I don't know but suspect... help?

I'm sorry if I'm out of place posting this here, but I thought with so many people here who have been mothers, or are expecting, that maybe I could get some help...

I'm 25 years old and have never been pregnant... I am a person who has very deranged menstrual cycles however, in that mine come tri-weekly, rather than monthly. I have a two week break, then a period, then a two week break, then a period, I've been like this since I was about 16...

Anyway, enough about that particular side of it.

I realised very recently that I've been through the entire month of April without having a period. I don't actually REMEMBER when my last period was, since I'm one of those lazy people who don't actually keep track of the date of my menstrual cycle, but it was at LEAST six weeks ago as far as I can tell. Nobody in the household can remember either (why would they know? Because I ***** chronically when I have my periods and scream with delight when they are over, I HATE them).

Anyway, for the past two weeks, I've been experiencing nausea that comes and goes (with only two actual bouts of throwing up, one was two weeks ago, the other was a couple of days ago). The nausea is accompanied by heavy and bad GAS, I am constantly belching, and often times when I belch, I feel as if I am going to throw up, but don't.

I'm constantly tired, last night I slept a full fourteen hours, and was woken up by my housemate this morning, and if they hadn't stood there and nagged me, I would very easily have gone BACK to sleep.

I feel bloated, in that I feel more fat and disgusting right now than I ever have in my life, EVER, despite not actually weighing anymore than I did two weeks ago, and I have slight back pain that has been bugging me on and off for a couple of days.

This evening I had some very light spotting, which I thought at first was a period, it was only very pale pink, and nothing actually came out onto a pad, but only when I wiped. This was gone within a few hours though, despite me having slight cramping to go with it.

Last week, my breasts felt weird. Not sore, like when I'm getting a period, but tingly and as though there were pins and needles in them. My nipples have also decided that they would like to spend much of their time poking out very erect to see whats going on around them, despite how hot or cold I am, it makes NO difference, they wanna stand up straight! In the past few days, my breasts have hurt slightly, as though I was going to get a period, because normally, for near on a week prior to my periods, but this has only been a few days, and it feels now as though the irritation has gone. I can touch them with no problems....

I HAVE done some of those home pregnancy tests, one brand called "Pregnosis" and another called "Imagine - One Step", the last test was last Monday morning, and the previous test was exactly a week before that in the middle of the day, because the test said it was okay to do it in the middle of the day (this was the same day I first had the mass bout of throwing up)...
Both have come up negative, but I am still experiencing all of the things I mentioned, and no sign of an actual period in sight...

I have a doctors appointment booked for next week and am going to try another home test tomorrow, but I am going nuts in the meantime. Everyone keeps saying to me "You could be pregnant" or "sounds like early pregnancy to me" and so many of my family members who have ever done home pregnancy tests say that they are so unreliable, they're not worth it. I do actually remember that when my sister first found out she was pregnant (from the doctor's blood test) she went home and did her left over home test (it came in a box of 2 tests) and it said she was negative, despite a doctor just telling her she was actually pregnant....

So, I don't know. Again, apologies if this is in the wrong place, or if things like this shouldn't even be on this website, but I need some help!

Firstly, I do think that what you're describing sounds ALOT like early pg symptoms - the tiredness, weird feelings in your belly, pink spotting (possibly implantation bleeding - where the embryo implants into the uterus) and the nausea etc. Also even though most tests say you can test at any time of the day, it is always best to use your first morning urine, and it is possible to get several negative results before getting a positive, depending on the amount of hormones your body is producing. I would definatley tests again, using the first morning urine and see how you go - if there is no change, definately see your DR, if you aren't pg, such a big change to your cycles could indicate another problem.

And no, you're not in the wrong place :)

Thank-you Sherie.
I plan on testing tomorrow morning with my first pee of the day and see what happens.


I am annoyed about having to wait until Thursday for my doctors appointment, but the female doctor is only in on Thursdays, and I don't feel comfortable with male doctors.

No worries. Just a thought, if you don't get a positive test before you go and see your Dr, it would help if you wrote out everything that has been going on, the way your cycles were previously and how they are now etc and everything you've been feeling, just incase you get nervous and forget half of what you want to say and it will be handy for her to try to pick up any other problems it could be if you aren't pg.

Yeah, I've done that already, and since my handwriting is really messy I typed it up and printed it out!!! It's a larger size font too (size 14) so she can read it.
I could have had an appointment on Friday just gone if I had not been so keen to see a female doctor only.
The nurse who booked the appointment said "all they're going to do is take your blood for the test anyway" but I still refused to see a man...

Male doctors make me reeeeeeally uncomfortable.

So, as soon as I woke up after a nice little 8 hour (I think, I didn't have a watch on before I went to bed, so don't know what time it was I woke up) sleep... I went to the toilet, totally busting to go. Popped out some vibrant yellow urine into the clear plastic tubby my test provided me with, stuck my little stick through the foam thingy, popped that into the urine and waited 6 and a half minutes. It says check between 5 and 10 minutes.

And again, it came back negative... This is really really annoying me! I am at a loss for anything that could be causing delayed periods other than being pregnant...

:confused:

Are you stressed at all? That could cause delay in your period.
But still i know some people have gone as far as 9 weeks pregnant without getting a positive test.
Hopefully youre doctor can find out through a blood test or something what is up. Yeh i prefer a female doctor too for those girly things.
All the best :)

I don't think I'm particularly stressed out at all, I mean, I have financial difficulties at the moment, but I don't honestly think I stress about such things...

I'm actually pretty blase` about most things in life.

It turns out I am quite possibly not pregnant. My periods came this morning, along with a heavy, but not too paintful dose of period cramps.
It's much too bloody and the same as always to simply be early pregnancy bleeding I think, so I take this as an "I'm not pregnant" and I guess... I will go and cry about it somewhere.

Hi i was just reading your posts my heart goes out to you after all that they Arrive life can be cruel some times.
are you TTC at the moment , if you are good luck and let us know how you are getting on
Just watch out now for heavier flow than normal or if there is a lot of clots and pain i still think its worth going to the doctor and explaining all thats happened. she will probably be able to shed some light on what might of happened, plus check nothing else is going on.

hope you feeling better soon Niamh:D

well, in comparison to every other period I've had, this one has been very painful, as a general rule, I don't really get period pain... I'm wearing one of those huge, fat, ugly pads for old ladies, a Tena Pad or whatever they're called, because thats the only thing large enough to absorb the amount of flow coming out, and yesterday in particular it was VERY clotty, there was one occasion I completely flipped out, I went to wipe after going to the toilet to do number 2's, and I always put my hand under from the front, and a great big black glob of jelly like clotting came out of me and landed on my hand... it was so gross, I thought it was kind of scary
... but does that mean anything?

Natalia sweety,

It is possible that you have had an early miscarriage, that happened with my last pg, I had no period but had pg symptoms and the home tests all came up negative - even two weeks after my period was due. I had a blood test and it confirmed pregnancy but the levels were too low for it to be a viable pregnancy. I got a real heavy period, as you are describing, with lots of clots about a week later (3 wks late). My dr said it was an early miscarriage and I had to have an ultrasound after the bleeding stopped to make sure there was no pg tissue left in my uterus.

I hope this isnt the case for you and that you are just having a bad period, but go and see your gp and explain the clotting and lack of period til now along with all your symptoms and request a blood test to be sure there is nothing sinister going on.

Hugs and best wishes,
lisa

Natalia
My heart goes out to you, is is never easy to lose something that was so loved and wanted dispite only having it a few weeks and never knowing if it was true untill it was too late.
I came across from your other thread, and now have more of your story. I'm concerned for you. I'm am emergency nurse and have seen many things and have learnt alot in my 7 years there. I can't help but be concerned and want to offer my proffessional advice.

You sould follow up on the GP appointment and request to get your cycles checked out, and make sure you are of good health, you could also ask for pre-conception blood tests, to check your immunisation status and blood levels. I would assume she would take blood to confirm PG ( so they should be able to check for blood chemistry, check for anaemia etc...)and perform an internal exam. They might not be able to check hormone levels at this point as they might be all over the place if PG and M/C had occured. Then 3 months before TTC you should start taking pregnancy vitamin tablets. If you require and immunisation booster you might also have to wait 3 months before TTC.

You need to be of healthy body and mind before embarking on motherhood.

When I was 25 and had been in 2x(3 year relationships) both of which I hoped was the one at the time, I had strong desires to have children have children with both these men (luckliy I did not) as I have finally found my knight and we are now TTC #1. My point is rather than missing out on what you don't have, look forward to something you might have in the future. You are still young.

You are 25, and have your whole life ahead of you, the average age of marriage for females is 28 and many ppl are still waiting for that committed relationship before making a move into parenthood. Accidents happen sometimes and many women decide to go it alone, which is a very couragious choice and more power to them.

You need to work on your own happiness, goals, and find some fulfilment in your life at present, find support groups (like this one), friends, family, professionals if required.
Your desire to have children might be so strong because you feel there is something missing from your life. I have a friend who lost her Mum at age 12, her Dad found a new girlfriend shortly after and was never home, along with other problems. She ended up being a wild child in her teens, was then diagnosed with depression after a couple of suicide attempts. She didn't have much family support always expressed her desire to have children, saying she would go it alone. She had a couple of M/C in her teens. Luckily she found her support, gained control of her life and embarked on her chosen path, with the love and support of her husband. 10 years later they are still together and have 3 beautiful children.

Sorry this has been more like a lecture. I hope you find the answers to you delimas. I hope I can offer you some support.

Take Care

My mum actually passed away in 2003, she was only 50, after battling cancer for a few years, it finally attacked her brain really hugely and she couldn't have more chemo because it was just not making her any better and the doctor said "when its not working, you have to make the choice to keep paying lots of money for it, when its not working, or let it go" and mum chose to let it go, which sucked, I miss her all the time.

My mum loved children, and would have been thrilled for me to have a baby.

My dad has a girlfriend now, that he got about a year after my mother died, she is foreign, a total alcoholic and weirdo, and yeah, he was never home much, but she's a weirdo, I was still living with my dad after mum died and he got the new girlfriend and she was so annoying and nasty that I actually moved out of home to get away from her because I felt as if one day I would punch her in the face.

Today I was walking in our local community center, where they sell second hand goods and furniture and stuff, and there was this beautiful little baby capsule for in the car, lined with white fluffy sheep wool and it had some other things to go with it, like little covers and blankets, and one of the blankets looked just like my own blanket I had as a baby and I ended up having to hide in a corner because I was crying.

I've actually had something similiar to this weird thing happen to me once before... I actually hadn't had a period in TWO months, the first time around, and when my periods finally came, at least, thats what I thought they were, I mean, I had no idea or thought at the time that I might have been pregnant, it didn't even cross my mind, but I remember when I was bleeding, I was in SO much pain I was doubled up on the floor and couldn't move. It was about 9 months after my mum had died, and my sister was at our place and my dad, but neither of them even cared that I was so bad I couldn't move. I bled so much that when I stood up to go to the bathroom, blood would trail all over the floor. Nobody noticed.

This time there is lots of clotting, and pain that isn't badly constant... its bad enough I have to keep lying down and hoping it will go away, but its nothing like that one time before. The clotting is disgusting however, and today I've been feeling really physically ill, belching a lot and feeling like I'm going to vomit (which is saying a lot for me, since I tend to have to be ten times more sick in the stomach than most people to even feel nausea, I have a stomach like iron... I can eat or do anything and not get queasy, where others would be violently ill.

I wish I had just booked in to see a male doctor, despite how uncomfortable it would have made me, because then I could have gone into the doctors office TODAY and not had to wait until Thursday.

You have the right to attend and Emergency Department and can request a Female doctor if you think the bleeding is abnormally heavy or have unusually bad pains esp considering you could be M/C. You might be ok if your bleeding is not too heavy and bleeding begins to subside, but seek help if your pain increases or if the bleeding becomes heavy and you are passing alot of clots, fevers of just a feeling of things not being right.

If I had been chatting to you online 10 years ago I could have mistaken your story for my friend. Your storys is so similar.

I still think you should have you cycle checked out, have tests etc.... it will give you some peace of mind regarding your fertility, no man required. Don't let any doctor try and persude you other wise, any thoughts of TTC should not a factor for the doctor. Just insist that you want a medical explanation for you irregualr/frequent AF.

Having a baby may not fill the void, the thought of having a child who will love you unconditionally is a tempting offer when you feel there is very few who can offer you those feelings. You have to consider what you do carefully as things could easily go pear shaped.
I suggest you focus on your health and happiness, and hopefully everything will just fall into place. There is only one thing better than having a healthy baby and that is to be happy and healthy and loving relationship with her father.
I'm sure one day you will have your Kathleen, she will be here when you are ready for her. Be patient, I know waiting is hard, but the wait will be worth it.

Take care and live in hope

Charlotte

:grouphug: just wanted to send you a big hug.

thank-you everyone!!!

I went to my doctor yesterday, and I guess I can be lucky to say that I at least wasn't pregnant in the first place (this was according to the emergency room doctor that I went to see anyway), he reckoned it was just an extremely late period, hence all the cramping and clotting and heavy bleeding...

So, I suppose yeah, at least it wasn't a miscarriage or something, which would be nasty.

Hi Natalia,

How are you going? Hope the bleeding has stopped now.

I see you are from Morisset, I have just moved from that area 2 weeks ago.It's a shame i didn't see you on BB earlier as i would of loved to of caught up with you.

Take care Leah

The bleeding finally stopped on Saturday... thank-you

Wow, someone else on here lived in Morisset... do you still live on the Central Coast, or somewhere else now?