I know its part of being a good mother..

but I can't stand it.

Cooking with my kids that is.

I just cannot stand it. It raises my blood pressure. We just cooked some biscuits before and it ended with DD1 being banned from the kitchen. All I seem to do is yell at them because they are crapping me off with the crap that they pull in the kitchen.

Some lovely examples from today's experience:

1. A fight broke out, pushing and shoving and squealing over chairs. There's two of them, two chairs, not difficult to work out kids come on! Its not musical chairs either, just pick a chair and stick to it.

2. Some drumming was done on the ingredients, right after I had moved them all out of the way they were moved back, in the way of the bowl, and I've only got a small bench. Just leave them where they are.

3. As soon as I turned my back, DD1 stuck her hands in the bowl that we had just put the sifted flour in - on top of the creamed butter and sugar. Just LEAVE it alone.

4. Measuring out milk (tablespoon) with my shaky, high blood pressure about to blow hands - and I cop a karate chop on the wrist. *Sigh*

Why can't it just be a pleasurable experience? Why can't they just do as they are told? Why can't they just leave stuff alone when asked to?!

ARgghhghghghghgh :wall:

Yes, yes I should have more patience, I'm a bad mother, blah blah blah... :p

DD1 dropped a tub of double cream last night, splitting it on two sides and ended up all over the floor, wouldnt have been too bad if it wasnt an integral part of the dish.
then when i was adding salt and pepper to the frying pan the salt grinde exploded and i ended up with about 5 tbs of salt in the chicken, rendering the meal inedable!
i also do not enjoy cooking with my children lol

I'm the same when it comes to the kitchen, no patience.

Regards,
Dianne

oh honey :comfort: how old are the kids ?? I knwo Jack drives me batty sometimes and its so much easier to do it alone, a lot of the time I will give him a seperate bowl with a little flour and mil and let him mix he doesn't know its not what makes the cake or what ever we are cooking but he enjoys it and it saves my sanity

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SORRY but i have to laugh he he he

Hugs hun I have made muffins once with DS1 and that was a big enough pain in bum!!!

You are not a bad mummy at all xoxo (or we both are together hehe)

Cooking is a real trigger for me too. I try to do it when dd is asleep or otherwise occupied (read watching tv)!

:hug: who says you can't try again when they're older. I think toddlers and kitchens just don't mix.

Yep, you're a shocking Mother and I can't believe you would get so frustrated with your kids ;) <--- What a freaky looking winky man.
(As I am typing I am telling DS off because he is shoving a plastic golf club in my face and yelling at me to play with him!)

Anyway, seriously though.... we all get frustrated with our kids and as much as I love cooking with them at times, other times they completely do my head in and pull things out, tip things over etc etc. Take a deep breath and lower your blood pressure and when you compose yourself go and cross that activity off the list so you don't have to attempt that one for another 2 years :D

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oh honey :comfort: how old are the kids ??

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DS will be 4 in January, and DD1 is 2. He's not TOO bad (well with exception to the karate chop!) on his own he seems to be fine, but today, omg, possessed with insanity or something...

not bad just normal an dhonest for admitting it.
just let go and do what they want and hten pay em to clean it. sit down and have a cuppa and say my time out. when your down creating havoc lemme know!!

LOL

Coz you're trying to do it all at once. If I ever do any baking with my kids, its with one only. I have had all 3 there....once! Never again. Its either when the girls are at school & just DS & I at home, or when they are all in bed. Its really not worth the trouble otherwise.

So, i guess I'm a bad mother too...

HAHAHHAH thats hilarious!!

I love cooking with DD only when i have the energy and time to clean the huge mess she'll make. She is generally well behaved until i turn my back on her then all the flour the water goes all over the floor and she does it on purpose too!!!

and when we've added enough sugar "more sugar mum, more sugar mum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

I think you deserve an award for cooking with children :) the closest I got was letting DD eat the icing sugar out the bag...I just told everyone we cooked together to explain all the mess.

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4. Measuring out milk (tablespoon) with my shaky, high blood pressure about to blow hands - and I cop a karate chop on the wrist. *Sigh*

Why can't it just be a pleasurable experience? Why can't they just do as they are told? Why can't they just leave stuff alone when asked to?!

ARgghhghghghghgh :wall:

Yes, yes I should have more patience, I'm a bad mother, blah blah blah... :p

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I had to laugh at this one though....but overall I can understand why you don't enjoy it

That's myhouse too Mel. I refuse to cook with the two of them at the same time. Lily is great when cooking, but put Liam in there with her and BAM, she's a different kid.

And every day I am saying to them 'just listen to me and you won't get screamed at' kids say 'sorry mummy', I tell them 'no not sorry, just LISTEN!!!'

Mel, you are one up on me, at least you try... LOL...

I cant do it with DS1, I tried it once and it was a disaster... I know I have to try again but am waiting for him to grow up a bit...

However my DH can get DS1 involved really well... Dunno how he manages it...

I never ever try. I have zero patience for it. But I do give them the bowl afterwards to fight over :)

What makes it part of being a good mother???? I bet you do plenty of other things with your kids, i wouldn't beat yourself up over it. :)

I don't have the patience for it - entirely DH's department.

Kids + kitchens = bad combination!

I used to work with kids and adolescents and we had a "snack group" that we used to do. I HATED IT! I'd do all of the other groups for everyone just to get out of snack group.

Used to raise my blood pressure no end!

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I think you deserve an award for cooking with children :) the closest I got was letting DD eat the icing sugar out the bag...I just told everyone we cooked together to explain all the mess.

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I feel less bad that cooking with DS involves me calling him into the kitchen (from the TV babysitter :p) to stir just before I put the cake in the pan. Occasionally he put the patty pans in the tin, but that about the extent of his involvement.

So cooking doesn't work for you guys, I'm sure you do plenty of other stuff.

Babe maybe "pretend" to make something? That way they can play and have fun and feel like they are making something when it actually is only play doh or something else that goes in the garden? :dunno: or as someone else said, do something else and try again when they are a bit older! I also find it easier if I put everything ready in little bowls for Iz (when J is asleep - key ingredient that one) and get her to pour them in one at a time etc.

DP does the cooking stuff - I don't have the patience either!

Lol I had to giggle Mel... sorry hun!!

I don't mind too much cooking with Oskar... BUT we had to get over our not listening properly hurdle... that involved me telling, yelling and everything in between for him NOT to be silly in the kitchen because there are hot things and it can be VERY dangerous. Well, one day he was mucking around and guess what.... he burnt his finger!! The look on his face was pure shock (lol... I'm laughing at the look, not that he hurt himself... it was like he couldn't believe it!) and then the face just fell and he was so upset that he'd done it. Been a pretty good little help since that day! I just have to remind him every now and then. He actually helps me cook dinner at least 3-4 times a week I reckon. I'm sure though that there are things I don't particularly like doing that you do ... it all balances out ;)

Ha ha, I'm the same!! :)

The only time I let DD have a go in the kitchen is when we use the Betty Crocker cookie mixes, where you just add milk and mix. It's a lot less stressful if you feel you want to go there. ;) I'm pretty sure you can get them in a muffin mix as well.

So...

What would you say to a friend who felt like a terrible mum because they can't jump on the trampoline (their DD's favourite thing in the universe) because they were over the weight limit?

What will you tell you kids when they get sad because they only got a C in....lets say....Maths....

We're never going to be good at everyting. Its all about playing to your strengths!
DH tends to our chickens with DD so she won't realise that I am actually pretty scared of them...desparately don't want to pass on my non sensical fears
I take over when she's whiney because I have a higher whine threshold
DH jumps on the trampoline for about 30 mins a day with her (JEALOUS) I will one day! Just have to get about shrinking a little first

A good mother has very little to do with cooking (though feeding your children is a good idea ;)) and everything to di with love!

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Yes, yes I should have more patience, I'm a bad mother, blah blah blah... :p

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:rofl: You just made me l.o.l.

haha!

This is exactly how I feel about doing craft!!! I love the idea of it, I try it and it just ends up being so incredibly stressful. I totally get it.

My kids are exaclty the same when we cook, they're older now and STILL fight over chairs and who's going to put the milk in etc. It does my head in.

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So...

What would you say to a friend who felt like a terrible mum because they can't jump on the trampoline (their DD's favourite thing in the universe) because they were over the weight limit?

What will you tell you kids when they get sad because they only got a C in....lets say....Maths....

We're never going to be good at everyting. Its all about playing to your strengths!
DH tends to our chickens with DD so she won't realise that I am actually pretty scared of them...desparately don't want to pass on my non sensical fears
I take over when she's whiney because I have a higher whine threshold
DH jumps on the trampoline for about 30 mins a day with her (JEALOUS) I will one day! Just have to get about shrinking a little first

A good mother has very little to do with cooking (though feeding your children is a good idea ;)) and everything to di with love!

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exactly what she said...

i love cooking with my kids, all ba Ds, as he thinks eating everything as it goes in the bowl is a good idea, or licking the blender before im actually finished is fun lol
he is a tad eager i think to get junk food, we must deprive him of it lol

:hug: hun, cooking with kids is FAR from easy, your not a bad mother at all.
I enjoy cooking with DD1 but i lock her in the highchair and only put the bowl on the tray when it's her turn to mix.
Only problem i have now is she gets into the cupboards on her own steals my wooden spoons and runs around the house saying ME MIXING ME MIXING!

I highly doubt i'll be up for the attempts at cooking with TWO kids wanting to 'help'

Thanks so much guys!! And here I was, thinking that every SAHM was cooking with their kids every day, everyone wearing little aprons and everyone smiling and happy and enjoying themselves!! LOL... isn't it funny what you imagine everyone doing - only to realise that most people are just like you... *hmmm*

Thanks guys - might attempt another go at biscuits today - I've only got the one toddler - so we'll do it when the baby is sleeeeeping.

Mel, I had a laugh too, sorry!! but really, it isn't funny....(I was just imagineing the karate kick hehe) I wouldn't be laughing if it was my kitchen!! I'm a clean freak and would just lose the plot, lol. Just wanted to tell you that a very close friend of mine has two kids and when Jacob was around the same age, so 4, and Bella was nearly 2 (this is a while back now) together they would cause a lot of havoc but on their own they would be really good, especially Jacob. Sigh, and I want another one soon! Maybe I should think about it, ha ha.

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Thanks so much guys!! And here I was, thinking that every SAHM was cooking with their kids every day, everyone wearing little aprons and everyone smiling and happy and enjoying themselves!! LOL... isn't it funny what you imagine everyone doing - only to realise that most people are just like you... *hmmm*

Thanks guys - might attempt another go at biscuits today - I've only got the one toddler - so we'll do it when the baby is sleeeeeping.

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I must have missed that memo too LOL. I loathe cooking with the kids and I'll be perfectly honest about it. It's just not my thing to cook with them. DH does it from time to time, but I prefer to cook on my own. I will let them ice the cupcakes though and get stuff out of the cupboards or fridge if I need anything while I'm cooking. But there are loads of other things I do with them so I guess it all evens out in the finish.

I'm one of those mean mums with a gate blocking the kitchen! We had no gate on for a week when we first moved into the new house and man, did I get frustrated with DD!!
I have cooked with her, although that consisted of letting her ice the cakes, and when we made biscuits, she put the choc drop onto the top of the dough.
One thing she does get involved in is making homemade pizzas - i have everything chopped and ready to go in a serving centre and then she just helps put the pizzas together - as long as you don't worry too much about hygiene, and double dipping, its all good!

I always think other SAHM's must be like stepford wives...immaculate house, immaculate kids, tupperwares full of baking, home-cooked meals daily, a face full of make up and no trackies on ever...please tell me I'm not the only one who is totally NOT this!!

I'm one of those mean mums with a gate blocking the kitchen! We had no gate on for a week when we first moved into the new house and man, did I get frustrated with DD!!
I have cooked with her, although that consisted of letting her ice the cakes, and when we made biscuits, she put the choc drop onto the top of the dough.
One thing she does get involved in is making homemade pizzas - i have everything chopped and ready to go in a serving centre and then she just helps put the pizzas together - as long as you don't worry too much about hygiene, and double dipping, its all good!

I always think other SAHM's must be like stepford wives...immaculate house, immaculate kids, tupperwares full of baking, home-cooked meals daily, a face full of make up and no trackies on ever...please tell me I'm not the only one who is totally NOT this!!

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I always think other SAHM's must be like stepford wives...immaculate house, immaculate kids, tupperwares full of baking, home-cooked meals daily, a face full of make up and no trackies on ever...please tell me I'm not the only one who is totally NOT this!!

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OMG I always totally think all the other SAHM's are like this!!!! I wear trackies most days, never put make up on, totally need to pluck my eye brows, and I don't do that much cooking (mind you I've cooked 2 batches of biscuits this week, and a cake today!) but we do have home cooked meals cos we're vegetarian, but before that I'd get DH to pick up take away on the way home.. LOL

Double post. doh!

Oh gawd, no stepford wife living in THIS house! haha!
Tonights menu - pizza.
DH got home - house looked like a BOMB had hit and, and proceeded to clean it HIMSELF! HA!


Naw mis melly, look at that bump in your avy!!! I'm getting excittted!!!!!!