So what do you say?? What are your come-backs?
I am tired of being made out to be an irresponsible parent because I allow my DS to wear a necklace!
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So what do you say?? What are your come-backs?
I am tired of being made out to be an irresponsible parent because I allow my DS to wear a necklace!
Have to say I don't think I've ever had negative comments..maybe because DD is a girl?! I'd just tell them that you love it, it isn't dangerous, in fact it's a lot less dangerous than having to give him pain relief containing chemicals all the time (like Bonjela/Panadol/Nurofen).
I have amber on both my boys aged almost 3 and 10 months, never had any comments although my 10mo does get mistaken for a girl quite often - but he is rather pretty looking and only ever in a nappy and singlet so yer maybe a bit hard to tell and ppl might assume because of the necklace. Maybe because their 6ft 3 daddy also wears adult amber they don't comment negatively HAHA i dare them to have a go at him. Just state the facts, you have a baby boy is getting the best natural start in life minus chemical filled teething gels and other nasty pharmcueticals pfft to them!
I just tell them how it works. Lol doesn't exactly answer the question, but bores them enough that they dont ask anymore questions. :rofl:
I did have one crazy lady keep going on at me, I just told myself she was ignorant and tried to ignore her.
Yes, I just bought one for my DD2 and my mother is already on my case about how irresponsible it is because of choking, plus its also a crock of you know what.
I had the boys this weekend who both wear them and had someone ask me if they were any good and worth getting, so I said yes, and she is going to get one when her baby is born.
Anything natural is good as far as I am concerned.
Most people have been great, curious and ask lots of questions.. I guess you will always have those few who will be negative regardless of the situation or explanation.
i just let them know that they are made specifically for babies and teething...then like heva&zecky mentioned i go into boring details and they soon switch off.
also a good one now is to tell 'em that it is a far sight safer than bonjela...considering that stuff has just been taken off the market in the UK :)
Yeah I always get comments about Iain wearing his sisters necklace. Ahh Nope, its his, he has had it on since 6 months.
Bonjela is just nasty full stop :sick::
I just tell them how it works, and then assure them that it DOES work and that's that. If they think we're crazy, that's fine. It's our decision and I don't really care what others think, anyway :D
I haven't had any negative remarks so have no passive aggressive retorts up my sleeve, only my stock standard aggressive one which would be: "I don't see how it's any of your business, perhaps you should worry about yourself and your own sense of entitlement issue".
Another here who has never had any negative comments, only people genuinely interested in what it's for. Or sometimes I get people saying 'oh how cute, she already wears bling' and like the others have said, I just explain what it is, and the benefits of it.
Never really had any negative comments. I find a lot of ppl do comment on it, I think mainly because he's a boy. But generally when I explain what its for they become genuinely interested.
I've only had one person, a nurse, try and give me a lecture on choking hazards and telling me he would choke himself at night blah blah blah
Whats wrong with Bonjela? Not that I use it, I use sm33
Someone asked me once if 'that cr@p really works' i said well so far the girls seem less irritable and i'm not having to dose them with nurofen and panadol so i'd say YES.
DD1 was horrid when teething, her poor cheeks would turn purple, some MG girls commented on the MAJOR different b/w purple and red cheeks so i knew it wasn't just me.
In regards to it not being SAFE i have on numerous occasions explained to people that the girls one has a knot between each individual bead so if 1 does happen to come off it's ONLY ONE and on occasion have pointed out that their uncovered powerpoints, sharp objects or crappy small plastic toys are of more danger to my kids :p
i've had mainly good ones with the boys amber. my cousin bought them for her girls, after i said to pop them around their ankles at night and and adult one for herself and my aunt! and the girl i was talking to at the check out might get one for her DGD. which is fantastic!
the only bad one i got was about 2 weeks ago and some old codger bloke said "oh you know how boys who wear necklaces turn out dont you?" i smiled and said "better men then you i guess" boy did he get mighty angry. couldn't help it though. i was in a foul mood and for him to say that when i was talking to the check out girl about them made me wanna thump him!
I'm curious to read more about these necklaces! I have only used the brauers teething relief which is homeopathic. Can someone please give me a link?
Cheers!
i put one on DS and havent gotten any comments except from friends who say things like 'aww a necklace' and then i just explain what it is. if people are giving you negative comments just ignore them. you no what it is and that its working for him so who cares what others think
LOL thats a great comeback!:
bloke said "oh you know how boys who wear necklaces turn out dont you?" i smiled and said "better men then you i guess" boy did he get mighty angry.
I just say that it is worth not dosing him as much nurofen as I would if he didn't have it.
DS loves it, and hates when he doesn't have it on.
I actually had someone ask me today about it, saying that she had never actually seen a real one.
We love them here. My mum is the only one who has commented, she freaks out about DD swallowing it. Everytime I pick her up, she isn't wearing it and Mum mentions 'it came off' yeah sure :rolleyes:
I've had the mil specifically call me to tell me that she was worried about dd wearing a necklace and choking. I just said to drop it, my decision and that I'm never far away from her coz we co-sleep too. She never brought it up again!
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thanks everyone, made me laugh.. I now feel a lot better about the situation.
I have convinced childcare to finally leave his necklace on, everytime I would pick him up it was always in his bag. They have now done some of their own research on the internet and commented on how amazing they sound, surprisingly he now has it on when I pick him up!
I just had a few comments back to back today, and being a bit PMT I think it really got to me.. But you are all right.. its my choice at the end of the day :)
ive never had any issues with day care and the necklace but he has stopped wearing his and jazz will start wearing hers
I just ask them what they think is a concern and them tell them what we do - when she was younger we put it around her ankle when she slept, and we showed them the individually threaded beads that has knots either side so reduced chocking risk if the string breaks as only one bead rolls loose. Plus the clasp is apparently meant to break under pressure... Seems pretty safe to me, especially if it alleviates the need for adding paracetamol or ibuprofen to their bodies.
I get annoyed when I am expected to justify myself to people for what I feel are informed choices.
Now-a-days I mostly just "smile and wave"...
Glad that the childcare are leaving the necklace on now.
I've copped a few negative comments, and just explain how it works and I'd much rather a necklace than dosing her up with medications. I do have a lot of people refer to it as her bling, thinking I just like to dress her up with a necklace, but I always explain it's for teething.
DD's centre is happy for her to wear it but they take them off for sleeping. Seems to me that there are less hazards for it to catch on in the cot than in the play room, but I'm happy with the compromise. A few years back they wouldn't allow them at all.
yeah my only negatives have been my mum and MIL, both think I am turning Luke into a girl, mum understood after I explained whta i was about and the fact he is sleeping thru and doesn't seem to need nurofen every 2nd night anymore\
MIL well can't be bothered explaining cause she just rolls her eyes at me, wait till mine arrives and I start wearing it LOL
I've actually had heaps. I think because its a boy wearing it? DH was a bit funny about it... But he got over it... But ive had lots of people asking "what the heck is that?" and then looking at me like I'm a nut case. Ah well.
I've only had one negitive comment about allowing a boy to wear a necklace, from my brothers friends mother. She said "what does daddy think about you wearing a necklace?!" I said, "Daddy wears a necklace, too" (he wears a silver chain) Shut her up pretty quick smart ;)
Everyone else says how cute they are!
My mum thinks it's cute, too. And my MIL wears amber herself as she gets nerve pain, can't remember what its called, fibromyalgia?
Most people I've come across think they're a bit wa**y. My dad calls it a 'hocus pocus necklace'. Couldn't care less really, it looks cute and works.