getting my hopes up

:wall: i just can't help myself, why do we ttcers always get ourhopes up every month, only to set ourselves up for complete disappointed??!!

Have been feeling nauseaus on and off for last 2 days, goes away if i eat, but its prob happening casue im not eating enough food!

have had quite a bit of cm, its not ovulation cm im quite sure, and its not yucky cm like thrush, prob just my hormones playing up after coming off the pill last month.

am quite bloated, but its CD 23 so i should be bloated cause AF is nearly due to arrive.

I just hate that i get myself all excited about the smallest most ridiculous things, last time i got excited every month, then on the 14 th month ttc i gave up trying and when i got all the symptoms i just ignored them and thought there was no possible way i was pg, how wrong i was.

Does anyone else do this to themselves every month ttc, or is it just crazy old me??? Gosh i hope it doesn't take long this time.....

Oh Elissa it is not just you. Thank goodness it is not just me!
Every cramp, twinge in the bb, bloat, tingle in the belly - I am so guilty of over analysing.
I actually have a conspiracy theory that the HPT manufacturers put something in the water to make us think like this. I have wasted $$$$ pn HPTs because this just had to be the month and NO a BFP!!!
Since becoming a TTCer again, I have decided that every time AF arrives I am going SHOPPING or doing something else self indulgent (maybe a nice block of chocolate this month). That way if she does arrive I am not going to be disappointed because I get a little treat special for me!!!!
Whiteish creamy CM could be a good sign - or sorry am I overanalysing???!!!
Fingers crossed for the BFP, if not do something special for yourself.

TICKLISH

ME TOO! Its torture! I have seen so many BFN'sthat if I ever get a BFP I will frame the bloody thing.

It funny how many women get PG when they actually stop temping, charting, obsessing etc.

Ticklish I am with you there - I did that when AF arrived a couple of days ago, I opened a great bottle of wine and bought some yummy cheeses and spoilt myself rotten. Dammit I deserve it after the awful TWW!

You are not alone!!!!
I'm doing it right now! probably will get AF tomorrow but I am clinging to the hope that I won't. But I will.....
Hang in there......it's all you can do really.
Good luck!:)

Lol Elissa so so true! and we're only new at this.

Ticklish, that's a top idea, although ATM I'd be getting a treat every 10 days so maybe I'd better not pick food....

Since my miscarriage in March I have been convinced I'm pregnant every cycle. You would not believe the "symptoms" I've had..... nausea, dizziness, unquenchable thirst, sore bbs, blue veins on bbs, frequent urination..... the list goes on. I'm convinced I'm pg until I take a test a couple of days before AF is due and when it comes up negative I no longer think I am and the symptoms just go away.... clearly it's all in my head!!!!

I'm now determined not to test until I am late for AF or am throwing up. Those are my two rules. I hope I can keep to them but I bet I can't. The stupid thing is when I was pg I didn't get any of these symptoms until after I tested positive. The ones I did have early were tiredness & indigestion & I keep getting that in week 3 & 4 as well. It's completely hopeless.

ticklish - what a great idea to do something special for yourself every time AF arrives, i think i will start doing that too! thanks for the idea, hope you don't get any more special treats for about 9 months or so!

kim - lol at not picking food he he he, i am sitting here eating shortbread creams, mmm bet i eat the whole packet by tonight!

satya - sorry to hear about your m/c, i was the same after mine a few years ago. Its amazing what we can make up in our heads isn't it?!

Goodluck everyone here hoping we all get to pee on a lucky stick very soon!

Hi widdly, any news yet? Any special treats or a really special surprise?

I am hoping that I am not getting a special treat for a special reason but I still have another week wait at least to find out whether I get to eat chocolate - dark chocolate!!! My favourite.

ticklish - wow i feel very special that you thought of me, AF hasn't shown up i am now CD 30 but i am usually irregular so who knows. Had AF pains a few days leading up to CD28 but now i don't even feel premenstrual, if anything i am feeling WAY happier and more content than normal?????? Enjoy your chocolate this week, keeping my fingers crossed for a specail surprise for you next week....i am sitting here eating a block of cashew chocolate, mmmmmmm

I am so glad it is not just me.... reading through all the 'symptoms' and i talk my self into them all... but i also had a metalic taste in my mouth this month, different than before.

Satya - i am at the point i wish i would throw up just to show me that the nausea is real not made up.

M2F i am with you on the wine thing... that afternoon after AF i enjoy it with no guilt. (and i am also a mum to furbaby - a golden retriver princess:lol: )

I find it so frustrating, the nausea, sore bb, tiredness, and i feel that i am an intelligent gal and shouldn't be falling for what i know is phantom.. but there is always that glimer or hope... maybe this month they are not fake..

taurusa - it is so frustrting isn't it?! I had the metallic taste inmy mouth twice this month, never noticed it last pg though, so who knows, all we can do is wait and see. Are ur cycles regular? i am CD31 about the same as you but i have no idea what my cycles are like now as i just came off the pill last month. i had period cramps on and off last week, but now nothing and no AF, who the heck would know......Goodluck hoping you get that BFP this wekend!

My cycle is not yet regular. It is around 33 days, but still settling down. I was on the pill since 14 and have had an implanon for the last 4 years so my poor body doesn't know what is going on . I only have till around monday to wait for AF but who knows since i seemed to Ov later than 'supposed' to. Af not turning up sounds like good luck for you... :crossfingers:

taurusa - goodluck for tomorrow, hoping AF doen't turn up for you! I am CD33 and still nothing. been feeling nauseaus, tired and like im gonna pass out last night and today, Quarter Pounder tasted like water???, smelt something really weird at mums house that no one else could smell, been really hungry all the time and thirsty, very bloated, but this afternoon have had dull period pain on and off.............just keep waiting i spose, im sure its allin my head though, after taking 14 months last time, surely it wont happen first go!

Widdly - hope it all is right this month for you... all my getting hopes up were shattered yesterday, AF came. And i didn't tell hubby, but i REALLY thought i was Preg. I had so talked myself into it that i was shattered yesterday morning. WHY do we do this to ourselves? :cry:

taurusa - im so sorry AF turned up the nasty witch. the let down is really awful, and thats what i am really scared of atm. ttc is horrible, but thankfully the end product is totally worth it! Keep your chin up, and focus on next month!

Hi Everyone,

Yes i think it is just a female thing to always get your hopes up and be excited about these glimmers of feelings we beleive that we are experiencing.

I also have felt like i had CM from time of OV till now and i am 5 days overdue my AF. I have done the test myself and at the doctors. :bfn: i was told to come back on tuesday for another pee test and blood test. so i am very excited that they don't come and i have actually concieved the first time.

My DH told me don't go to the doctors just wait a month and see what happens is he for real !!!!! :wall: Does he actually understand what we go through?????

As this is my first time at everything i have no idea what i am waiting for, what symptoms to look out for and when they are supposed to come. I have just borrowed a few books so i can get a better idea.

:bluedust: for everyone this month

nadia - goodluck, im really hopping its a BFP for you this month. When i had DS we had been trying for 14months and thought it would never happen so we gave up, on that 14th month i tested when AF due and got BFN then a few days later i was feeling really tired and yuck so tested again and got a BFP, hope this is the case for you too! I agree it should be the 3 WW, i am a week overdue for AF now and still not game to test!

hi girls i thought that i was the only one feeling like this im glad im not it drives me insain that i get my hopes up then damn af arrives and you get all frusterated and upset then hope for the next month!! and the worst thing is that the men dont really give a damn how you feek when af arrives they just sit back and think next month will be right my dh thinks that his :sperm: are super :sperm:and that it will happen over night !! but they really dont know how long you have been trying or how upset you are when af arrives and then he askes what wrong why do they not get it it means the world for us women to be able to carry a child in you for so long and it is rthe best feeling that you could ever have any way hope everyone get a :bfp:
Sarah

hi sarah, hope u get ur BFP in no time! It is a really stressful and emotional time especially if it drags on for a year or more, thankfully the end product is worth it all though, it is hard when DH can't feel the same way you do, i guess we just have to remember that they are only men, they are on a completely different wave length to us women, they do their best to comfort us, i am sure it will happen for you soon, goodluck!

Elissa ~ hunny i never realised you were over due for AF i have absolutely ever thing i own crossed for you you know we are going to be egging you on to test now and either way we will be right by your side

shazz - thankyou so much for your support, it really means a lot to me, thanks. i did get up the courage to test tonight and got a BFN (of course,as if we would be clever enough to get pg that quickly!), so a bit bummed but not really bummed cause i want it to happen quickly, but bummed cause last time we ttc we were booked in for fertility tests, but didn't have them cause got BFP 2 weeks before appointment, so it is always in the back of my head that there very well could be a fertility issue there that we are unaware of. I guess what im trying to say is that i hate not knowing exactly what life has in store for us. I would be okay if i were told that Archie was gonna be an only child, then i would just get on with life and plan things with that in mind, but i hate the not knowing if or when we will have another bub. i am just terrible and starting to realise since having Archie that i do have some control issues that i never saw before! I need to keep reminding myself that the 'not knowing' in life is what makes it so exciting and special and that what will be will be whether i stress out or not.....so much easier said than done.

whoooaaa!!! sorry for that, i think i really needed to get all that out tonight, thanks again everyone for your support and friendship, we really do need each other during this stressfula nd exciting time.

Goodluck to everyone else who is in the TWW i have my fingers crossed for you all!!

thanks widdly dh is good support but just like you sasid they are on a diff leval fingers crossed for :bfp: i didnt realise that you testing either good luck!!

wow i think you did need to get all that out
sorry to hear bout the bfn:cry::hug:for you it sux when you are looking at it and one 1 line shows up im here if you need some one to talk to sorry once again
fingers crossed for next month thinking of you
sarah

Elissa ~ hunny i'm sorry you got a Bfn this time round i'm sending every prayer and baby dust your way for this next try and like i said we are right there with all the way :hugs:

Sarah - I think there are lots of us around who feel like this, but i was never aware until this site.
Elissa - Have a wine and enjoy it while you can ;)

I spent about an hour reading the herbal remedy strand yesterday and have got what feels like 1million tablets to take every day. Hopefully these regulate my cycle and give me that little edge i am needing. They have also made me feel a little happier after AF as i feel i am doing more to help. Check it out if you get a chance.

sarah - thankyou for the support, i still have my fingers crossed for you!!

shazz - thanks again, you are a beautiful person.

taurusa - had a giggle about just enjoying the wine while i can, that is a great way to look at it! i might just check out that herbal remedies thread, thanks, i hpe your getting yourself all warmed up for DTD in a couple of weeks!!!

hi girls how are you all this morning i hopoe that you are feeling a little better widdly the wine always helps i think lol

taurusa i know sometime yofeel like you are the only one but look on the bright side it takes time and it will happen when it is ment to just wish sooner than later would be good

:bluedust: to everyone
talk soon sarah

Hi Widdly
How are you going? Sorry about the BFN.
Me, I am expecting AF today or sometime in the next five days. I am irregular like you, so really frustrating! I thought I'd be getting my chocolate treat today - might have to wait until Monday!!
PS. My DS is just one month older than yours.
TICKLISH