So a little about myself i like to be different and have been thinkin about a surprise weddings but i dnt no if its weird or not. I really would like to hear what u ladies think about it? :)
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So a little about myself i like to be different and have been thinkin about a surprise weddings but i dnt no if its weird or not. I really would like to hear what u ladies think about it? :)
I know someone who went to a surprise wedding today. I think it would be really exciting. The only problem would be if people couldn't make the celebration you disguise it as (eg an engagement party), they'd miss out on such a special event in your life.
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yea i know what you mean, the thing is there is not too many ppl we would invite anyways. i wanna do it more for him and i just to make our family whole, i really hope that makes sense lol. and because i LOVE him so very much
well at the end of the day the decision is up to you both & it's your special day so you do whatever you want that makes you both happy :). i personally don't really like the idea of surprise weddings. like Nel above said you will get people who won't show, but if they knew it was a wedding & lets say they "felt sick" they would make that extra effort to come because it's your wedding, not just a party IYKWIM. also you could get people coming in very casual clothes, that might not bother you, but it would bother me. there's more reasons but i just can't think for now.
all the best in whatever you decide to do :)
ok i was meaning for a surprise for my partner LOL. i should have said that so the ppl that will be coming will know what is going on bar my partner ;)
ohhhhh LOL. so sorry! i totally misunderstood. i have never heard of that. wow that would be different haha! what would be the "occasion" that you would tell him? how would you get him to rock up in a suit? what about his groomsmen? lots of things to think about. keep us updated :)
That would be great as long as you are certain he wants to get married! I think my DH would have freaked out if I had done that but you know your partner the best to know if he would be happy!
Are you engaged already? If you are then yep could work. If youre not maybe you could propose to him!
Goodluck and keep us posted!
Um....... no way!!
Surprising someone with a lifetime commitment is not cool.
And you need to give a month's notice anyway so it's not really possible.
Hate to be the party pooper here, but you have to lodge an intention to marriage document at least 1 month before the wedding. Which needs to be signed by both parties, or the wedding is not legal.
Best to save surprises for events that are not morally and legally binding.
Considering both of you have to do the paperwork at least a month before your wedding day, I think he would have to know that it is going to happen.
AWW that just stuffed things up for me then lol. i new i had to give a month notice and i was gonna do it cause he's away on work at the moment and was gonna book a few days away for us and pack the suit and tell him the day we got married. so i just flushed my ideas down the loo lol. thanks ladies
Why don't you propose to him instead.
My pleasure. :p
Prolly better to know now before you went to all that effort...
Yeah, a surprise for guests is different to surprising the future spouse. Wouldn't he want a say? Strange IMO.
we are engaged already and yeah he has a say and he wants to get married we were gonna do it about 10 months ago but he had to go away up north for work so we put it off and now his gone for another month i thought it would be nice once he gets back to do it (what he does want). but i guess he will know then i have everything ready just no date and place. So we just gotta wait for him to come home to set the date and place.
You could fill out the paperwork with him and set the date and then keep him in the dark about when, where, how, theme and make it a surprise location. Sorta like that wedding show Kate Ritchie hosted about the groom being in total control of it all.
I had a surprise wedding at my engagement party. IMO an engagement party is just as special as a wedding. I also knew that anyone ho truly loved us would make the effort to attend (bar illness preventing them), whether it be a wedding or a friendly BBQ for no particular reason.
As others have pointed out, surprising the groom wouldn't be possible. Good luck with whatever you do though. :)
i like the way you are thinking 2cheekymonkeys. i think that might be the way im gonna go :)
I'm a Marriage Celebrant and NO celebrant can do a surprise wedding like you describe it is against our Code of Conduct. Both parties must sign the Notice of Intent to Marry at least 1 month prior to the wedding date and the Celebrant must make sure that no party is being coerced into getting married against their will.
You could marry someone else. That would be a surprise.
omg that so true i never looked at it like that thanks for the info :)..... haha i could just imagine wat my partner would say wen he cums back home LOL..... Nuh i think i would rather marry my partner hehe
Just as an FYI.... both parties dont need to sign the notice- DH was deployed so he didnt sign ours. However our celebrant had met him before and talked to us both on the phone did required counseling etc.... I dont know many guys that would like it sprung on them though- that might be a bit much :-/
I just choked on my water as it projectiled out my nose!:
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