sooo... three is worse than two......

ok so my lovely DS turned three almost 2 mths ago and seriously NO ONE warned me that this was going to be worse than the "terrible 2's" 2 has got nothing on 3 grr some times it feel like im beating my head against a brick wall...im trying not to give in and spoil him as much but it is sooo much easier just to say ok have what you want.....it really does my head in the mr independent thing and the not listening is getting really old...who knew my three yr old knew EVERYTHING!!! hahaha anyone else experience this.....i dont think him being a Gemini helps at all lol

Oh yeah! I thought we'd gotten of scott-free with the "terrible twos", but then DS1 turned 3 LOL! Apparently their testosterone levels increase which can cause some "issues". It does pass, I promise!!

all i can say is i feel your pain lol

oh trish i hope it does because im at my wits end!! i actually had to lock myself in my bedroom the other day coz he got to me that much :(

Big hugs :hug:. You'll get through this :).

Yep, we are having horrible 3's as well. My DD never went through terrible 2's at all and I though we wouldn't have that stage at all! Oh how things changed! I want to go back to the 2's...

My DS isn't 3 until next month but we are really quickly realising that 3 is a lot worse than 2.. You aren't alone.

Yup. 3's here are hell. And DD1 is just about to go into the terrible 2's. So I'll have the best of both worlds. Yay me.

this is prob the WRONG thing to say but i really wish sometimes it wasnt illegal to sell kids on ebay hahahaha

Gosh I thought I was the only one battling through this with my DS and was feeling totally incompetent! He has so much attitude at the moment and we are battling over everything. It is becoming really unpleasant being at home and I'm having to use time out again and again. Any idea when we might see an improvement? I totally agree that 3 is worse than 3,...or maybe we have forgotten lol

i feelo all u girls pain and yes it is horrible being at home for me aswell....its soooo nice to kno im not the only one!! :) we'll pull through girls!!!

You mean it gets worse?! :o

yes im sorry but it does much much much worse

Ha ha! Oh yes!!! I was just saying the other day that having a 3 year old is like having an abusive partner - they yell, hit, bite, call you names. You have to stay with them, and remain the calm mature adult. Sometimes I feel like screaming "well you are the bumhead!". But I know I will regret it later. LOL

hahaha i have been known to lower myself to three year old standards many of times!!!!

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Sometimes I feel like screaming "well you are the bumhead!". But I know I will regret it later. LOL

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Krysalyss That is soooo funny!!!
My DS is abusive - biting, hitting, pinching, pulling my hair, screaming, screeching, throwing his body. I thought it was just me!

Noone told me this either :(

Charlotte has been pretty good with the "terrible 2s" nonsense... But now she is a few months shy of 3 she is slowly getting worse - I can tell that 3 is going to be tough! lol

You reckon 3 yr old is full of attitude ...it gets worse wait til 4yrs then 8, 9 and 10yrs hooly dooly then the 'time out' room becomes a permanent room that i know and love for ME lol :)

I have heard this same thing again and again and again. I am NOT looking forward to 3. At all.

Welcome to being a mummy of a "threenager" LOL!

Yeah, why does no one tell us this?! The terrible twos seem like a walk in the park compared to 3! Not looking forward to going through it with DS2 who is much louder and way more stubborn than DS1 :o.

Here Here!
Ds was getting so good! I was very impressed.
Then, about 3 weeks ago it all turned and I have lived in hell a majority of the time since. He only turned 3 yesterday.... so I've got an interesting 12 months ahead of me...

Oh how nice it is to find this thread... I was thinking of writing it myself. Just today I posted this up on my face book mothers group thread.....

Olivia brought me to tears this morning. I know I am hormonal, but seriously that little lady rubs me up the wrong way some times. I have never known anyone to get my goat like her. She just makes me snap and I find I yell at her and she yells at me and its just a yelling match. I keep saying to Adam that I cant believe that I grew up in such a soft talking mellow family and here I am yelling at my own child. I hope its a phase but honestly I can see its her personality, she so strong and stubborn and I am finding that difficult to deal with. Any suggestions. I dont want to be screaming at her every day. Its not a nice feeling!

We had a few issues when she was 2. Shes always been a screamer/squealer. Shes very firey but this is just ridiculous. Its a daily battle with her. Its just reassuring to see that it must be a 3 year old stage. Yep, am I am another who has one going into the 2's so double the fun. I love my dd so much, but its that 10% of the time when shes rude, stubborn, abusive, persistant, comes out with smart comments...etc..... so trying!

:tmi: I soo dont want to know (and yet I kept reading). DS is already throwing tanties and he's only 13months!

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Sometimes I feel like screaming "well you are the bumhead!".

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:yeahthat: :ROFL: So glad it's not only me

yep, the 2's definately have NOTHING on the 3's.
attitude all'round...

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Olivia brought me to tears this morning. I know I am hormonal, but seriously that little lady rubs me up the wrong way some times. I have never known anyone to get my goat like her. She just makes me snap and I find I yell at her and she yells at me and its just a yelling match. I keep saying to Adam that I cant believe that I grew up in such a soft talking mellow family and here I am yelling at my own child. I hope its a phase but honestly I can see its her personality, she so strong and stubborn and I am finding that difficult to deal with. Any suggestions. I dont want to be screaming at her every day. Its not a nice feeling!

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i can really relate to this and i hate yelly at ds but i dont know what to do anymore and he has me almost in tears all the time!!! i think we just may have to ride it out lol is she a gemini??

I thought it was just my 3yo too. The terrible 2s were a walk in the park compared to 3s. He suddenly got an attitude and now asks 'why' whenever I ask him to do something.

About 4-5 weeks ago I was at my wits end. He was having terrible tantrums where he would scream for 15 minutes and I would put him in his room and ignore him completely until he stopped crying. When he was calm I would go in and tell him crying gets him nothing. He would be great for 10 minutes then he would come out and if he didnt get what he wanted another tantrum would start. He had like 30 tantrums each day for about two weeks. I was in tears and I didnt know what to do. I wanted to see a doctor because I thought he must have behavioural issues. However by the end of the two weeks he finally realised that tantrums and crying gets him nothing. He still has tantrums but usually only 1 or 2 a day. Or if Im really lucky, then none. BUT, he is still very difficult to deal with most of the time. Not the sweet little 2 year old anymore

I do worry about him going back to that though. I wish someone told me 3 is worse than 2

young_mamma87- shes an Aries! By the sounds of everyones post I dont think its gunna matter what sign they are. Its horrible! Well it gives me comfort that I dont have an awful mean child!!! Shes just... asserting herself in the best way.. I think! Oh the joys! Good luck, I'm here with you:)

i thought i had a horrible child and every one would think im a bad mum!!! glad im not alone :)

One thing I am sick of hearing is "I WANT..." when DS knows he needs to ask "can I please have..".... then when I try and get him to correct himself, or ignore him because he hasn't asked properly the screaming and squealing and incoherent mumbling that coms from him is shocking!

"Hun, can you please do this for Mummy?" "No I don't want to! I won't do it".
Grr. I was in tears twice on my birthday last week, and at least once every other day aswell, and I have a nearly 15 month old girl who is VERY trying.
I'm just glad it's not only my child and that he's not ridiculously worse than everyone elses.

Now I love love love my DS but this afternoon he calmly told me he was going to kill me, then cook me and eat me :OMG:
To put it into perspective he is obsessed with eating meat at the moment as we are vegetarians (and when I say - do you actually want some? he refuses it) so just before that he had been 'fishing', 'cooking' and 'eating' fish. I was pretty angry though. If he didn't also show lots of empathy towards people, animals and toys I would be worried! (Thankfully if he thinks I might be down he is the first to run up for cuddle and tell me its ok). Anyone else get this?

I have been told 2 and 4 are the worst!..............great Ill have a 2yr and 4yr old!!!!!!!

Oh yes 3 is much worse than 2!

11 is pretty bad too :rolleyes:

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Oh yes 3 is much worse than 2!

11 is pretty bad too :rolleyes:

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great :rolleyes:

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Anyone else get this?

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Yes. DS told me he wanted to cut off my boobs the other day. I was pretty angry (in shock I think).

But I think they talk about killing and cutting at his daycare - for some reason :rolleyes: He hangs out with the bigger boys.

Oh good - I am soooo glad I am not the only one. Our 'terrible twos' were actually really lovely - I loved 2!!! I found 18 months until just before their second birthdays challenging but DD1 was a great 2 year old and DS is also proving 2 is wonderful. 3 on the otherhand ... oh boy.

I am so sick of hearing 'why?' to everything. I don't answer it anymore unless I think it is genuine, I usually just ask her back 'Well, why do you think it might be?'

I think stubborness is the other thing that drives me nuts (I should really call it 'determined' rather than 'stubborn' ;)) - She wants to do everything without any help and all hell breaks loose if I try even if it is not possible or too dangerous for her to do it on her own. It is doing my head in. Everything from trying to put on her own seatbelt (which I wouldn't mind, but near enough is not good enough with seatbelts, I have to fix it if it isn't plugged in properly) to wanting to pour her own water at the dinner table (which I let her do but if I forget that she does it herself and do it for her ... God help us all).

I am so relieved it is not just other people who are finding 3 a bit more challenging. Having said all of that though, there are things about 3 that I am loving - she says "I love you Mummy" all the time without being prompted (and that just melts my heart), she is becoming more independent and I am so proud of her for the things she can do, she has started singing in tune and will sit and make up songs, she plays in the most incredible and imaginative ways ... there are also so many wonderful things about 3 that I am loving. It is a pretty special year so far (she turned 3 in May this year).