The Not Trying To Not Get Pregnant Thread

I'm wondering if there is anyone else out there who is not trying to not get pregnant, in other words, while you aren't deliberately trying to get up the duff, you're not exactly using contraception either and come what may. I'm also kind of interested in seeing if there is a huge difference in getting the pink lines between healthy women who don't have fertility issues and are deliberately TTC and those who are more kay sara.

We haven't used conception since having DS but then again I haven't seen AF yet, so just do a pregnancy test every now and then just in case.

For those who have done this, what is the age gap between children, or how long have you not been trying to not get pregnant and haven't?

This is essentially us - at least, I fit here more than I fit in the LTTTC section, because we're not doing AC. I have successfully conceived 4 times, but have had no successful pregnancies. We're coming up to 5 years in August.

Having said that, at the moment we are using contraception, because I can't handle another loss. Trying to convince a doctor that there's a problem beyond my weight is another question.

we started doing this about 6 months after ds1 was born. i had the mini pill but decided not to bother taking it and just sort of see what happened. well ds2 is here now and almost turning 2 :)
it was the best thing we ever did! :)

So, you mean like Not Trying / Not Preventing? Perhaps mods might consider a section for this?

We weren't trying, but we weren't actively preventing either... #2 due in 2 weeks!

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So, you mean like Not Trying / Not Preventing?

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Yep. The way I put it was pretty convoluted wasn't it, LOL.

Yep that's us too. DH works away so that's pretty good contraception most of the time, but he's left whether or not we have a third bub up to me, and fair dinkum I cannot decide....so we will see what will be. DS is 2 on saturday and DH is home on leave this week so there may just be the same age gap between all three (2y10m) but who knows.

I have had two chem pregs and a MC in the last 10months though. It took me nearly 2 years to get DS like this with only 2 months of seriously trying and a mc at 12weeks.

For our last 2 we where not actively trying but not really not trying...if it happened it happened.
We feel 4 mths after DD2 and DD2 and DD3 are only 11 mths apart...then we fell again quickly with DS4 and there is only 13 mths between dd3 and ds4...so 24 months between all three :o

We decided to 'unofficially try to conceive' (as we called it ;)) #2 straight after having DS1 - he had taken 3 years (and many fertility treatments) to get him so we felt if it happened naturally then it was meant to be...and it was:D! I'd only had 3 AF's and hadn't really worked out a pattern between them and I had only just finished BF (within a month) - so we were pleasantly surprised when we discovered we were pregnant with DS2...they are 20months difference (conceived on DS1's 1st birthday ;)).

thats us. AF arrived when DS was about 12 weeks and i just havent bothered to get on the pill or anything. both DF and i have always wanted our kids close together so atm we are just having fun but might starting taking it more seriously about june/july, but who knows what might happen in the mean time :)

For us, I discovered in the 4 years between DD and DS that I just can't handle any type of hormone based contraception - it just wreaks havoc on my body, which doesn't leave us many options. We can't stand condoms, so the best idea for us was that DH would go get the snip when we have our quota of kids. I would, at this time, happily have two more, perhaps three, so we're just going with the flow. Talking of flows... has anyone become pregnant without getting their AF back after a previous pregnancy? Did it make a difference, or were there any issues? I could see that getting a reliable EDD might be a little more over the place...

Our 'not trying' was having sex at suspected time of Ovulation but not worrying about charting and if we missed potential o no matter.
This little squishtook 8 or 9 cycles.

We are thinking of using this method. Its one of our options anyway. The other option is for DH to have the snip and stop at 3 as other then condoms or abstaining from love making its not a great idea for me to be on contreception and I know how great our track record is with using either method NOT. Obviously if we do this we are basically very open and happy with the decision that no4 could grace us with their presence and no4 could always turn into no4 and 5 although very unlikely seeing I have many fertility issues (a friend did this and had twins) I'd be very very happy if I did fall pregnant even if it meant a 9-10month gap but when I plan on fully BF and AF didn't return with DD for over a yr chances are slim even if I had proven good fertility.

This is us too as AF still hasn't returned after having DD. We'll probably start actively trying from July if not UTD before then.

This is what we have been like for the whole time we have been together. And we continue to be this way. Pretty much the way we see it is "if its happens it happens" i have moments of i really dont want to and others when i am desperate for another. Depends on my state of mind.

When our #3 was around the 7/8 month mark, I got a bit sick with a bug and was vomiting - kept bringing the mini pill back up, so just decided to stop taking it until I felt better. Probably off it for 2-3 weeks, but was b/f every 2 hours consistently (he was a hungry boy right up until when he weaned himself at 11 months...I was devastated, but that's another story LOL) and I wasn't getting AF still thanks to the steady BFing, so I thought I was probably safe anyway. And then I fell pregnant with this one - due in 6 weeks time :D

We have never actually 'tried' - #1 was conceived on our honeymoon thanks to me forgetting to take the pill with me when we went. #2 I missed the pill a few times and then had a funny feeling something was up. #3 I was a bit sick and the pill was causing some issues, so I went off the one I was on, left it for a bit to get out of my system and then was supposed to start trying another pill, but it just didn't get that far - I fell PG. Me & the pill don't seem to have a great relationship, so I've told DH that he can go get the snip once we decide we're done, cause otherwise we might be the Duggars before we know it! LOL :D

I am hopeless on the pill, so when we stopped using condoms and I went back on the pill in July, I missed taking it twice, but thought it would be ok, as we wern't actively trying, and there is like 2 days a month when its actually possible, right?! ..... well bam! Now i'm due in May :P
I didnt think it would be that easy, now I think of all the times I had unprotected sex when I was a youngen and think OMG I was so stupid!

Yep, that's us. With my endo history, we always expected we'd need IVF but DS was conceived naturally. I always felt that was a fluke so we didn't bother with contraception and left it to chance. I fell pregnant with DD when DS was 11 months.

DD is almost 14 months now and absolutely no sign of AF (breastfeeding twice overnight still and around 4 times a day). We are leaving it up to chance again. I've done a few HPT's just to check but nothing yet.

Yep....me to!.......I am a bit superstitious though! You know when 'if you even start looking up when your last period was you think you just put a hex on the whole thing!'

HeK- my man is always out on the farm while I am in town so we don't get that much of a chance!....No different from having a hubby thats a truck driver!!!!! :D....they just normally are not around when the egg is! LOL

M.J

lol Mejane, that's us...mine works 300kms away and is only home for the night every 6weeks or so (unless he brings a prisoner to town and then I'm usually in no mood for anything when he rocks up at 4am :rolleyes:).

I don't know how you girls do it. I've got a very high libido and hate it when my DH is away for more than a night or two. I've got itches that need to be scratched! Hmm...might get me in trouble using this method TBH, might have to be a one off, LOL.

This is me too, its been a year next month that we have been not, not trying! LOL.

Before getting PG with DS we were doing the same thing, not "actively" trying...I fell 18 months later, then MC at 9-10 wks, after that i WAS DETERMINED! took 6 months but we got PG with DS.

After all the stress and head bull**** of trying desperately to get PG last time (after MC) I absolutely refuse to go back there. I dont need the stress.

My ex and I did this for pretty much the whole time we were together and I fell pregnant pretty much every 2 years.

First was in 2001.
Second in 2003.
Briley in 2005.

Colby was concieved in 2006 but I was trying to fall pregnant with her. Given the space in between all the other pregnancies I had thought it would take some time to fall pregnant again. This wasnt the case and she was conceived when Briley was just shy of 4 months.

I was again 'playing with fire' since having the Mirena taken out in 2009 and fell pregnant in April last year.

So I am guessing that for me, when there isnt a contraceptive in play I fall pregnant every 2 years when doing the whole 'trying but not trying' thingo.

We are trying - charting and everything - but haven't had the chance to start trying (if that makes sense) because of some health problems

I am not in the not trying/not preventing category anymore because we are not trying but it took me 15 months to get pregnant with DD1 so after that I decided that I didn't want to go on any contraception and come what may because I wasn't sure how long it would take us the second time around.

DS1 was born 12 months and 3 weeks after DD1. I did breastfeed DD1 but my milk dried up without my realising (she lost a whole lot of weight) and AF returned once and I got pregnant in the next cycle.

After DS1 was born, I wanted another baby fairly close but I was charting so that counts as 'trying' and DD2 was born 15 months after DS1.

I breastfed DD2 and we went back to the not trying/not preventing category. AF returned when DD2 was about 7 months old (around the time she started solids or not long after) and I got a BFP when DD2 was 9 months old. I breastfed for the first 10 weeks of my pregnancy, but despite pushing through the achey boob stage of pregnancy, my milk dried up at the 10 weeks mark so I stopped breastfeeding at that point.

For all my babies, I have had one AF between each pregnancy. We aren't trying anymore (infact we are doing the opposite, we are definitely preventing).

This is us. was us with DD1, i just went off the pill with the 'whatever happens, happens'. Then after she was born went off the mini pill cause I kept on forgetting to take it! Now theres 25 months between both girls.
Today we still have the 'whatever happens, happens'. Although this year I really want to take DH to Phillip Island for the motogp which is in oct, so Im really hoping nothing happens before april (grisl are sept and nov, would rather try and avoid a xmas bub too, cause there are already too many bdays in that month for us :) ) :ROFL:

This is kinda us at the moment. It took 5 months of actively trying to get our last BFP, but unfortunately lost it at 9 weeks in January. At the moment neither of us are ready for another pregnancy, but not so much that we're abstaining. I got AF back a couple of weeks ago but I'm really not paying that much attention to my cycle now. So whatever happens, happens! I will be happy when it happens but I guess if it takes a little while then that's just fine.

We did the "lets just see what happens cos its probably not going to happen anyway" and I fell pregnant with DD the first time :o:o:o

I too have had a problem with being on the pill so I hadn't been taking it for years so there was no chemical contraception to come off.

DD is now 2 and we're ready to try again but I am hoping to control the timing a bit more as there are a few big things happening for us this year that I want to work around. Its cycle 3 and still no BFP but both DH and I don't want to get ourselves caught up in the stress of it all so I wouldn't mind going back to the "lets see what happens" method. I've been charting and using OPKs for the first time this month but might give it a rest after this cycle.