Losing our little girl two days ago
Hi everyone
I've been using Belly Belly as a great resource throughout my pregnancy and never thought I would be in this position to need it for further support. My DH and I lost our first little baby two days ago, very unexpectantly after a dream pregnancy and perfect progression and scans throughout our little girls gestation.
We decided to give the hospital a call on Good Friday because our very active darling had been very quiet after moving into position at 37 weeks on Thursday night. These moments are still surreal in my mind. After a number of attempts, we were told the devastating news that the obstetrician could not find a heartbeat and our baby had passed away. I was booked in for an induction on Easter Sunday, and after an amazing birth full of calmness and laughter and peace, our beautiful baby Arla was born sleeping easily and gently, 7 pounds 6 ounces. I had a painless and beautiful birth, and I walked away from the hospital 12 hours later and so far my physical recovery has been amazing. It was her last gift to me, and I am so thankful for it.
I am going through a range of emotions: mostly shock, gratitude, amazement, sadness, grief, appreciation and astonishment that my beautiful pregnancy is over and I don't have my amazing prize at the end who I was looking forward to seeing and meeting so much. I am in shock that I have experienced labour, but not the way it was intended, and that Arla was so gentle on my body and mind throughout the process.
My husband and I are grieving and are finding comfort in reading others stories and feeling like we are not isolated. After such a loss comes offers of support and 'anything you need'...but there is a feeling of utter desperation to hear from anyone who understands our situation, the grief we face now and what is ahead of us, and the shock of a late loss when you think everything is going so well.
We'd love to hear your stories and advice on how you got through it. We need to know there are other people out there that can relate to us and our situation. Thank you in advance, all responses will be welcomed with open arms xxx
Re: Losing our little girl two days ago
Congratulations on birthing your precious Arla, Im so sorry she couldn't stay. :comfort:
Losing our little girl two days ago
Congratulations on bringing your beautiful girl into the world, I'm so sorry she couldn't stay. We're all here if you need to talk.
It sounds like you had a beautiful birth, even if the end result wasn't what you desired. I personally feel better knowing I had a good birth with my son. I'm not sure I'd have coped as well as I did if I'd had a bad birth on top of all that.
Fly free and play among the stars and rainbows, gorgeous Arla :heartbeat:
Losing our little girl two days ago
Hugs, and thoughts for you and your family.
Losing our little girl two days ago
I'm sorry for your loss and think you are incredibly strong to be able to share your story with everyone. Wishing you all the best always.
Losing our little girl two days ago
Summery wow, you are one incredible, intelligent, beautiful woman. Your birth story for little Arla was beautiful, insightful and just precious. She may not walk with you but she journeyed with you for almost 9 months, growing right inside you, right with you, then you birthed her in the way you both deserved. Congratulations. I have no wisdom to offer regarding getting through the coming weeks and months but your story was so lovely I wanted to write.
Re: Losing our little girl two days ago
Im so sorry to hear your beautiful princess became a angel. Take care of yourself. Much much love xxx
Losing our little girl two days ago
Congratulations on the birth of your precious sweet Arla
I'm so sorry she was too precious to stay and I hope you find comfort and support to help you through this tragic time. I can only imagine how empty your arms must feel right now after dreaming of your daughter and carrying her for so long. Many hugs and thoughts coming your way xx
Re: Losing our little girl two days ago
that is beautiful. what an experience seeing the eagle, im so glad you can find some sort of peace. you are a strong woman
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Losing our little girl two days ago
Summery, so good to hear from you. It's so true, and the part about leaving a legacy- well as humans we can only hope to live a life long enough and good enough to eventually leave a legacy so what a precious and amazing little life was Arla's to be able to leave such a beautiful and important legacy in such a brief space of time. Take care. X
Losing our little girl two days ago
Summery I am amazed at your strength. To see positives that Arla has passed on is a beautiful thing and a blessing. I love that you are being kind to yourself and acknowledging that this journey is not one anyone could imagine taking and you are taking it and I want to hug you x
Losing our little girl two days ago
You are an amazingly strong woman and your partner is equally strong too. I wish I can have the same clarity just doing daily stuff. Hats off! :)