Who would you have if....

...you couldnt have your hubby/partner with you during labour?

My hubby is going to be there, but was hoping mum would be too... but has since peeved me off ( https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...57#post745757).

Aside from Aaron (of course) I have the best birthing team set up for my next birth - Cailin & Kelly :D As long as they're still happy to be here for it!

For two of my births I had Steve (a given) with my mum for the first one and my sister for the second one. The women in my life were priceless especially because they had been through labour before and just knew how to support me without me even asking. Steve just kind of did all the wrong things (poor guy).

Lynnette x

For my first I had my older sister & Mum, for second I had DH & Mum & for this one, is DH, Mum & Aunt!

My mum. She has been there for the births of all my children, with the exception of Noah as he was a c section. But she was outside the theatre waiting.

There is no way that I could even consider birthing my babies without her right by my side. TBH, and I know this might sound mean, she plays a higher role than DP in labour and birth. She know's how it feels, and can be empathetic. I find the males in my life were of no real support to me in my births.

Kelly. She offered with Lexie, but Lexie was way way way too quick, LOL!

If neither of them, my best friend Marica. She is totally clueless with regard to anything maternal, however, she is the one person in this world aside from DH that I would trust implicitley with my life, my wellbeing and the wellbeing of my babies.........love you Marica........

Awwwwww guys *sniff sniff*!!!!

My husband and Kelly... same as last time

I need my husband there for obvious reasons, and Kelly was just amazing, calming me down when all i wanted to was run away from the hospital, and keeping me going when i just wanted to fall in a heap...

I would only want my DH - I don't think I would want anyone else in the room except the OB of course!

Awwww Yael you were a goddess hon, you did sooo good telling off that drip-happy midwife!!! I was so proud ;)

I would have Kelly or the friend who is a midwife who was there for Jovie's birth. I needed the support that DH wasn't able to give and the support to help vocalise my wishes during labour.

The thought of not having my husband there is terrifying (even though he's not much help). My second support person is my addoptive mother - she's very helpful.

Last time, my support person was running late and I asked my husband to hold the shower head on my lower back. Right in the middle of a contraction my husband bumped the tap and sprayed freezing cold water on me ... LOL

Well this is my first, I would have DH of course my mum and sister!! They seem to support me so well...

With My First I Had Partner And My Mum

With My Second I Had No One The Nurse Didn't Believe I Was In Labour (was 30wks And Had Been There 7wks With Broken Waters ) And Went To Get Ctg Machine By The Time She Got Back I Had Had Him It Scared The Poop Out Of Her I Didn't Even Know I Was In Labour Until I Needed To Push.

With My Third I Had My Partner It Was All Planned I Was Being Induced. When Pain Started He Wasn't Allowed Near Me All I Wanted Was The Midwife She New What I Wanted I Told The Poor Man To Shut Up About 300 Times

I'd say Kelly definitely. She helped us too achieve a wonderful VBAC.

You never really know how invaluable a birth attendant is until you have one.

*hugs*
Cailin

Cailin - I 100% agree.. i don't think i understood until we were actually in labour, and looking back what a difference a trained support person makes... My husband was there for emotional support that nobody else can provide, but doula's are in a league of their own.... And don't tell my husband, but if i had to choose between 1 or the other, Kelly helped me more to achieve the type of labour i wanted

Kim - maybe think about having a doula there, if you can't have your mum.. Doula's are very different to untrained support people, and also its good to have more than one so that when somebody needs to get somthing, you aren't left alone!

Kelly - you would think at the rate she was pushing the drip she was getting a commission from the drug company or something :) At least next time i'll have even more confidence to stand up the midwives!

I was only a trainee then too Yael!!! I have learnt a thing or two since then ;) hehehe!!! You guys are so sweet!

I guess I havent answered this thread too, unfortunately I have not been able to have a doula at my birth! OMG! But next time, years down the track, I plan to be at home, surrounded with beautiful people I love and are important to me, something I was not confident on having before. So I will have an independent midwife there (who wont leave the room!) and some very special people including a doula - I plan on the kids being there too so will be plenty to do! I also want to video the birth.

if i couldnt have my DH - i would prob consider going it alone. Firstly, because my mum lives in the Eastern states - and i think even if she was over here - she would still irriate me. Dont really have anyone here that i would feel comfortable having with me.

mum2bee - try Lisa Chalmers at Australian Doulas - she is an awesome chick ;)

Check out THIS on YouTube - 'What is a Doula?'

Thanks Kelly - I am 99.9999% sure that DH will be there - just really if there is an emergency situation.

It felt very sad admitting that you would rather go it alone, but, i suppose heaps of people do it.

My mum! or if my mum couldnt be there, then my sister.

I had my mum there and she was great cos DP didnt really know what to do!! but i think next time i will just have DP

Well I don't have a DH, just an D$ckHead... so I'd be asking Kelly again!

Unfortunately due to medical complications I had a c/s with Ned, otherwise Kel was there to help me along!

I would have a girlfriend/s who has given birth before.

Hmmmmm if no DH then maybe just me and the midwife or maybe my oldest friend who is a nurse but - has radically different ideas about birth and childrearing to me - so I would be a bit stuck if that happened to be honest.

My DH was almost going to be away for our DD's birth and I had a very dear friend lined up for any emergencies. If it was something I could plan ahead for - I would still have her! My DH's BF (and DD's Godfather) used to joke he wanted to deliver our babies (he's a doc) and now he's a surgeon he might very well be asked to deliver our next one! (most likely to be a c-sect after the events of DD's birth). But if I can have DH there - noone else gets a look in! He did a FANTASTIC job when I was in labour with DD.