Please dont be happening again.....

So, today at my monthly midwife appointment I climb onto the bed for a bit of a probe around the belly and the midwife starts looking a bit concerned and saying hmmmmm, She asks me to move my legs a bit and finally can feel my uterus. She looks at me sadly and says 'its really not as big as it should be at this stage' ' how far along again are you?'

I live remotly and the closest scan is a good 5 hour drive away and being late in the afternoon its not possible to head for a check. I have a the 18 week scan scheduled in sydney next week, and she says she will cross her fingers for me that everything is ok. She said it may be because of my height (I am pretty tall 1.8m) that may be the reason she cant feel it so well but she was not very convincing.

I honestly thought in the last couple of days I had started to pop and look a bit bigger... Should I be concerned? or just hope for the best at the next scan?

I have no experience with just using palpation of the stomach to indicate the health or otherwise of my pregnancies, so sorry but I can't offer any comment on that.

Can only say I really hope everything is fine, and the next week while you are waiting for your scan goes quickly. Hugs.

I don't think you should worry at all!!!! Babies grow at different rates and it doesn't mean anything. Your bub might just be small or will catch up later.

DS measured a tiny bit behind up until 28 weeks and then he grew and grew (4.485 kg at birth, HC 39, 52cm long).

Don't allow her to make you worry. I'm sure bub is fine. Xx

I wouldnt worry
I was told twin 2 had stopped growing and was better off out than in, ended up he was only .5cm shorter and 600g lighter than his brother.
Go with your insincts, what are they telling you?

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A lot can depend on how the baby is laying as well. I was bigger with my DD than with my DS, and this pregnancy I expected to be bigger, but I've stayed smaller than with the other two. It took me quite a while to pop this pregnancy as well. I think the bub was laying quite low in my pelvis and therefore not much of my uterus popped up above my pelvis for longer than the other pregnancies.

Oh, and have you ever seen that show "I didn't know I was pregnant"? I saw two recently where a doctor guestimated gestation as quite early, and then days later the woman were giving birth to babies almost at term! So I think dating a pregnancy or even determining the health of a pregnancy by palpation and size of the uterus/belly can be quite subjective and often wrong.

sorry you are going through this, did she try and listen for a heartbeat today ?

I'm sure if she was really concerned she would have sent you straight to emergency.

Rest up I'm sure everything will be fine tomorrow :)

Hun, I'm sure everything's fine. They all have different opinions!

Oh, Inga.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and I'll (and everyone is our BB group) will have everything crossed for you.

Big hugs Inga. Hope everything is fine :hug:

Massive Hugs from me as well, sorry you have to wait so long until your Sydney scan, try not to worry too much, I hope everything is perfect with your bubba xx

There's so many different variables that could affect what she felt. I am hoping and praying that you see a beautiful strong HB in Sydney. :pray:

Hi Inga,
Maybe you should schedule another appointment & ask them to listen to the heartbeat- even just to give you peace of mind that bub is ok.

Big hugs to you sweetie - surely given the circumstances, your scan could be brought forward or an urgent one done? I think it is awful to tell you something like that then expect you to wait a week before seeing if everything is ok. Thinking of you and hoping that everything is ok.

Thanks so much everyone for the kind words. I wish we could just head to emergency to check everything is ok, but that would involve being airlifted out of where we are to the closest town. We cant get through the roads as they are shut for local indigenous 'sorry business' we fly into Sydney on saturday so I think we may head straight into the hospital for a scan to make sure all is well as I had bad dreams all last night and cant think of anything else. I would go back to the medical centre today to get a heartbeat check (which she did not do) but the midwife is only in town once a month... and none of the remote area nurses know how to use the doppler.
As soon as I know anything I will keep you in the loop :)

inga im horrified you are going through this stress and you can't do anything about it due to circumstances why didn't the midwife listen for a heartbeat yesterday ? that should be standard in an ante natal check up ! i hope you get some answers tomorrow and everything is fine with bub :hug:

You poor thing being left in the dark like that. You must be terrified. I hope you get to hear your baby's beautiful heart beating tomorrow. I cant believe the midwife didnt check for the heartbeat with the doppler, especially given the circumstances.:hug:

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

just wondering if you manage to get an ultrasound done today ? i hope all was well with bub :)

Thinking of you Inga and hoping you got a scan yesterday that showed all is well.


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How was your scan

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How did you go, Inga? :hug:

Still thinking of you, Inga. Hope everything is okay :hug:

Sorry for the late response. Honestly have just popped back home after a 2 week holiday where I did not log into the computer once.

We headed straight to the emergency department of the closest hospital as soon as we arrived in Sydney 2 Saturdays ago. We got turned away from 2 hospitals due to the fact that they don’t have qualified staff on site to conduct ultrasounds and since I was in no pain they dismissed our worries as being silly. We headed to a 3rd hospital and were ushered straight through to emergency and had a check by a trainee doctor. She could not feel my uterus either and after taking a history she went to find the senior doctor on site. When he arrived he did a big feel around and was very calm and professional and reassuring. By this stage however we were panicking. He said that everything felt fine, went and got a Doppler and we heard the little heartbeat.

Just to make sure we were feeling ok, he went and collected a small ultrasound machine and showed us bub and the beating heart to make sure we relaxed and calmed down a bit. So the good news is all is fine. The bad news is he was really upset that a midwife had scared us so badly and said that even if there was nothing wrong the stress and anxiety that she put us through could have caused something to go wrong. So we will be heading 500km away for each routine check of bubs now and not heading back to the local midwife!

Thanks so much for all the kind words and wishes.

Phew!!!! Glad to hear from you and pleased all is well :hug:

Inga - so glad everything turned out. I agree with the dr - definitely don't go back to the midwife. She really shouldn't have voiced her concerns as she had no way to check.

Good luck for the next 20 weeks! :-)

Thank goodness for that. All the best for a stress free pregnancy xo

Oh, so SO glad that everything is ok. Phew - must have been THE hugest relief for you :)


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Oh Inga, so so pleased to hear all is good, I was quite worried for you babe. I agree with the others, definitely avoid that midwife!!

Very glad to hear all is okay! I hope everything is smooth sailing from now on.

Omg. What a terrible time you have had. Super happy ending but boy that's insane. I'm 186cm and never show til about 20weeks !