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Hi All,
I have a wedding one hour away 11 days before my due date. Will I be wanting to be that far away for home and out late at night that far along? I already find it hard out late at night (after 10pm is late these days) and I'm only 28 weeks.
when did others put a stop to social outings? Weddings are hard as you have to RSVP so far in advance.
thanks for any comments.
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I would possibly make an exception for a special wedding - if you think you'd like to go I would say yes and I'm sure they would understand, though, if you changed your mind at the last minute and couldn't go as pregnant mums have an absolute right to put themselves and their baby first.
I am just beyond 29 weeks and am avoiding most social commitments now as its just too tiring, especially if there is lots of standing around, crowds etc
Thanks Berry. It is not a special wedding as it is a family friend on my DH and I haven't seen her since my wedding nearly 3 years ago. I would definitely go for a close friend and try and last the night. I get a bit nervous being that far from home, especially so close.
I've had the same problem Stillhoping...we were invited to my DH cousin's wedding which was almost 2 hours away when I was 36 weeks pregnant. We didn't attend (looking back now, we could have b/c I still am pregnant!) but at the time (and still now) it is just so tiring with all the standing, especially in this cold weather.
We were planning on going to a big birthday bash (which turned out to be a wedding lol) about a week or week and a hlf before my daughters due date. It was barefoot lawn bowls (perfect for my fat pregnant feet!!).... I had every intention of going however didnt end up getting there as my daughter decided that day was going to be her birthday! Anyhow, I was feeling quite good at that time - i wasnt feeling too tired or huge or anything like that, so I thought we'd be fine to go (at least for part of it) and since it was my first baby, i figured that we'd have plenty of time to get back home and to the hospital before I gave birth if I went into labour there.. to be honest though the thought didnt even enter my mind that I might go into labour that day as hubby had kept on telling me she was going to be born later than her due date. I didnt stop going to social outings at all. I still went but just left early sometimes.
If it was a good friend or a family member then I would try to be there, but it is hard with the RSVPing and stuff. Its hard to know how you'll be feeling that far in advance too.I'm sure your friend would understand though if you couldnt go.
I'm actually supposed to go to an Opera three days after my EDD. I subscribed last year before I was pg. Know that most bubs don't turn up on EDD (and this being my first may go over a week or more after) but haven't decided if I will risk it. If I do go and happen to go into labour the hospital is only a few minutes away.
I was more inclined with my first pregnancy to make it to social occasions to be polite, and at times found myself feeling faint while standing around feeling tired out. Now onto my third pregnancy I don't mind turning down invitations if I am in any way uncomfortable going. Hubby and I are home-bodies anyway and jump at the chance to spend weekends at home with our little family.
Is it feasible to maybe just go for the wedding, rather than the whole night? I guess it's still a couple of hours of driving, but it can be nice to get out of the house while you still can - from what I hear the first few weeks after bubs arrives can see you pretty much housebound..
I'd be reluctant to say yes to the RSVP & then not turn up, just because weddings can cost so much per head, & they might have a couple of other people who weren't on the first list that could be invited instead, and that way you won't feel bad.
Good luck with it all
Could you send your DH? I am sure they would understand or maybe do as Janno said, go for the wedding and leave early and come home?
To be totally honest if it were me I wouldn't go as I know how I feel now and at 11 days before I know I would be totally over everything IYKWIM.
Good Luck!
With any luck bubba comes early and there's not even a question...hehe. I'm evil - sorry.
Personally, I only would if it was a close friend or a family member. I'd be sending DH.
I went to a house party (in my town but a different district) 4 days after my EDD. DD came 6 days later. I was out until 4am. To be honest, that last chance to have some fun, let my hair down and have a worry free laugh was worth the over-tired feeling the next day. I even let myself have a shandy! :)
Once you have a baby you will NEVER get to o out and not worry. Even if you have an excellent sitter, there is a bit in you that is thinking "Is bubs ok?" all the time. Pregnancy is excellent from that point of view - bubs is with you and yet requires no attention beyond the odd trip to pee and a belly rub here and there....
Bx
I never stopped social outings at all.
I went 11 days overdue and the day before I got induced i went to shopping, then got my nails done then out to a friends house half an hour away.
If you really are worried, Just go to the ceremony and skip the reception, I am sure the bride and groom would understand:)
Thanks everyone. I will definitely go to the wedding as that is only 20 minutes away, (some say this is the most important anyway) but think I will give the reception a miss. I think DH will still go. He doesn't like letting people down and will feel he HAS to go.
hahahah I am deliberately going on outings in the hope that my waters break or I go into labour!!! lol
I am trying to get bubs out tho... being overdue.
I would just take my labour bag with me if I were u. See how comfy you are at the wedding. I am sure they wont be trying to make you stand around the whole time. Get urself a good seat. I think if I missed someones wedding or reception, adn didnt go into labour, I would regret not attending. 1 hour is not far away. I am not sure if this is ur first bub, but first labours apparently ( correct me ifim wrong) average 12 hours anyway.
DO whatever you feel comfy with. I am glad that I havent stopped doing anyting I wanted to do...gotta live it up while the little one isnt around!! hehe
Good luck with ur pregnancy:)
Hugs
Just go but make sure you have your hospital bag all packed and in the boot JIC you have to leave in a hurry ;)
You just have to do what you feel comfortable with.
None of my outings this close to being due have been out of the city so I haven't stressed about it. I'm having different worries, as normaly we lead a pretty quite life, and the next 12 months we are going to be so busy with weddings parties, and anything else. You name it we got it and it will all start in a couple of weeks, when we may only have a 1 week old!!
yep im with sammi! I didnt stop going anywhere..whats the worst that can happen? You need to rush off to the hospital.
Or in my case...your waters break at Coles in front of everyone :cryinglaugh:
go and enjoy yourself!
I was still catching a train to uni one hour away on my EDD with Yasin. I figured that labour wouldn't be so fast that I wouldn't have time to get to my hospital and if it was that fast I could just go to the closest hospital...
I went to my cousins wedding when I was 41 weeks, and was booked into the hospital for an induction that night! I only went to the ceremony, gave the reception a miss and headed to the hospital instead. I didn't realise it at the time (being first baby and all) but I was already in early labour having light contractions during the ceremony. Keep in mind you'll probably be highly emotional! As soon as the organ music started I started crying and didn't stop until it was all over! I kept asking DH "is my mascara running?!' I was glad that I went in the end though!
Personally I got cabin fever when I was heavily pg and not driving with Sarah. (I had a tpl n decided that it would prob b safer 4 me not 2 drive) Even going to the shops was enough to make it go away but if I had decided that I wouldn't go to the family easter do on my due date I would have gone nuts! Your first labour may take while for you to notice that you r having contractions but you will more than likely have plenty of warning and be able to let your hair down and enjoy yourself for the party. If worst comes to worst someone will call an ambulance for you. You should be fine but the b+g will understand if u r 2 tired.
I'm actually not too worried about going into labour. It is more the tiredness and late night. I sturggel past 9.30pm as it is, and it will be a long day as the ceremony and reception are 4 hours apart. I would love to go into labour early, but doubt that will happen with my first. Thanks for all your stories