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Ok, I know a lot of the threads in this forum are from desperate parents trying to get some sleep, so please forgive me if this comes at a bad time.....
DS actually just goes to sleep.
You know those parents that say "Well we just do our bedtime routine, then we say good night, turn out the light and that's that"... And you know how you think "WTF, as if!? Go tell someone who cares."
DS actually just goes to sleep now.
It is the wierdest thing. Seriously.
Yay! Well done :)
DS does this for his day sleep but not for bedtime each night.
Good stuff little man! :) Not weird, great!
DD does it too, for her night sleep (babbles away to herself til she drifts off), but well and truly makes up for it for her day sleeps ;)
I think it comes at great time, gives all those not having so much luck a bit of hope! :D
How old was he when he started doing it?
Um. How old is he now...? 2years 4 months
It is really weird when you spend about 2 years battling at almost every sleep time and then suddenly you don't have to any more. But it does also put it into perspective - it was only 2 years of our lives. I'm sure there'll be times when he still needs us to go to sleep and he still wakes up most nights, but it's a million times better now than before.
Well done! The holy grail!
DD used to do this. And then for some reason I stopped just putting her down. I haven't even tried it. I wonder...
So true, 2 years seems like forever when you're living it, but really it's nothing. Good for you guys! :D
Thanks for the reminder Marcellus. It's great timing actually.
I remember DD was about that age when she started doing the same thing and has been great ever since....DS will get there.
That is fantastic! Ah, so there is light at the end of the tunnel! :D
My boys do it quite well also. Most nights... It took a little bit to get here but it is reasuring to know that it's possible isn't it!? :D
It won't happen overnight but it will happen - said in my kiwi accent!
Excellent, they get there eventually though at the time it seems like they never will.
My boy does this some of the time! Other times he plays, talks and cries - but sometimes, he just rolls over and goes to sleep! :) It's lovely, isn't it? :lol:
I LOVED when this started happening (it's not at the moment but that's okay)... I was like you- it's such a novelty! You deserve it :D
The bit I love about knowing you have supported them while they got to this point themselves is that they don't do it because there is no point calling out for you- you have always shown you will come, so they are obviously comfortable, safe and happy to be going to sleep. What a gift you have given :D
DD was like this... DS not so much. I think I broke him some how LOL!
That's great! How did it come about? Did he just do it one night on his own? Did you used to feed him to sleep when he was a little baby?
What a clever little man!
You're right, the 2 years isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things. When I am struggling, I just chant "this too shall pass" - something I heard here! It helps me a lot to do that.
Sue x
Since you asked Sue....
When DS was little we fed to sleep, and rocked/cuddled/sang or whatever worked! sometimes for hours
After 18 months or so he got a bit big for rocking so we lay down next to him or cuddled or sang... it would take forever for him to settle down and drop off but he'd scream if I left the room. DH and I would often tag team through the evening till he was finally asleep (it was 1-2 hours usually)
Anyway, sometimes around 22 months-ish DS stopped fighting sleep. It was quite sudden - he just realised that it was actually quite nice to sleep,.
Around the same time I found, having had to pop out to the loo, that he didn't scream when I left. So we started leaving him for short periods (he'd get upset after a little while) as he was settling for bed. These absences got longer and longer and he started to ocasionally drop off on his own. But it was only just in the past week or so that he's done it consistently and happily.
So we changed the way we did things, but ony in response to changes in him, if see what I mean. He told us when he was ready and we went with that.
That's cool Marcellus, thanks for answering my questions.
Hehe, I just have visions of me feeding missy moo to sleep when she is 10 or something LOL
Sue x
Ah, a welcome reminder that in a year or so I may be able to post the same thing... even if it's in 2 years... Not too long in the grand scheme. Thanks :)
Oh, and congrats to your DS for learning that sleep is AWESOME! :D
So Marcellus, how long did you feed your baby to sleep?
Oh yay!!! :dance:
We're back on the other side of the merry-go-round, but we did have a week of him going to bed easily about four months ago. It was bliss. Then his last teeth came through, then DD arrived, and since then it's been crap again, to the point that we've actually decided as of today to wean him, because the screaming hysterics we get if he can't feed to sleep (it's impossible to feed a toddler for on average an hour a night with a cluster-feeding newborn) are not worth any benefit extended BF might otherwise give. But seeing that someone else is having success gives me hope that one day we'll have a boy who sleeps, and reminds me that this too will pass.
Oh Suse, I'm so scared that I'll be feeding my nearly 10-month-old DD to sleep forever :(
I know I won't, but you know when you're so caught up in the hopelessness of the situation and you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel?
She is teething at the moment - 2 top side teeth are coming through. She gets so angry if I don't feed her back to sleep when she wakes at night! I tried 4 times to put her back to sleep at 2am (so it was 3.10am by the time we finished).....
She'll feed, fall asleep, then I put her in the cot and she wakes up and babbles and kicks her little legs... and god help me if I try to do the 'ssh and pat'!! Then I get the wrath of baby!
I can't imagine going through this all again with another one. In fact I keep counting down and trying to imagine how many months/years until it ends.... a futile exercise, I know. Clearly I just do not deal with sleep deprivation at all.
I can't remember exactly. I think it was 9-10 months maybe that it stopped working all the time - or rather, it would only work when he was very, very tired. He would still feed to sleep during the night till we night weaned at 14 months.
i can't believe i missed this thread! sorry i'm a bit behind the times...but that is awesome news! wtg your little man :clap:
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