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Hello all,:hello: Just wanted to know when you started to tell people of your pregnancy? I am 13 weeks Thursday and I dont know if to wait till the end of 13 weeks. I am pritty lost here. Some say to wait till 14 weeks.:doh: Your input would be really helpful here.:redface:
Hi 2 please! Congrats on your pregnancy!
We told our parents within a few days of finding out we were pregnant, and then told our siblings over the next couple of weeks. So, I think most of our close family knew by about 8 weeks. My hubby also told some of our friends at this time as well. I didnt tell my boss until I was about 12-13 weeks. He went off and told half the people at work, but then I properly told my other colleagues at about 17 weeks, when I started to look pudgy! I didnt even tell some people till I was about 28 weeks though.
We told our parents early on for a few reasons.. because we were SOOOO excited and just hd to tell people!! and also because they would be the people we would want help and support from if something were to go wrong with our pregnancy.
We told our parents and a couple of very close friends the day and day after we found out. These are the people we would turn to if something does go wrong. My Mum is desperate to tell people and has it in her head that she will do this after our first scan at 8 weeks but I'm not really comfortable with this. Not sure when we'll be telling everyone else at this stage - will wait and see what happens over the next couple of months I guess :) Sorry - that wasn't really much help to you...
Congratualtions on your pg! I'm not much help....We found out at 5 weeks and told everyone at 6 weeks because we couldn't help ourselves!!
I think when you feel comfortable is the right time... sometimes it can be hard to know when that is though!! :lol:
Hey, we went through IVF so we sort of had to tell everyone when it worked.
It was just family and close friends. I also told my managers who were very supportive.
I am also a naturally excited person so its heard to keep a secret like this. If anything was to happen, people would give you the space and respect….So why not share this happy moment with all.
Good luck
Hi 2 please,
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I told my cousin pretty much straight away because she had just had a baby and I really wanted someone to talk to through the early stages. We plan on telling our parents and families on Fathers Day which will be 13 weeks and 5days. There are a few reasons for this.
First, and probably the biggest was my brother's son was stillborn earlier this year, and my mum didn't take it very well. I couldn't bear the thought of having a miscarriage and having to break their hearts again. I know this would really set my mum back in her treatment (breast cancer).
Second, I want to wait until I have my first scan and know everything is going to plan.
And third, I was made redundant from my job two weeks before I found out I was pregnant. I have had to find a new job and I'm really struggeling with not being honest with them. Keeping it a secret from everyone is just easier at the moment as I don't have to hear everyone's opinions on what's the best thing to do. I still don't know how I'll tell my new employer that I'm pregnant and will only be there for five months, as the role is a twelve month contract to cover maternity leave. I just keep reminding myself that the baby is far more important then the job or upsetting them.
I hope this has helped. It's such a personal decision for everyone, and I guess it comes down to your personality. If the unthinkable should occur, would you like the support of your family and friends, or would telling them you lost the baby be too hard to bear. Considering your at thirteen weekes tomorrow, you've done well to keep it a secret this long. I'm sure the right time will show itself soon. Now comes the fun part in planning how your going to share the news!
Best of luck.
Congrats on your pregnancy!
I was a blabber mouth with all mine, telling people immediately. I'm no good at keeping secrets!!
Congratulations! I told my DR when I found out that I wanted to tell people at Christmas, like it was another surprise... but she told me to wait til 13 weeks. We ended up telling my sister and her husband at 5wks and my mum at 5wks and my dh couldn't hold it in any longer and told his parents, who neither looked impressed or believed us at 6wks. We ended up telling his brother, nan and uncle on Christmas (7wks) and I waited heaps and heaps longer to tell my dad. I told my boss at 7wks. Everyone else was told at about 16wks. It wasn't that i was embarassed to be pregnant, I just didn't want to have to disappoint too many ppl if anything went wrong!
Sconeonamission,
Thats so wierd. I found out I was pregnant 1 week before christmas and told everyone like you were talking about. Bad mistake, I miscarried 2 weeks later. Thats why Im asking this question now. It sound like you where the smarter one of the 2 of us.
Good luck with your babys birth. Do you know what you are having? It might be born on my birthday Aug 10th. Mine is due on Feb 14th.
Im still not sure if I should wait any longer though. I really am torn.
HI there and congrats!
We told parents and siblings at 5 weeks when we found out, then everyone else at our engagement party at 7.5 weeks. Pretty much after the first scan when we saw a heartbeat.
Goodluck!
we planned on telling people at 12 weeks but DP got drunk at the pub and told everyone, then i was getting text mgs saying "congrats" so it was damage control mode to tell my parents and the in laws before it slipped out and that was a 7 weeks!!
my mum told me, the week I found out (so about 4 or so weeks pg) she just took one look at me and said 'You're pregnant aren't you!!!'
I wasn't going to lie and say no, so we told my parents & brother and rang MIL & BIL and told them too.
My cousin found out from BB.
Everyone else we told when I was 12 weeks, which as it happened was Mother's Day.
Congrats! With my first pregnancy We told family and closest friends right away but decided to wait until after the 12 week scan to tell everyone else. For us, we are lucky that we waited because when we went in for the scan we found out that I had a "Missed Miscarriage" where my body still thought it was pg but we had actually lost the bub at 7weeks, so in for a D&C. It was heartbreaking but I was glad that I had my closest friends to talk to but also that I didn't have everyone else looking at me with sad eyes as that makes you feel worse.
This time, we have again told family and closest friends and we have had an early scan and seen a heart beat but I am still nervous about telling anyone else until we have had the 12 weeks scan.
All I can say is go with what your gut feeling is - if you are not nervous about telling people then do so but if you have some doubt, then it is probably best to wait.
Congrat on your being pg!!
We could not keep our mouths shut. We told our parents within a hour of getting a BFP. I think the whole town, family and surrounding area knew the day after we did!!! I later found out that to be on the "safe" side, you should wait till 12 weeks.
We'd already lost 2 so we waited until our scan at 11wks and then told everyone.
My friend waited until she was about 20 weeks because she didn't want to talk about it! LOL.
Bec
We told our families right away (at 4 weeks) though I kind of wished I hadn't told my dad because even though I told him not to tell anyone he went and blabbed it to his whole family. Then we told a few close friends over the next few weeks and waitited to tell the majority of people at about 12 weeks.
We found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks 6 days & everyone knew straight away LOL!! Within about 5mins of testing I was on my mums doorstep (next door) asking her if she could see the line as well ROFL. So at around 7.30 on a Saturday morning we woke up my dad, sister & brother to tell them. We then called my other sister & woke her up to tell her. So within 1/2 an hour of my BFP my family knew. By the end of the day our friends & Aaron's family knew as well LOL! We were too excited after so long TTC to hold it all in!!!
Hi, I think I might wait till the end of 13 weeks and start the ball rolling. Close family knows already, but other family members can wait with casual friends to know. They only have one week to wait.
All the input so far has been great. I hope it helps others in question too.
Thanks
We have always said we wouldn't tell anyone till 12 wks. I'm 10.5 weeks now and I have only told my best friend as she has just had a baby so I needed to relate to her experiences. I agree with a lot of you, I would like my parents to know in case something went wrong but I recently had a friend m/c who had told everyone and she then had to deal with all their emotions too so that made me want to keep it quiet. Also when I tell I want to be able to tell everyone and for them to tbe able to tell people too. My Mum is going to kill me though! She keeps saying "so no more goss?" I just think you are going to die when I tell you my goss, as no one even knew we were trying. So it will be a real surprise.
Now I cant decide whether to tell on Fathers Day when I'm 12 weeks or wait till after my scan a couple of days later..
I told everyone as soon as I found out. Then I got caned because I had. People started piling all their horrid miscarriage stories on to me and I felt awful that I had let the cat out of the bag.
But I have my little boy now so it turned out alright. I don't think I'd tell people so soon again though. Dunno why. Just the negativity that I was met with I suppose. I'll keep that little secret next time.
We decided we'd wait until 8 weeks....we were going to wait until 12 weeks, but thats sooooo far away (Im 5 weeks and 3 days).
Then we booked in for our first Ob/Gyn visit and thats at 9 weeks and 3 days, so we decided that the weekend after that we'll traipse around and visit all our family and friends with a little picture to show them!
The wait is driving me crazy though!
We told our immediate family as soon as we found out and told them to keep it quite. We then told everyone else as soon as I hit the 12 week mark. Most people (mainly women who had been pregnant before) had already guessed.
We will do the same with our new pregnancy.
I have only told my best friend for now. My sister is in hospital after a pretty bad car accident and i didn't want to tell her or my family because i feel if i do then the attention will be taken away from her and i would feel guilty for that. I think we will probs wait until she gets home to tell everyone. We are still considering not letting everyone know until after the 14 week mark as we lost our angel bub then. I really think it is a personal choice some people like to tell everyone straight away becasue they are so excited and other would prefer to keep it quiet. As long as your happy thats all that matters:)
I told my closest friends and of course my fiance but nobody else Im not telling until 13 weeks!!
Congratulations 2 please on your pregnancy! DP and I were so excited that we were just trying for a baby we'd tell anyone who'd listen so when I fell pregnant the following cycle we told everyone straight away. I think you would be more than fine to go ahead and share your happy news with your friends and family now.
I have told lots of people early on like as soon as I knew. I am quite a chatty person and it is hard to keep it inside but also having had miscarriages it is nice to have people to talk to and support you. People then understand why you are a bit off and are more sensitive to you. People don't wonder why you aren't having a beer after work or why you are tired or running to the loo.
This time I have told family close friends and my bible study ladies.
we told immediate family straight away, and some very close friends, But, we told them not to tell anyone.... and they didnt keep it a secret unfortunatly.
So, next time, i dont want to tell anyone till after the 12week scan.
Debbie, I know what you mean. The same happened to me too. I dont think they expected me to miscarry after such a healthy baby. Oh well, I am soo happy this baby is ok. I get to find out the babies gender for sure tomorrow. Its the next thing on the list you wanna do after you know the babies ok.