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Mine cries for 1-2 hrs each morning and 3-4 hrs each afternoon/evening. I am so over it :cry: Nothing I do makes any difference. I don't have any ability to 'read' what he wants. It's a total mystery to me what he wants when he cries.
How long do your babies cry for? Maybe I'm just being unrealistic, but this amount of crying is not what I anticipated.
Thats how I felt with Milo - I could never have the magic ability to distinguish one cry from another.
Is he crying non-stop for that amount of time, or just unsettled and crying in that period of time?
Milo used to cry and feed pretty much every evening ofr 3 or more hours.
He also got a lot of wind, so I used to hold him upright a lot.
Sorry if this is no help at all, but just wanted you to know that your situation is not uncommon. :)
Cherie
Ashley can cry up to 1 hour after each night time feed.
Usually she stops during the day if picked up and held after say 10 minutes now.
When Annika was that age, she used to cry pretty much from the moment she woke up until the moment she went to sleep. We had heaps of tests done on her, but all that was discovered was that she had severe reflux and colic. Only a few weeks ago, we took Annika to a chiropractor even though she was slowly getting better, but since then the visits have been working wonders. I would really recommend them. Hope things get better soon. I know it's hard work, so make sure you put your feet up and have some 'me' time too.
Cherie - Oscar is *usually* settled in the morning but the evenings he can cry for 1-5 hours depending on the day. He just seems to be unsettled with no real reason. I have fed (and fed, and fed, and fed) him, changed him, cuddled him etc but nothing much seems to work. He loves the bath and stops crying when he is in there but then cries when he is taken out because it is cold (even with a heater on). Occasionally he is blissed out after this but last night he just kept crying. The HAB helps immensely and I can usually get him to nap (plus make it dark and cozy for him) for a little while but even that isn't always successful :dunno:
Probably not much help but you aren't alone in having ho idea about what they want. I am waiting for the instruction booklet to come in the mail .......
Hi!
Cherie I would take him to the dr to get checked over...I would imagine he should be starting to settle now that he's getting a bit bigger...You definitely want to find out if he's crying in pain....Big hugs though - there's nothing worse than bubbas crying for ages and not being able to fix it!!!
Cherie do you think it might be the reflux causing him pain? Zander was very similar, so I hear ya hun, it's dreadful.
I thought I was the only one who couldn't really distinguish between cries. I've researched and listened to all the "words" and I still can't tell the difference. Blake was crying all day everyday until we changed him to Goat's milk formula (obviously not an option as you're breastfeeding).
Sorry can't be of much help just wanted to let you know I know where you're coming from!!
Both my kids were newborn criers. With Paris I thought it was all my fault. With Seth I realised it was his way of communicating how he feels and heck I talk alot so why shouldn't he. I could tell the difference between wind, pain, hungry and just letting it all out (which he'd do often). I think some babies are just more vocal than others and whilst it does our head in its ok.
*hugs*
Cailin
Aww Sherie you poor thing, it must be awful. I could never really distinguish between cries either, just used to stick them on the boob lol. Id prob want to get him checked over like Kristie has suggested just to rule out any probs, Ive never had any criers so im sorry i cant really help. Hugs to you
Jo
We get about 3 hours a night here, and he has a half hour morning cry just before his morning sleep. He gets hysterical in the mornings and I can't do a thing to settle him, and have just come to accept for whatever reason, it's something he must do before his only sleep of the day. Like clockwork he starts crying at 9:30am and falls asleep at 10am, then wakes at 11am. I just like next to him on my bed and pat him.
In the evening he grizzles starting at 5pm (haha he's starting now as I type). Sometimes pacing with him helps, sometimes my HAB, sometimes the rocking chair, sometimes booby, but he settles eventually at around 8-9pm. My older kids both were very unsettled that time of day when they were babies as well, so I just always thought it was normal in a way. I think he's overtired due to only ever having a 1 hr sleep in the day and also over stimulated because kids and dad are home that time, and mum's running round cooking and cleaning and getting lunches for the next day and lots of action going on.
:hug: One thing I know from experience, is that it does get better as they get older. Hang in there xo.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who can't distinguish cries (or gets a few hours of crying a night!) ... I read people saying all the time that they can tell what their bubba wants. I can't! I just start with trying booby ... then changing nappy ... then cuddles/burps ... then tear my hair because I've got no idea what else could be wrong.
I do think his reflux gets worse in the afternoon - he definitely vomits more and arches his back more, but I'm not sure why it would be worse (maybe the meds I give him in the morning wear off by then). We are seeing a paed regularly, and seeing her again on 3rd August ... she does know about his crying and if things haven't improved by next appt she is going to look into food intolerances.
You'll get there hun, it's something we all go through as mummies & then one day you suddenly realise he's nearly one & you somehow muddled through for an entire year!
I just want to explain myself hun ;) I could distinguish enough to know when it was crying over a certain period of time and I'd checked everything off the list I knew he was just having some cry time LOL! I hope I didn't sound bad...
*mwa*
Cailin
I am jumping in here. so please don't axe me about the following - just my opinion - it made sense to me:dunno:
I read (internet?!? - I'll try and find it again and post it later) that there were studies done on babies cries - heck how do I explain it - there is not a difference between crying (Pain I think is the exception on the rule. That any idiot can tell) But apparently babies cry the same for everything else. Say example that she has wind, she wil cry at the same tone(?) than she would cry if she were overstimulated, if her diper was wet, if she was teething ect. So in other words, you are not really suppose to make out a difference in cries. Its just that the longer you have your child, the better you can guess what is wrong. So if she has not had something to drink in four hours and she starts crying, you will guess that she's hungry. If she drinks/eat someting and she stops, your right, but if she keeps on crying you guess diper. You change diper, she keeps crying, you try something different.
This sounds horrible - I do not explain things well. But any-hoo, it help me, because I aslo did not instictivly know what she was crying about and everybody told me that later I would learn what her differnt cries means. (WHAT!?!) I still don't know most of the time, I am always guessing what's wrong or what is bothering her.
I think that mothers that distinguish between "different" cries are - like me - good guessers
Hi Cherie,
Sorry you're having a hard time with Jambin's crying... i'm not sure if i'm way off, as i don't have my girl yet and don't know what it's really like to have a poor little crying bub, but have u taken him to an osteopath?
Ok I understood the half truth
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/s...toryId=5716366
"The other cry in the newborn cryfolio, the basic cry, is used for everything else. It is most typically heard when the baby is hungry, which is why it is often called the hunger cry. It is the same cry the baby uses when his diaper is dirty or for any other nonemergency issue. The basic cry has a more gradual buildup and a lower pitch. It does not have the long periods of breath-holding or the frantic, emergency quality of the pain cry. That's why mothers hearing that cry will often say "Oh, she's just hungry," or "She just wants to be picked up." They are fairly nonchalant about it, and that's fine."
DD was usually ok in the mornings but cried for 2 hours every evening no matter what i did, sometimes longer. I figured, as Cailin did, that she was chatty like me, and also like me she found the days too exciting and winding down really hard. She grew out of it by about 4 1/2 months i think.
I still have no idea what she wants half the time and she can TALK! Well, gabble, but still... She knows i'm trying, i know she's trying, we do our best ;)
Nadine - that makes total sense!!
It help that I dont feel so totally daft about not knowing exactly what Lelani need. I guess and take all the credit when DH tells me what a good mom I am!!:redface:
Oh Cherie sweet pea...........Olivia screamed and cried pretty much constantly for the first few months. If she was awake, she was screaming. I had NFI, and as for the interpretting the cries.....totally ambiguous to me!
As Bec mentioned about her DD:So did Olivia. At about 4 months it was as if something unkinked in her system, and she just stopped screeching all the time and was a placid happy little lady..........but let me tell you, those first few months were foul.:
She grew out of it by about 4 1/2 months i think.
I can remember saying to DH as I cried my eyes out "Where is the joy in this????"
Those first few months seemed like an age of confusion, but we got through it.
I can offer no solutions to you sadly.......I just send cyber hugs and the hope that things smooth out sooner rather than later. And remember: NO MUUMY GUILT! You are doing a brilliant job!
Ditto what Lucy said! Definitely no mummy guilt. I think my first post came out all wrong in that with Paris it stressed me out every single time she cried. With Seth it only stressed me out for a few days and I realised that perhaps this was the way my kids were wired. They both had reflux but it was manageable. What I meant by I could tell what their cries were is exactly like Nadine mentioned, when there is pain or sickness you know.
I actually feel slightly heartless because with Seth I wasn't so worried when he cried and I knew all his needs were met, I'd just cuddle him or rock him or whatever and tried not to expect there to be some magic fix so I found it was a lot easier to deal with, oh and try and share the love LOL so that I would get breathing time ;)
*smooch*
Cailin
Me too.........Lexie was crying this afternoon and I kind of thought "Oh sweets, you'll be right......." (Then I realised she has cut her first little ivory and I feel so norti for not being a bit more empathetic!):
I actually feel slightly heartless because with Seth I wasn't so worried when he cried
DS was like this... it's weird, he sort of tailed off. I didn't really notice it until I read this post! He's still a bit grumpy in the evenings, but I can calm him now. He isn't after anything apart from me singing and dancing him around the kitchen, or just shaking a rattle while I eat (just shaking it, doesn't have to be in his face or me holding him). He loves dancing and me screaming KISSES! before I kiss him, or singing the "Mummy loves Liebling" song. But that took a while to find out! If all else fails I just strip his clothes off, he loves being naked.
Now he can talk a bit I can start to figure out what his little words mean (DH keeps asking me what ggggggguh means, I think it's a "I'm fairly content but starting to be bored" message but really it could be anything!) and that helps (a little bit; DS has to know what he wants too!), but different screams? Nah. DH claims he could tell the difference, but he said they were for feeding just so I'd take him back LOL.
Anyway, you're not alone. It does tail off eventually. I hope your laddie calms down for you very soon.
Hi Cherie! I know what it's like...my bubba cried basically all day and night except when he was on the boob till he was around 4 months old when we finally got him onto reflux medication... Actually he never really cried, he just screamed... These days he rarely cries or screams though which is AMAZING! I know other babies who have hardly cried in their 10 months of life yet though...they're all so different...
Oh good!! There's hope yet *hanging out for 4 1/2 months*
Cai -what you said didn't sound bad at all sweets :hug:
Jesse would cry for about 3 hours most evenings until he was about 4 months old or so. We tried everything and nothing worked for him. In the end DH would just sit with him and let him cry. He would then fall asleep. Now he hardly cries unless he falls or does something silly like that. Hope your bubs grows out of it soon.