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Ok im having the biggest attack of the guilts. My hubby wants our sex life back :doh: and although my libido has returned (after 8 months of dormincancy!) I can not seriously think of a comfortable way to 'do it' at the moment!!!! I feel fat and the thought of the baby wiggling around in there while we are doing it makes me squirm too! :cryinglaugh: hahahahahaha Is anyone out there actually doing it in the last few weeks of pregnancy!? So embarrassed to write this :p
LOL, glad you raised (excuse the pun) this topic.:D
We have tried a few times of late but DH is a little freaked out about squashing me and bub and afterwards I tend to get fairly full on Braxton Hicks which freaks him out even more.
So yes we have tried but it was a bit of a logistical exercises.
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Twice in the last 4 months!
Poor DH, I do feel bad but it seems mutual because I dont really feel like it and DH is completely weirded out by the thought of the baby being right there. He won't even do it with the cat and dog in the room, let alone almost touching bubs head.
We were very sexual in 3rd trimester but dh wouldnt dtd because i was losing mucus plug for weeks prior to labour and he though that was grose. So we did other things :)
After the baby - will thats a different story
After this bubs is born I can safely say I will never be doing the 'spoon' position again. OVER IT!
*blush* our house is the Mojo Mothership this trimester! Thanks Renee - :cryinglaugh:, was going to suggest that one but I won't be able to use that possie myself now when the logistics get a bit difficult as it'll remind me of your comment!!!! Ummm... I suppose there's more than one way of making curry, if you know what I mean!
Nope, not I!! Haven't my whole prg. I had a m/c last year and during my first prg tended to have bleeds every time we dtd so it's too stressful for me to contemplate at the moment.
I thought my DH was OK with it because he knows the reasons why, but after some revelations last night, it appears he's not :(
I know you girls are all in your 3rd tri and have really good reason to not feel like it but did you feel like that at the begining 2. I really have no urge to do it at all.... DH hasnt whinged but i am feeling soooo bad... i am just hoping its all comes back and i want to do it!
heheh such a funny subject.. after all its what got us all in these positions in the first place.. lol
dh and i have only done it about 4 times since finding out we were pg and now we are in the 3rd tri.. i think my libido is starting to come back.. but like most of you we too feel a little strange about the baby being right there and dh is afraid he might squash me or the baby.
we did try the spooning position but its quite boring :cryinglaugh:
maybe you could try doggie style because then you can control how deep the penetration is.
if all else fails then remember there are other things you can do instead of actualy intercourse :dance:
hahaha you girls are hilarious!! Yeah we have done it about 4 times this pregnancy too. I feel sooooooooooo sorry for DH....its just so uncomfortable and not to mention the tiredness. I have two other little boys, so im often in bed hours before DH and totally passed out when he crawls into bed. I honestly think he has given up and thats what has made me feel so bad!!. I think he is used to the big "regection" now :( Spooning....might have to give it a go! lol I think im the one who is more weirded out about the baby being right there, rather than him. I dont think he really minds to be honest ;) OH well....only 5 weeks to go!! But then again.....breastfeeding makes libido go away all over again! HAHAH He has no chance.....poor fella!
Ok, so it's not exactly the Mojo Mothership at my house, but there has been an occasional dalliance - a very ungainly dalliance - feel like I need a crane LOL - but I'm sorry to say I always pay for it with additional back & pelvis pain the next day...:redface:
LOL :)
LOL.. i must be doing it to much then :P
But i was muuuuch worse when preg with Chelsea... always wanted it... but alot less this time.. yet still do it enuf to keep DH happy to a degree...lol
My DP is happy to. Even on nights when I don't really feel like it - I always let him have his way IYKWIM!!!
I don't ever want him to feel rejected by me, just a personal choice though - plus I think I have been pretty lucky with this pregnancy - sometimes get crampy afterwards, but no real morning sickness and no other problems with baby or me - so all is good.
I suppose it would be different if there were some complicating factors.
And the position - spooning is def the easiest!!
Hehe, my DP & I haven't had any issues dtd to date, but we did see the movie Knocked Up last night, which has quite a funny scene in it that relates to dtd later in PG. If you haven't already seen it, it's worth a look! :)
Thanx for that Kayla i was wondering if it was a good movie, i will have to watch it now :)
We have done it about 4 times so far too (seems like four is the magic number). I am 23 weeks and not "too" big yet but it seems to be getting a bit more difficult each time. As well as this, I have been keeping DH happy in other ways too.
My libido is higher than usual and has been for the past three weeks which DH and I are both enjoying.
What about us gals on top? That way there isnt too much squishing and squashing going on and we can control certain things .....
All i can say is TOYS...lmao invest in some senusal toys for the man, it takes alot of pressure off feeling like we should be pleasuring our men! While hubby and i did try it once or twice throughout our entire pregnancy i didn't feel comfy due to previous m/c's i just didnt want to do anything to disrupt the pregnancy - not that sex would but hey i got paranoid...:cryinglaugh:
When hubby said anything about wanting some i would just say go play with senso :cryinglaugh: I was a cruel woman i tell ya
When I was pg I was always on top...just couldn't lean forward or anything!! :lol:
Ok I must have been desperate to get Angus out, Cause my DH was getting it every second day if not every day to try and get this baby out! Not very successfully mind you, and my hips were always killing me after! lol
I will not be doing it in that position for a very long time either!
Aww... shucks... We've still got it going here... although there was a drought for awhile due to a sore jiny and severe ms in the beginning. But now we enjoy an active sex life again, usually doggy is GREAT!!! But we also use the ottoman too... I lie on the ottoman and Daniel will kneel and my legs will be up in the air resting on his shoulders or him holding them up. Bahahahaha... how embarrassing! Danny would kill me if he knew I was admitting this stuff... We utilise all sorts of places - kitchen, dinning room table - they all work fine with the belly! Claire, your never gonna wanna come over my house now are you? ROFL
we've had it 4 times the whole pregnancy. i think the producers of 'Knocked Up' were in our bedroom watching my dp when they wrote that sex scene. seriously, we laughed our heads off when we saw it as dp had said the exact same thing about poking it in the eye. oh well, i've gone longer than this before without sex and at least this time i get a prize at the end!!
We are only a few days off DD and still managing a couple of times a week. I agree with the poster who commented about never wanting to do the spoon position again. It's pretty boring by the end but the only one where my hips or knees don't give out.
am at 32 weeks and we do it a couple of times a week. did find a position that is comfy recently so will probably continue with it.
Ahem...we have managed to do "it" weekly at least, since BFP. Certainly the logistics is tricky. I haven't tried the spoon, but I think that one might come next! DH is not fussed about bub being in the way, but it bothers me. Not because of his/her presence there, but because it distracts me when I feel a movement or kick. Kind of puts me off *blush*. As I get bigger and more uncomfortable things might change.
Great topic by the way! :)
We've never let the belly slow us down. ;) We find things most comfortable if I am on top, sitting up, or me on my hands and knees with DH entering from behind. Try a new position if you are having troubles. No reason not to keep enjoying yourself, and you might get to avoid going overdue. :)
I'm so pleased that this questions was asked. Dh and I have on occasions done the deed however lately its not very often at all. We did try a couple of nights ago and boy o boy it was uncomfortable not to mention painful. I don't know if thats normal or not but I think we'll have to do other things from now on. It didn't matter what possie we tried either although we didn't try the "spoon". Maybe that would be ok for now.
DH and I have slowed things right down. I am usually in bed at least an hour or so before him and therefore trying to get to sleep and i get really shirty if I am finally just dropping off to sleep (FINALLY!!) and he tries to get a bit. I think maybe once or twice in the past four weeks has been our limit. I think he is ok with it...he hasnt realyl mentioned it...and there are other things that can be done to keep his mind off it. We usually stick with the spoon or doggy as it is most comfy for me but its not long before knees/hips give out and I jsut get frustrated.
Will have to give it up at least once or twice more before I go away and not see him for four weeks. I dont mind - just tiriing and with getting maybe 4 hours sleep a night - makes it hard to feel "in the mood"