IVF journey re-started

After trying and trying to get the $13,000 Monash IVF in Melbourne has quoted me I have quit trying and made an appointment to start IVF through the public health system with RPA in Sydney.

My cousin's husband has just been posted back to Sydney from WA, so we've spoken with her about staying there when we will be required in Sydney, but I've been advised a lot of the tests can be done in Melbourne and results sent to Sydney so we should only need to be in Sydney for a day or two here and there.

So it all starts on March 28, 2013 @ 2:10PM for me.

Hi Rislani

I wish you the absolute very best of luck with your journey. My two kids are IVF and I know how hard it is.

Don't lose hope, it is possible and it is all so very worth it.

:crossfingers: Wishing you every success with your first Sydney cycle!!!!

Hope it is smooth sailing for you. FWIW $13k sounds a little bit much? Was that before medicare rebates?

Goodluck!

Wishing you a smooth and quick IVF journey!

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Hope it is smooth sailing for you. FWIW $13k sounds a little bit much? Was that before medicare rebates?

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Hi Lenny,

Yes, that's prior to Medicare rebates. Once rebates were provided it was still out of pocket over $6,000.....but of course, you have to have the $13,000 to do it. Monash IVF did agree to let me make the GAP payment only, but over $6,000 was proving just as difficult to save for us....especially when $1,600 electricity bills keep coming in for a house that is empty 14 hours a day (My next bill is due any day now and if something has not changed, I will be making a seriously loud complaint to my electricity company) and over $1,000 of our pay each month goes on fuel just to get to/from work. Every bank/lending facility I have spoken to just doesn't want to touch us...and we have no family members to ask assistance from.

I have literally tried everything to get the money for IVF here in Melbourne cause I'd rather not travel, but it's just proven to be impossible. Everytime I start getting a somewhere with the savings another electricity bill comes in, or maybe a vet bill, or most recently: a $600 on a car service + I'm still yet to replace the 2x tyres the mechanic told me I need to replace.

But we do have the $1,408 needed to do IVF in Sydney available right now, and the maybe $500 - $1,000 worth of travel is also available after next pay day.

Good luck Rislani.

Have you looked at the Fertility Centre in Dandenong? They bulk bill IVF and I'm pretty sure they use Melb IVF labs. I didn't know it was possible to do public IVF interstate. I also thought, but am not sure, that the RWH in Melbourne does public IVF. That may save you some travel.

i didn't even know about Fertility Centre in Dandenong - will have to look them up and see what they say!

***EDITTED TO ADD:***
I now have an appointment at Fertility Centre Dandenong for February 8, 2013, 8AM.
Will see what they say before cancelling the March 28 appointment in NSW.

Good luck. Fantastic that it is slightly earlier too

It's Freaking me out at the moment....

My grandfather died on November 28. His first birthday since his death is March 6.
By my calculations, if Fertility Centre Dandenong can assist us, my first period after the initial consulatation will most likely start on March 6.

I'm brand new to IVF, just found out last week that it will be our only option for a second child. I'm interested to hear how the appt went with Dandenong Fertility Centre....?

I would love to know how your appt went also with them. I hope it went well and they are much cheaper than private.

Hi everyone...I see there are some new ivf'ers on this thread and I'm pretty new at this too and want some people to go through this with? Hope it's ok to join? Bit about myself....have been trying with my hubby for 3 years the usual under 30 so doctors told me to chill, but got into a FS anyway and tubes are blocked from multiple abdo surgery as a kid. Hubbys swimmers are of course perfect ;) anyway we were told young and healthy this is going to be easy....did first cycle was told to xpect 15 eggs woke up from ET with te number 4 drawn on my hand...then told all immature. None fertilized so we are just waiting for "day 1" to do this all over again!!! I hope that I can get some chats on here cause its really hard to talk about this to friends, they all have babies and no probs, I'm also sick of people telling me it will happen stay positive when they don't have to jab themselves everyday with awesome hormones! I wanna know how other people cope with all of this and their stories soooo if anyone wants o chat I would be much grateful! Waiting anxiously....l

Hi Kate, I'm also new to IVF and we've got our day 21 appointment on Monday so I'm getting nervous because it is starting to become real all of a sudden. I have a 2.5 yr old DS who was conceived naturally, and then I had a miscarriage last year to another natural conception. After my mc my periods cycles were only about 19-21 dys long so I went to see my GP and after some preliminary testing he very quickly referred me to a FS. The FS said I had reduced ovarian reserve and so my best chances of another child would be IVF - so here we are. I can't quite believe it really, it all seems to be happening so fast. I know what you mean about people saying 'relax - it will happen naturally', I just want to kick them in the shins. I received a very insensitive comment from a supposed friend last week when I told her about starting IVF, so I'm just going to keep quiet about it now. Oops, DS has just escaped from his bedroom.

Hey girls... Join us in this thread.

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...2013-a-192690/

There's lots of us going through IVF at the moment - lots of support in here xxx

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Thanks I'll look into it! The more I go the better!

Hey there picketty and welcome to the biggest roller coaster of your life! I was all fine and same with my husband but because I have had multiple abdo surgeries (I had some bowel taken out on 2 occasions) my ovaries have stuck to the abdo wall and my flop tubes got injured and are now fluidy. Soooo we thought IVF there's nothing wrong with my eggs and his sperm we just help getting into the uterus, this will be easy. Unfortunately for some reason I didn't respond to the injections like normal people and I only ended up getting 4 eggs which were all immature and non fertilized, so here I am thinking I would be pregnant by now and in fact im now waiting for AF (my day 21 appointment is on the 24th) to do this all over again. What I found weird was that all though I have a FS because I go to a FC there was another doctor that looked at my results and another doctor who collected my eggs apparently they work on rotating rosters. (this is where I admit that I'm a nurse) and so I was not prepared to have multiple specialists looking after me I thought just the one....like normal. I'm sure day 21 will be very exciting for you and I wish you all the luck in the world! It is actually a relief to get your drugs and then actually inject yourself cause you feel like your getting somewhere....it's just the wait that ****es me off! Oh and about the insensitive comment...how are people's forms? I don't know how people can judge, it's not like your only doing IVF cause it's trendy, or easy! Once again good luck! Oh and sorry about dumping the personal information but this is really the only chance I have had to share with someone in the sme boat.

Hi Kate, feel free to dump as much as you want to, real life conversations are rarely deep enough and the Internet is often the only place you can really let your emotions out. To be honest I feel like I'm about to jump off a cliff, not knowing if there is a parachute in my backpack to help me. It's not really something I can discuss with my hub, I don't think he understands. I've got no idea how the drugs will affect me, how the stress of waiting will affect me, how he ultimate disappointment will affect us. It's uncharted waters for me, as it is for all first time ivfers I'm sure. I'm a planner, a list maker, so I'm very much out of my comfort zone.

Are they going to change your drugs for the next round?

Have you got anything planned for the next few weeks to take your mind off it?

I am also a planner, list maker and I'm properly the most impatient person in the world. My husband laughs cause I hate surprises so much and this is just one big guessing game! The drugs: I'm pretty level headed and I don't get emotional or moody during my periods etc, so it was pretty funny when I came to work and I was the first person in the office (and I usually am) and I went to the toilet and cried. I rang my DH and he was like why are you crying and I. Like, I'm the only one in the office and I'm alone :) weirdo! The crying is something I am really not used to, I just do it at the drop of a hat! It's pretty funny though,at least you know the hormones are working! The waiting: when you get your drugs it's all systems go, cause as of day one everything is about planning, so if your like me you will enjoy the routine, so it's planning blood tests and ultrasounds and injections and pills etc, it's making sure work will let you rock up later so you can have your morning us and bt, it's making sure work will let you take a day (or two like me) off to have your eggs collected. It's pretty much all systems go! And hopefully, you get fertilized eggs and an ET and it will still be routine and scheduling. It just sucks if you don't cause then you have to wait for a pointless period and then the next one. Have a feeling that the diss appointment won't be coming your way....I have never met you and we have texted like twice but I don't know I guess I'm just fingers, toes, arms everything crossed for you that it is a slam dunk first time!