trying to stay in labour whilst attention seeking mum is here grrrr

Im 38 wks and few days now and the last few days i have had a small bloody show and smal muck on pad.... plus some ripper contractions that are up through my vagina/cervix then down from the top of bump to the bottom.. This morning they didnt tickle at all and i was quite concerned as at a time they were coming thick and fast.... this is my 3rd child but it will be the most natural one (all the others were medically induced).

However i have my mum here to supposably help me with my 28 mth old BUT she isnt helping at all and ****ting me to tears actually ....she had a fight with me yesterday and i lost all the cx i was in i was furious.... but i have decided it is her problem not mine and whammo they came back with vengence at 7 30 am WOOHOO !!!

:hug: hun, hope bubs makes an appearance soon for you.
My mum came to 'help' before DD2 was born.. ahh what a headache!

she is a pain in the bum :(

Im over going in and out of labour ... as when it starts it is full on and im tears and im thinking this is it.

Just before mu decided to wash a burnt pot ... after she said out loud i have finally got the pot clean i just ignored her then i heard her say 'gee thanks mum thanks for doing that that was really helpfull' wtf !

Sorry to hear your mum is being a pain hun, it really isn't fair, this is meant to be your time! You think she would be more considerate and helpful.

Try to ignore it as much as you can and good luck with the contractions! Hopefully it leads to something happening soon :hug:

thanks girls and yes im trying :)
she is asking me stupid questions that she knows the answers too ?
she told me off for not having my bags packed the other day when i was holding a wall wtf!!
She told me i was a stupid women last night at 7 30pm when i didnt agree with her to store my new baby clothes in the laundry cupboard..... it took me all night to decide it is her problem not mine and whammo cx came on with vengence this morning in bed !!
Unbelievable hey?

oh babe **BIG HUGS*** i hope u are feeling better and dont let ur mum put a downer on u this is ur day and time and she should back off a little and realise that u need her support not her suggestions and opinions... my mums the same lol dw ur not alone... i just ignore them and tell her to grow up when ive had enuf or say if u dont like it leave...
GL i hope ur bubs makes it into this world sooner than later and u enjoy it all... xox

Go for a walk and leave her to it, that way she can make the comments to herself, and hopefully your labour will stick.

ditto to taking a walk - fresh air and the movement will help, as will being away from her! In the driveways or yards of course, given the labour ...

:hug: I hope she snaps out of it, and reaslises this is your time, and helping in the way you want to be helped is the way to go!! :)

yes now after a 'talk' she had with my husband she came to me and asked what i wanted .... i again was in pain leaning on the back fence (that looks over the river/lake) and i blurted out in tears ... i want you to realise i dont necessarily need you to do anything except be a mum BUT that doesnt mean i want to have a life changing discussions with you. I went on and told her i need to stay within my self to stay in labour as this baby wants out BUT with all the stupid and silly questions i have been asked and then you get ****ty because im not answering and therefore whammo contractions end and im 5 steps back. I told her i want you here to just be here i dont want to worry about TAKING the f....n rubbish out (yes she told me to take the rubbish out to the bin)or how much milk we have or havent or any other grocery topic, i dont want to discuss where my new bubs clothes go and i dont appreciate you getting ****ting with me because i havent agreed with you . This is my baby my labour my house and my household ... i would really appreciate if you could stop the nonsense and let me be! She kept saying well would u like me to go home ? I didnt answer her at all as i know she wanted me to say yes mum go home ... and if i did do that again i would be the worst daughter in the world .

WTF why i have to say all that at all is beyond me ....

Now she is a changed women .... for now

:hug: I hope she behaves better now. And your baby comes really soon.

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Go for a walk and leave her to it, that way she can make the comments to herself, and hopefully your labour will stick.

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I agree! Have a break for a bit!

Thanks girls you are just want i need to here :)

I cant believe that one minute the body can be in serious contraction mode and the next (due to stress) it absolutely stops !

Im have a few again now and as im in my room alone lets hope

As now i would actually like ti go into labour naturally as i have never done that before
(always been induced) xx

Wishing you all the best of luck with your labour...... hope your Mum decides to leave you alone at this important time when you need rest and to feel supported!!

:hug: You can do it! ;)

GREAT, ANOTHER BEAUTIFUL BABY IS COMING INTO THE WORLD SOON, look forward to seeing your announcement in the next day or so. :)

i just had more smear of a show on my pad woohoo no come on cervix cramps/contractions :)

wooo! not long now ...

we're all rallying for you, girlfriend!

stick with it, and ROAR!

woot woot how exciting.... :)
sounds like its all coming together now... GL hun :)

just thread stalking to see if theres been any updates overnight.... good luck!!

hmmm ... wondering if there's a birth anouncement waiting to happen??

:leap:

No birth announcements YET but there has been progress woohoo

I have managed to have regular cx since 9am this morning and they got very intense and on occassions 3 mins apart but not very long in intensity... however i had 2 running NO.2 and felt pressure in my bum so i said DH lets get to the hospital just to be safe and to check progress. Well i was closed and high and tight a few days ago BUT today im 1cm dilated and 2cm length (i was 5cm) and having regular contractions every 5 mins apart on the ctg machine:)

So im back home and they have subsided again but i am at home with DH dss 16 ds 10 ds 2 and a bit mum (who doesnt get it as you have all read) BUT i will be go for a walk in a sec .....

They were telling me that these cx were getting my babys head into the right position plus working on the cervix.... so im pretty pleased with myself :)

Thanks to all you lovely ladies ....ill keep you updated xx

Hope your going ok.... maybe your back in hosp.. :crossfingers:

No im still here :( but i know it can be a slow slow process so im being patient . Its funny this baby is running this show ... he sleeps during the night and then ramps things up in mornings and 'school hours' then falls asleep from 5pm onwards ...amazing how we adapt to surroundings hey?
Im all good and very happy and with in the zone and im excited to meet this new addition who i can just imagine to be adorable! (all mums know that though lol)
xx

Been out of the loop a bit...have I missed an announcement????

Looked in births but saw nothing.....surely this bub is not staying in cause it doesn't want to meet its grandparent :)

How are you coping bubno.3?

rivlas ur the best i was thinking bout this thread n i couldnt find it!!!!
Thank u!!!
n ive been wondering the same thing!! any bubs yet???

Good evening Bubno3.

How are you? Been looking for your news but I haven't seen any.

I hope you are doing OK

update and a bit of a winge :) im delighted except i need DH to understand what i need and im not getting :(


Hey girls : i delivered a baby boy Cameron Charles on 23 Oct @ 39 wk 4 days . Waters broke spontanously at 2 30pm on the bed in hospital (as i was admitted from the Thursday 21 Oct as i had a high presentation and possible cord prolapse) after a 6 1/2 hrs of labour and a few scares One nurse assistant now and one EMERGENCY due to bub de celling (drop in HR) but bubs settled and i finally delivered him with Gas and Air and a shot of pethidine. It was the most natural birth actually , i was on my side when i felt the need to push and OMG that sensation is out of this world, the midwife just rolled me over spread my legs and after feeling the ring of fire which i was terrified of i pushed my darling out. NO stitches nothing which i was amazed by ....

I would have posted a real nitty gritty birth story but i just havent had time with a new born and a 2 1/2 yr old and DH at work (he only took 1 week off) and he leaves the house at 7 30am and doesnt get in until 6 30pm, so it is a bit of a sore point with me as at times im exhausted as you girls can understand. Dh is wonderful when he is at home but he is a man and men obviously dont get it (even when your 42 and been there done that 28 mths early and saw how tired your wife got and she only had the one baby at home to look after ) .
Frid just gone oh i had enough BIG TIME i had enough of my DS2 being so damn demanding for 12 hrs non stop plus feedin a new born plus i hadnt had shower for 2-3 days before that and i was feeling grotty and disgusting as of course im still bleeding arent i which i just love NOT as well .... So DS16 got home Frid at 4pm i left him in the house with DS2 and i took off outside with the pram and went for a lonnnng walk and text DH and said ''i hope your on your way home?'' I got a text stating yes im waiting for an express at 5 07pm sop i sent one back stating well you will be home still as 6pm grrr i need you know as im going mad' DH sent back ýou bored?' I said '' bored im going mad i need a shower i need you and me time I need to feel like a women again I need 'me' time without children and i would love some intimate time yes sex but this bloody bleeding is still happening YEs DH im having a bla day you could say'' Do you reckon i got any response NOTHING and when he walked in the door he looked ****ed off ... in the mean time i mangaed a shower and a shave and felt half womenly again ... i said whats up with you he said '' im sick of work im sick of trains im sick of this and that but i just do it as i have to'' i ignored this comment as we would have had a rip roaring blue if i responded . BUT we did have dinner out and took Cameron who slept thru the whole meal and we got home at 11pm. Sat night i had a few too many drinks so sunday (yesterday) i was a tad hung over and sleep deprivation doesnt go too well together ... DH promised out friend to help around her house.. when i got there she told me that from DH that i had a 'moment' frid night WTF he called it a moment . He also told her a few other things that could be weighing me down again WTF WHY cant or doesnt he talk to me ??? I try to but as you can guess it falls on deaf ears at times.

Yes the two weeks has been full of hormones sleep deprivation and now im hoping to god that dh old habits of not talking and bottling things up isnt starting up again as it is so easy to **** off and stay away 12 hours a day come in have dinner grab a beer sit on you bum watch tv then go to bed and bingo its morning again and it starts again. In the meantime im still here . When both his sons are at home i dont get time alone with him and he doesnt seem to care less . I do as i can see this marriage going into the me do my thing and he do his and we may meet for sex once in a blue moon !

This turned out to be a real rant but i so need it as i need some of my life back.

Congrats on yor baby boy! The first few weeks are so hard, sorry your DH and you are doing it tough. Hope things smooth out 4 you soon.

Can you take your 2.5 year old in the shower with you when your bub is sleeping? or put him in the bathroom with you and some toys? just having a shower can really help you feel a bit normal again.

take care

Thanks Kate07: it is the constant demanding toddler that i cant handle atm and the long hours just do my head in . We are on a waiting list for child day care for ds2 and that will be a godsend as he is a busy busy boy who wants to be on the go all the time and at this early stage i cant keep that up all day every day for 5 days a week !

Congrayulations on the arrival of Cameron. You picked a really good day to have him as it is also our wedding anniversary.

Does your Ds have a sleep during the day. If so, use that time for yourself. Put bubs into his bed, pram or wherever he will settle well and go have a shower and relax under it.

Get your Dh to bath the kids or even DS2 when he gets home while you are getting tea. Yes, he is tired after work but he is coming home to a different kind of work where as SAHMs have the same work day in day out. He is also tired of trains doing their own thing and wondering how he can pay for everything that comes his way. Most men don't talk about these things, we jsut have to be patient and blow off steam every now & then.

Just remember, it does improve. You will get into a sort of routine and readapt to the next situation. :)

The house will stop looking like a bomb has gone off and soon you will be complaining you are running them here, there and everywhere after school.

Also when you have his sons there get them involve with helping with C. You might be surprised how helpful they will be given the right encourgament. Boys this age can be all bluff when it comes to babies but deep down love them and love to help.

Do you have family nearby to call on? If so do, even if it's just to look after them while you go grocery shopping.

yayyyyyy congrats!!!!! how exciting i was thinking about u the other day thinking i wonder wats happened if anything lol!!!

hun, i have no word of encouragement or wisdom as it seems everyone has beaten me to it lol.. just try and relax a little when ever u have the chance!!! its hard n the worst time to even think that u could think about urself but if u dont then no one else will till u do have that full on "blue"..

i hope everything gets better n u start recieving alot more support :) xoxo