Possibly in labor??

I'm so confused!
First I'm new here. I'm a SAHM of 2 boys, expecting a little girl.
My first son I was having BH from the beginning. I was around 35-36 weeks when I was checked. Was a 0. A week later I was 2. Then at 38 weeks I was 4. So induced. I had no pain.
With our second boy I was 0 at 36 and induced due to low fluid. Not many bh.
With this girl, I keep getting bh that hurt. I've told my dct about my sons, and all he says is if I get them for 2 hours and are 10 min apart go. Then my NP tells me bh won't dilate you yet I'm 1 and 40.
Saturday we went to the mall and felt great. Then 30 min after we left I got reg bh/contractions that where an hour apart and fizzled out after 3 hours. Today I've been very moody and emotional for no reason. My hips hurt, lower back hurts, feel like I can't sit still, and I'm exhausted.

Does anyone have any insight on this?? Maybe I'm close??

The day before I had bub I got checked and told I wasn't going to have her anytime soon I was not dilated or anything but that afternoon I thought I was going into labour getting BH but never got closer than 10mins but then it fizzled out before bed dh decided to take the next day off because he thought bub would come and at lunchtime they started again but only BH not painful at all and not getting closer than 8 mins but at 5pm something changed and I started feeling like pacing back and forth and I kept needing to pee but still not painful and only 8mins apart we decided to go to hospital to get checked I ended up having bub 20 mins after I arrived at hospital at 6pm I only had maybe 6 painful contractions before I had her otherwise they only felt like BH and never got closer than 8 mins good thing I went into get checked

Sounds like you're getting close. For 99% of people, you'll know when it's labour - it's all-consuming!

Good luck, hope you get to meet your little one soon xo

Thanks.
I also have pooped 2 times. Normally I'm plugged up and go about 3 times a week. Now I'm getting sharp pains in my cervix and miserable to the point of tears.
My lower back hurts, body just aches, can't sit still, sleepy, pooping a lot, moody and very emotional...

sounds like things are happening. grab a heat pack, or jump in the bath or shower.

best wishes for a beautiful birth.

Could be. Follow your instincts. If you are feeling like you need to go to hosp then go. Better to be safe.
Good luck :goodluck: hope this is it for you.

I can hope!!
Once the boys head to bed I'll get in the shower.

Is there any certain things to look for?? All I'm told is reg contractions. Then when I ask about all these things I get a your crazy look and told it's normal..

Nothing is reg. just annoying.

you might find that things kick off once your boys are in bed. or things can fizzle out, and might start again tomorrow night.

hang in there, baby won't be in there forever.

eta- from your original post, some places are now shifting to 6cm as the marker for when Labour is established. and many women progress at different paces, it is policy that dictates the 1cm an hour guide, not physiology.

Ya they did that Saturday..

i have had 2 bubs, and both times things would start each night, and i would think 'is this it?', and then they would stop again and start the next night. Went on for at least a week, which didn't really help with resting for the real thing!

With #2, on the night he was born, things started and i started to wonder again if this was the real deal, but it wasn't til my DD was in bed and asleep that things really kicked off. My mind was worried about her, and i just needed to be able to focus on me for things to progress.

I also had a lovely massage the afternoon before he was born, and we had been to our fave restaurant that week, and i felt ready.

How far pregnant are you?

I'm 36 weeks.
Both boys were induced so I just don't know what it feels like to go into labor my self.

Just listen to your body it will tell you I just try to relax and not focus on it if it's the real thing eventually you will have a baby if not then at least not too much energy was wasted before the real thing

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Just listen to your body it will tell you I just try to relax and not focus on it if it's the real thing eventually you will have a baby if not then at least not too much energy was wasted before the real thing

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Agreed. You may still have weeks to go before you go into real labour - but you may have false labour for weeks before the real thing! Hang in there mama and try not to worry too much :hug:

I think you would know when you are in labour. You could be getting close but hate to say it, you could be days or a week or more away. I had a very similar 'prelabour' with DD. I'd had (painless) BH since early on so that alone wasn't a sign of labour for me. My prelabour was nausea, increased BH, loose stools etc. Went on for a few weeks before labour started at 40 + 4.

Aside from killer hip pains, I'm ok today. Took a shower and had a spell where I had to lean on the wall and breath. My entire stomach hurt soooo bad. Then I got dizzy so got out. When I sat down I felt very sick.

I had some serious pre labour for about 2 weeks before DS1 was born, and before that I had lots of braxton hicks. At night, I would get regular contractions that kept me awake, but then would fizzle out during the day. It's just your body getting ready for bub to come. It's likely, if you don't want to be induced again, that you just have to ride it out until established labour starts.

You will know when it's happening. You will probably lose some mucus plug or your waters might pop. The most obvious sign though is that your contractions are regular, and strong. I had been advised by my midwives that when your contrax are five minutes or less apart, and last for about a minute, and you have difficulty speaking or focusing through them, then it's time to go to hospital.

By the time I got to hospital with DS1, I was 9cm dialated and he was born an hour later.

But if you're unsure or worried, or get sick, or start to bleed, visit your care provider.

I would advise that you rest as much as you can, but also try to keep your mind busy and be lightly active. Do things you enjoy like reading, watching movies, going for light walks or a swim, having a massage etc...and try not to think too much about it, other wise it is all the more torturous! Good luck, and I hope it doesn't go on for too long. It can be hard to cope with when it lasts for a long time.

Me too Mrs. Fabulouso, i was just reading my own thread from back in 2012 when I was wondering if my prelabour meant labour was imminent ... It wasn't! But I would go to bed at night from about 36 weeks and get lots of regular BH that were different from the usual, more intense and encompassing but I still somehow knew they weren't the start of labour. Plus I had shooting pains, a bit of nausea and various other things.

Lady love - You've just described me at the moment...36 weeks tomorrow! Could be a loooong few weeks ahead ;)

Jamieb - good luck! :)

Oh I'm so excited for you girls!

First happy late thanksgiving!
Second: starting around 3 yesturday, while eating spicy cheese dip, my back started to hurt. It was constant at first then after about 20 min it felt like really bad spasms. Then about an hour later it started to hurt in my upper belly. Around 430 it started in my back, wrapped around to my tummy. It deff was bh. It hurt. Started out about 15-20 min apart but guessing cause I wasn't timing them. Got in the car to leave and had 2 that seemed pretty close so I times from the end of one to the beginning of the next: 10 min!! It was that way for a good 2 hours. Got home and took a hot shower. All it did was slow then down and make then not a bad. I ended up getting bh. Went to bed around 11 and kept waking up to random tummy pains and back pains. I also lost several small chunks of plug. And I noticed that when I got one of those contractions, I felt pressure down low. It also made me need to pee.
This morning, I feel ok. Bh all over the place but nothing painful grr!! So I hope to go walk around somewhere and enjoy really spicy food lol

My back is starting to hurt again but only getting bh. I can deff feel a difference

Sounds like it's getting there for you.

I had weeks of prelabour ( I was dilated at 36 weeks) I found it helpful to take a bath to ease my back and stomach. Also some up and down stairs to get bub down low :)

The hardest part is to not obsess about it. It consumes all your thoughts!!

Ya lol.
Now I'm hurting down in my girly parts when I have bh.
Ugh I'm so ready!! I got to my dct Tuesday so if I see my np I'll ask to be checked.

a vaginal exam won't tell you how close labour is. Even more with subsequent pregnancies, you can be dilated for days or weeks before labour starts. Or it can appear nothing is happening, and then things will progress quickly.

can you plan a few things to make your mind off it? get a massage or pedicure, organise coffee date with a friend, take the kids to look at christmas lights (if they are up).

That's true.
Not really. We are fairly new in our town and don't know many people. We tend to just stay home or go into town on weekends. If we had xtra gas, we would go see lights but it's out of the way. I try not to think about it but seeing I've only been induced, these pains are new to me.

What Hoti said.
I had full on prelabor for 2 weeks and didnt dilate at all. Then had my baby in 4 hours.

I feel like I'll go pretty fast. My first I was 0 then went to a 2 in a week. Then went to a 4 in 2 weeks. Stated pit and had him in 4 hours. My second I was induced at 0. Had to do cervidol and pit. All due to fluid level. This little girl has plenty of fluid and I was a 0 about 2 months ago. Not even a finger tip.

Feeling odd today. My mind tells me today is the day but my body isn't listening. Weird I know. Woke up thinking I need to eat cause I won't be able to later??? Idk.
My pelvic area, including my girly parts, hurt. I've gotten 3 painful contractions down low, but noting else.
I've been really emotional to. Like crying one min to laughing the next. I can't eat much when yesturday I was shoveling food in. She hasn't changed positions just not able to eat much.

Try to relax and take your mind off it. You will have a baby, eventually ;) It could be today, it could be 5 weeks from now. No point stressing :)

So I know it's impossible to stop obsessing, I was doing what you are last week. In the end, I had to accept I can't control this, so I'll just deal with it when it happens.

People kept telling me that I'll know when it's the real thing, wow... Did I ever? I started off thinking I was constipated, but within 10 minutes I knew it was the real thing and was calling the hospital.
FYI - I had no bloody show, no breaking waters, no diarrhea... All the stuff they say you're 'meant' to have on the day/s leading up to the labour. I woke at midnight in pain, 2.5 hours later I had a baby.

What I am trying to say it over analysing everything got me nowhere, so you're better off just using the time to rest and get ready for the challenges ahead.

I was just going to say the same thing as PZ. Try not to think "Is today the day?" every day. You can't make baby come. He/she will come when they're ready. If you're only 36 weeks, realistically, you could still be pregnant in 5-6 weeks time. That's a long time to be wondering if you're going to have bub today. Try to forget you're close to giving birth. Just live life as you do every day. Get on with things and bub will come when they're ready. Sometimes if you're stressing about why baby isn't being born NOW, baby isn't coming because you're stressed out or anxious about it all.

Try to relax. Do what you can to relax. You say you're new to your town, then go to a playgroup or something and meet some people. Go and have a coffee and cake at a cafe. Go to a new park and soak up some sunshine. Go for a gentle walk around the streets close to your house. Go join the library and read some books. Try to keep your body lightly active and your mind busy or you will send yourself crazy!

Wish I could do that stuff, but my dct doesn't want me up much. I do walk the mall here and there tho.
Anyway, I'm so emotional it's driving me nuts!! I have feelings of being left out and all this. I know it's not true tho.
I'm still loosing a bunch of plug. They are small, about the size of a pinky nail. Today I saw some and they had a brown tent instead of white.
Also those contractions started up last nite, 10-12 min apart, then stopped after about 2 hours. Very intense to where I couldn't bend over cause it hurt soo bad in my bum area.

what is your doctor concerned about? that activity will make your labour start?

staying active is good for physical and mental health.

I have pre-eclampsia. I was in the hospital for a week till It calmed down. He just doesn't want me going before 36-37 weeks.

I thought you were almost 37 weeks now.

Will be Thursday. I just kind of..say 1/2 of weeks lol. Like 36 1/2.
He told me not to walk much, cause my Bp will go up. I try to ignore it tho. Now that I'm close to. 37 weeks. But it causes bh from hell when I do walk

Had my 37 weeks apt. Had tons of bh. Bp is high but they are only watching it cause I'm only 2 weeks from induction. Baby is not as active but she did move. She's doing her breathing to. My nurse checked me. I'm 1cm if not more, and she can feel babies head. I was finger tip 2 weeks ago. But she said barely. She said I obv have been having contractions. So I got next week which will be week 38. I could be induced but it will depend on my Bp, fluid levels, and some other things. If all is ok, then I'll have just 2 more apts before I see our wittle girl!!!