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DD3 has developed a fascination with putting things (food, pencils, sticks... cake) in her 'bits'. Then walking around like that.
She rarely has a nappy off as it is, but I'm a bit worried. For a million reasons! Cake is not easy to get out of some places!!!!
None of my other girls did this sort of stuff. I don't think it ever crossed their minds to put something IN there!
Other than keeping her fully dressed, how do you discourage this sort of stuff at such a young age??
obviously I have no advice... but noticed you had heaps of views and no replies =(
I have heard of this before though, I believe its all part of the body exploration etc...
Hope you get some advice soon =)
I'm not sure either hun but DD is always poking and prodding her vagina! Not really sure how to approach it.. We just tell her that her vagina is not for touching by anyone except for the doctor. But it's hard, I don't think that's the right way to approach it...
Can you tell her that putting things in there will make it hurt - would she understand that?
Get your dr to tell her to stop? It's how we got dd1 to stop putting peas and sultanas up her nose, he explained it could really hurt her and she finally stopped.
She's only 18 months. I've tried telling her its yucky/ouchy... its not working!
I know its just self exploration & natural, but crushing a bikkie in there, then going for a walk to see how it feels doesn't look so natural :lol:
Tonight it was a wafer bikkie that DS had left on the floor... with him giggling that she had a doodle. I don't think that helps!
Sorry honey no advice but had to leave a reply - I was in hysterics reading it!!!!
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I think thats half the problem... I struggle to control myself when I'm trying to sound all serious!
Oh dear hun it is such a serious issue but I did have to giggle when you said DS said she had a doodle.
I have not experienced this but I would be trying to keep a nappy in her all the time and also remind her that it will get sore if she puts things in there, as a vaginal infection could be very nasty especially if she put something in that you dont know about and could be there a few days.
Hugs xoox
Thats what i'm worried about. But the walk is so obvious I'm not sure I could miss it. Kinda a saddle sore waddle :lol:
I try to keep her close when she's nappy free, & its only if she finds something on the floor. There's always something on this floor though :rolleyes:
Its getting cold. By the time it warms up hopefully she'll have forgotten about it..
Instead of having nappy free time put some undies on her during that time.
You never know she might like the feel of them and toilet train at the same time............Just wishful thinking on your behalf :)
I just say 'leave your bottom alone' and distract her.
Its working so far!
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She's a stubborn one. If she likes something there is no distracting her. I have to drag her kicking & screaming :lol:
We'll work it out :) Hopefully before anything serious happens!
It's a hard line, where do you go from telling her to cover up because she's sticking things in there and then not letting nudity be natural?
I know that we (although DD is young) don't cover up around DD. DH and DD often have baths together.
Not intending to hi-jack, but I've got my own 'issues' with DDs parts.
She's 16mos and just recently started touching. When we change her nappy she'll put her hand straight down there and go 'tickle tickle' and laugh.
Her and DH were in the bath last night and she grabbed her inner bits and was 'twiddling'. I know she's obviously just got feeling down there now, but I'm not sure what to do.
It's hard when she does a massive poop that requires invasive clean up and she just lays there laughing.
I feel like a creep. :'(
I'm hoping one of you ladies can help me too as you've given some great advice.
Charlotte91 - I wouldn't stress. Wait til you have a little boy who gets an erection when you're changing him, or bathing him! Our first noticeable one was at about 2 weeks old!
He often gets them & is always naked, so the girls know all about it... (He thinks his 'big pecker' is hilarious)
Hands are always there. Just get into the habit of making sure hands are clean before & after. They do grow out of it... (Or just learn to do it in private...)
I think every little child goes through this, it is their body, and it is normal and natural to explore it. I think as parents it is our job to teach them when it is appropriate to do this and when it isn't.
(in saying that...I havent got any experience in this at all - from a parent pov, so understand if you just ignore my input =P )
:rofl: Gosh, you wonder what's going through their head sometimes, haha. I just say 'ouch, not too rough, you'll hurt yourself' or something but I've never actually had them putting stuff up there.
Charlotte- she's just checking out what she's got down there. The same as when they discover their hands and feet! It's no different to her, she's just exploring. Don't stress about it :)
DD1 has done this. I explain to her that part of my body is very sensitive and to look after it properly I try to be as gentle as possible, I don't put things there that don't belong, I don't use soap etc. (This will sound odd)... Then I say to her, any time I need to touch my vagina, I make sure I touch very softly so I don't hurt myself, like this (then I gently touch her arm). Gosh I hope I don't sound like a weirdo, but I'm not touching myself in front of her nor am I touching her. Anyway, she started touching herself more gently and not putting things up there (like food, and lego). At that age (and any age, really) it's not wrong for her to touch her vagina, we just need to teach them what is appropriate and what isn't.
Not really helpful but I find it funny that my DD tries to see what it is she's touching but she leans forwards too far & topples over and she still can't see because she's such a porker lol! She hasn't tried to put anything in there though. I will have to watch her, I think!
I like Rivlas's idea of putting undies on her during nappy free time.
With DD1 we used to play a game of "Hands up in the air" to try and keep them out of her nappy and associated regions. She eventually grew out of it but it was pretty funny.
DD1 did that for ages. I can remember she put a fork in her vagina once so I just kept telling her it's hers and she needs to be careful with it. DD2 recently put a dummy in there and ran around the lounge, it took a lot not to laugh. I just maintain the word gentle and don't make her feel bad for touching her vagina.
:rofl: Scary with the fork RB, but I'm sorry... the dummy is hilarious!
Rowellen... Ha ha, love it!
Watching them learn about themselves, weather its hands/feet, or privates can be so funny!