possible move to the gold coast

dh wants to and has a great oppourtunity for work but im not so sure its a scary BIG move away from everyone n everything i know.
In 2002 i moved from the uk with my parents that was a major life change i dont think i could do a big move.
Dd1 just saw her dad for the first time in 4 years.
Apparently houses are a lot cheaper but i dont know i dont think its for me .... how do i tell him his hearts set on it as he feels since his mum turnes her back on him hes got nothing left here

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does he have the offer of a job? If so it sounds like a good opportunity. Fresh start and all that :)

Houses are cheaper on the Gold Coast?! I would have thought they'd be more expensive! I guess you have to factor in your lifestyle/support you have now vs what it would be like up there. Is the job definite or just a possibility?
Have you both sat down and discussed it, even written down a list of pro's and cons? It's a big thing to move so far away, especially when you have children, and you both need to be on board an enthusiastic about it, no good him saying yeah let's go, if you are a bit reluctant and feel differently about it. Xx

job offer has been made and possibility of being partner in the company so great job.
Yeah i was baffled by the cheaper houses thing although in the paper on sat it was saying ballarat is more expensive house wise than london and new york these days.
id love a fresh start but im scared of being alone and having absolutely nobody to take to and be friends with i find it hard to find irl friends and with 4 kids soon to be 5 it makes it that bit harder

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Depends where on the coast or if you could go out a bit further.

i cant remember the name of the town kylz ill find out

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I figure go where the work is. I thought he was off on medical pension? If he has a job to go to and it works out financially, then go. I know moving is hard, but you'll all adjust. It will be good for your Dd to change schools. And you move away from the MIL.

What are the other options?

Plenty of bb chickas on the GC

He is atm L&B but its not permanent hes feeling a lot better now and able to do the work and really work is better than relying on benefits isnt it.
Would the bb girls like me lol i dont know how id go alone all day knowing nobody.
The state/area isnt an issue its just how far away from my current life it is.

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you know what ive decided to go. I have no family or friends here its only the prospect of a big move that scares me, if i dont like it we can always move back but i wont have to ask what if in years to come.
The money will be better and honestly i think we need to get away from his toxic family and weve got to move anyway so why not make it one that will better our lives and not let fear hold me back

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If there are difficulties at home I probably wouldn't leave the only support you have. Especially with the prospect of a new baby.

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If there are difficulties at home I probably wouldn't leave the only support you have. Especially with the prospect of a new baby.

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Except she says she has no friends or family where she is. At least with a move, there is the possibility that making more money will reduce that stress.

I thought there were problems with hubby? Maybe I'm confused. That happens sometimes. I often find it hard to keep up with so many usernames alike. My apologies MrsS.

Enjoy QLD!

We did the big move over 4 years ago. We had one child and one on the way. Dh got a good job offer and we had little left for us in Melbourne support wise. Our marriage at the time was pretty horrid. We moved to where I knew nobody in real life, but thankfully was able to get in contact with a BB'er.

Whilst I don't "love" where we are, I am ok with it and life is a hell of a lot better than it was,and was going to be, in Melbourne.

It is a risk though, a big risk. It has worked out for us, our marriage is much better, DH is in a job he loves with good hours. I have found a great job and the girls are settling in quite well. It takes work though. Getting out and meeting people. Trying different groups, hobbies etc. The trick is to know when something is not working out and to back away and move on to the next thing.

yes we are having problems relationship wise at the moment caused by the stress his mother has put us under moving 2 states away from her fixes all those problems that is the only thing our relationship is suffering from and yes its caused a lot of stress but as i said 2 states away from her she cant cause any issues.
Its better money and im not losing any support as i have none here so if anything i gain a husband

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I think stability in your relationship is very important before you move. Could he move up their alone to start with to get things started?
Your partner might be the only adult you see day in day out for a while, and whilst he adjusts to working for the first time in a while, he has to also deal with your emotions too.
Aren't you with your parents in Geelong? And your sister too? Isn't that support? Sure it's not in Scarsdale, but it's not a whole plane trip away.

I thought you lived in New Zealand as well once, not just UK?

We moved here a bit over 7 years ago, in 'recovery' mode from some serious relationship and family problems. Best thing we ever did. I felt very brave :p but I took the attitude (as you said) if it didn't work out I could always go back. But I felt like, for me to make the break & get away it was a kind of now or never deal. I have never for a moment regretted it.

Gold Coast is beautiful, it is nothing like I thought it would be (no gold chains & Barbies; well not where I am lol), the people are many & varied and as friendly as anywhere - or more.
There are loads of BB girls and we all love meeting new people :)

The only thing I am not sure about is the cheaper housing... I don't know if that is the case & I would suggest checking that really carefully first. As far as I know, we are comparably dearer than other parts of QLD. But as Kylz said, it depends on where on the GC you are looking.

PM me if you want x

no lenny moved from the uk to geelong then to melb then back to geelong now scars never been to NZ

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fleur thats what i thought this morning its now or never and we need to get away from his mum before she permanently destroys him. As we have til June to find a new house anyway i think the most sensible decision is to move altogether rather than find 2 new houses

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I moved overseas in a time of tremendous financial stress and when my relationship was in a not great place and honestly it helped our relationship. There is something about adventuring to a new place that I think can often reignite relationship. For us, getting away from the place and the people we were living near took such a huge weight off our shoulders that we were able to get back to the business of being husband and wife, mother and father, without any of the dramas that had plagued us the previous two years.

Traveller I think that's largely how it was for us as well. It's a make or break move but in our case it made us.

traveller thats exactly what i think we will get :)

a big jump from my thoughts yesterday but really after thinking it was only fear of a new place holding me back everything else works out so much better for us

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Can u remember the place yet?

Around Tugan and Burley Heads etc

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Ahh ok well that is where fluer is so she will know the prices. I'm about 30min up the road and we pay $360 for 4 bed double garage house. Plus you go against the traffic from here to the coast

We are looking around the $350 mark for 4 bedrooms but will be able to go a bit higher i think as DH will be on about $1100 a week but im not sure how much that will take my clink down to

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Around Tugan and Burley Heads etc

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Gorgeous areas. Check out Real Estate dot com dot au, have a look at houses in those areas. I'm happy to send you a local paper if you want but online is usually just as easy and you get pics.