Blighted ovum

I have just found out today I have a blighted ovum.... I should be nine weeks....how long does it usually take for your body to naturally m/c. I have had no cramping or bleeding at all.

im very sorry to hear xx

for me, my body didnt naturally m/c, i had to have a d&c so im not much help..

but my thoughts are with you

:hug: I am so sorry hun, you'd still be in shock....It really depends, i have had 3 mc and 2 i ended up needing D&C's because my body didn't do it. I am so very very sorry this happened to you. Fly free little savage xxxxxxxxxxx

:hug: I am so sorry that this is happening to you. It is very different for every woman but I was another who required a D&C after my miscarriage, we waited 4 weeks but my body wouldnt let go. :comfort: stay strong and know that everyone on here is here for you to lean on.

Im so sorry for your loss. I needed a D&C as it was weeks after and I still hadn't miscarried :(

Sorry mate. Thinking of you as you say goodbye.

:hug: I am so sorry :(
I have just finished an early m/c naturally. But from all the research I did and how far you were you may need a d&c. I can't speak from experience, but it seems a lot of ladies prefer a d&c so they don't have to wait in limbo land.
Again, I am very sorry for your loss:hug:

Im sorry for your loss.:hug:

I am another who cant m/c on their own so Ive had to go down the D&C route. Many women wait and see if their bodies m/c on their own, and if it doesnt then request a D&C. Others feel the need to get the D&C over with straight away. Just do whatever you feel is right for you. :hug:

I don't have any experiences, but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'll be thinking of you, honey.

Hugs Hun :( I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also had a blighted ovum and my body wouldn't let go. I was scared to have a d&c so opted to go to a clinic called Marie stopes that offers the ru486 tablet. I was 12 weeks and it was very painful, if I had my time again I'd have a d&c. Sometimes the body might hold on for weeks & that can be really hard to deal with mentally. I waited and nothing happened & I just wanted it over so that I could start to heal.
Thinking of you xx

No advice, just wanted to say sorry for your loss :comfort: :hug:

Thanks everyone for your imput. I was kind of thinking that perhaps my body isn't going to do it because it's already holding on at 9weeks still and havent' had even the slightest of cramping....but a part of me wants to wait another couple weeks - just in case....but i don't really want to go much further than that i dont think because i'm already pretty upset - considering I went into the scan expecting twins; and kinda came out with none.
Will go back to my gp and chat to her next week.

so.... my hcg came back as 115114.... which seems well within the normal range. got another test on monday (results on tuesday) to see if it's dropping or not. *sigh * if only just one thing could tell me for sure rather than having to wait! This totally sucks. I don't know how so many women go thru ivf repeatedly.... you are amazing.

Will be thinking of you, honey. This sucks for you.

Sending lots of hugs.

Wow.....your hcg is very high still..... :hug: Thinking of you hun xxxxxxx

yes that's why i dont know what to think now :'(. many articles and forums i've looked at most peoples dont go over like 30K at around 7wks when they find out and even if it's later than that they still aren't as high.
So i'm so confused as to whether i should keep holding on hope because if i do and there really is no baby i'm going to even more devastated...or if i should just tell myself there is no baby then i wont be disappointed again....
it's going to be a long weekend until tuesday that's for sure!!!
Thanks so much for replying still. Don't mean to burden anyone really; i just don't really know what to say to my husband because although he's sad, he's not feeling like i am....and i kinda just wanna talk about what's going on in my little brain atm!

With a blighted ovum Hun, the hcg will continue to rise as normal because the body doesn't realise the pregnancy is no longer viable. The placenta keeps growing and releasing the hormone. At least that's what my obstetrician told me. If you're unsure go to your doctor and ask for a referral for another scan so that you can feel 100% confident in your decision. I did this at 11 weeks & they will tell you for sure. At 9 weeks you should def see something.

I can relate so much to what you wrote and its awful. :hug:

Id request a repeat scan so you can confirm the diagnosis. You should see a baby and a heartbeat at 9 weeks but I personally found it easier to accept when it was confirmed by another person. Its your body and you deserve to have absolutely no doubt in your mind when deciding how to proceed from here.

My experience was that I went in for an u/s at around 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat. My Obs sent me for HCG blood tests which showed my HCG levels were still high, rising and normal for the expected gestation. I waited another week which again showed no heartbeat, and the baby had shrunk in size since the previous u/s indicating a missed m/c. I wanted desperately to m/c naturally but my body just wouldnt let go. I was still having bad m/s so I elected to have a D&C when I was supposed to be 11 weeks. I have no idea how long it would have taken for my body to realise and start m/cing on its own.

Just wanted to see how you are hun?

Hi Babyluv,
Thanks for checking in on me :) I appreciate it!
Went to gp yesterday, she said there is no point in having another blood test because it's not really going to add anything at this point. I had some spotting and cramping on sunday arvo and some really painful cramping once on monday (no spotting) and nothing since. But at the time because i was having that she said she thought it might probably all happen by tomorrow....but if not she gave me the blood test form to go get another tomorrow. Since there is nothing i probably will head down in the morning. She said she will call the hospital and organise a D&C for me tomorrow also if nothing else has happened. My pregnancy feeling has totally gone so I'm pretty certain within myself it's over (although i'm still looking pregnant which sucks!); but if i do have the D&C i'll ask for another ultrasound first just to get rid of all the ' what if's '.

Oh, honey. This sucks.
Good luck for your D&C (if you choose it)

I'll be thinking of you.

I am so sorry for your loss! Be gentle on yourself :(

Will be thinking of you, hope all goes well with your d&c.

Thinking of you today chick.

Oh sweetie I wish you didn't have to go through all of this its so unfair. Please if you need to talk we are always here for you. Inbox is always open xxx

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It makes me so sad to read ur posts :( It brings back so many awful memories. It happened to me at 9 weeks also but I only found out cos i started spotting. Thank goodness for that though cos I probably wld have trotted off to my 12 week scan expecting a baby only to find nothing. From the first day of spotting it took about 3-4 days to properly miscarry, for me Im glad it happened naturally, I needed to go thru the physical pain as well as the emotional pain to really let go. I think waiting a week or 2 for the d&c is a good idea, if u can handle playing the waiting game.

Please be gentle on yourself, if u do happen to miscarry naturally ur emotions will be all over the place as ur hcg levels drop. I was hysterically crying for 24 hrs straight. It really is a horrible thing to lose something that u want so badly.

Come on here anytime u need to chat, our dhs sometimes arent the best ppl to talk about these kinds of things too. My dh brought home a few friends after work the night after i miscarried, i cldnt believe it. The funny thing is hes not someone that has friends over and hasnt done so since, it sounds awful but i think he probably just needed to escape the sadness i was bringing into our home.. IYKWIM. With saying that though make sure u support each other, he wld be hurting as well, they just deal with it all differently. Us girls need to talk talk talk to feel better!

Thinking of u xxx

Thinking of you today sweety. I just had a D&C 3.5wks ago so I know exactly where you are right now.

We are all here anytime you need us.

Hi Everyone, Just thought i'd update you on the goings on.....
So i had another blood test last week and hcg had dropped to 78k (from 115k). sent form on the thurs morning to hospital for d & c. Left it until monday and I hadn't heard anything from the hospital....so i rang them. apparently they didn't get my fax :S so i had to fax it again to a different number and I attentioned it to the lady i spoke to. Went to the doc yesterday(wed) and had another blood test and an ultrasound - just wanted to make sure in case i did have a d & c. sac had gone down to like 2.6cm (from about 7cm) and my hcg came back this morning as 28606K. so it really is all over for me......but i still haven't heard from the hospital!!! not going to bother ringing them.

Guna take it as a sign that I should just wait until i miscarry naturally. i wasn't really feeling that confident about going in for the d & c anyway so i'm not totally disappointed. but it would be nice to have this all over and done with. oh well. i did have it in my head (and i told my hubby) that if the bloods came back over 30k today then i'd ring hossy and if under i'd just wait.....so took that as another sign just to wait.

thanks so much for your support. Hope you are all well. xx

oh and yes reet hormones are all over the place. i felt like the hcg must of dropped majorly because i've been sooo down and tired the past couple days !! hormones are frustrating at times aren't they!

:hug::hug::hug: I have nothing except hugs :hug::hug::hug:

Oh kirley :( I hope u get thru the next week ok. How unprofessional of the hospital not to get back to u! Maybe it really is a sign that ur meant to be miscarrying naturally though. Stay strong and take care of urself. Oh and give that baby boy of urs lots of extra cuddles! xxx
We're all here for u!

Kirley so sorry this is happening. I decided last Friday that I would have a d and c for my mmc but my body took over on the weekend and I'm thankful for that. I hope your body is the same. Either way know that there is a whole community of ladies supporting you here. Big hugs to you.


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Thinking of you, honey.

Thinking of you today sweety.

Thanks so much for all your support and encouragement. xx I really appreciate it. :)
had a bit of an bad morning with other mum's at playgroup asking if i was pregnant and when i said no they said 'are you sure' and kept pestering me so i had to tell....but an uplifting afternoon with a new phone and owed payments to me that pay off our credit card from centrelink so that was a nice end to the day. Still not as great as having a baby in my belly but it definitely made my week a bit better!