Does anyone else feel guilty about lying to thier LO's about Santa?
It's not like myself or anyone else I know was 'traumatised' when I found out he didn't exist but something about it just feels really wrong.
Does anyone else feel like this?
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Does anyone else feel guilty about lying to thier LO's about Santa?
It's not like myself or anyone else I know was 'traumatised' when I found out he didn't exist but something about it just feels really wrong.
Does anyone else feel like this?
Yes! It feels weird! Seemed normal before I had DD but now I have to actually tell her about it it seems strange. I haven't really said anything yet but my family are certainly making up for that.
Um no not really....I love the magic of christmas and wish I still believed.....with so many awful things in the world a little white lie to bring a little joy doesnt seem all that bad.
But we believe fairys and dragons are real too...its fun and imaginitive...I let the kids lead and they tell me all funny things about how santa arrives :)
Not at all. DD loves fairy stories and believes fairies live in her garden (completely down to her own imagination and the stories we've read). She believes in the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny too. She also likes to tell me her toys come to life sometimes. I consider Santa just another demonstration of the wonder and magic of childhood imaginings. We all find out soon enough the realities of life.
Like Heaven, I never had an issue with it before DS and of course I have no problem with anyone else telling thier own children about Santa or any other mythical creature. It's just that in my head I know I'm lying to him, IYKWIM?
I don't have a problem with it... Like Jen said it's down to their Childhood imaginations and they soon found out that life isnt fairies and dragons. I think for this part, let them have their magic the look on their faces when you tell them about santa and the elves is just incredible and certainly makes me smile and remember back to my childhood. Santa is real :-D He's a real imagination that kids go through :-D
I don't think of it as a lie because as Jen said, it's all purely magical and creative. Imagination is a wonderful thing!
ummm, no. By the time I found out he didn't exist, I was old enough to realise why my parents told me he did exist. Like the others have said, it's just about the magic and creativity of it all. It's not like this is something new to people, this is how it's been done for sooooo long.
It did feel a little strange talking about him for the first time, but i just love the magic it has created. The kids are so excited, their imaginations are going crazy with all this talk of flying reindeers and sleighs. I don't look at it as lying but more creating magic, and enhancing imagination. :)
No way. Im tossing up telling the nativity story as true too.
Absolutley not!! I absolutely love telling my kids about the magic of Christmas, Santa and the spirit of giving. I always take my kids to donate a present each that they picked. Just watching their face light up with the lights and presents is just magic. I absolutely love Christmas.
I still believe in Santa..yes I know we are his helpers these days, I still believe he exists. That is what I will be telling my kids when they start to ask as well.
The Santa stories are great, kids love it and I love how kids think and can be 'just kids'. It is such an important part of growing up (having an imagination that is).
So I say bring it on :)
The Nativity story is true isn't it???
Heh heh! :lol: I guess if Santa is real too then why not huh?:
I dont feel its lying to them in a bad term. Its giving them an imagination and like others have said, the magic of Christmas. I was talking to a friend about this the other day. Its like telling kids those big dressed up characters (like Dora etc) are just people in suits and not letting them enjoy the fantasy.. its what being a kid is all about.
So no i dont feel guilty.. im actually myself sad for those kids that dont get to experience it.
:thumbsup::
So I guess I'm in the minority then....
I didn't realise this would be such an emotive thread. Many of you seem to have taken it as a personal attack on your choice to tell your children about Santa, which is not how I intended it at all. We will be telling Isaac about Santa, I just wanted to know that my feelings were justified and maybe some hope that I would sometime soon be able to get my head around it and be comfortable with it.
Maybe I'm just feeling a bit sensitive today and that's not how anyone meant it at all....
Oh, i'm sorry that's how you feel. I certainly did not take it as an attack and my reply was not a justification or defense of my actions. It's just how i feel and how things are done around our house. You are entirely entitled to feel the way you do. I'm sorry you feel upset by the responses, mine and pretty sure all of the others were certainly not intended that way. :hug: I was actually thinking the responses might make feel better about it, seeings as lots of other women tell the santa story with no guilt.
There are plenty of people on here who don't 'do' Santa. There is a thread on it. Maybe you'll get the type of support you are after there. Pretty sure, no one was out to hurt your feelings. :hug:
Hugs :hug:, I don't think anyone replied feeling personally attacked at all. Everyone is just sharing how they feel, I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts :).
FWIW I know how you feel, I can't help feel a bit guilty that it's a lie! But now that my two eldest are old enough to get completely excited about Santa, the guilt is fading a little ;). I still feel caught short though when one of them asks, "Mum, is Santa really real?". I try and word the answer in a way that it doesn't feel like I'm lying :lol:.
BUT in saying all of that, I wouldn't have it any other way :D. I grew up believing in Santa and it created so much excitement and so many happy memories, I know my kids will have the same experience :).
Thanks junglemum, it's ok, I'm not well at the moment and I'm always over sensitive when I'm sick :hug:
like I said, I dont think there's anything wrong with having Santa, we will be, just that I'm struggling with the idea of telling Isaac he exists- as in he is a real man that comes from a real place- when I know it's just imaginary.
Thanks Trish, that's exactly how I feel.
Like i said it did feel funny the first time, but now seeing the sparkle of amazement and look on DD1's face, who is three, is just priceless. Wait until next year when Isaac is a little older and the joy and excitement you can give him with your story will warm your heart. :hug:
No you're not alone. It's something I've been thinking about lately too, I feel bad 'lying' to DS. But then I remember how excited I used to get and how it felt like there was magic in the air on Christmas morning...I don't want to take that away from him. It's a tough one! FWIW I did consider not doing Santa after reading the thread on that topic, the responses were very interesting.
:hug: :hug: I took it at face value, just a genuine question. There are alot of people who don't feel comfortable with the Santa aspect of Christmas. You can always make up your own tradition, it can be Christmas fairies or whatever you feel comfortable with.:
It is a tough time of year for alot people, take care Heather.
I understand where you're coming from. I love tha magic and all behind it but then think whats gonna happen when they find out the truth, will they be upset at being deceived. But then I think well I cant remember being upset about it. I think I was more upset when I realised all the magic surrounding childhood in fairies, easter bunny, santa etc was dissaperaing as I grew older. i remember just wanting to hang onto it all and I still do!
I didn't take it as a personal attack hun! just a question I answered. Hugs hunnni xoxoxox