Do/would you lie/fib to your toddler about what they are eating?

*Not making any judgements on parents that might do this, just interested in opinions!*

I have a couple of friends that do this...their kids might only eat certain types of meat like sausages or chicken, so when something else is offered they tell the child that they are eating sausages (when really it might be steak, or fish or something totally different). I can sort of understand if it is a last resort and you have a very fussy eater, but in general for me I think it is such a bad idea.

I want my kids to know that I am honest about what food they are being offered, and are given the opportunity to try it and either like it and eat it, or not. They need to know there are more things out there than just 'sausages' and it's only going to set them up for confusion later on when they realise that the chicken they are eating isn't a sausage at all. And what happens if they decide they don't like sausages, but since you've told them *everything* is a sausage they are going to refuse to eat anything.

Tonight we had steak, DD initially started calling it sausage but I corrected her and told her it was steak. She tried two bits, chewed a bit then spat them out but I wasn't particularly fussed, I just want her to know that what I tell her is on her plate, is actually what is on her plate. I don't agree with some of their other parenting techniques, but just didn't know if this is a common occurrence?

Edit: Hope that all makes sense...I'm a bit out of practice creating legible & understandable posts on BB! Lol

Yeah, DSS used to only eat chicken. We marinated steak and told him it was 'special chicken'.. He loved it. If he knew it wasn't chicken he never would have eaten it!

:hide: I have been known to do this.

No we tell the girls what they are eating, and we even tell them where it comes from (animal or plant) and how it gets to our plate (in a version they can understand). And none of that really seems to bother them.

my toddler doesnt believe me lol but i have tried it

i just say this is yummy :)

We've started doing this because DD was getting to the point where she wouldn't eat anything. If we told her what it was, she'd refuse to eat it. So pasta/spaghetti has suddenly been called noodles. She thinks the word is funny, pronounces it "nuddles" and what do you know -- she eats it! For us right now, its just getting her to eat, so we'll do whatever we can.

With DD I will be honest. She is an adventurous eater. With DS1, I will embellish the truth. Though he still doesn't eat much....

I just tell him the truth. Nut I do embellish the descripyion for DH....

I dont tend to tell DD things are things when they arnt. BUT... I do tell her vegetables give her super powers (depends on the veg to what super power).. lol She likes to tell other kids that brocolli makes you run faster!!

I think its completely fair and reasonable and quite a clever tactic to use to get little ones to try something new

My DS has a great diet, but red meat, he REALLY has to be in the mood to eat it, so we will tell him that beef/lamb is chicken and he eats it more willingly

The Parenting Police haven't come a'knocking yet, and I'm pretty sure the balanced diet police will give me a gold star. But yep lets face it I'll have a fail when I have to explain myself to the honesty police, but I can sleep at night :D

We still do this with my 16 year old brother :rofl:


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do it all the time...I got DS to eat pasta because I told him it was made from rice and he is 11 :rofl:

:rofl: better not tell him that teni

We don't necesarilly lie about what the food is but we'll tell ds1 that his favorite tv character (Kwazzi from the octonauts at the moment) loves the food. He will the generally try it.

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I dont tend to tell DD things are things when they arnt. BUT... I do tell her vegetables give her super powers (depends on the veg to what super power).. lol She likes to tell other kids that brocolli makes you run faster!!

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We do similar.

Have a real issue with deception in food (in fact it is a real bug bear of mine). Mostly to do with what was done with me as a kid and a teenager. Will keep quiet now :hide:

Nope, I tell our dds our food is an animal or if they want a mcdonalds ice cream which although it's rare before we stopped and changed our diet it wasn't, I tell her it actually IS bad for her, even told her about why we eat organic etc... With dd2 I've told her fish is chicken cause she's chicken obsessed and turned her nose up at the fish before trying it but after eating it we described what it was, dd1 kept telling her it was dory from nemo!


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No, DD is told what she is eating bit i do tell her it will give her big muscles and the likes. We encourage her to try everything and them she can tell us she doesnt like it.
My parents used to lie all the to us about foods we were eating and I have issues with that still

Hmm, dont' think we do / have, but I can understand it when you have an exceptionally fussy toddler. I probably prefer the idea of being honest, I get what you are saying and I can see where it might lead to problems down the track. I guess if you are already having trouble with a fussy eater it might seem like the lesser issue.

DH's parents used to get to him to eat tripe by telling him it was chicken :lol:

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We still do this with my 16 year old brother :rofl:

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Haha! Hilarious! :rofl:

What foods in particular?!

I'll often just tell DS1 that it's yummy food and to try it. At the end of the meal I'll ask him if he likes it and tell him what it is then. I do the same with DH. I wanted to try kanga bangers but DH wouldn't entertain the thought, so I just cooked sausages and at the end he asked what kind of meat it was so I told him.

I will say "it's a steak" or "a fillet" or "stir fry" or "pasta sauce" so I'm not lying to him. (them)

DS went thorugh a stage that everything was "chicken"... and it didnt matter how many times we tol dhim it was steak or whatever he would be adament it was chicken and he would get quite upset if we called it anythign else!! So it was all chicken!!!! Now he is getting a bit more open minded and will accept that there are different things out there besides chicken!!

We have a huge problem with vegies, I have tried the "they will make you big and strong!!!" "they are really yummy" and I have sadly resorted to "If you dont eat your vegies you will get sick and you may be dead" This got him to eat them once, but it didnt work again after that :(

I don't think we've ever had to do that with DD - she'll give everything a go - and if she doesn't like something, i assume she REALLY doesn't like it - she's just not a fussy kid!

my bro's kids have had to be told "creative" versions of the truth. one refused to try something because it had "orange potato" in it. she'd eaten it at least 10 times before, and LOVED it - but she seen me peeling sweet potato, and decided it would be yuk and refused. so the next time we had it, i told her it was all carrot - and she loved it again!

my bro's son was a shocker for eating anything that wasn't the most basic of basic vegies - spud, carrot, peas, corn. when i make spag, i put a whole lot more veg in than that - during winter, i add swede, turnip, parsnip etc - so when he was watching me cook (he didn't see me peeling stuff) i told him it had lots of little bits of spud - and he scoffed it. when he seen me peeling turnip and swede to make a soup later the same day, he said it was yuk and wouldn't eat it EVER.

sometimes you need to disguise the truth or embellish a little just to get kids to eat. i wouldn't outright lie and say beef was chicken - there is no point IMO, but i think sometimes it helps to get extra food into fussier kids

Yep I do it. Tis that or DD would eat nothing!

I just tell her it is pasta sauce, without going into detail of what is in it.

Or o ad veggies to baked beans, and as she doesn't question it, I don't tell her.

i don't do it - but i'm not sure whether DS is still a bit young for that tactic. at the moment, i pretty much just give him whatever we're having & if he doesn't eat it, he doesn't eat it. there are lots of foods that i didn't like till i was older & i don't want to force the issue. that said, he is only 26 months so no idea if that's a bit young? :dunno:

my mum only lied to me once - tried to tell me that rabbit was 'underground chicken'. i didn't believe her. mum also had a friend who told her son that liver was fillet steak. that was when he was still about 11. boy was that kid in for a surprise!!

I don't, but I sometimes will say 'it's like chicken', or, 'it tastes like sausage' which can be stretching the truth a bit at times.

I guess I do this, in a way.

DS is not fussy, but is with veg. So I generally disguise and hide them.

If he asks what's in his dinner, I'll say, 'just chicken, and rice and curry sauce' for instance, but I don't tell him I peeled and grated a zucchini into it that he just can't see, or he just wouldn't eat it, for the sheer fact it contains a vegetable.

I hide stuff and dont volunteer the info.
If I grate 10 veges into some mince and add some tomato paste, it is spaghetti.
Its a need to know kind of thing ;)

We do especially with DD2, she is a shocking eater, even with lying its hard to get her to eat.
DD1 we tell little fibs, like if there is tomato it has to be the small ones or mushrooms have to be the magic fairy small ones.

In our house we have eaten sea chicken, wooly chicken and grazing chicken.
We've also eaten cabbages grown by fairies.

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In our house we have eaten sea chicken, wooly chicken and grazing chicken.
We've also eaten cabbages grown by fairies.

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Bwahahahahahaha, I just spat my coffee out - sea chicken? PMSL
Gotta try that one!!!!

most of the time i just say its yummy eat it lol but he wouldnt eat custard today