Is this weird or am i being over protective?

Ok so DS1 gets to go to the local swimming pool with the school as part of a keep kids in school program. Anyway so his name got drawn out of the hat, only a select few get to go each Friday afternoon - keeping the numbers small so the teachers can keep an eye on the all, i'm ok with that. He tells me Friday night that when he went into the changerooms/toilets there was a grown up man fully naked taking a shower, apparently there are no doors on the showers but when i was a kid the showers were used solely once you had bathers on you had a quick rinse down, not sure this has changed etc. I'm a little bit concerned why a grown man was showering naked when there were clearly a group of school children at the complex. Should i call the school on Monday and have talk with them about this and or the sports complex with whom i know the Manager on a work relationship type thing?
I told DS he did the right thing by walking back out, it obviously made him feel uncomfortable seeing some strange man completely naked but maybe if that happened again he should go let a teacher know.

I would bring it up with the school just in case. You would never forgive yourself if this man was doing it for sick perverted reasons and next time it may go further. Go with your instincts.

I don't think you're being over protective at all. It would concern me just for safety reasons, not so much in this particuar instance maybe, but it suggests that maybe things need to be more carefully supervised. I would definitely let the school know, I would think they would want to know.

I'd definitely call the school!

For this reason we don't let the kids change at the pool at my school. we'd rather them sit on their towels in the bus on the way home with a dry Tshirt over the top and change back at school.
They really need to make sure they send a male teacher in with them if they are going to change at the pool.

Deffinately not being overprotective, I'd be giving the school a phone call first thing Monday. I find it very odd that the guy would be showering naked - you would think that given children use the complex they would have rules that state swim wear must be worn at all times or at least have doors on the showers.

I agree I wouldnt be happy with this either. Is there a family type change room the kids could use? I know where my nephew goes to the pool my sister has to use it casue she wont send him alone into the male change room.

I would not be happy with that either, ring the school Monday morning.

Not being over protective at all... I would definately be calling the school. I wouldnt be happy if my son (or daughter) came home telling me there were naked adults in their sights at the pool in the change room.

Alot of men get off on being seen naked by innocent children... u dont want to take any chances.

I can see why you would be concerned but at my local pool older people seem to just love walking around naked in the change rooms, our showers even have doors on them, they just choose not to close them lol. Since he was in already naked and showering maybe he wasnt expecting children to walk in on him? I'd still call the school, a teacher should have checked it out first.

Could be totally innocent, might not be. No harm in letting someone know. I would.

I would def call the school and ask for full supervision when the children need to use the changerooms

If it is a public pool then it should be full supervised by a teacher imo.. I remember in Primary school we used a public pool and we always had 2 female and 2 male teachers to supervise the changerooms and that was years ago

I would be calling the school... if it is bothering you then I would say something... Very weird for a guy to be showering naked in a public swimming pool that is used by kids! Potential weirdo... ? Maybe, maybe not, but you should say something just in case!!

Lots of people shower naked at our local pools, so I dont think that in itself means that the man is a "Weirdo"!! The man in question was most probably not expecting to be walked in on by a bunch of school children.

Def call the school cause it is a supervison issue, not a public pool issue IYKWIM?

It just doesn't sit right with me that a grown man was showering naked in front of children coming and going. My son only walked in there to use the toilet and felt the need to walk straight out.

OMG i just chatted to him again about this to get the full picture and he just told me there were two men showering together, this just gets more weird by the minute and i am totally disgusted. I know this could be innocent but the picture he is painting right now really doesn't seem to be. I will be ringing the school on Monday morning and also speaking to the complex, i'm really not happy with this what so ever.

Just checked with DH. Totally normal for men to naked when they shower at the pool. Hey, even in the womens a lot of the women in there are naked, even those that bring in their sons.

I would say that the man or men in question were not aware of school kids being there. It is up to the school to ensure they are properly supervised.

There was a news article about a man that complained about school kids being unsupervised in the change rooms at a swimming. He complained that he was concerned that he would be accused of doing something etc. As a result the kids are no longer allowed to use the mens change rooms. At the time we thought it was over the top, but seeing this thread has shown me he was right in doing so. Very sad day that men are accused of being weird for doing what is acceptable, which is showering naked in the communal shower. I would be horrified if my husband was accused like this.

ETA: here is the article in question:
Schoolboys banned from pool changeroom over pervert fears | News.com.au

Having been brought up around a pool, mum was a swimming teacher and I swam for 15 years it's totally normal, men and women do it. I was never comfy doing it myself as I got older but a lot of people roam around the changerooms naked not just the shower.

It is a sad day that we need to be wary of these things with our children.
It may be totally innocent, but how do you or I know that?
As parents it's our job to protect our children, if something concerns us we should follow up on it, because if we don't and something bad happens as a result we'd never forgive ourselves.

The solution could be as easy as making sure a teacher is in the change rooms with the kids. It doesn't have to be a big deal with accusations, it's just about ensuring the safety of our children.

Thanks for everyones reply's.

I am quite surprised this is the norm actually, but it's my job as a parent that i protect my children from such things that could happen as best i can. Personally i don't really think it is appropriate, strange people walking around naked, maybe something needs to change where there are doors so people can have some privacy. I'm certainly not a prude, my kids come in and talk to me and my DH while showering i just don't feel comfortable for it to happen around a complete stranger that's all.

I would definitley call the school. It's very sad, but in this day & age (I feel like my mother saying that!), that our society is not a safe place. Especially change rooms at public facilities.
Was he an older man? Cos I have to admit, I have had my fair of 'Hello Grandma' in the changerooms of a gym/public pool where you take your kids to the loo & there is a grandma there completely starkers & not at all shy about it!
Totally not my cuppa tea, but for some reason the older people have no issue with nakedness in public changerooms???
Definitely call the school, your DS was NOT comfortable with it so I would be addressing it with the school. A teacher in the changerooms with them is a great idea - just to make them feel 'safe'.
Good luck! xx

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It is a sad day that we need to be wary of these things with our children.
It may be totally innocent, but how do you or I know that?
As parents it's our job to protect our children, if something concerns us we should follow up on it, because if we don't and something bad happens as a result we'd never forgive ourselves.

The solution could be as easy as making sure a teacher is in the change rooms with the kids. It doesn't have to be a big deal with accusations, it's just about ensuring the safety of our children.

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I agree.
My thought when I read this was not that there was necessarily anything funny about that man in particular - just that it suggested supervision was a bit lax, and the opportunity for something unpleasant to take place might be there at some other time, ITMS. I would think that as a matter of course the school would not want students sharing a changeroom with naked strangers.

Jayne & Fleur thats might thoughts exactly, unfortunately the school would be lucky to have one male teachers within the whole school, one of the deputy's is male but i think thats it. I definately think that something needs happen where children can walk into a changeroom and feel comfortable though whether it has been the norm or not.