Hey everyone,
Those of you whose man has had a vasectomy, did he notice a difference in sensation with sex? My man says he's not had the build-up since surgery and the sensation is mild. :( Hope its just temporary....
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Hey everyone,
Those of you whose man has had a vasectomy, did he notice a difference in sensation with sex? My man says he's not had the build-up since surgery and the sensation is mild. :( Hope its just temporary....
DH has said he doesn't notice any difference, but had his many moons ago (10years or so)
I don't know a whole lot about vasectomies, but could it be psychological more than physical?
Is he interested before you start? DH's surgeon told him it's not unusual for men to be completely off the idea for a while, but that it's temporary. Could it be that he's just not feeling like it so he's not getting a full sensation?
Dont know PZ, he's still sore and says sometimes it feels like its burning/chinese burn and that when he leans forward its like a golf ball is in his groin. I just hope they havent mucked up any nerves or anything :(
Oh he was up for it two days after!!!! Definitely keen to keep going with it all... Just not having the physical feeling of build up before ejaculation. He even stopped to listen out for the kids during the act and it just happened - he had no idea!!!!
How long has it been since the surgery?
DH treaded very carefully after his for the first couple of months because he's not the best with blood/cuts/surgery that sort of thing and, lets face it, it's a pretty sensitive area to see stitches in! Immediately post operatively he had a couple of faints too, so that didn't help his confidence.
After a while though we found the increased 'freedom' really liberating and the sex was much better post vasectomy. (Particularly after he'd gotten the 3-month all-clear from the surgeon.)
It really shouldn't make a difference in terms of 'build-up' physiologically, I'd've thought. He is still producing ejaculate and should still be ejaculating normally. Just without sperm. I would wonder too if it's a little bit psychological, if not in the same way as my DH was initially then maybe in another way?
ETA: possible nerve damage isn't necessarily permanent, though that would be very disappointing!
Dh wasn't exactly like that - he still had moment of soreness for probably the first 2 months and they would ache afterwards, but it didn't lessen his desire or ability to climax. It wasn't long after that and it was back to normal.
Its not desire or ability... its purely sensation based. Normally before an ejaculation there is that build-up, rush, tingle whatever you want to call it - intensity. But he doesn't get that any more, its more the motions of it happening with less feeling for him.
Maybe that might be something that will improve over time? Or is he able to really take the time to build up to a climax?
My XH didn't have any issues like that sorry he said it was no different. I hope it improves for him.
Sorry, I can't comment on the vasectomy-specific side of things, but my experience with surgery involving a larger body area is that the nerves can and do grow back. I'm pretty sure that healing effect would be more noticeable for a vasectomy where the incisions are comparatively small and the area enjoys a good blood supply. But by all means, get him to talk to the urologist for reassurance, especially if he's still having some pain at times. But it may just be a case of needing longer to recover. Surgery is *always* an assault on the body.
PS - as a believer in energetic-medicine, I'm inclined to comment that surgery can disrupt the energetic anatomy too. Remedial energetic strategies could involve reiki or similar, yoga/chi kung/tantric breathing exercises, and even acupuncture/acupressure. HTH
Take time Trillian? Haha!!
Marydean I am the same, suggested he look at the local anaesthetic option but its what he and the surgeon preferred. Ah well.
Dh had a general with his procedure. No issues with climax even though he did get an infection afterwards.
Okay now there is an update. On one side where stitches are, there is a raised lump the size of a 10 cent coin - kinda like a mentos lol - and its a little weepy. Sound infected?
I'd say that's an infection for sure.
Ok, back to the doctor then :( Doesnt look red at all, so I wasnt sure.
Thanks xx
Weepy = definitely something not right.
Omg how depressing :(
http://www.vasectomy-information.com/wordpress/?p=172
I feel awful. What have we done? :(
:( wow, that's a lot of men who are experiencing the same thing.
:( did they warn you that it was a possible side effect?
Nope. Seems no-one does :( Im gutted for him. What does this mean now? You could be hopeful it'll improve but those guys have had it for years... Scary.
Annnd we're off to the doctor as infection has well and truly set in.
Hopefully it's just due to the infection. Goodluck xxx
Reading through the link I saw one guy who did exercises that said it really improved things for him and another guy who got a reversal and said that it wasn't back to 100% but still vastly improved.
As scary as that sounds, I still think it's early days and there is likely to be improvement - especially if there's some swelling/infection happening - that can disrupt nerve signals. I hope the Dr has some answers/reassurance for him.
Agree. Whilst everything is still tender and owie, it could be affecting how he is functioning at this point in time.:
DH got over his infection fine, there has been no issues with how he feels during sex. The is the odd time that the testicle that got infected will ache, but nothing that affects his enjoyment.
how's your DP doing?
Thanks for checking in :) He's had *some* improvement, but says he gets no tingle or anything. A bit of a build up but nothing more. He's trying not to think about it too much so it becomes psychological. But the infection has gone, just hope that in the months ahead the healing helps things along. I hope it goes back to the way it used to be for him.
he should have been given information listing all the possible implications after surgery. When DH had it, he was given a booklet that detailed everything and a quick google search will also give you loads of links about it. But the risk of that happening is still quite small. Of course it's going to seem like a lot of guys have problems because they are the only ones posting saying how bad it is - you're not going to get many men posting to blogs or forums saying how fantastic it's been afterwards because they don't need to, ITMS? Well except that one guy from that link you posted. I'm with MD though. I know some of these men have had the problem for years, but it doesn't have to be assumed it will stay that way. I think it's taken for granted that things will automatically stay the same, and if they aren't then it's like their world falls down but it's not the end of their world kwim, and some of them may have to work hard to get things back to a level where they are feeling satisfied. If he was a wham bam thankyou ma'am type guy before hand, maybe he really does need to re-learn how to build that sensation? Don't write it off as being this way forever. Some of the men posting on that site were literally only weeks post-op and I would expect that things would still be strange.:
How are things now, Kelly?
Did things improve?
I was reading one of your articles, and it suggested vasectomy as a contraception, and i wondered what your thoughts were on it now?
I was thinking about this thread the other day too. How is it going now?