Today's 3 Blessings....

I don't know if this is the right place to put this - (so mods if it needs to be moved please do) but I have been reading the positives thread elsewhere and I really like the concept - remembering the 'positive' things for the day. Positive Psychology refers to it as the 3 blessings. Anyway, the problem with the other thread is that there is lots of talk about kids, and it's all about DS this and DD that, blah, blah, blah... which I've been finding a bit difficult... feels a bit like salt in the wound when everything is about how great the kids are. So I thought it might be nice for us to have a similar thread, but with less emphasis on the baby stuff (doesn't mean you can't be grateful for your kids.... just perhaps don't rub it in too much for those of us who DON'T have any yet).

so anyway here are my 3 blessings for the day

1. I managed to clean most of the house today
2. beautiful sunny day so I managed to dry all the washing - it's now on the bed waiting to be folded and put away
3. DH skyped twice :-) :heartbeat:

...and tomorrow I will make sure I fold and put away the clothes AND do the dishes before I go to bed so I still have a clean kitchen by tuesday

The idea is to remind yourself of the things that went well for the day - and then to write how you can get more of that tomorrow :-)

so... anyone else up for the challenge??? ;)

Good idea Myturn!

My 3 blessings for today:
1. Even though my computer died yesterday I managed to save three (long) reports and so have not had to rewrite them today.
2. I had one of those 'this is why I love my job' days.
3. Catching up with my sister tonoght.

and tomorrow ...
Im also doing a clean of the house tonight so will be in a good mood from the moment I wake up and DH is home for 6 days as of tomorrow night (YAY!) so we can be a team in processing what ever our options are after visiting the fs tomorrow.

1 - I watched the sun come up
2 - my cycle wasn't cancelled!
3 - I got to see my potential babies!

What a lovely idea.....

1 - I had an RDO from work today (always a blessing :) )
2 - I got some extra washing done
3 - spent a nice afternoon with MIL and got a bit of christmas shopping done.

and tomorrow.....
I will make sure I get up a bit earlier to be more organised so I can get to the gym after work, been eager to get back after being a bit unwell last week.

What happens if you have secondary infertility but you are LTTTC?? Are you allowed to mention your DD/DS as a blessing??

Hi myturn

I think this is a lovely thread but I absolutely do not think that anyone in any threads were rubbing salt into the wounds of people TTC! I know exactly where you are coming from but IMO its just that DS or DD may be a HUGE part of that individual persons life, and perhaps they have nothing else! I know that personally I spent 5 years and 11 IVF cycles. It can be very hard on here at times and knowing that by writing the one postive in my life for example is upsetting others makes me for one, feel like a real cow!
I dont intend to offend you and again I do think it is a lovely thread to have started.

great job ladies :)

ummm... so today... I woke up late and was feeling kinda dodgey... so this is probably and important exercise for me today.... so here goes...

1. I was able to do some planning and preparation for the next session with a client I saw this morning :) and it was good because it will be something I can use with other clients in the future
2. I didn't get the chocolate or anything crap for dinner (or to snack on) when I was on my way home, or in the supermarket
3. I genuinely coped well with the baby talk at work (one of the girls is 14 weeks preg, and another is nearly 8 months)

so tomorrow I can get more of this by..... staying focused on tasks at work - and I will see a friend tomorrow night who had a baby about 2 months ago - if I keep up with the current attitude I should be okay....

Now to make sure I follow yesterdays promise and finish the dishes and fold the washing... if I could only get off the couch.... :)

sorry, I certainly didn't mean to insinuate that anyone was trying to rub it in intentionally! Just that I liked the idea, but found that every post was about the kids, and I just thought that there may be other people like me who have yet to be blessed that might find that hard.

I just thought that the people in here may be a bit more sensitive to that, and of course people can be thankful for their babies and all that - just to be aware that in here it's a sensitive topic. I thought everyone would understand that. Sorry if I offended anyone by suggesting otherwise. But perhaps this is not the right thread if you are worried that you will offend people by your positives.

I don't resent others being thankful for their children, but as I don't have a baby to be thankful for at all, I thought that there may be people in here who understood that.

N2L - I think everyone needs to make a decision about whether their blessing will fit in here - I certainly won't be offended it people mention DS or DD - it was just that in the other thread it felt that every post was about the things that DS or DD were doing.

Personally I just want to remember to be thankful for the things that are not baby focused - and I thought maybe some other people felt the same way.

I feel like if I try to keep explaining myself I will just dig myself in further - there wasn't supposed to be any rules attached - just more sensitivity to the issues we have in here. Sorry again. :(

Myturn, I understand :hug:.

Sometimes I am upset at things said... I know for a FACT that the posters were not trying to be offensive but I am in such a sensitive place that innocent random comments hurt me, and I want to run away to a safe place. I think you want this thread to be your safe place.

I can recognise the need :hug:.

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Myturn, I understand :hug:.

Sometimes I am upset at things said... I know for a FACT that the posters were not trying to be offensive but I am in such a sensitive place that innocent random comments hurt me, and I want to run away to a safe place. I think you want this thread to be your safe place.

I can recognise the need :hug:.

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thanks Maruschke - it really just was... "ahh I can't handle all this kid/baby talk"... so i feel a bit of a sook getting teary at your niceness :) but it's a nice kinda cry. thanks. if I could I'd give you reputation points.... but I haven't been around long enough yet :) lol

That's two people I've made cry today :o

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Ok my three positives:
1. I finally got a positive response to an employment related appeal I've been making...after three prior rejections!

2. I'm having a huge "I love my DH" moment... Ttc has been so hard on him (on both of us really) but he's been very sweet regardless!

3. A few things that've been in the process since the year begun are all starting to fall in place. 2011 hasn't been bad after all!


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one more for the day

4. I actually finished all the dishes - yay (a real achievment for me - as I hate dishes!!! - and always procrastinate with them... AND I mopped the kitchen floor....

tomorrow.... I will remind myself that I can start the day afresh.... and stick in all those routines that are important to me.

hmmmmm ok well here are my three for today....

1 - I got through the day even though I had to cover someone else's job at work today as well as my own and the day did not go to the plan I thought it would.
2 - My puppies always put a smile on my face when I get home and they are always so happy to see me.
3 - I was able to laugh at things today which would normally frustrate me and just brush them off.

Tomorrow: I will not place to high expectations on myself, not that goals etc are not important but I had an uh huh moment today when I realised sometimes I am to hard on myself and need to give myself credit for the great things I already do and not focus so much on what I don't have done.

love your ahha moment snikkers :-) well done :-)

so mine for today

1. even though i woke up late I still got on the exercise bike before doing anything else this morning - and managed to stay on for 10 minutes (i'm weaning myself on to it okay ;-) ) :lol:
2. actually got a kid to do what I wanted him to do in an assessment today :-) yay me...
3. having a friend over tonight to help me plan the curriculum for a course I'm going to teach next year at a uni (which is terrifying but fantastic all at the same time) so I will enjoy two days in a row with friend company :-)

tomorrow: I will stay focused on task at work and get some report writing started - and try not to get distracted by the bosses silly requests and other people's chatter

my turn, well done on the exercise bike, any amount of exercise is good whether it is 10 minutes or 30.....

today...

1 - I am happy that even though I had a big long meeting all day I did not come home from it overwhelmed like I normally would.
2 - I managed when I got home to prepare the mixture for a mud cake mind you 4x the normal amount of mixture as I am making a cake for a baby shower... so got the mixture done and dinner cooked as well as tidied the kitchen cake is in the oven cooking as we speak.
3 - and thankful I am feeling just generally ok, I have had my moments lately but today feeling good.

Tomorrow: not a big aim I just aim to try and get through the day with a smile and do what I can, as I will be up late tonight and have a 6:30 work start in the morning then after work home to do some cake decorating....

Ah my turn the pure joy of getting a child to do what you need in an assessment pure bliss I tell you! And snickers making a cake is good but for a baby shower is hero status!

For me
1. I too got a child to do as I need to at work today and this in turn helped the parent which made me smile

2. We are at the beach tonight and with a glass of wine it is just so relaxing

3. The warm weather was just beautiful today.


Tomorrow I am going to get on to the piling reports so that by the weekend I don't have to think about work. Now that will be nice.

so today....

1. darling stepdaughter was out for the day so got to spend an uninterrupted day with DH - afternoon nap and all ( ;) )
2. managed to get a large chunk of christmas shopping done :-)
3. feeling generally content - and satisfied - probably helps that DH is home just in time - supposed to 'o' this weekend :lol:

so tomorrow.... will make sure I keep up my exercise bike routine in the AM - and get DH on track to meet me at the gym in the evening and on track with weekly menu.

Thanks Keta, I had my moments making the cake let me tell you, but focused more on the actual decorating and outcome of how it looked rather than what it was for, so very proud of my acheivement...

1- I had a fairly good day even though I was tired when I woke up and thought I did not want to go to work
2 - I went to the gym this afternoon and feel good because of this.. (I had not been for 2 weeks)
3 - I am thankful for those people in my life who are supportive and genuinely care.

tomorrow: I am going to have a very productive day getting lots of work done at work as it is so busy!!

feeling kinda crappy this afternoon so this is probably a good exercise....

1. managed to learn a new assessment tool and talk through it with other psychs in my peer supervision group this afternoon
2. realised I HAD changed something in a document I sent last night (thought I was going to have to re-email it and would feel like an idiot)
3. I got on the bike for 9 minutes this morning (even though when I got out of bed i thought I wasn't going to... it was like my body was in auto mode and just went there!)

tomorrow: I will use my earphones at work to make sure I have a productive day with all the reports I have to write...



Zig -- so I'm wondering if DH has continued to be his brilliant self?? :)

Snikkers -- Are you still putting excess pressure on yourself? or has the ah ha moment lasted??

Keta -- another warm night for you -- back to the beach tonight??


Hi to Maruschke, N2L and anyone else I've missed or who might be stalking
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my turn: going ok at the moment... I think it can change from day to day sometimes lol, good on you for getting on the bike this morning anyway.. and good on you for still posting here even when your feeling the way you do.. your right it is a good exercise.

so here goes me for today..

1- I am pleased I had a productive day today like I said I would.
2- I am happy that I still cooked myself a very yummy healthy dinner even though initially I did not want to cook.
3- I am Thankful for jokes and laughter with friends that makes me feel good and smile.

Tomorrow... I will have another productive day and give everyone I see a lovely smile and hope it catches on. :D

@myturn- lol! Yep, he's still my sweet guy and I'm sooo lucky! We don't live in a perfect bubble but I'm so grateful for how good he is to me. Now if only my body will reward our efforts with a baby....


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Myturn - no beach tonight - movies with my sister (which I very much needed)
So today ...
1. My sister for noticing that I wasn't coping the best today and spending some girl time with me.
2. For bb - the place I can come to when I need to find someone who 'gets it'. Thanks Myturn for pointing out that even though you weren't having the best day this was still a good idea. I was nearly going to deliberately skip this and Im glad I didn't.
3. For my job - some interesting travel for next year may be on the horizon.

For tomorrow - Im going to get up early and finish some paper work so that I can recover from my lap in the afternoon without stressing about reports for work.
Im kinda proud I managed to that! It was strangley hard to do tonight. Hope you girls are all doing well.

I too am proud of you Keta - hopefully it helped put a small smile on your face. xx to your sister for being there for you

ah zig.... I too wish I could be rewarded with a baby... if I think too hard about it, I feel that the universe is punishing me... but enough of that in here.... today I feel much better...

1. Managed to get a WHOLE report written (now just got 7 to go... that's at least 7 days of work!)
2. Actually DID use my ear phones at work and was proud of myself to staying focused for the most part.
3. .......ummm...... I got salad to go with my fish from the Fish and Chip shop (rather than the usual chips to go with it) :-)

noticing that number 3 is often difficult to find, but hey, the more I practice the easier it will get.

so snikkers... how did the smiles go?? Lol - you know.... that's probably a good exercise, i remember in my younger days talking with a friend (can't for the life of me remember who!) who said she sometimes would do that all day, and watch the faces of people who don't know how to react! :) sad that people don't know how to react to a smile....

I'm going to go with that theory for tomorrow, and see what happens :lol:

thanks everyone for sticking with me on this... it helps remind me to be thankful for what I DO have....

my turn: Well the smiles went well when I did smile they smiled back... though I wasn't as smiley as I could have been all day but there is always room for improvement :D will do this again tomorrow.. good on you about the salad too you go girl! it can be very hard to resist chips especially when getting fish.

1- I made it through the day even though I was so tired and got up for work early then got a phone call after my shower saying someone would not be in which meant I had to change to a late shift.... meaning I could have slept in.. but it was what it was and got to go back to bed anyway and snuggle with DH for a while.
2- managed to laugh at and joke about a situation I would normally get upset about.
3- hmm number 3, it is getting hard sometimes to think of three but here goes I am going to be thankful for this thread and the fact it gets me to reflect positively on thngs even if they are small or can seem negative to begin with there is always a way of seeing things in a different light... (yes it is harder for some things than others though).

tomorrow hmmmm well tomorrow I will continue to give smiles to everyone and I will also think of something nice to say to all the staff at work... (that could be a challenge with some lol but I am up for it).

dear snikkers... I am thankful for you making me giggle.. thankyou ;)

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dear snikkers... I am thankful for you making me giggle.. thankyou ;)

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Aww thanks, anytime hun glad I could make you giggle ;) you've brought a smile to my face with this comment.

today I am thankful for...

1. a long time friend, whom text me to catch up for lunch (lucky if we see each other more than once a year, so it was really nice - I need people to be thinking of me ATM, so I really appreciated her support)
2. DH going out to get milk this evening, so we have some for brekky tomorrow morning
3. a girl at work who arranges work social club stuff - she helps me stay sane in all the work craziness!!

tomorrow.... I will..... enjoy my family time - and not take DSD's behaviour personally.

Ok I need this today, haven't been able to get on the internet for 3 days due to my computer getting a virus.. but here we are back in action.

1- I am Thankful for my RDO today it is needed and prob wouldn't be a good day or me to be at work anyway as I am in a bad mood.
2- I am Thankful I can have some time on my own to get out what I need to and work on getting rid of my bad mood.
3- I have my computer back!! (gee I rely on technology so much.

tomorrow..... I will start the day off fresh and smiling.

good job snikkers -- I was naughty and should have done this yesterday - was feeling SOOO crap - but to be honest, I could barely bring myself to get online, let alone think positively :)

anyway - I'm here today, and am feeling better.
so

1. I feel blessed to get along with so many people at work - we are having some staffing dramas, but it is nice to know that the people involved find me supportive - and those that know my own personal TTC difficulties recognise that I keep myself together pretty well.
2. My hubby is awesome and was prepared to drop his own plans last night so we could go for a drive to Mornington and get icecream - it was such a lovely night.
3. I am starting to make some progress on the reports I have to get done (still worried there's not enough time - but I'm starting to think Ill make it!!

tomorrow... I will enjoy the two counselling cases I am visiting - they will be ending up cases for the year, but I am going to enjoy them, and not stress about what else I SHOULD be doing.

(p.s. thank god for auto save!! - thought I'd lost it all!! :dance:

Ok I could use some counting of my thankful fors

1. Husband brought me a slice of chocolate cake home from work (not that I can afford the calories!)
2. Heatpack to reduce post TTC cramping
3. Not getting into a car accident even with everyone driving like idiots today!


:/ hopefully tomorrow or the next day will be better :/

Myturn, hlad your feeling better... we all have days llike that... I have been a bit like that all week.. glad DH took you for ice cream!

1- I got to have a really good long chat to one of my very good friends last night and she always cheers me up :)
2- I rang today to find out about a job I had been for an interview for and had not heard back from to see what was happening, and they still have not made a decision yet... which is great for me means I am still in with a chance which is better than a no.
3- I jut got my bathroom, kitchen and laundry cleaned so happy thats three less things to do tomorrow.

Tomorrow.... I am going to my work christmas party and know I will have a great time...

sorry I've not been on the computer for over a week, just been checking my phone and it's too hard to do much there....

Welcome Neda, nice to see you in here, and giving it a go :-)

good to see you are still giving it a go Snikkers.

so for me...

1. I did a bit of private work this afternoon - so made a little cash :)
2. DSD has gone home to mums for the afternoon, so DH and I get some relaxing time together - we went out of breakfast at a little cafe and it was nice
3. Remembered to call MIVF and make my payment for the next cycle to start

tomorrow.... I WILL get onto all the parents I need to call and make appointments with before school finishes!!

So how about everyone else... being it's christmas week this could be a useful exercise for all of us... even if we look back across the whole week if we can't manage for one day ...

Keta? Zig? Snikkers? Neda? any stalkers want to join us :-)

Hi myturn. I'm on my phone but since af showed up today I think I really need to do this!

1. My dad is out of icu and recovering from his bypass surgery. What an amazing guy
2. Two more days and I'm on holidays for Christmas - yay
3. There is always another cycle

Tomorrow I will go for my blood test and work out web we can try again

that sounds like a good plan for tomorrow - sorry about AF, may be worth making an appointment with FS (I was lucky to get a cancellation the day after my BT and it really helped me feel better about everything). I'm glad dad is doing well.

big :hug: - look after yourself xxx

Haven't done this in a while but I need to always remember the positives so I don't beat myself up...

1. I've finally had my appointment at the fertility clinic. It's good to at least have a plan so I don't feel so lost and helpless!

2. I have a job interview in a couple of weeks. This was a job that my application was initially thrown out! I'm excited to have at least the chance to show what I've got to offer-even if I don't get it...

3. I'm having my sis Inlaw visit for Xmas. She's about 31weeks pregnant and will be staying with me till the baby comes. Ordinarily this would've been awkward but I know her history-she's much older than I am and this is her first term pregnancy after 2previous miscarriages. She's such great company and being with her just encourages me that hope isn't lost!

I know 2011 has been tough on most of us here and we can't wait for it to be over; but can we list 3 good things that happened to us this year?

For me:
1. I FINALLY learnt how to drive! ;)
2. We were able to acquire some real estate...
3. Professionally speaking, I got a couple of certificate courses done, and accepted to write a professional exam next year.

2012 is looking good from where I'm standing!


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sorry been absent for a while but this time of year is hectic... although I should take the five minutes for this each day as it helps.

Keta: Sorry AF arrived.

Zig: 3 things for the year is a great idea we will see how I go with that but firstly today.

1- Had coffee with a work friend before work this morning which was nice to have a chat to begin winding down for the year.
2- Had family xmas on the weekend with DH's family and it turned out a good day.
3- Got some good friends around me who are supportive and understanding.

Now for 2011.....

1- DH got accepted in to his course / training even if we have had a hiccup with this since and it means it will take a bit longer than expected it also means that he will soon enough be in a career he likes and will be happy in.
2- I got to meet IRL some wonderful friends that I have made on BB.
3- I have learnt some valuble things that will stay with me and often found strength and courage when I thought there was none left several times this year.

I know 2012 will bring amazing things....

For today ....

1. My dad is doing so well he may even be home on Thursday!
2. My next cycle is being planned. I started the pill today so we can start ovulation induction in three weeks yay.
3. Tonight is my last night with dh for three weeks.

For the year...

1. We started fertility treatment and moving towards getting our baby.
2. I got a pay rise this year.
3. I still have my dad!

ooops did not see this was LTTTC, not just TTC. Sorry guys

That's okay rocking bear. You're welcome to join just with the understanding that it's a sensitive place we're in here :)

Well done to zig and keta :) I'm impressed with the fantastic effort. I'm on my phone so will do this properly later in the week. Just wanted to say I was proud of the effort and like the idea of picking big things for the whole year to remember to be thankful about.

I will think on this and return soon xx