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Hi all
My dd1 in the recent months have became a total attitude queen.
She hardly cried prior and now cries at everything.
Whinges at everything
Back chats at everything
Defies everything.
Please someone tell me its a phase because my temper and patience has just gone out the door!!!
I am struggling with the exact same thing.. Interested to see opinions..
How old is your DD? Mine is 6 turning 16!!
The faces and the back chat and the attitude is horrendous!
Looking for ideas as well, hopefully it's just a phase but it's making me dread her teenage years!!
Could have written the same post about my dd today! Can't really help you much but she is making all of us miserable with her yelling, crying and sooking. HOping is a phase to as she is normally or sweet happy girl.
My DS is 2 weeks from being 6 and I'm also coping a lot of attitude and "no I don't want too" to things he generally enjoys like showers, swimming etc
I have no idea what's going on but was hoping its just a stage I do pull him up on it and also use the " I'm not going to respond to you until you can talk nicely" when he is demanding things from me..
May we all hold hands and get through this horrendous stage together.
except for the part of not crying before, this is my 6yr old DD as well..
Hoping we get some relief before she then starts hitting the hormonal stage..
I have a 6 year old DD (almost 7) doing the same thing. And now my 5 year old DS is starting too. I have a feeling it's school which seems to set off the attitude change, since DD started with her horrid behaviours last year! Maybe they're realising we're not the be all and end all of their lives...I don't know, but it's not any fun that's for sure!
I am trying to mostly ignore things they say/do, but if it's something which is just an unacceptable behaviour (like DS is beginning to hit DD when he gets cranky with her, which he never used to do), I talk to them, tell them/ask them how it feels, ask their opinions of how it could have gone better, and expect that behaviour from then on. If they do the negative behavious again, I reiterate the expected behaviour and then they go to their room, or get privileges taken away.
It's nice to know that I'm not the only one!!
I'm also finding that she is trying to push boundaries and has started pulling faces when we tell her to do something or rolling her eyes!
Some of the things she has started doing sometimes shocks me so much that I have trouble responding!! Hahaha
I just keep thinking to myself "your so lucky I'm not like my mother ...because she would have smacked my butt so hard if i even thought about saying that to her" haha
Yep dd is same age, same attitude, same tantrums, same tears. Her cousin who is the same age is the same.
I know it's the age, phase thing. But seriously cannot wait for it to be over
Looks like there are lots of us in the same boat. My DD6 has gone from being pure and innocent to a little Miss know-it-all with double the attitude.
Regards,
Dianne
Oh gosh im so glad im not the only one!!
Sorry ladies you are going through the same.
My dd1 is turning 6 in 4 weeks.
I want my angel girl who hardly cried back!!!
Yes to the eyeball rolling and crossing arms and stomping hmmmmfps!!!
And yes i do think if i was my mum she would have gotten alot of smacks thats for sure!!!!
Even when i respond with do you want to go to the naughty corner? She will ask how long would i stay there for?!!
Haha we should start a support group!
Totally know what your talking about with the defiant responses..
E.g I told DD if she kept splashing people in the pool then she would be in a time out for ten minutes and she would have to get out and sit down on the stairs and she says "ten minutes isn't even a long time" (picture - ****y grin and one raised eyebrow, crossed arms) took all of my strength not to pick her up by her arm and drag her out of the pool and toss her into her bedroom!
Sometimes I'm amazed by the fact that I have managed not to ever have smacked her.. She's really testing my self restraint these days though!!
We have found that if can give her some independence her attitude improves even if it's just to have shower by herself or make her lunch. I think she finds it hard playing with dd2 and ds these days. I am trying to organise play dates too but somedays she just has to listen and do as we ask rather than kicking up such a fuss the. We wouldn't have to send her to her room for quiet time.
We have been trying to make My DD a little more independent like showing her how to make her own cereal, packing her school bag, dressing herself so that when baby comes in May she is a little more self sufficient and I think the change has come from this.. She thinks because she is doing "big girl" stuff that she can talk and act like a big girl.. Which is definitely not going to fly!!
I also think that the cartoons/Telly shows they watch are influencing their behaviors! I have found that she has progressed from baby cartoons to the older kids cartoons and every second show has some girl or groups of girls all with attitude! Might have to put a ban on!!
Dd1 is quite independent ie she would make her own brekky (cereal and pour milk) and entertains herself usually by making a mess in the toy room with all her craft stuff.
But when she wants to she throws in the line "you never help me mum" :(
Yeah I agree with the shows the ones supposed to be for this age group are appalling we are trying to find alternatives as they are full of bad attitudes and behaviour!
Can I join in here too? DS has come close to driving Mummy to tears and rocking back and forth in the corner this week.
He doesn't seem to be interested in independence, Ive tried getting him into his own bed, to shower alone, get breakfast, nope not interested.
I will ask him to do or not do something and he will do the opposite.
We're on another screen ban this week which helps some, but not a lot. *sigh* Mummy is at breaking point. :(
Welcome black cat! :)
I think at some point you have to just make them be independent! E.g They MUST sleep in their own room - he has to know that there is no other choice! If he comes out, take him straight back.
I told my DD she had to learn to make her own breakfast but she didn't want to- insert argument- every.single.morning.. Until I just said if you want to eat breakfast then you make it or else go hungry - I'm not arguing with you over YOUR breakfast!! Haha.
It's so hard not to just tear your hair out in frustration!
We try the no tv/ computers or wii but I find she drives me even more crazy!! Today we got her to lock herself away and use the computer for about an hour afterwards she was much calmer. Don't like letting her use it for too long or watch tv but it does seem to work.
I've had this argument for 5 and a half years, we will be doing it until 6 am, I know because we've done it before, and not just one night but we tried consistently. It sounds simple in theory, but ds and what I presume is separation anxiety won't have a bar of it, and when your the only one around and still have to work and function everyday. *shrug* yep I created a little monster. *sigh*:
Hmm sticky situation! Have you tried putting him in a separate bed but in the same room? Does he have to tv in his room? I know this sounds bad but we managed to get our DD to her own bed by getting her to watch a movie in her bed of a night, and then she would always just doze off and when she woke
up and tried to get in bed with us it was much easier to take her back (half asleep) to her own bed and lay with her for a little while until she dozed off again and then head back to bed ourselves.. We found it was a lot easier to wean her off bedtime movies then it was to just get her into a bed cold turkey... We now use bedtime movies as a reward or a treat.. Thankfully she adapted quite well so we didn't have too many dramas.. You could also think about audio books.. You can get some really cool ones and the kids love just laying in bed listening or watching..
I guess you have to just try everything. A very good friend of mine had the same issue with her son.. He just would not under any circumstance sleep in his own bed and then something must have happened at school and his friends found out he still sleeps with mummy and from then on he wanted to sleep in his own bed! Haha children are strange little creatures! Haha
My DD is 6 and she is the same too - sulky, stroppy when she doesn't get her way, talking back, etc...
I have started telling her that no matter the situation it is never okay to be rude or stroppy to anyone and I refuse to talk to her until she starts acting and talking respectfully. This way I leave the room (and let her know why) before I get too angry. It seems to be daily occurence though...
Today I have my sweet happy dd back hoping it lasts for a while!
I should add my 4 yr old DD behaves like this too. I hope both my 4 yr old and my 6 yr old are over it soon. My patients are REALLY being tested at the moment.
Haha it's very trying!
I wish they would just chuck normal tantrums - I can deal with those! It's the snarky looks and the defiant attitude that really gets my blood boiling!
Same here! The extra rude and ungrateness too and just general brat attitude!!! And rolling eyes!!!!!!:
Hahaha yes!! The eye rolling!! My DD does this thing where she half closes her eyes tilts her head back and looks down her nose at me! It's just the most "whatever" look!!