Does anyone else have a family bedroom?

As in an actual, purposefully made room, for everyone to sleep in?

DH and I decided last year, that we would create a room for all of us to sleep in. We have always had sleeping issues, with all of the children wanting to co sleep and only having a queen sized bed, it was difficult to fit 4-5 bodies into it! At one stage, I was sleeping with DS2 in our spare room in the double bed and DH would usually sleep with one or both of the big kids in our queen bed. But none of us were really getting a good night sleep and I wanted to sleep with my hubby.

So the decision was made. We are lucky enough to have a bedroom big enough to fit our queen, a double and a single bed in it. DH and I sleep together in our queen, DS2 is in the single right next to us and DD and DS1 are int he double together. DS2 will still often creep over into our bed, which is ok, we love to snuggle. DD and DS1 are happy enough now to stay in their double bed together knowing we are in the room with them. I often check on them before going to bed and they're usually snuggle up together. It has made life so much easier and I actually love knowing everyone is with me and I know what is going on with them, especially when they're sick.

I know a few people who have done it, and I love the idea, but we haven't done it yet. only because our current arrangements are working. come a 2nd child and less bed space in our queen, then i will be suggesting this idea to DH.

Yes we have pretty much always done that. We are building a house at the moment and it is only one big family bedroom (in a loft) and the downstairs is open plan. It's great! Although as DS gets older we would probably build in a wall.

we have a QS bed and DD's toddler bed in our room at the moment - about to move her into a single in our room. she has her own bedroom with double bed if/when she chooses to move out, but in the mean time, it's the spare bed for visitors. we aren't in any hurry to move her out - our house is very long, with our room seperated from the rest of the house. i sleep better knowing she is nearby if she needs us, she sleeps better in with us - it doesn't hurt her, us or anyone else, so she can stay in there for now. she will find her independent streak and ask to sleep in her own room when she is ready...

When i was younger we cosleep 4 kids and mum in a bedroom. Two queen beds put together. I think im going to have to do this too as dd1 (5) and dd2 (6mnths) both sleep on my bed

While we don't do this and i doubt DP would ever agree to it i could quite easily turn our room upstairs into a family room.
We have a super king bed and the girls are in by 5am most mornings anyway, DP would never agree though :p

Oh, I love this idea, but no we don't
Honestly, I never would have thought of it.
Dd & Ds share a room, and I know when dd is seeking comfort she will crawl into bed with her brother, so that's sweet.

We're considering doing this, DD1 has a double bed and we have a queen, but DH sleeps with DD1 because of her sleeping issues. We're thinking of putting the two beds together.

I use to wish we had a room like barbie and the 12 dancing princess's. It would definately work for us.
Our sleeping arrangements are DD1 (13) in her own room. She definately needs her own space.
Then in our room we have our king bed that accommodates DH, DD3 and I and also a single bed at the foot of our bed which has DD2 in it most nights. Occassionally DD2 will sleep in her own room or with DD1 (who likes her in there sometimes)

Legitimate question here...

How does it effect your sex life?

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Legitimate question here...

How does it effect your sex life?

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we have a young child...we have no sex life

We haven't done this but I think it's a great idea! No getting up in the middle of the night. And I would sleep so well knowing they were right there. I hated having DD1 in a room away from us. Now that DD2 is in with her I feel better because they're together and in the house we are now their bedroom is right next to ours anyway.

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Legitimate question here...

How does it effect your sex life?

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Probably spices it up. You have to have sex other places instead of bed. We have done a lot of cosleeping here and lets just say the shag pile in the lounge room has lived up to it's name :rofl:

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Probably spices it up. You have to have sex other places instead of bed. We have done a lot of cosleeping here and lets just say the shag pile in the lounge room has lived up to it's name :rofl:

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Yep, we just do it else where. We have a spare room with a double bed in it and so it in there if we want to have 'bed sex' lol. But it's just usually where ever we are at the time- floor, lounge, shower, kitchen.... We also have two days totally kid free when they're all at school/pre school/day care, when we take advantage if DH's not working a day shift!

Arranging our house like this has really taken pressure off I think. I'm not so stressed about bed time and worrying if I will get enough sleep, especially when DH's doing night shifts.

Though I must admit I am very picky with who I tell about it! A lot of people look at me like I'm insane to choose to have everyone in the one room. I have tried saying it's actually more normal than having everyone in separate rooms, that it is only a recent western thing that everyone has their own rooms, especially very young children, but a lot of people (particularly men for some reason) won't buy it!

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Legitimate question here...

How does it effect your sex life?

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We never really had sex in bed that much before kids anyway. We usually have sex in the bathroom, on the couch, on our deck or on the kitchen bench. We have a bit of a height difference so that's a good one lol.

we did that in our old house. we had a bunk and a queen. it worked great.

and yeah- you have sex everywhere but the bed. its a treat if you can dtd in a bed lol

I'm all for sex all over the house but I also want to act on it in the comfort of my bed when I wake up in the middle of the night with urges :lol:

Fair enough. It's different with everyone really. With 2 under 2 I don't wake unless a baby cries lol!

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I'm all for sex all over the house but I also want to act on it in the comfort of my bed when I wake up in the middle of the night with urges :lol:

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Yes, I do miss that kind of spontaneous sex. And morning sex....but hey, something's gotta give when you have 3 kids, lol! I doubt we'd be having morning sex with the kids around anyway, since we're usually up no later than 5am. But sleepy night time sex would be nice! That will all come back with time I guess. It's more important to us that the kids are happy and we are getting good (or at least better!) quality sleep.

We've recently sidecar'd a spare cot to our king so DD sleeps in with us once we go to bed and DS joins us at some point before morning, our sleeping as a family has improved out of sight, we all sleep 100 times better.

As for sex, we get intimate while the kids are in their beds/cot before we retire for the night and join us..... I do miss morning sex though but thats not a co'sleeping issue, thats a having children awake in the house issue LOL :D

I saw this awesome family bed on pinterest which I'd love LOL - this would be awesome

We have DS (18months) in his cot in our room next to the bed. Works for us. DH often ends up in the spare because I snore but generally we sleep together. I have recently thought of getting him into his own room..........seems like too much hard work.
My cousins family had a "nest bed" on the floor for their family and they all slept together for about 6 years. I think it was only when their kids went for sleep overs and cottoned on to another way of sleeping that the kids led the move to their own rooms.........
I reckon I'll be OK for DS to move to his own room when he starts bringing his GF home for the night!

I love the idea but don't have the room. I am think about moving DD1 and DD2 into a double bed, and hoping they stay in it if they are beside each other.

Yes we all sleep in one room. We have a queen and a single and that's enough room so far. If we have another baby we might need to get another single or maybe replace the single with a double. We love it! I always feel I maximize sleep and the kids choose who they want to sleep with (although its usually me!)

Our sex life has never been better! We never did the middle of the night version anyway, but I miss the goodnight and good morning variety

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I saw this awesome family bed on pinterest which I'd love LOL - this would be awesome

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I've seen that before MN, it's awesome isn't it?! I wish my room could look that nice, rather than just the hodge-podge-shoved-where-ever-they-fit look we have going on now! That is the only thing that really bothers me about our room, is that it just looks terrible! I would love if I could make it look nicer.

Buying a king bed so we can do this. Have shag pile rug ready to go.

we have our king and a custom (DH) made sidecar cot to fit the four of us, as I cant climb out past a single :)

Yep we have a family bedroom too. Well for me DP and DS3. DS1 is 21 and DS2 is 19 so don't think they'd be keen to share :lol:
We have our queen and DS3s single right next to it. When DS gets in with me DP will sleep on the single. DP quite often sleeps on the lounge though as he falls asleep watching TV and I can't stand having the TV on in the bedroom when I'm trying to sleep. New bub is due in 5 weeks and we have bought an Arms Reach Co Sleeper so it will go one the other side of the bed :D

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Legitimate question here...
How does it effect your sex life?

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As for this :D you just find other places to do it like the others have said. If I have the energy anyway. Sometimes I would like to be able to just do it in bed, but I worked out sleep was way more important than sex in bed :D

Yes, we all sleep in the same room. We have a queen bed plus DD's single bed next to it. DS sleeps in a co-sleeper bed that goes inside our big bed. DD has her own room with her own queen size bed, but she prefers to sleep with us and we prefer her to be with us too. I think this is way more natural than the western concept of everyone sleeping in their own room.