Would this be bad form?

For DD's dedication we were given a set of three photo frames that hang vertically down the wall, joined by like a long really thick hanging ribbon. With a big bow at the top and long pieces of ribbon hanging down from the bottom frame. In the most awful baby green poo colour I have ever seen :sick:

I love the frames, hate the ribbon.

Would it be bad form to cut/remove the ribbon and just hang the three frames as a set? The giver would be bound to see it sooner or later as they do come over every now and then. Would you be offended if you saw someone had done that to a gift you gave them?

And I would be putting them still vertically down the wall/one under the other so I couldn't say they wouldn't have fit.....

I'd just tell a little white lie and say that the ribbon broke?


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Could you say you wanted to hang them but you were worried about DD pulling on the ribbons so you cut them off for safety? It's not really a lie - hanging ribbons would be hard for a toddler to resist and you don't want her pulling a frame down on her head.

Both fair ideas..... the frames are joined with a piece of the ribbon between each one......and we're talking entire ribbon removal needed.

I guess if I start with removal of the hanging ones for safety..... and then if it looks odd with the other bits then I would have no choice..... ;)

Maybe you could accidently spill something on the ribbon (ink, bleach) and then you would have to remove it- and you could tell close to the truth.

Moths got to it?

I like the safety idea. And of course, once you removed the bottom ones, it just looked silly so you had to even it out ;)

Eta: do you have a cat? The cat thought it was a play toy so you had to remove the ribbon for fear of the whole lot crashing down.

I think better to be used in an altered state, than hidden away.

Um, why not just tell your friend that you don't like the colour and would they mind if you removed it?

Or maybe just say that you love the frames but think they would look amazing hung diagonally or horizontally rather than vertically and would she mind if you changed them.

When you were putting the photos in you accidentally wrecked the ribbon?

I would just remove the ribbon, and not say anything.

It would depend on your friend's personality of course, but I would be surprised if they said anything about it, even if they did notice ... do you think it's likely they would actually say anything about it?

I'm glad some use has been able to come from it, though! I have been given some of the most ugly photo frames known to man, and there is no way to salvage them at all ... they're just ugly, and sit in their boxes in our attic ...

All great suggestions, I think I'll do a mix of honesty and safety lol

She will/would comment when she sees it, but I too would much rather them be on display then hidden away. DH just says to hang them in DD's room, but they don't go in there either, and it's not the frames that are fugly, just the ribbon!

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I think better to be used in an altered state, than hidden away.

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I agree.

You know your friend & what's going to ride with her ... whether you can get away with telling her the truth or if it's better to make something up.

Could you say you were going to hang them elsewhere, horizontally but then decided they were better where they were?

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All great suggestions, I think I'll do a mix of honesty and safety lol

She will/would comment when she sees it, but I too would much rather them be on display then hidden away. DH just says to hang them in DD's room, but they don't go in there either, and it's not the frames that are fugly, just the ribbon!

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Hmm, if she'll say something I guess that's a bit trickier.

And I'm glad the frames are nice - the ones I have been giving, there's just no redemption available for them, unfortunately ...

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Hmm, if she'll say something I guess that's a bit trickier.

And I'm glad the frames are nice - the ones I have been giving, there's just no redemption available for them, unfortunately ...

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Of course there is - it's called regifting!

I would cut the ribbon off and display them in a room (eg. your bedroom) the friend wouldn't go in, then you're not lying to anybody.

Why lie about it? You're using the gift they gave you. If they see the frames and ask where the ribbon is (which I doubt they would), just say you didn't like the colour of it so you removed it, then tell them how much you love the frames like that.

Wouldn't that be so much easier than trying to remember which lie you told them?

Hence why I said I'm going for honesty and safety - which now I have checked where I want to hang it I can see DD would easily pull on the ribbon and potentially pull it down. And you can bet your bottom dollar she will ask me where the ribbon is, she's that kind of person. I didn't actually ask for reasons - I asked if people would be offended if some one did it to a gift they gave. Just because there have been some creative answers doesn't mean they will be used ;)

Just to confirm - I wouldn't be offended at all.

I would be pleased that they'd done something to make it usable for them, and that they know me well enough that they wasn't scared I'd crack it.

I'd much rather see it in use than winding up wondering whether it's been turfed or regifted ;)

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Why lie about it? You're using the gift they gave you. If they see the frames and ask where the ribbon is (which I doubt they would), just say you didn't like the colour of it so you removed it, then tell them how much you love the frames like that.

Wouldn't that be so much easier than trying to remember which lie you told them?

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I agree...

If it was me that was the giver, I would notice but not say something, and wonder why... I would prefer a friend be honest, that way I could read nothing into it and wouldn't be upset, if that makes sense...


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i would change the ribbon to a colour i liked. then just tell the friend that it goes better with the decor.

i wouldn't be offended if they were up but altered.

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I didn't actually ask for reasons - I asked if people would be offended if some one did it to a gift they gave. Just because there have been some creative answers doesn't mean they will be used ;)

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Aha, good point :p
Well then... I wouldn't be offended. I might be a bit worried that I had crappy taste or something! but I would overall just be happy that they were being used in whatever way. Especially if you emphasised how much you like the frames themselves.