Birth Certificate!

I have two girls from my previous relationship, and one with my new husband and a baby on the way. When dd3 was born, I was heartbroken that they did not put her big sisters on the birth certificate. It really upset me for a long time, even though I filled them out on the paper work, because they are not full blood they did not get put on.
All these sad feeling have come up again, as another baby is coming into our family, it just makes me feel so sad. i used to love seeing all my siblings names and ages on my birth certificate, and perhaps I am just being all romantic about it. But it really stings, they are all of my children, they should all be on there.

Has anyone else had these feelings?

That is strange. My hubby has all his siblings on his birth certificate, only half of them are full blood siblings. I completely understand why you would be upset about that.

Oh wow, I've never thought about that. I assumed they listed all children, regardless of the father. That's really going to stir emotions for me if my 3 previous children do not appear on my baking bubbas :(

I'm surprised aswell... when R was born we had to list all her siblings (DH's children) on the paperwork but then had to tick the box that said we DONT want them on the certifcate. had we not ticked the box they all would have been.
I can understand why you would be upset. maybe check with births,deaths and marriages to see if they will be on your next bubs.

Maybe it depends on the state but Vic is definitely other children of the parents relationship. My brother is my half brother and he never appeared on mine. We didn't know as kids and I only ever had an extract of entry as that doesn't show the other kids on it

In QLD it says "previous children of this relationship" also which meant we couldn't include DD1 :( I know what you mean, it does suck. They are sisters. It feels odd to think of them in any other way.

I would look into it - if there is an error on it they will correct it and send you a new one. On DS1's certificate they spelt our address wrong and had my age wrong, so I called them to explain and I had to send it back and they sent a new one out.

that really sucks. Spock was born in the ACT. their forms had 3 section, one for our previous children, one for mine, one for his.

I was 16 and 21 when my brothers were born and I was a bit upset that I couldn't be on their birth cert.. ExP's child wasn't on my kids certificates either. I do not like it. I think you should have the option for ALL siblings to be listed, not just from the current relationship.

So... In Vic, only the current relationship child is listed... Meaning my 3 other children won't be on his/her certificate??

Thanks for all the replies everyone! I was in baby haze but I remember listing children from this relationship and another section that I listed children from previous relationship, so I thought, great, they will be on there. I certainly don't recall a box to tick to have them on, but I will call and double check. I am in NSW and friends have had the same issue.

I think it would be useful to have the choice, but I guess with all the merging families perhaps it is difficult? Maybe they need a whole new template for today's families where both or one partner brings children into the relationship!

Rosetti, i sounds like they won't be. Perhaps look into it now!

Ladybirdflies, I have emailed Vic BDM, I want to know now. It's really got me feeling down reading your story. It's not fair that youre a mum and past children are just 'forgotten' and dropped off an important document like that

But they're not forgotten. They have their own birth certificates.

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But they're not forgotten. Thy have their own birth certificates.

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I mean it in the way that they are not recognized as being a sibling (regardless if they are half siblings, they still have the same mother).

I guess I don't see it as that important. I certainly don't want my DD listed on the birth certificate of my ex's children.

this is where choice comes into it. some people do want them listed. I'm like you N2L both DH and I didn't want them (her half brothers and sisters) on Spocks, and that is fine, but others obviously do want them on their and they want the option to.

I agree TT but I wouldn't have a choice if dd went on my ex's children's certificates.

Going to check out DS2's birth certificate tonight! I know I put DS1 on the form but not sure if DH's kids went on as well....

I wouldn't mind if my girls went onto their siblings from my ex, but we have a very different relationship where all four adults not only get along but like each other and spend lots of time all as one unit!
We are blessed to have that relationship, but blood is blood. Perhaps it's only a piece of paper but I really feel it adds a divide that is not needed.

Like I said, I feel sad about it, and others won't depending on circumstances.

Actually, I've had a bit of a think about it....

Yes, I would have liked to have my son's name on DS2s birth certificate BUT, I'm not overly sure that I would want his name to go on his biological father's children's birth certificates....does that make sense? ACtually, I'm quite sure that his BD (bio dad) wouldn't want that either let alone his wife (and mother of his other three children).

And, going off on a tangent... I don't think a piece of paper makes a family. I think people make a family.

Is it really a piece of paper though, for this to exist on paper, people have decided that they aren't acknowledged and made that a rule. Even when our baby was born kids said to the older girls, but she is not your real sister, she is only half. Thoughts impact the world as much as action does. They are her sisters and it would be great to have it acknowledged on paper. Off topic totally but i feel that it does impact, paper or not.

I personally I think it is important for the child to have their older siblings, either by full of half blood, to be on their birth certificates. Regardless of the relationship between the adults, this is part of that child's history and it should be acknowledged. But that's just me. I dont' come from a perspective where this might be difficult or emotional.

I think its rediculous that not all states have the same policies. :(

I think you're right in that it depends on the parenting history Trillian. As it is, some parents don't deserve to be on their children's birth certificate. Nothing to do with the relationship between the exes, more to do with issues of abuse, neglect, absenteeism, etc.

Eta - I would never refer to DD's siblings as "half siblings" (except when trying to explain the family tree to strangers out of her earshot). They are her brothers and sisters. A piece of paper doesn't change that either way.

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I think you're right in that it depends on the parenting history Trillian. As it is, some parents don't deserve to be on their children's birth certificate. Nothing to do with the relationship between the exes, more to do with issues of abuse, neglect, absenteeism, etc.

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Yeah, I fully respect that :hug: which is why it is so hard.

Misty, i think it's ridiculous that each state has a different policy about it too - it should be the same across the board.

In Vic it is only children that are of that same relationship that get listed on the Birth Certificate.

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In Vic it is only children that are of that same relationship that get listed on the Birth Certificate.

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Sigh.. There goes my dreams of all 3 of my children being listed on new bubs certificate then :(

That would be horrible :( my brother is on mine and he is only a half sibling. We're both on my younger sisters birth certificate. Mind you that was almost 30 years ago.

I wonder why they only include full siblings?

In the ACT, they put siblings from same relationship on the front and siblings from previous on the back, so my youngest has all 6 siblings on the back, 2 under mother and for under father.

I think it should go on them.