When did you announce your pregnancy?

I announced my last two pregnancies at 12 weeks.
Last pregnancy was twins and two weeks later at 14 weeks (Christmas week) my little twin stopped growing.

I have a lot of friends but they are annoying me a lot (hormones maybe) and I am starting to feel they "don't deserve" to hear my news.

My daughter is six and has been telling people, which is fine but I'm confused if I should just tell people when I was going to on my birthday when I'm 11 weeks 2 days or wait but for what? I likely won't be getting the 12 week scan.

Do people wait til 20 weeks?
I don't know when I'll be showing or If anyone would notice as I had a medical condition put weight on my upper body.

I'm so excited but confused because maybe I just want this to be my news but then maybe Miss 6 will let slip to someone that erks me lol

I've never been able to officially announce as I've lost all of mine at 6 weeks. Probably because of my own experience, and also of being on BB so long, I would announce as soon as I got the positive HPT. The way I see it, the odds aren't in favour of me having a live baby, so I want to celebrate the time we have, and I want the support if it ends, y'know?

That's what I always tell people, because sadly the reality is, 12 weeks isn't 'safe'. At the end of the day though, how do you feel about it? Would you prefer to tell people now, and then possibly share bad news later? If bub stops growing before your 'date', would you tell people that you had miscarried? I always found it hard to say I had miscarried when they didn't know I was pregnant.

You probably want someone with happier experiences answering ;)

Whenever you feel comfortable, there are no rules :) With DD1 we announced at about 4 weeks, found out at 3 weeks 5 days. With DD2 we officially announced (as in, not my close BB friends) at about 12 weeks.

I told family and close friends as soon as I found out which was about 4 weeks with this one. I told the people whom I would tell and would need support from if I did miscarry.

I did a Facebook announcement at about 13 weeks I think it was. I wasn't too fussed when I did that announcement. All the important people already knew :)

With all my losses I prefer to wait, I hate the conversation that comes if everyone knows and then you m/c..."oh, your not pregnant anymore".

There's a small group of bellybelly ladies on my FB that I usually tell but after the last loss before Christmas I'm not sure I will even be telling them if there is a next time, I'm just so sick of having to announce I've had yet another m/c.

I think announcing your pregnant at the same time you announce the birth is totally acceptable!

But that's just me, so I would say do it when ever you feel comfortable, there is no right or wrong time :hug:

whenever want. I personally feel earlier the better, if things dont turn out and your little one passes, then having people around you who know can then help you. if no one knew you were pg in the first place you haven't got the same support.
I told my family and bestie the day I got the positive. then didnt really announce it until I was showing (not til 20ish) only because I had already told the people who really mattered to me and who I really cared about. I did enjoy not having others (acquaintancees work colleges etc) know, was like my little secret. I told work at 16weeks only because I had to due to the type of patients we were getting and my not being allowed to care for them (chemo drugs and certain illnesses).
so long story should, people who I cared about I told straight away and everyone else I didnt

I've told all my family for the reason of excitement and support if anything happens.
I think I will tell the important people and let Miss 6 spill her guys and wait and see how long the secret lasts (we are going to a party with the group of girls in question when I'm 12 weeks 2 days.

I love the idea of announcing it on Facebook after reading so many wishing it was mine.

This will be my last pregnancy so I guess I just don't want any regrets.
Maybe I'll wait til mothers day ;)

About 4 hours ago? Lol so 13 weeks. I was waiting until after the 12w scan just to make sure bub was ok. Then had to get a big brother shirt for DS before I could post a photo.
Some of my family and all of DFs already knew though, so it was really just friends to "announce" to.

With DS it was about 6weeks, but we had a loss in between so I was much more cautious this time.

I say whenever you are comfortable. Whether that be now or at 30 weeks. Its really noones business but you and your partners. If someone else has a problem, it is exactly that, THEIR problem.

With my first I think we officially announced after 12 weeks, though close family were let in on the secret earlier. The next pregnancy unfortunately ended in a m/c but had told most people around 4 or 5 weeks. I think we announced at about 10 weeks with our last bub :)

With my 1st preg DH rang my mum and his mum. I told my best friend and 1 of my brothers as was living with us at time. Found out at 3 weeks 5 data found out at 9 weeks was a blighted ovum.
A few friends found out in following weeks and were very supportive.

DS1 found out at 3 weeks 5 days and DH again rang his mum and mine who off course told our dads, and I told best friend. I then told some close friends between then and 15 weeks and then after 20 week scan told our siblings and rest of friends.

DS2 we found out at 4 weeks 5 days and pretty much same as above.

Number 1- I told one friend when I found out (3w 5d)and then m/c the next day

Ds- told a few friends and family ASAP (3w 5d) and fb after 8 wk scan

Dd - same as ds

But whatever you wanna do if u don't wanna tell at all then don't bother my friend waited till 17 and another 20 weeks some people just announce the birth

I told anyone and everyone as soon as I found out.

First pregnancy I didn't get to announce. Got to 12 weeks, had told a few close people, but found out we'd lost it at 12w5d.

Second we told immediate family at about 7 weeks, close friends at 14 weeks, work at 19 weeks, rest of the world when we couldn't hide it anymore. Which wasn't til about 32 weeks.

Third I announced to mum at 5 weeks, in laws at 9 weeks, everyone else at 15 weeks, after pressure from the in laws.

With my last 3, I announced after 20 weeks to my DH's side of the family, 12 weeks to friends & extended family and straight after the BFP for everyone else (you included! lol)

With my first 3 I announced around 6 to 8 weeks. With the twins, and following my loss, I didn't tell family until 18 weeks and didn't tell friends apart from a couple at all. Those who I met guessed but I never brought it up, and facebook only friends found out around the time of the birth when I posted pregnancy pics and asked if people thought I was hosting s pink, blue or multicoloured bundle.

Lol Lisa you busted me before I had a chance to tell you this time xxx

I've been telling my special people and Miss 6 will look after family and school friend's and their mums :)
I'm really tempted to keep it a secret from Facebook for longer!

I was thinking if I stay vomit free I'll be able to keep the secret but with the twins i had vomiting from week 9 to 16 and everytime I vomit I need to go to hospital because of a condition I have so it will be hard to keep it a secret if I'm stuck there, but I didn't vomit for first pregnancy so fingers crossed.

I'll talk to miss 6 about how we told her it was a family secret again!!
I love her excitement though.

We told my parents the day we found out (mothers day :) ) and inlaws a few days later. Close friends at about 6 weeks and fb annoucement at 9 weeks. After waiting 4.5 years to fall pregnant, we couldn't wait to tell the world!!!

After so many shots at IVF and 7 years ttc, we excitedly told immediate family right away. Then, two weeks later, I had a big sub chorionic haemorrhage and was given a 50 50 chance of miscarrying. At this time, MIL decided it was her place to announce to the rest of the family that I was pregnant. Do I need to say how p!ssed off I was?

DD was around 4-6 weeks with family, 8w with non-family.

DS was 12w with everyone. I was 12w on Christmas Day, so that made it special :)

I think we waited to tell everyone until after 12 weeks each time, except my first when I had to tell work at around 8 weeks due to the chemicals I was working with. I think we might have told our parents around then too. I didn't tell my local friends until around 15 weeks with DD1 because I didn't know them that well back then and it didn't come up in conversation. I held off until around 15 weeks with DD2 because my best friend was TTC for over a year and I really wanted her to be pregnant when I told her (guilt over an oopsie baby when she desperately wanted one). I would have hidden it longer but it was getting a bit obvious by then.

I told family and very close friends and also my work about 4-5 weeks. Im a nurse so it was important work new so I could be allocated "safe" patients.
I told my friends on fb last week so 14 weeks. I wanted to see a 12 week scan first before I announced only due to my m/c in the past.

Its totally up to the individual, I also didnt want to announce it on fb due to DH having family over in south africa who we wanted to tell in person.

We had not told anyone when we lost our first at 7weeks.

For DS we waited to tell our families until after the 12 week scan to make sure all was ok. I told work at 24 weeks as I was still not really showing then.

Since we lived remotely, and I did not really want to announce on facebook, most of our friends in the real world did not find out until I moved to syd temporarily 6 weeks before ds was due. They pretty much figured it out when we were having catch ups :)

Its so personal and I would go with what feels right for you. At the end of the day if the people you want to know are in the loop, the others can wait until your 6 year old bursts with excitement!

sorry, double post :(

We told our parents at 12 weeks once we had the scan. Siblings were about 13 weeks and I didn't announce it on Facebook until I posted his birth announcement!!

First pregnancy I told nobody but my best friend until after the 12 week scan as I wanted to surprise my parents. Unfortunately it was a bad surprise as I had a missed miscarriage so that was the first they knew :(

Second pregnancy (DD) I told my bestie straight away again and my parents at about 5-6 weeks. We didn't tell anyone else until after the 12 week scan, except for DHs parents at 11 weeks. They would have been told at the same time as my parents but they were away in Europe so we waited to tell them in person. I told work the day after my 12 wk scan and told Facebook a couple of days later, once all the important people knew.

I let miss 6 tell family at Easter both sides but I'd already told my mum and a couple of close friends.
I've told my long term ttc friends because I think it's nicer to hear it personally than on Facebook and two of them were ttc the same time as me one got a negative the day I got a positive sad but I knew situation reversed I would want her to tell me straight away.

If I didn't have party to go to with all these girls who think I'm their best friends at 12wks I would save it longer but I don't know if miss 6 can keep quiet around them when at least one maybe two 29 week pregnant girls will be there. I'd rather control it I think...

I'm glad I told miss 6 even though it's meant keeping the secret is harder she is just so excited to see my scans and kiss my belly :) she was 3 turning 4 last time and we told her at 9 weeks but we lived rural.

With DS our first, it was as soon as we started trying, and 10 months later he was born.
Wth DD our second, it was after getting the 12 week scan results back.

:heartbeat:

The party I was worried about was cancelled so now I don't have to tell yet :)
I was originally going to tell yesterday on my birthday
But now I'll wait til DD2 birthday in a month.