Does anyone else go to bed at 8pm?

DS goes at 6-7pm, DD at 730pm and me close after at 8pm after a quick tidy up and wash. Often I'm asleep before DD!
How do you find any YOU time or time with your partner? I prefer to get sleep as I'm up 3-5 times a night and up by 530am. I tend to have a midday nap if the kids allow it so there isn't much time to do anything myself, sometimes get half an hour to watch an iview episode. Then again the sleep is probably my ME time LOL.
I'm booking into weekly post natal Pilates when DD is at daycare and can take DS until he crawls so that will at least be a breather.
The other idea I've had is to load the kids up in a double stroller (which I don't have) to go for a big walk somewhere I like to go.

LOL, no but if it works for you that's all that matters.

I'm an inveterate late night girl but am trying to go to bed earlier. I used to go to bed between 11 - 1am. These days, I'm trying to absolutely be in bed by 11.30pm. A really early night for me would be 9.30pm.

I find I can function on 5 hours sleep (no naps) for a few weeks but function rather than enjoying life. I'm firing on all cylinders on 7 hours sleep. If I've had a run of bad sleeps then I top up with an early 9.30pm night.

I do I get tired and cranky otherwise , ds wakes at 6am

Wow I'm jealousy of how
Much sleep you manage! I know how draining getting up through the night is but 9 hours of broken sleep and the possibly midday nap! Wow is all I can say. I stay up till after 11pm most nights often later, I'm up at least three times during the night and up by 7 on school days. I average 6 hours of broken sleep I would say.

If you can keep up the sleep you get, more power to you! But I think in order to get that me/partner time, you may need to push back your bed time.

Reading what Fionas wrote, that's how I describe me

I've been known to go to bed at 8.30 when my kids were little. DH would come with me and we would watch tv for a little while before going to sleep but it was how I survived frequent night wakenings. If it works for you then it's all good, you do what you have to when your kids are little and it won't be long in the grand scheme of things before you don't have to get up multiple times in the night and you can stay awake later in the evening instead.

Recently I've been staying up till 9pm!

That was me when DD was little. Even these days with not having to get up in the night I'm lights out at 9:30. Last night I was trying to persuade DD to only choose one bedtime story so I could get to bed early (was lights out at 8:40 last night).

For about 10months after having DD2 yep I was asleep by 8 - 8:30 most nights. Slowly I have been staying up later and later. Nowadays it is about 10pm most night with a 9pm a every now and then. I am sure when this bubs arrives it will be early nights again for a while.

Nope earliest for us is 10 pm. Our kids are up by 6am usually. They all wake up during the night but they just crawl into our bed or into their little beds on our floor so they don't actually disturb us too much.

When my kids were that little I would go to bed that early too. I just had to to get enough sleep! I preferred sleep over me time or couple time.

I wouldn't worry about it now, it's only a phase and it will be over soon. Just go with it :) My girls are now 4 and 2 and we have couple time for a couple of hours each night, which is really nice. We don't get woken up as much during the night so we don't need to go to bed so early. We really missed the time together relaxing but we knew it would come back and we only had to give it up for a little while in the scheme of things so that was ok with us :)

I used to, when my kids were tiny. I would often fall asleep with them at about 7.30. They were all frequent wakers/feeders and their best sleep of the night was usually 7/8-11/12ish at night, then it would be hourly or so waking/feeding, until I gave up trying to make them sleep at about 5am.
Now they mostly sleep through, maybe every second day I am up 1-2 times a night. They are all in bed by 7.30pm. DS2 usually wakes for the day between 4-5am, the other two wake between 5.30-6.30am.
I don't usually go to be until about 11pm, I really love that time of night to just be with myself, or when DH is home together with him. We often use that time to have a nice dinner together, and watch a movie. But maybe once a week or two, I fall asleep with the kids or on the lounge early, about 7.30/8ish. DS2 still has a day nap and if DH is home, I will occasionally (like today!) nap with him, though not often.

I generally need to be asleep by 10pm for me to function the next day. I have just had a nana nap in my hammock from the late nights I have had this week.

I go to bed at 9-9.30pm at the moment, DD goes at 7.30pm. Dh stays up late, we are rarely in bed awake at the same time!
I would probably be better going at 8.30pm, but I like to sit up with DH for an hour and we are obsessed with watching 'breaking bad', so I end up going later than I should.
Last night I went to bed and read til 10pm, fell asleep then DD woke for a feed at 10.30!!
I get up 3 times overnight for a feed but because I only have one baby, she sleeps til 7-730am , so I get about 7 hours broken sleep.
Our only time in bed together is weekends when DD comes in bed with us and we all three have a cuddle in bed.

how do you feel during the day? are you really tired? or could you maybe push a slightly later bedtime with the reward of a nice tv episode you like or a good book? i find that after the girls are in bed at 7.30 i have a little ritual of a warm drink and a dvd episode. then i have a shower and tend to curl up beside DH with a book.

during the day i NEED to get out least once. even if it is just piling the kids in the pram/car for a coffee at the cafe...it can be a nice unwind for all of us.

i reckon it is so hard in those early months to connect with your partner especially if you both rely on eachother to help run the house etc. (ie in absence of family to help). but that will come again. and that is why we took to lying in bed together while reading or on the computer...it helped with the closeness while also allowing us each to have some down time.

I'm not usually in bed before 10pm, and am up at least four times during the night, and then awake for the day just before 7am. I'm whacked, and very occasionally I will go to bed more like 9pm, but I find I really need some time to myself at the end of the day after the girls are all in bed.

It's a total miracle if I am in bed before 10:30pm. DH comes home from work at 11:15pm so if I had fallen asleep, I would be woken by him anyway. I usually go to bed at 11:30-12 and go to sleep around 1am. I'm a terrible sleeper. DH does the morning shift with the kids so I sleep in until 8, when he takes Ds2 to school. My sleep is extremely broken too as I usually get up to my younger DD's a few times, or they jump into bed with us.

Most of last year I was at least in bed by 7:30pm, might not have gone to sleep til later but I was in pjs and in bed relaxing. I had an infant in the same room who woke overnight and my eldest who considers 5:30am a sleep in! Still have the early rising but now that my infant is a toddler who sleeps through I am going to bed much too late, after midnight usually. Need to find a happy medium!

I spend a lot of nights on my own thanks to shift working DH, when I was going to bed early he would often join me if he was home and watch a DVD or something.

Glad I'm not alone! I tried going to bed at 9pm one night then 10 last night and it coincided with hourly wake ups all night so I'm going back to 8pm. I love some of the ideas in here. DH can't sleep in a room with a baby as he worries about every sound they make but I curled up with him for half an hour last night before he went to the spare bed with a cold. Reconnecting with my partner after a baby takes work! Sleep deprivation was a big factor in me getting PND last time around and I'm determined to manage it better this time plus having energy and enthusiasm for my 2 year old in the day.

my DH cannot sleep well with baby in the room either. so he has a temporary bed in the spare room that we both fall asleep in and then when DD wakes in the night I go to the main bed and usually around 4-5 for her next feed he comes in and joins us. it is so not ideal but i have found that we are both getting a better rest and there is less pressure to get DD into the Big Girls' room.

Yes when DD was younger I would go to sleep whenever she went down. If that was 7.30 then so be it. Since her nights have settled to 2-3wakeups I stay up later - to have 'me' time/clean lol

When DD2 was younger and I was needing to go to bed earlier, what DP and I did was still go to bed together (say around 8 or 9pm instead of our usual 10 or 11pm) so we could cuddle and chat and such but then DP would get up earlier (around 4am instead of 6am) and have his alone time to game before the kids and I got up. He used to take both girls for a walk/to the grocery shops/park/yard for an hour after work so I could have a bit of wind down time then (he finishes at 3pm most days).

Yes, that's me but I go at 9pm instead of 8pm. DD is in bed by 7pm so that's 1 hour for eating/cleaning/relaxing together and 1 hour for relaxing together. Sometimes if I've had good nights I do 9:30pm.

I go to bed around 8.30-9 rarely later

Nope, I work night shifts and am lucky to get to sleep before 1am usually

11pm is pretty early here. Has been 1-2 of late.
When exhausted 930-10 might work with a sleeping pill.