A bit TMI - Should I go to the hospital?

Ok, so this is what happened -
Fri 9th I got definite + HPT.
Mon 12th Started bleeding, went to doctor who did 2 urine tests - both negative. Sent me for US - which showed nothing and tech said it was very early and therefore probably too small to see. This was apparently extremely confusing to the doctor.
Tues 13th did another HPT with FMU which was very faint +. Had blood test mid afternoon which came back as "negative" (It was supposed to be quantitive shouldnt it have been "0" or less than 5?)
Continued to bleed and had cramps for 6 days - passed clots and a very small amount of grey tissue (from what I saw it was 3 or 4 pieces about the size of mustard seeds). Then brown blood day 7, large blobs of brown cm and spotting on day 8. Since then the odd cramp but nothing more.

I am constantly tired and physically cant keep my eyes open after 3pm with out a powernap. Also feeling slightly nauseas. But I think both of those are more due to my mental state and a bit of hormonal craziness.

Because of the negative tests in his office and the negative bloods he is confused and wants to send me to the hospital to see a gynaecologist. He wanted me to go immediately last night, at 4:30, with my 3 year old. I didnt go. It seems like a complete waste of time and I would have had to take DS too, DF was working til 9pm. I just thought, No thanks. I already know what happened, I dont need to sit around in a hospital waiting room for hours with a hungry, tired preschooler, to be told what I already know.

Now someone has suggested maybe I should go and Im not sure. I dont want to waste my time and stress myself out with DS at the hospital for nothing. I would like someone to confirm that I miscarried, I know that I know, but it kind of feels like closure to have it confirmed by the doctor. (Crazy?)

What should I do?
Would there be anyone there to see me today anyway?
Could I just call them and tell them all this and they make the decision on whether its worth me coming in?

Honestly. I think you should stay home.
By what you have said there is nothing that can be done anyway. Unless you are bleeding a lot and in a lot of pain then you will be waiting for a while to confirm what you already know.

I'm sorry for your loss xox

Thats what i figured too. Im not bleeding at all now. But the doctor was really pushing for it. :dunno:

Thanks Cat.

You could have some retained product that hasn't come out yet that could be making you feel like that (and I really really hate having to say it like that, I'm so sorry :hug: ) Have you had your iron levels checked? you could be a little low which may explain the extreme tiredness. I would at least be asking to have another scan to make sure that there was nothing still in there. :hug:

I wouldn't, even the other day at 8 weeks with bleeding that was running down my leg and clots, it was by no means classed as an emergency by the Drs. In fact he actually said those words :redface: He told me that unless I was soaking more than 8 pads a day, in great pain or feeling dizzy then there was no need for me to come back. My experience in the E.D was dodgy as, you couldn't pay me to do that again unless absolutely necessary!

ETA: He did an internal right away but was none to enthusiastic about giving me a scan. He wrote out the referral and said 'this isn't something you need to do right away, any time in the next few days is fine :o Luckily when I spoke to the place to book she was kind and got me in right away but it certainly wasn't something they were rushing to do :shakehead:

Trill- should I go to the hospy or another gp? And where in the hospy? I dont want to sit in the ED for hours. Can it wait til Tues when I have DF to look after DS?
He didnt say anything about iron levels (and I didnt think of it), Ive always struggled with my iron though, so it wouldnt suprise me if it was low. I guess he assumed I was going to do as I was told and the hospital would do all the tests...

Wow Maybe, Thats a bit insensitive of your Dr! One extreme to the other, mine was freaking out and yours barely seems to care :/

Maybe you should go to see what is going on inside. Like Trillian said you could still not have passed everything.

How will they be able to tell?

That wasn't my Dr Calluna, that was my treatment in the hospital ED, hence why I wouldn't be rushing to go back there any time soon. We were there for hours and there was absolutely no communication going on between the different people we saw at all. The first triage nurse took my details, and when I saw an ED Dr I had to relay it all from the beginning. Then I went for a scan (at the same hospy) and the lady told me to go back down to the ED to discuss my results, went back down to Ed got completely different Dr again who also had not read my file and had to start from the beginning yet again! He left the room like 5 times and kept coming back to ask how many weeks I was, had I had a scan etc. For me going to the E.D was a bloody nightmare! I too had hubby and my DD tagging along who were very over it by the time we got out of there.

I'm waiting to see my private Dr on wednesday, who knows my history and can refer me for scans, tests etc if need be.

Ah, ok, I get it now, sorry. I did know that you were seeing your doctor Wed, just didnt put the two together.

You could bypass the ED altogether though and call direct to the maternity unit. When I was pg with DD I had bleeding but I was already booked into the hospy so I had their direct line on hand. I called them and they were able to let me know what to do, they had me come in (straight up to maternity) because I needed a antiD shot anyway. You might have better luck talking to them directly because it's what they do all day every day. That was at RBWH in Bris.

Thats a good idea, I'll at least be able to tell them whats happened and see if they think its neccesary. And there will def be someone there. Thanks Maybe!

Honestly I don't know - I'm not familiar at all with city hospitals etc but sitting in an ED for possibly hours on a weekend is not appealing at all. I don't think there is any great rush as such, but it is definitely something that I personally would have followed up on if it were me. They would be able to see if there was anything left in the uterus if they give you a scan.

I rang maternity. They put me through to triage. Who said it's "quiet" at the moment and to come in.
*sigh* I'll update later...

I rang maternity. They put me through to triage. Who said it's "quiet" at the moment and to come in.
*sigh* I'll update later...

Retained product is not very nice. An ultrasound, will be able to confirm what's happening inside your body.
I would go to hospital if it were me. I think you do need this loss confirmed, I think that you need some assisting stategies to help you manage during this difficut time, and most importantly you need someone in your real life to acknowledge you're genuine heartache.

Bugger the rest of the world today. Take the time and allow yourself to take care of you.
I'll be thinking of you all day xxxx

Waiting waiting waiting...

I hope it's not too much longer :hug:

Just got out.
According to the head doctor, I am not, nor was I ever pregnant. According to him, home tests are notoriously inaccurate.
2 false positives in 4 days, yeah, that happens all the time.

So much for closure.

hope they are able to help you and treat you with compassion xx

And how on earth was this 'idiot' doctor able to determine that? It was an early miscarriage, there would be no evidence of anything, particularly this long after.

A BT, ("notoriously inaccurate") urine test, and asking me a few qs.
I started bleeding on CD 28. But he didnt take into account that I O'd on CD12 (at the latest) meaning AF was actually 2 days late :wall: irrelevent apparently. I also had implantation bleeding, and a number of symptoms.
But yanno, those tests cant be trusted.

And it was completely different to my usual periods! Which I told him.

O.M.G!! I'm shocked!! What a *****!

He's an ass. So many doctors just can't get their heads around women who don't have a *regular* 28 day cycle. So sorry you were treated like that :hug:

And now I have to go upstairs and cook dinner in the kitchen that we are forced to share with MIL. You know, the person who "forbids" us to have another baby and has decided I dont like her because I want some privacy in my own home.

Seriously. FML!
Im tempted to make DS a sandwhich for dinner and put us both to bed. I just cannot do this **** today.

nothing wrong with a sandwhich

Multigrain bread, avocado. Thats a pretty balanced meal? Oh and hes demanding rice cakes. Heh.

Sounds like a good dinner for tonight: be gentle to yourself and look after you xox

Do what you need to do - sandwiches for dinner are perfectly acceptable on a day like today.

I'm sorry to hear the Dr was such a you-know-what. :hug: Under the circumstances, I think it was right to want to check it out. I hope everything is fine.

Sandwiches sound like a great option for tonight.

:hug: thinking of you.

I'm so sorry it's been a yucky day calluna. Some dr's are so short and inconsiderate. You know your angel was here, and so do we. I hope your days get better x :hug:
About the feeling tired - I started taking iron tablets when I had the mc. Although I had never been told I had low iron, it was a lot of blood to lose and really took the chuff out of me. Maybe they could help you?

Thanks girls. He had a banana sandwhich, and a couple of rice cakes then DF came home and we went and got chips on the way over to SILs place to get out and away from MIL and the lack of distraction at home. Had some lovely snuggles with nephew. Nice chat.
Was good to be distracted for a while.