Our baby has died

We went for our 12 week scan today and right away I could tell something was wrong - there was a blob instead of the disco dancing baby I remember from my previous 12 week pg scans.

Despite pg symptoms continuing and an enlarging tummy (and uterus) the baby died around 7 weeks.

Now I have to have a d & c.

This baby wasn't originally planned, and DH & I viewed it initially as a disaster, but now I am sad - had got used to the idea, and was actually quite excited. We had told a few people too - now we have to tell them the bad news.

Oh Sally, that is sad news and I know just how you feel except my symptoms had disappeared just before the ultrasound. I hope all goes well with your operation and recovery.

The girls on BB are so supportive and please pop in to the TTC after miscarriage and loss forum whenever you are ready.

xx

Sally, I'm so sorry to hear your terrible news. Sending our love and support to you and your family right now. I'll be thinking of you over the next few days (while you are having the D&C) and will light a candle for your little one.
xxx
Marydean

Sally so sorry about your loss.. I to had pg symptoms and growing tummy and my baby died at 8 weeks.. Huge hugs... We are always here if you need to talk...

I'm very sorry for your loss Sally

Sally, I am so very sorry for you loss, my heart goes out to you and your family. :hugs:

I said it in another forum, but once again, I'm so sorry for your loss

Sally,

I am terribly sorry to hear of your loss. Please take care of yourself.

I'm sorry Sally that this has happened to you :(

Sally, I am so sorry sweetie, take care hun.

Luv Spring :hugs:

Sorry to hear of your loss.:pray:

So sorry to hear of your sad news

Dear Sally, I'm very sorry that your baby has died. I will be thinking of you over the next few days as you have & recover from the D&C. HUGS.

Sally I am so sorry for your loss. Take care :hugs: I will be thinking of you and your family.

Sally, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby. Very sad news. Sending you lots of *hugs* and thinking of you. :(

Sorry for your loss.....my thoughts are with you and your DH.

i suppose you are numb right now, what an absolute blow.

Hope you are around lovely people who can hug you tight, like us on belly belly would love to do if we were with you now.

keep talking about it, your grief is real.

Thanks everyone. I am going for my D & C tomorrow. Still feel shocked. I didn't expect to feel this sad. DH has agreed we will ttc after AF comes. This pg had been a shock, but the idea grew on us.

Oh Sally. I am so sorry for your loss sweety. Your little angel baby will always be with you and close to your heart. Take care of yourself during this time.

Hugs,
Lisa

Sally,
I am very sorry for the passing of your baby. Big hugs as you navigate this sad time... :hug:

I am so sorry for your lost I had a miscarriage Janurary 3,2007 and had an D&C feburary 27,2007. I want to try again but my doctor is telling me to wait three months and I dont want to. I am upset with what happen and part of me is hurting I'm sad and then happy and then angry especially when I see other people pregnant. It took eight years to get pregnant I can't believe this has happen. I will always think of my baby I was 20 weeks even though I didn't have no ideal I was pregnant.

Im so sorry Sally. I will be thinking of you tommorow. I hope everything goes okay. Take care XOXOX

I am so sorry for your loss. It must be a horrible thing to go through. My thoughts are with you :(

:grouphug:
hey gorgeous one
thoughts are with you, I know today was hard for you

Thinking of you!!!!!
Sending lots of love
Schaz

Sally, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sally , i am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Grieve and cry as much as you need to.

Take care ...

Cindy

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

Hi Sally,

I hope you are Ok. I am really upset to hear about your loss. Its heart wrenching. Lots and lots of love needed right now!!!

xoxoxoxo Gina

Hugs to you Sally. I am so very sorry to hear of your loss

My thoughts are with you *biggest comfort hugs*

sally , im sorry to here about your loss i can understand what you are going threw i lost my baby on xmas day last year i was only 9 weeks . maybe you can try again later i know thats the last thing on your mind at the moment it took me 3 months to get over the loss then i found out today that im pregnant again touch wood that i hope everything goes well this time! i wish you luck for the future

Dear Sally,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :( - my thoughts are with you and hope for recovery after ur D & C. xx

Sally - Big Hugs to you and your DH. My thoughts are with you both at this tough time.

Sally, i'm so sorry for your loss same thing happened to me back in Dec, just be strong i know its hard but i found it so hard and didnt want to anything, the d & c for me was tough but just be strong within yourself and you will be fine. It will be over before you know it. I am here for you if you need, and don't forget that there is always time to try again. Love ya lots

Sat here in tears, reading all the earlier replies. So very sorry to hear that so many people are going through the same heartbreaking agony as me, but taking lots of comfort (well, not comfort exactly but you know what I mean) from knowing I am not alone.
Lost our little one last August, had a scan at 11 weeks and all was well, then started with back pain and cramps one morning at 16 weeks, waters broke and the inevitable happened. Heartbreaking day, hated having to say goodbye, I have no idea at all how we got through it. They think the baby died at around 12 weeks.
Pregnant again by Christmas, went for Nuchal Fold scan on Tuesday at 13w 2d and my biggest worry was whether or not it could be twins as they are on both sides :pray:
Nothing but nothing could have prepared me for being told they couldn't find a heartbeat and that my much much wanted little one had been lost a week or so before. Why, why, why??
How many stupid thoughts went through my head: baby's asleep, machine was malfunctioning, they've just got it wrong.
But I know they haven't because now my symptoms are going away and, by Monday, so will my hopes and dreams- again.
I know a D&C is no big deal (been there before), I know it's the best way to avoid infection and has the biggest chance of quickest recovery afterwards, so why do I still not want to go the hospital? Why can't they have got it wrong??
Big, big hugs to all those going (or have gone) through the same thing - keep your chins up and (if it is right for you) try again, I know we will - you have to believe that it will be okay (although right now I know I will be scared as hell)
Thanks so much for listening, so glad I found this site :clap: