Do you still 'tend to' your kids in the night? (Not kids under 2 yrs)

DD is 4. I think she calls out maybe every other night that requires my assistance such as needing the toilet, wants her teddy, had a bad dream, or for no real reason other than being awake.

DS is 6. He wakes maybe twice a week, saying he has had a bad dream. He often wakes saying he wants to sleep with us, or not stay in his room.

I long for the days of uninterrupted nights. Although the above doesn't really bother me, it would be nice to guarantee a peaceful night.

So are you still up in the night?

My DD has never been a night waker. Very, very occasionally she might come into our room and say she's had a bad dream but she will go back to bed straight away and put the hall light on herself.

Absolutely!

DD1 is 5, he will wake usually around 4 times a week, not usually more than once in any single night. Most of the time it is for bad dreams. This increases if it is really hot or cold and or if she is sick. I expect this to be the case for another 2 years or so.

DD2 has just turned 2, and still has the occasional feed overnight, but will wake 2-3 times a night, sometimes less, sometimes more. She goes to sleep in her own bed, but will wake and come in of her own accord and get into bed with me for the rest of the night after midnight.

The girls will be going into bunk beds in the same room in the next few weeks, so holding my breath to see the effect on their sleep that one has! LOL

Yes! DD1 is 6.5 and still wakes frequently, DD2 is 4 and going through a rough patch waking a few times a night. Hang in there! xx

DS1 is 3.5 and wakes once every couple of nights at the least. On a bad night we might have to tend to him half a dozen times, it's usually a bad dream or has woken up confused for some reason. He comes into our bed every morning but doesn't wake us, just climbs in and goes to sleep. We always go in when we hear him. Times we have thought 'oh if he wants us he'll get up' have resulted in him getting quite hysterical and it's even worse.

DS1 is 4 and 1/2 not that common for him to wake but when he does he wants to be in our bed or 1 of us go sleep in his bed.

DS2 is 3 and wakes about 5 nights a week between 0100 and 0400 he comes down wants a BF and will generally fall asleep easy enough but he annoys DH as he is all over the place and kicking pushing etc.

No, my kids very rarely woke during the night. If they had a bad dream or if there was a thunder storm they'd come and climb into our bed and sleep there, they always toileted themselves but we always left the toilet light on for them.

DS will wake and occasionally need his water bottle refilled or want his blanket put back on him (foggy head doesn't realise he can do it himself in the middle of the night i dont think). Other than that he doesn't really call out, he will get up and toilet himself. If he needed me I would certainly help but the kid adores his sleep as much as mum and dad love his attitude about it ;)
DD on the other hand I assume will be very different as I am already tearing my hair out nightly ;)

DD1 is almost 7 and rarely wakes - if she does it usually means she is sick so I will definitely tend to her (especially after having to clean up vomit in a top bunk, I can get her out of there at the speed of sound these days).

DD2 is almost 4 and wakes maybe once a fortnight to go to the toilet/bad dream/wants a drink etc - I will tend to her just in case she is sick or to comfort from a dream - I think it's important as I want her to go back to sleep in her own bed and not come into my bed :lol:

I am rarely up with my big girls.

DD1 is 4y9m and she has always been a good sleeper, apart from she has sleep apnoea, so I am up turning her into a better position to stop her obstructing however it rarely bothers her, it is second nature now and only takes a moment.

DD2 is 3 and she although she wasn't a good sleeper in the beginning she she was about 2 she has slept well overnight, at time she does have dream though, like last night were she cries in her sleep, it is difficult though because you can't calm here you just have to let it pass.

DD3 who is 17 months well thats a different story and then wait for the fun in 3 weeks when DS arrives :)

None of my children are night toilet trained, DD1 is incontinent day and night and will not be trained in the foreseeable future, DD2 is trained by day but not quite there yet at night so the night time fun will begin for me again soon with DD2 when she is out of night nappies.

Yeah, if he needs me to then I do. Usually if he wakes if it because he needs to go to the toilet or has had a bad dream. DS is almost 6. We do have a funny situation though as we are in a caravan while our house is getting built and so he really can't go to the toilet by himself at night or anything like that. He did used to like sleeping in our bed but we had to stop that because our bed in tiny (smaller than a normal double) and he is really wriggly and he cuddles up next to me fine but will stretch out and kick DH, which does not make for a happy family!

Yep because they are both great sleepers so I know something is up if they are up. Like last week we forgot DS 4yrs night nappy - cue crying in his sleep from being SOPPING wet, changing sheets, etc. I actually didn't hear him sobbing (poor love) but they share a room and DD yelled out - DS is cryinnnngggg and I can't sleep!

DD occasionally gets scared of the dark even with a night light in her room and sometimes wants to come into our bed, which we have worked hard to try and break because she just gets into a habit and DH and I can't sleep well with her there so we just resettle her and just turn on a light for her.

DD1 is almost 3.5 years and we are rarely up to her now. If we are it's because she's had a bad dream, she wants a drink or she's sick. She's been really settled at night now since she turned 3 really.

Yep. DD is 5 3/4 and will wake maybe 1-2 times a week with dreams, wants a drink and can't find her drink bottle or if she is cold and wants the blanket on.
DS1 is 4 1/2 and wakes most nights, having had bad dreams, is cold or needs to wee.
DS2 is just 2 and wakes 2-3 times a night, for who knows what reason. The past few days he's been sick and is waking hourly. We were up for two hours on the lounge last night because he couldn't breathe very well and was really unsettled.

I can't wait until I have an uninterrupted night sleep, gosh even 4-5 hours in a row would be amazing! I don't doubt I will still be up through the night, checking on the kids though!

Yup all of them. Every single night.

Once in a blue moon DD1 and DD2 might sleep through but its very uncommon.

Dd (4) still sleeps in our bed but she only really wakes once a week or so. Who knows how it would be if she was in her own room.

Rarely. Although DS1 sleepwalks.

I am up with wet beds the night after they come home from their dad's house though. And nightmares/anxiety during school holiday periods.

Yep, if they need us during the night then we are there regardless of the issue. Every night we end up with at least in bed with us too.

Not usually. I was still up with the twins nightly until they were about 4 but now they all tend to sleep through apart from when they are ill. I don't allow them in my bed though so they have no real reason to come in to my bedroom unless there is a nightmare or illness.

DD 3.5 - rarely - if she can't find her water or needs the toilet (she has just moved to top bunk and I don't want her getting down on her own in the night yet). She sleep talks alot I know because now am often in their room tending to DS - but she seems rarely to actually wake herself up properly.

DD1 (almost 4) sleeps all night most of the time and doesn't usually need to get up for the toilet. A couple of nights a week she might wake and come into our bed but I usually don't even notice until the morning. Or sometimes she is woken by DD2 who is in the same room.

DD2 mostly sleeps through now as well. She might wake 3 times a week but will just get in bed with us for a cuddle and go back to sleep.

DD who is 5 - yup mostly bad dreams or wanting to come in our bed or me going to sleep in her bed. Usually 1 wake up.

DS who is 3 - very rarely unless sick or uncomfortable

I would if needed but since she started sleeping through (2yrs 9mo) she rarely needs tending to. When she first night trained, we left a potty in her room so she didnt need to navigate to the bathroom but now (3yrs 11mo) she is fine to get to the bathroom alone although we are talking maybe once every three weeks that she needs to and we only find out in the morning lol. She hasnt woken yet to a bad dream and once woken feeling sick.

She coslept in our bed till 2 and then our room till she slept through. Im actually really surprised she has never wanted back in, not even now DD2 has been in with us. She was as a baby/toddler a frequent night waker and fed to sleep till weaning (3yrs 3mo) but has never really had sleep issues in that she never faught sleep or was much trouble to get to sleep.

Dd has finally started sleeping through now. She occasionally hops into bed with us in the early hours. My other children are good night sleepers. Getting them to sleep however is a whole other story.

DS2 comes into my bed at about 3am most nights. It doesn't wake me.
DS1 comes and jumps into bed too if he needs any tending.
Neither of them expect me to go to their room and most nights they can jump in and snuggle up and it won't wake me (unless they sleep fight *sigh*).

DD 5 usually comes into bed with us after midnight, sometimes she cries due to a bad dream or occassionally she falls out of bed and wakes crying so I tend to her. She takes herself to the toilet but won't get a drink of water herself, she wakes me for that.

Liebs is 6 and he still wakes in the night. Usually once, sometimes twice. Sometimes he sleeps through. I'm out of bed in the small hours 5 times I week, I would estimate. (DH a LOT less so.)

Causes include nightmares, needing water, needing the loo, eczema or just needing a cuddle.

Thanks to everyone for posting, I really struggle with having sleep deprivation still and you have made me feel not as isolated. xxx

If my kids need me I'm up and there....regardless of how many times or how old. Bad dreams, storms and things that go bump in the night don't care how old you are!

DS2 is almost 3 and after listening to his rendition of an Aria in the wee hours this morning I went in to him but most times he will come in to us. I usually just give him a drink of water, a trip to the toilet and back to bed.

DS1 is almost 18.....we don't have to get up to him anymore.... ;)

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I'm out of bed in the small hours 5 times I week, I would estimate. (DH a LOT less so.)

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We must have married the same guy...... ;)

DS 1 is 4.5 - rarely wakes, unless he's having asthma troubles, but I often change his sheets during the night *sigh*.
DS 2 is 3 and wakes usually twice a night 5 nights a week. I have to walk him back to bed. He won't sleep with me - just chats and plays with me. So I walk him back and help him resettle. Then I check on DS 1, and change his sheets.

DH rarely goes. He doesn't even notice I'm up with them. But it's ok, I think it's fair in our situation.

DS (2) has started waking up at night again, DH either goes to sleep in his bed with him, brings him to me and we all sleep in the big bed, or brings him to me and goes to sleep in his bed. DH has been getting up to him since I got pregnant, I had to stay awake to bf DS to sleep, so it seemed fair that DH had to go get him then he could go straight to sleep but I'd be awake for while longer.

We'd be fine if DS wandered in to sleep with us, but he's in a sleeping bag so it would be a very thumpy trip down the hallway.

I feel like I've been spoilt after reading all these replies. DS has been sleeping through (13 hours) since 6 months old. He's now 2.5 and I only remember having to get up once... I have no idea why he was crying. I think just a bad dream, I gave him a cuddle and that was it, he went back to sleep.

Yes, but I don't get out of bed to do it as DD still sleeps with me. She's only just over 2, though. DS I get up to occasionally. usually just if his daddy sleeps through the yelling.