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Hello,
I wanted to know when does it become inappropriate to bathe or showering with your child. My son will turn 3 soon and I still enjoy our fun time together but don't want to scar him for life with memories of having showers and baths with his mother!!
thanks :)
Ive never put a stop to it, rather Ive let my children let me know when they didnt want to shower/bath with me. I dont think something is 'dirty' or inappropriate unless someone makes you feel it KWIM...showering is completely natural and teaching your child good body cleaning habits in a controlled manor is easier if our there with them
I remember being heavily pg with W and having all 3 int he bath with me in the heat and my eldest was 8 at the time.
All of my kids still come & chat to me while I'm in the shower, including my 13yo son & 15yo daughter.. ok, so they don't get in with me, but I don't think you have to worry about scarring them, if you leave it up to them as to what they are comfortable with you're pretty safe.:
They are all very modest when it's them showering / bathing, but me...meh, I'm a mum ... they seem to think I'm immune, privacy? What privacy? :p
FWIW I think we stopped showering / bathing together around 4 -6 years...soemthing like that. They will definitely let you know :lol:
oh thanks girls. will let them lead the way. i really enjoy our baths and showers.
I was gonna say the same as fluer. I used to chat to mum while she was in the shower right up til they day I moved out at 19 XD
poor love, 19 years of having me blab away to her while she showered. Bet she did a happy dance once I moved out!
I still have N come in and chat to me but lately Ive noticed that N who has begun puberty has been 'looking' and getting a bit embarrassed.
lol oh yeah WHAT privacy huh! I do love that your kids are that comfortable with you that they come and talk to you :):
My 2 little ones come and go in and out lol. Oskar is 4 in March and still wants to sometimes shower with me. My eldest (17) will stand near the door and call out if he wants to ask something but doesn't come in.
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We are doing the child-led thing too. My boys still shower with me (almost 4 and 17 months) and they love it!
Sorry that I cannot comment on the OP, but will be watching this thread as I never grew up with that type of closeness to my parents...never had a bath or shower with them, and I never have with P.
When you don't all fit in the bath together anymore (and you can't afford a new bigger bath)! LOL
good question, I hadn't really thought about it but I do remember my mother was always walking naked from the bathroom that had the bath in it to their main bedroom and non of us blinked an eyelid so no scaring there.
I will let my kids lead the way. If they're still comfortable to do it, then so am I. LOL, some days we aaallll have a shower together. Our ensuite shower is just big enough to fit the 4 of us into it, so some days it's all 4 of us in there!! Might get a bit squishy with 5 though.....
marydean - lol. that's a good point!!!
angela - i never had that w my parents either, closeness as a family in anyway... sorry about miss p xoxo
Both Dh and I had it with our parents until we were about 9-10. But I do remember showering with Mum for a lot longer than Dad. We still do it with ours as well - often I'll have the kids all in the bath while I have a shower (we have a separate bath and shower)and DS1 is nearly 10. I think I will be quite comfortable doing for a while yet. Plus I think it gives them a healthy attitude to the naked body kwim? So long as everyone is still comfortable with it, then there is no reason to stop at all Prama.
I distinctly remember my little brother saying one day that he wants to shower alone. So I'm sure when they are ready for privacy they speak out! HTH
well I am will be the odd one out, I dont shower with Jack anymore and haven't except once or twice when in a hurry since he was 2 1/2yr old this is at Jase's request, not mine per se
Jack still showers with Jase though
I grew up seeing mum naked still see her naked if I am visiting and she is getting dressed etc...Jase's parents are much more private etc...so I am guessing we are a semi compromise
Actually, that's an interesting point Trill, there isn't the same openness with DH. Not sure if it's because of a different relationship, or because he's a man? Even DS will give DH more privacy...with me they just don't seem to care.
I always liked to take mine in the shower to save time when we need to get ready and go out fast, but the older ones started resisting it at about 5/6. Pretty much when they start school!
Boys regularly shower with 1 if us, and have baths with us. Its easier.
I don't have a problem with it and currently DH doesn't either.
I haven't really thought about it, I guess we'll just do it til they decide they don't want to. we wander around the house semi naked or naked at times.
My mum still complains about how she never had any peace on the toilet or in the shower... for a very long time :lol:
I guess our kids will let us know when they need privacy (we don't get the same courtesy of course...). DS wants me to bathe with him, but I do not fit right now.