My little loss

In ways i feel ashamed to be posting here as im only 4w4d well was, but i need to get this off my chest i guess. I was due for AF last tuesday and ive had faint hpts from monday night. I thought nothing of this as with DS it took a while for them to get darker, so I was sure everything was fine. Ive had no cramping no nothing and I go to the toilet this morning and I wipe and there was blood.Bright red, i thought its ok i'll check again soon im sure its just spotting all normal etc. This was 8.30 this morning and the bleeding hasn't stopped and its still bright red and i still haven't had any cramping??? Im just finding it hard that this is happening to me, im going to the drs 2moro for a blood test, but im more than sure its over, im just in abit of shock. Hoping the pain eases as time goes bye, thanx for reading :)

Netti - i just wanted to say to you again that im so sorry hun :hug:

Oh hun, dont feel ashamed for posting at all. A loss is a loss, no matter how early it happens, and is just as heartbreaking. :hugs: to you for tomorrow.

Thanx so much. I was just reading the stories of people who have had losses far greater along than me and it has helped ease the pain, thanx for the kind words and support

netti, like you, i had a loss at 4w4d last month - and just cos it was early, doesnt mean it didnt hurt. you have every right to be upset and to come here for support.

i too felt like my loss wasnt as bad as so many other ladies here, but i have come to the realisation that it is still going to hurt, and comparing my own hurt to that of someone else is disrespecting myself and my angel baby. yes, your loss was early, but for you for right now, that pain is real and you need to let yourself feel that hurt/anger/grief/loss.

i'm so sorry you're going through this hun

BG

Netti big :hug: for you. Every loss matters. Your experiences are no less significant than anyone elses.

There's no such thing as a little loss, Netti. A loss is a loss whether you have known for 4 weeks or 4 days or 4 minutes. It hurts - and there's no point in trying to convince yourself that it shouldn't. Tried that - doesn't work.

I'm so sorry that you have gone through this. :hug:

BW

netti - wow i'm so sorry :hug:

Sorry again, Netti, for your loss. Don't be ashamed about posting about it - we all know how exciting it is to see that second line on a HPT. So many hopes and dreams are tied to that BFP. Sending you lots of hugs and thinking of you. :hug: :hug:

Netti - Every loss means something, so don't you feel any shame. Look after yourself.. xx

Every loss hurts hun so you have every right to feel grief. Hugs to you.

Thankyou so much ladies- your words of support have brung tears to my eyes to know that you are here to support me and help me during this time, thanx

Im so sorry hun, you have every right to post here and to grieve, a loss, no matter how far along, is a terrible loss. Hugs to both you and your DH.

treelo

Netti so sorry for the loss of your little angel. Sending you heaps of hugs for your appt tomorrow.

Big hugs sweetie. :hugs:

Celsie. xoxox

sorry Netti :hugs: i saw your post earlier today in the 1-6mths ttc thread and i was wondering how you were today actually. i'm so sorry this has happened to you.
I hope that with time it will ease the pain for you... good luck 2moro at the doc appt. we're thinking of you.

Netti. I really feel for you. Don't feel ashamed because you were 4 w 4 d. I had an experience similar to yours. We had been trying to concieve for about 15 months and as soon as I saw the positive on that stick I was already thinking of names etc etc.. and I lost little Mia when she was only 7 weeks. When I wiped and saw blood, I collapsed to the floor. I was so devistated that my husband was unsure whether to try again because it took me so long to get over. I couldnt work. I never believed it would happen to me.
It takes time.
Allow youself to cry for as long as you feel necessary
Don't be scared to try again .... I now have a beautiful 3 month old daughter ... so from an aweful negative experience .... good things do happen
It really helped me to give him/her a name and say good bye.

My heart goes out to you.
:heartbeat:

Jen

Netti i am so sorry for your loss.

A loss is a loss no matter how long you was pg for. I've had 3 miscarriages and all have them have been before 10wks.

As the girls have said Netti, a loss is a loss... ok you might feel that being 4w4d you didn't get time to 'be pg' and that those that have late term losses are far worse off, but you need to know that your feelings are still very relevant and real.

I always feel greatful that my losses were 1st tri, and that what others have gone through is much harder, but it's still a loss. YOU are still grieving and anything you feel is fine... there is no right or wrong way to deal with what your going through... please no that we are all here for you!

(PS- hope that all came out right)

Netti - hon, my thoughts are with you, i'm so sorry for your loss. as the other ladies have said, no loss is a small loss, its still the loss of a much wanted child and thats all that matters. I've seen my sister and my sil both go through m/c's and they've seen me through my sb, yes the circumstances might be different but we are all going trhough the same emotions. just take the time you need and be kind to yourself

Thankyou to everyone for your words and kind thoughts it has helped me alot, to deal with what i am going through and know that everything will be ok. I had some blood tests done, just to see what was hapening. I have been bleeding quite heavily and getting some sharp cramping, but im actually finding this good as yesterday i was worried as i wasn't getting cramps and I was worried about things coming out naturally,iykwim. When i went to the drs 2day for my btest i also got my results for another btest i had a week ago and i have low iron levels and my iron stores aren't that high, so i need to get some iron tablets have some green leafy veges, etc, so im hoping to ttc this cycle as I really want No2 and to be pregnant again :) plus healthy lifestyle starts 2day!!!

Thankyou again everyone for all your support it means the world to me

Netti im so sorry for you loss. You shouldn't feel ashamed for posting here at all, in fact this is the ideal place for you to be - with others who understand the sadness you have gone through. My thoughts are with you.

BabyBella - I m/c'ed at 7 weeks and although it was almost three months ago now, I feel as though I'm still not completely over it - so I know how you feel too :(

i am so sorry for your loss, and that is exactly what it is, a loss. not little. take time to grieve.

:hug:

I just had to stop in here and send you more hugs :D

Thanx lj :) sending you lots of baby dust :)

thanks netti - sending lots of babydust your way too