M/c now..HELP!

Hi,

I wasn't sure where to post this, but I am currently going through a m/c. We found out at our scan yesterday 9 weeks 5 days that our baby passed away 1 weeks ago, approx 8 weeks 5 days... At 7 weeks 2 days I had a scan and the senographer said I was 7 weeks 1 day and we had a good heartbeat of 130bpm... I am at loss at to what has happened in that time frame but am realistic about it - that it just wasn't meant to be!

I have had two twin m/c's prior to this one and have always had a curette.

Being Friday I can't get into have a curette until Monday and have to travel 3 hours on Sunday to have that done on the MOnday morning.

I am terrified of doing this natural thing as I have never done it before... I felt such at peace with my curettes to date!

The senographer said yesterday that my uterus was very open and she expected that I would m/c overnight and I didn't... I am having extreme lower back pain with groin and aching legs and minor period pain in my tummy at present... Apparently my cervix is opening from the outside and it normally opens from the Inside... She explained that this is a good thing - if my baby was viable as it will hold the baby in... but as my dr explained this morning (when I rang him), because I have had a cone biopsy my cervix it is going to do this as it is weak, but I should still m/c naturally.

I am at fear of seeing the baby come out and going through this pain and the waiting is doing my head in!

Can anyone give any comforting words or advice on what I should expect if things happen before Sunday/Monday. I am really secretly hoping this m/c can wait until I have a curette - due to my fears and state of mind!

Thanking you all in advance xo

p.s: are there any support groups on here that are current???

Hi Sheree :hug:

I have naturally miscarried 3 babies, all at 6 weeks. For me, I couldn't make out a formed baby, I had several large blood clots, 1 having a lighter pink 'fleshy' look to it. I believe at 8 weeks the foetus isn't yet fully formed, so you shouldn't see a baby as such, hopefully that is of some comfort. There will be a lot of blood, you might want to buy yourself some maternity pads if you use them. Keep a note of how you're feeling - tired and sore is normal, dizzy is not. If you start to feel dizzy or be uncomfortable with the amount of blood you're losing, go straight to your local emergency room.

This section is probably the best, a lot of us have been through what you're about to go through :cry: We're here for you when you need us :grouphug:

I could not read and not post, I really don't have much to help you. I MC at the hospital both times and had D&C straight away. Is there a womens clinic anywhere near you? I am not sure but maybe they could help you. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope your not alone.:hug:

I'm so sorry you are going through this. For the pain, can you get to a chemist and get ponstan? I had a couple of very early miscarriages and this is what my FS told me to use to help with the pain. The bleeding could well be horrendous, anything more than soaking a pad in an hour means a trip to the hospital. But as keike suggested, maternity pads will help. It's important to use pads at this point as there is an infection risk.

:hug: Once again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

BW

I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in September, naturally before a d& c because It didn't all happen as it should...

I experienced a light labour before I passed the baby and extreme bleeding ( so much I couldn't get off the toilet) I hope that things hold out until your d&c if that's what you want. I wish i had the d&c in the beginning.. I haemorraged though for a few weeks...

So sorry for your loss and If you need anything Pm me :hug:

:hug: :hug: :hug:
I could not read your post and not post. I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

Oh sweetie, I wondered what was up.
:hug: I'm so sorry.

All the others have posted relevant info, but know I'm thinking about you.

SJ - again I am so sorry this is happening to you........ :(

I m/c naturally around the same time as you and there was alot of blood, cramping, emotion and I did pass a fleshy looking item.......it was sort of like it was made of skin and was sac like. It was very confronting and a very hard time. I highly recommend maternity pads, a warm shower and heat pack.

Hugs for you. Xx

:

---

Hi,

I wasn't sure where to post this, but I am currently going through a m/c. We found out at our scan yesterday 9 weeks 5 days that our baby passed away 1 weeks ago, approx 8 weeks 5 days...
Can anyone give any comforting words or advice on what I should expect if things happen before Sunday/Monday. I am really secretly hoping this m/c can wait until I have a curette - due to my fears and state of mind!

Thanking you all in advance xo

p.s: are there any support groups on here that are current???

---

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know that I have any medical advice. I've lost a baby at 21 weeks, and I was in the hospital, so I'm not sure what the best thing to do at home is. But it seems like there is some good advice on this thread.

There is a lady in the States who's blog I read. She lost a baby at about 6-8 weeks and she wrote about it and has a small, very lovely picture of the baby's hand. It is not graphic or bloody, but just very sweet. Here is the link if you'd like to read the post about what her miscarriage was like. Happy to be called "Mommy": I have finally found closure

Shereejoy- Hun, how are you today? I hope you haven't m/c naturally. I had mitaprostol before my last d&c and it started the process of a natural m/c (the baby was 9w1d when it passed) and when i was being preped for sugery i insisted i had to go to the toliet (i was in agony btw) there was a huge gush....the baby came out then (i could feel it) i won't describe it because it wasn't very nice, but at the stage your at, i would have a D&C.
Good luck hun, keep us updated and we are all thinking of you sweetheart xoxoxoxoxoxox

Thank you lovely ladies... they expected me to m/c two nights ago as my cervix was really open... and I am still waiting... is this normal? Starting to wonder if they got it wrong, maybe I had a twin?? Probably just wishful thinking... :(

Sick of waiting... such torture!

If I haven't gone natural by Sunday arve, I will travel to Mackay 3ish hours away as I have a curette booked for Monday morning...

Shereejoy- when i was bleeding last time i had an internal done the night before my scan and my cervix was closed but the doctor said it can open and close???not sure if thats right but thats what i was told. I hated waiting for it too..... huge :hug: Sometimes it just doesn't happen by itself darl......Hope your getting lots of rest, chocolate and alcohol. xoxoxoxox

Thanks Yas... I am so glad you are finally going onto have a successful pregnancy xo hmmmm chocolate.... I sooo need that right now and have had a couple of glasses of wine of the last couple of nights...

the discharge seems to have completly settled atm too... very weird!

Could they have got this wrong??/

Off roadtripping this afternoon - 3 hours, to have my curette in the morning... I am hoping my body holds out until then... discharge seems to be getting heavier, I have a real heavy sensation in my lower abdomen...

I just feel that everytime I have had a curette I have had a successful pregnancy after it

Ie:
m/c and currette
first born son
m/c and currette
2nd born son
m/c

I am so sorry for your loss hun :hug:

I know you've said you're going in for a currette but wanted to share I have had 3 early m/c and not one currette. They were (for lack of a nicer way of putting it) just like a super heavy period with lots of clots. Nothing recognisable whatsoever.

Best of luck hun, its never an easy process.

All my love
Nae x

Shereejoy :hug: good luck tomorrow morning. Maybe you could ask for another scan? lots of :hug: Keep us posted hun xoxox

:hug: I am so sorry for your loss :( :hug:
Have a safe trip today and I will be thinking of you tomorrow...

xx

So sorry you are going through this again. It just really isn't fair. Wishing you all the best for tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you :hug:

I'm so sorry Sheree that you are going through your loss. I hope your body can hold out, I can't imagine how scared you must be right now. I'm so sorry hun :hug:

hi sheree
how are you feeling today?
i hope you havent m/c naturally.. i didnt with my last one i had to have a d&c and i felt so much better for having that then having to mc naturally..
love to you, we miss you xoxoxox

I am so sorry to hear this news Sheree. Hopefully you will be in the hospital now. thinking of you in the next few days.

Well that just had to of been the worst night of my life....

Call me a wouse... but from the 3hour bumpy ride into town it appeared my body wasn't going to last until the next morning (my schedule currett). I started m/c'ing at 6.30pm last night right after arrving in Mackay and in a motel room with 2 little boys with lots of energy, I was not handling it too well.... the pain was so bad that my DP rang the hospital and they wanted me to come in....

The bleeding (gushes and clots) and cramps were so painful... I wasn't sure what the hospital could do but I was glad my DP talked me into going as the pain relief they gave didn't completly take away the pain but took off the edge and at least I got a little bit of sleep... Initially they gave me some pethadine in the bottom, which was an amazing relief and I got a couple of hours rest as I was still in considerable pain, but felt very dozey.

Then at 3am, I finally passed 4 to 5 golf ball size clots and the featus.... I was still cramping over in pain and then the gave me a hot water bottle and some panaedeine forte and I finally slept from 4am to 6am and woke up with barely any pain...

My gyno came in at 8am and did a quick scan and confirmed that I had almost passed everything but still had alot of soft tissue that was left behind...

I then had a currette at 11.30am and was on the road home (3 hour drive) by 2pm...

I am just so relieved it is now all over..

Thanks for all of your support and well wishes.... I was able to guage what to expect from all of the information give, so thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

Sheree
xo

Sheerjoy, Im so sorry for your loss.:hug:

What a terrible night that must have been for you. :hug: Im glad you are feeling relieved that the physical side is pretty much over. I felt that way too.

I hope you are doing ok, but I know how hard it is. I had my D&C 3.5 weeks ago and the pain of losing my baby is still so fresh.

Take care of yourself during this sad time. :hug:.

Big hugs diamond girl...... I am thankful for my two beautiful children (who were born in the same years as yor too boys btw) but I feel like I am trying to battle on, but failing miserably, can't stop thinking about it all, the tragic loss my baby and previous m/c's... I know there are worse off people out there then me, and for that reason I pick myself up... but deep down it hurts still... :( ALOT. I am snappy and moody at DF... i just was looking forward to meeting my surprise baby in September... :(

Oh hunni, I'm so so sorry. Wish it was such a different outcome for you. Sending you massive hugs and thinking of you :hug::hug::hug:

Oh hun, of course it hurts :cry: I can't stop thinking about you, wondering how you are going. The september girls haven't forgotten you, and im sure that everbody would love to know how your going and what your up to hun. If it doesn't hurt too much, drop us a post every now and then :hug:
I hope your getting lots of rest and recovering quickly. Have you stopped bleeding yet? xoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxo

Hi Yas.... ur so sweet... I am still bleeding from the curette... struggeling this week from going through such an ordeal, but hopefully next week will be better... I have had really sore muscles in my legs/hips and bum too I am guessing from the curette they had my legs up in the stirrups and god only knows what they did with me while I was under... but maybe it was from squatting in the shower for so long too! Very tired, with lots of headaches and just trying to get ontop of that UTI too... like I said this week is a shocker and next week hopefully I will feel better again.. thanks for asking, I miss you girls too xo

yas - youre right - we havent forgotten about her!!!

i hope you start feeling better soon sheree xxoxo

:

---

yas - youre right - we havent forgotten about her!!!

i hope you start feeling better soon sheree xxoxo

---

mwah xo

I have been going through a bit of a rough patch ever since the m/c of our baby. I found a lump on my breast. Had a mammogram and u/s on friday. Things weren't good. Had to take a biopsy. Get results on Wednesday . Please pray for me. I Am so scared. Having a bad run lately. Ever since november when I had my cone biopsy for my cervix and then the loss of our baby (3rd m/c)

The lump I found there are abnormal cells... they also found two other lumps on the same breast (right side). The lump I found was 7cm (WTF) and all because I don't ever check... Please ladies check your breasts!

Life is so unfair sometimes! I don't smoke, I rarely drink, am about to turn 36 next month, I am far too young for this to be happening.

I only m/c my baby 2 weeks ago tomorrow... this is really taking it's toll on me, esp all this waiting... waiting to m/c... waiting or results...

I have such a bad feeling.... I soooooo hope I am wrong!

OMG Sheree hon, im so sorry to read this xxx I am thinking and praying for you. When do you get the results of the biopsy?

Oh hugs Sheree, I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you get good news on Wednesday. :pray:

oh gosh, i am praying for you xoxo

my mum had a lump on her breast and i turned out to be nothing, there is hope for you xoxox