I understand how to do it... But how the heck do they expect me to reach it!?!?
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I understand how to do it... But how the heck do they expect me to reach it!?!?
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Lol :rofl:
I Think your meant to get someone else to do it..... DP maybe ;)
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I know I sure as heck couldn't reach!
i got DP to give it a try for me :lol: but i hated it so only tried the once haha
Yep, husbands are great :)
Lol
:doh: lol your a funny one, how about the trying to get out of the bath at the moment!
Yes I fear I might almost lill myself trying to get out of the tub but some days its so hot I eat lunch in the bath
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Apparently sex doggy style has the same affect. That's what I did when I was pregnant with DS and I never tore :)
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I was the same tried it once and didn't do it again. Hubby couldnt stand hurting me
:lol: Helle I'll remember that one for next time
Dh tried last night.... Not doing that again
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My DP was reading over my shoulder when I was browsing this thread haha he is pretty keen to help now >.>:
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Dh would love doggy style but it hurts when we try .... any other position is fine
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lol@Jellyfish!
How else do you have sex at this stage of pg? Lordy knows it's a lot of work as it is! But no perineal massage here either, I'm not getting DH to do that (he wouldn't anyway)!
Dh was really keen but he had such big rough hands
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I did no prepping down stairs at all and only had a graze despite pushing for an hour prior to a vacuum delivery as DD was posterior and completely stuck. Yup, just one little graze :D
I think some of it is in our genes, how stretchy our skin is, and the rest I believe is positioning (during birth) and the speed of the labour. I'm a bit skeptical that massaging the area helps.
Just my opinion though and thought I'd share :)
It might have something to do with whether you're tense during birth or if you're consciously trying to relax as well - I didn't tear at all with DD, her second stage was fast but not rushed, whereas I tore badly with DS because we had to get him out fast due to his heartrate dropping - which made me tense up a lot.
I should mention I did no preparation in the lead up to DD's birth and had no sex her entire pregnancy but didn't tear at all. I did go slow during the pushing and pause during the ring of fire.
I was going to mention this too but thought it might have been a bit OT.:
My midwives instructed my pushing alot to avoid tearing (they told me what sort of push to do... Small quick ones, or long hard pushes or to just simply hold baby there for an extra few seconds so my body could catch up with the sensation) god I loved those midwives!
And that's the key a lot of the times too I reckon. Sometimes the control is taken out of our hands, especially if that baby just wants to get out of there ASAP :lol: but listening to the instructions from the midwife/OB at that point and being able to control the push really can make all the difference.:
Notes on pushing - check. I am taking so much more information into birthing this baby than I did with DS!
I agree about birthing positions and going slow with being more effective than massage. DD was 8lb9oz with a head circ of 36cm, and I breathed her out and didn't tear at all, not even a graze. As a PP said, I let DD sit there for a while during crowing which allowed everything to stretch and conform around her head, instead of powering on through that part.