too young to really understand her own emotions and is feeling frustrated etc, but I feel I need some guidance in regards to how I should be reacting to these constant episodes. I guess I'm also looking for something that I can use as she gets older and has more understanding of her own emotions and consequences. Can anyone help me???? Thanks so much :)

Ive heard that Toddler Tactics by Pinky McKay is really good!
Ive read some of her other books and love them :)

I second toddler tactics and also baby sign. Both have been very helpful for us (especially the signing)

Thanks for the replies ladies. Is it too late to start the baby sign language? I had great intentions of introducing it to her as a baby but never got around to it. When she does have her tantrums it's pretty obvious what it's over - anytime I say the word 'No' lol! I realise it's due to her frustrations and not knowing how to control her emotions, but I just don't know what's the best way to deal with them. She gets so angry and violent! At the moment I try to distract which does work, but I guess I'm just looking to prepare myself for the future. She is a strong willed, stubborn little person (just like her mum!) and I guess I can see that I will need some guidance in the future. I'll definitely look into Toddler Tantics, I've heard great things about Pinky McKay so thanks!

I liked Toddler Taming by Dr Christopher Green. Ignore the heading - it's not really about "taming" your toddler, just good commonsense stuff as to the whys and wherefores of toddler behaviour and some practical, sensible ideas on how to deal with behaviour (also looks at other typical toddler issues such as toilet training, food etc). It's also humourous and doesn't take itself too seriously.

Nope, not too late. Actually it's a great time in a way, because she'll probably pick it up very quickly.

The "No Cry Discipline Solution" is a good one - can't remember the author but it uses a gentle parenting philosophy...

Definitely toddler tactics!! Pinky McKay is awesome!

Is the No Cry Discipline Solution in the same series by Elizabeth Pantley? I have her No Cry Sleep Solution and Nap Solution which I enjoyed. Might have to go to the library and see if they have them there before I buy. Thanks for your help ladies!

Yep - Elizabeth Pantley wrote it :)

Loads of great suggestions in the parenting section of the BB online store here - you'll love all of them, they are especially picked ;). What Every Parent Needs to Know (formerly Science of Parenting) and Toddler Tactics are two I highly recommend. Both if you can - WEPNTK goes into so much depth about what's happening, its really informative. TT has advice etc too but also has lots of mothers experiences and stories so both have great points.

Oh yeah I forgot, WEPNTK is great!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with the others! Especially the baby sign and "The science of Parenting" - I think Kelly mentioned it is now called What Every Parent Needs to Know. (Margot Sutherland) I picked up a copy from the library and it really spells out clearly how a child's mind works.

With baby sign, we started at 12 months - same as you, meant to start earlier but never got around to it. By 13months DD was signing her first word and absolutely took off from there. Her verbal development was astronomical after that too as we always used words with the signs. She really loved it and on more than one occasion it saved a tantrum as she was able to sign what she wanted when she couldn't say it.

Instead of investing in Baby sign books, just check out the Auslan website. They have short videos of someone signing every word you can think of. I started with two simple signs we use all the time, Milk and book. She picked up milk first and then realised what was going on and looked for my signs for everything. I was constantly checking Auslan webpage!!

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I liked Toddler Taming by Dr Christopher Green. Ignore the heading - it's not really about "taming" your toddler, just good commonsense stuff as to the whys and wherefores of toddler behaviour and some practical, sensible ideas on how to deal with behaviour (also looks at other typical toddler issues such as toilet training, food etc). It's also humourous and doesn't take itself too seriously.

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Same as well as Toddler Tactics by Pinky McKay.

I agree with AndiE and Vixstar - I'm currently reading Toddler Taming by Christopher Green, and so far it's been great - down to earth, common sense and the humour means that DH is even prepared to learn from it lol. I also really like that he gives examples from his own work and others, it gives me a better idea of how to apply different things, and how sometimes it takes some small tweaks to personalise a method to your family/child/situation, but it can work all the same.

I've not read Toddler Tactics, but it's next on my list! :)

Thanks for all the info ladies, I'm heading to the library tomorrow to see what they have before I buy.

Thanks also jackrose for the sign language info, I'll definitely check out that site!

I started with Robin Barker Baby Love for baby then moved onto her next book
The Mighty Toddler.
Both excellent books and very practical advice.
Also have a look at Raising Girls for the next stage :D

I got given the Mighty Toddler book by Robin Barker.
Havent read it yet but will let you know.
Maybe borrow some from your local library as they are quite expesive to buy.

Thanks Heather - who's the author of Raising Girls?

Steve Bidduph...it's called

Raising Girls
Why Girls are Different - And How to Help Them Grow Up Happy and Confident
this book By Steve Biddulph (Foreword by) and Gisela Preuschoff

He also does a Raising Boys and also a Complete Sectrets of Happy Children

He is very good..my DH read the Raising Boys from cover to cover and found it quite useful.

can anyone tell me some actual techniques in these books that helped,
words to use
responses
etc
to adverse behaviour in different ages from 2-5
as i currently cant read anything but would appreciate some hints you learnt from these books thanks.

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The "No Cry Discipline Solution" is a good one - can't remember the author but it uses a gentle parenting philosophy...

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Ditto - I am reading this book atm and it has helped me more than any other book. Elizabeth Pantley is the author Google her!!!