My lightbulb moment!

I'm currently reading A New Active Birth to give me confidence to deal with the contractions a little less... uhh.. hysterically.. next time round ;)

And as I was reading it last night - one little line hit me like a ton of bricks:

"Whatever happens, birth is an unknown adventure..."

Adventure.

I've never thought of it that way. Just something that I can't control and I don't particularly like that feeling - but an adventure - well that just changes the whole meaning of it.

My lightbulb moment was that even though I can't control my adventure, that its ok - because its an adventure!! Go with it!! Whatever happens - happens :D

So instead of "don't fear the reaper" (for all you Blue Oyster Cult fans like me!) - I'm gonna change it to "don't fear the labour" - just for me :)

Great thinking! Love it.

I think of birth as a marathon. Hard work, long, exhausting, but you find your stride, go with the flow and then the finish is worth it! (Not that I've ever done a marathon, but I've imagined it). And when I "finished", I was tired and sore but elated and I knew I would love to do it again.

I think I'm like you Ruth08, I find my groove and just go with it. I'm hoping to back for a 4th much to DH amazement as he can't imagine why I would want to go through childbirth again. But I feel like it is such a great thing to be able to do.

Good luck Arimeh Eden for your next adventure!!

May you have a beautiful and empowering adventure!

Thank you Arimeh for posting that :hug: I needed to hear that.

attitude during labour makes soo much of a difference. i remember when i was having cx just before transition i would get one after another and all i could think of was me with a scene from the movie Happy Gilmore where the ice pucks are flying at his head and he just stands there with his helmut on wanting more to come and try and get him!! I pictured the cx to be my ice pucks!! LOL- it psyched me up even more!! Bring it on i say!!!

good luck on your adventure :) what a great way to think about it

I know! How AWESOME is this book? :)

DH and I have been reading it too... He is quite taken lol

:hug: Should we start calling you Bear now you are on your adventure? :rofl:

That's great to hear! It's a fantastic book!

BTW I LOVE that song lol.

Haha its awesome isn't it Cheezel - the song that is. lol.... Although I quite like the Muttonbirds cover of it... (hides for cover)

Limey - I must be suffering preggo brain cos I don't think I get that.. LOL

Po5 - thank you!

Det - I'll try to remember that too ;)

KL - you are most welcome my sweet :D

Ash - thanks - even though its a while away yet - can never be too prepared..LOL

Megs and Ruth - thanks :)

Good on you babe

Sorry, Bear Grylls, I am totally fixated on Man vs Wild at the moment :rofl: It is consuming all my spare time... DH will have to wear buckskin to bed at this rate. :o

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Sorry, Bear Grylls, I am totally fixated on Man vs Wild at the moment :rofl: It is consuming all my spare time... DH will have to wear buckskin to bed at this rate. :o

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Oh god are you serious? That man drives me crazy - and not the good crazy!! LOL... arghhh he's sooo arrogant I can't stand him.. LOL

:D that's exactly the way I look at it too :D

All the best :D

Sorry another double post...

Excellent! I'm so glad that has brought it together for you. What an adventure it is!! All the best adventures only have vague maps- you can't know exactly what is going to happen but gee they turn out to be amazing :D

That's a great way to look at it.

Leo was born not long after the Tour de France. During some of the more difficult bits, I imagined it was like the guys cycling up the mountains. I knew I could get to the top, then it would be a rush down the hill until the next "mountain". Use whatever helps, endurance racing, sport analogies, adventures.

Like Ruth08, I was so proud of how I did I could have done it again a couple of weeks later.

I found that book great too :D Good luck on your adventure.

Awesome Mel, I love it :D

Happy adventuring!

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Sorry, Bear Grylls, I am totally fixated on Man vs Wild at the moment :rofl: It is consuming all my spare time... DH will have to wear buckskin to bed at this rate. :o

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Lol! He's hot in our house atm too ;)

And what an awesome adventure it will be :D

So glad you are feeling much better about that now !

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That's awesome Mel!

Good luck, wishing you an awesome birth and an awesome pregnancy journey.

I found with ds2 I was really calm and able to deal with contractions, compared to ds1. I think taking the unknown out of the equation helps a lot to just deal with it. By that I mean first time around you are so strongly feeling what does a contraction feel like, what does pushing feel like etc etc whereas second time around you know these things and also I think the first time it feels like labour is never going to end whereas second time when you have experienced labour before you KNOW that it will end and how you will feel etc etc This was just my personal experience anyway...I know everyone is different but just thought I would share.