Would you ask a snoop to house sit?

If you know without a doubt they have gone through boxes/drawers when alone in your house (boxes piled in another room) even admitted to taking something out of an unmarked box to borrow. But you never made a fuss of it (was in far too much shock at the time to respond appropriately!)

Would you ask them to mind your house for a couple of weeks?

Not that I have really anything to hide, so to speak, but my personal stuff is just that, my personal stuff. Our personal stuff.

Would you?

ETA Said snoop being a family member so the expectation is there that they would be asked.....

No way. Creepsville.

Nooooooo. That's not cool.

Nup. Unless I had some kind of safe to lock all my personal things into!

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No way. Creepsville.

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Yeah, that.

Just edited original post to add that it's a family member :shakehead:

Still wouldn't ask family member or not.

Still no way!!! And possibly even tell them why when they ask why they werent asked!!!

Yes. And I would booby trap the **** outta my stuff.

No way. That's a disrespectful violation of personal boundaries.

The fact that they think that's OK is disturbing but not something you could ever agree on - it's a values thing.

no way!!! So out of line- family member or not

Maybe... My initial reaction was no... But you're obviously asking for a reason????

If I was to, I would probably tuck little notes away in my private drawers, boxes, whatever, with a friendly "I really appreciate you helping us out, but this drawer/box contains personal materials so please entertain yourself another way". Or I would pop some bits and peices in places to stir them up, you know a porn magazine here or there, maybe a dildo, accompanied by a little note "thought we'd make this a bit more entertaining for you".

no way in hell would i that is just plain rude of them

Nope, no way. Even if you've got nothing to 'hide' as such, its still creepy to have someone looking through your stuff

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Maybe... My initial reaction was no... But you're obviously asking for a reason????

If I was to, I would probably tuck little notes away in my private drawers, boxes, whatever, with a friendly "I really appreciate you helping us out, but this drawer/box contains personal materials so please entertain yourself another way". Or I would pop some bits and peices in places to stir them up, you know a porn magazine here or there, maybe a dildo, accompanied by a little note "thought we'd make this a bit more entertaining for you".

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LOL that was my thought too! and setting up a few tiny camera's that go in the room he/she not allowed in :P

No! But I would boobie trap everything like Audax said and then put in cameras as per mummenurse's suggestion to get a laugh if I absolutely had to.

Helllll no.

No, I don't think I would but it is easy to say that in theory ...

Are you asking because you feel obligated to let the snoop housesit? Or desperate for a housesitter?

I guess, I think the same as Miss E ... you are asking for a reason so I was just wondering about it. Not that you have to share if you don't want to but there might be other solutions that you haven't thought about ...

I know my MIL is a snoop, but we still have them house-sit.. They were here a few months back, and I made sure there was a suprise in the 1st drawer (the easiest thing to access in our room), and suprisingly nothing our room was touched..

All the kids clothes were put away, the rest of the house was spotless, and my sheets changed, but mine and DH's clothes were left on our bed (she used to put them away and it iritated me!

And we allow them to house-sit because they are DH's parents, and that is just the way she is.

No.

(Apparently this reply message is too short, I have to lengthen it to at least 5 characters, I’ve never had that error message before :lol: ).

No way!

No way. My sister housesat for us last year for a weekend, and after we got back she confessed she'd been looking for something (norty how-to manuals) and found our toy drawer.....and then called another sister and they went through it together :o I cannot describe how absolutely violated I felt, and we have never asked her to housesit again.

Fair enough, you may not have anything to hide - but that doesn't mean everyone needs to see and know what you have. I would not only NOT ask them, I would be upfront about why.

And if you're stuck for a housesitter, we're living with my parents at the moment, so we're available :)

Absolutely not! In fact, I would never ask anyone to housesit for us anyway. I have done it for others (didn't look at their stuff though!) and really hated it.

Not at all, far too creepy.

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no way!!! So out of line- family member or not

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Completely agree with that!

depends on who it is.

My MIL is also a massive snoop. But I would let her...only because I'd rile her up by placing incredibly inappropriate and offensive (to her) items around the place :lol:

My Step Mother is also a snoop. I'd let her house by putting electronic booby traps around to scare the cadoodle out of her!

My sister is a shocking snoop. The only way she would be left alone in my house is with a pitbull guarding every room she wasn't allowed in...and that's AFTER I locked all things I didn't want her seeing/touching in a secure safe...1,000Km away!

I spent this weekend house-siting and I snooped a little out of boredom.... :hide: I was looking after my grandparents place. I only looked in the cupboards in the spare bedroom and in the walk in hall cupboard.. But I didn't rummage through anything, I was only looking for books/something entertaining lol. Actually tbh I usually snoop here, if I hadn't snooped last time I stayed I wouldn't have found out my Nan threw out my wedding dress (whole other thread there).

I wasn't digging around in their personal stuff though, that'd be totally weird.

If I knew someone had snooped through my personal stuff I'd be annoyed (ie through my bedside draws etc etc) And I wouldn't let them house-sit. No way!

Thanks for all the replies, and yep I'm asking because

a) I kinda feel obligated to ask them as we've asked everyone but them and
b) DH is fine with asking but I'm not

The person hasn't been in the house alone since that incident as I don't like thought of them snooping through our stuff. DH just says we should buy a lockable filing cabinet and put away anything we don't want looked at, but that's not the point.

We're not desperate for house sitters either, it just feels odd to have asked everyone and not them! Atleast this thread helps back my way of thinking to DH :)

Arghhh and now I'm thinking I should have gone plat in case they online snoop too :shakehead:

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No way. My sister housesat for us last year for a weekend, and after we got back she confessed she'd been looking for something (norty how-to manuals) and found our toy drawer.....and then called another sister and they went through it together :o I cannot describe how absolutely violated I felt, and we have never asked her to housesit again.

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WHAAAAAAAT! I bet they sat & had a good giggle. I would have been thinking so hard to come up with some reason to get them ****ting themselves about STD's or something. I can't believe someone would do that. Snoop yes (I have snooped when house sitting before but I was very young & it was as a PP said only in linen cuboards/sewing room. Not personal personal stuff) but to then call someone over to have a good rummage & giggle about something so incredibly personal & then I assume tell you about it?!

I hope you ***** slapped the pair of them!

I was gobsmacked tbh. And humiliated. A little while later I sent them both text messages to say how disappointed and embarrassed I was, and that I couldn't trust them to be unsupervised in our house anymore. I rarely tell people off, I generally just dwell on it and make myself upset, so they were quite embarrassed and apologetic. I felt like slapping them though :)

HB - Think of it this way: even if you lock sensitive stuff away, it's gonna be on your mind while you're on holiday, and it will spoil it for you. So tell your DH too bad, you're picking someone else :)

Yeah that's pretty intense Keike!! And thanks for the house sitting offer too - will keep it in mind :)