To coinside with an article this month, do you think you were adequately prepared for breastfeeding with your FIRST baby? Do you think you had enough resources, information and education at your fingertips?
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To coinside with an article this month, do you think you were adequately prepared for breastfeeding with your FIRST baby? Do you think you had enough resources, information and education at your fingertips?
Hey Kel
another great Q
I was as prepared as I guess you could be in regards to info...being a m/w and all, but I was suprised at the lack of support from the m/w when I had Finn...first I was denied the first BF after birth, as he was taken to neonates, then he was given a formula tube feed without my permission (and I worked at this unit)...grrrr...he was also given 'top ups' without my permission
when I did get my baby back, I was not at all prepared for 1.5 - 2hrly BF and really struggled with him crying all the time and wanting to be at the breast :(
I didnt BF for long...only 4 weeks...and was diagnosed with PND...not at all what I hoped for motherhood to be
with Jay...just popped him on whenever he even opened is mouth and BF was joy :) and he was a very happy baby
now to prepare women I teach...I focus more on the emotional aspects of BF rather that the practical
xx yogababy
Absolutely I was well prepared. I read every book I could on the subject (including ones on the politics of BF vs formula companies) and knew all about attachment, what to avoid in terms of mastitis and so on, different positions, feeding patterns, etc. It got to the stage that before Flynn was born I felt I had learnt all I could and all I needed now was the baby. I was also prepared in that I knew BF was a relationship, a two-sided thing, and that baby had to do his part for it to work. In terms of resources, the best book was "Breastfeeding...Naturally".
What I was unprepared for, though, was the rigours of expressing once I returned to work and the drop in milk supply when I became pg with Oliver which lead to weaning Flynn at 9 months rather than making it at least to 12 months which had been my plan. But I reckon I will iron those kinks out this time :)
I felt very let-down (pardon the pun). I had a breast reduction a couple of years ago and prior to the birth I felt there was no support for me. Then after the birth it was "you should feel the let-down" and "your milk will have come in by now". But if you don't know how it feels, how can you say yes or no, you do or don't?
II would have preferred to be referred to ABA or go to a clinic *before* the baby came, or immediately, while I was in hospital still.
I thought I was prepared - I knew that it might be difficult and I knew that there are LC's to help and also the ABA. And if I hadn't had a tongue-tied baby that might have been enough. But I did have a tongue-tied baby and that was how I learnt that mws mostly don't know very much about bfing problems. It was only 2 weeks later that I found out that the tongue-tie was the cause of the problems - the mws in hossy all said that tongue-ties don't cause those problems and that my nipples were the issue. Given that he fed fine after the tongue-tie was snipped, and DS2 fed from the beginning with no problems, I'm tipping the mws were wrong.
I believe that the only reasons I was able to establish a successful bfing relationship were firstly the ABA, and then the doctor who correctly diagnosed the problem and snipped the tongue-tie. Also being fortunate enough to be allowed to stay in hossy until he was at least attaching with nipple shields. If I had had to go home without that, I seriously doubt anything could have helped me.
Well I thought I was prepared, I did heaps of reading and got heaps of tips from friends, like make sure you call a MW EVERYTIME you attach just to make sure it's correct - even when you think it is. I did that and was always told it was correct, but man it hurt. Obviously it wasn't correct. I watched videos on attachment, I went to BF'ing classes before and after I was pregnant. We still seemed to have every problem under the sun. I really think the MW's in the hospital didn't have enough time to spend with me, as I was the only vaginal birth patient in the part of the ward and the rest were c/s patients and needed constant care and their babies always needed to be fed by the MW's so I hardly got to see a MW unless I buzzed. The MW with the early discharge program was most helpful as she was able to spend one on one time with me and work on my BF'ing and hang around for a couple of feeds. I could call her when ever I wanted and she put me in contact with a fabo LC. I suppose I was really naieve in hindsight because I thought BF'ing would be the easiest thing out of the whole motherhood experience as women have been doing it for centuries. How wrong I was...
I felt pretty well prepared, but I think that was only because of the type of job that I do.
If I had only the antenatal classes, and bf pamplets etc that are given to expectant mums then I don't think I would have been prepared. No where is it written how tiring bf is, how early on you feel a bit 'smothered' (sp? sorry!), how uncomfy it is when your milk comes in, and how much pressure and guilt you can feel with bf. In those early days it's really hard work and I don't think most mums are aware of that.
I wasn't prepared at all - I went to one BF antenatal class at the hospital, which was basically useless - all we did was play around with dolls and holding them in different ways. My lack of preparation, combined with a host of other things led to DS being FF from 10 days old.
I wasn't as prepared as I could have been, I had looked a few books and thought "yep I can do that" and was disappointed when I had attachment issues. the midwives at the hospital were encouraging but didn't seem to help. Thank goodness for ABA is all I can say.
Yep i definately was.
Firstly i already assumed that breastfeeding was the only way to go... i actually thought formula was for people with severe issues. I'd also read books and researched any potential problems throughout my entire pregnancy. I had my dh behind me supporting me 100% and i made my wishes clear at the FBC that i would be breastfeeding. So they encouraged me to put DS on constantly in the first 24 hours and i believe that contributed to a huge supply and armed with all the support and info i had no breastfeeding issues. Later on the tiredness became and issue and then a few months later i battled a gaping hole for 4 months but had great support and got through that. So yep i did feel prepared.
I voted no which is unfortunate. My DS needed an op after birth and time in NICU which we knew about before he was born, so my time was spent researching expressing and getting organised for that. I thought once he got on the breast it would be smooth sailing from there...I didnt know anywhere near enough info on BF, not the physical side but the mental side of it. Things may have been different if we had of been able to be together in those first few weeks so hopefully things will be different with the next bub!
Well lets just say that I thought it would be easy as to BF, thought you just popped them on the boob and you would be right.. what a rude shock was I in for!!
Having said that, PIL & my Parents made sure I was prepared in telling me I had to have bottles packed & formuls for my hospital bag incase I couldnt BF *sigh*. Things will be different this time round.. I WILL BF!!!
I answered I was somewhat prepared, I felt I had enough at the time.
I'm one of the fortunate ones, who didn't have many problems, however I don't know if I'd have coped with problems in the beginning after we sorted out attachment. I was prepared for completly different advice from different midwives, but as it happened they all pretty much sang the same tune at my hossy.
I wasnt as prepared as i should have been- but I was very lucky that DD latched first go and we didnt have any problems after that. So even though I didnt have the info I should have, I didnt have any problems, had I had difficulties I dont know that I would have known what to do or who to turn to.
I didnt like the way that breastfeeding started.
I understand that i gave birth within 10 minutes of arriving in the labour ward - i had no idea who the midwife was (or the other 6 people in the room watching) were.
I was still in my clothing (minus pants obviously lol) and she just ripped my top up, unclasped my bra, and grabbed my boob in her hand and threw bub on and left.
She didnt even say anything to me or anything! I was little upset by all this and did not see her at all afterwards as it was change of shift an hour later.
i discharged myself 6 hours post birth and drove back to my local hospital where i figured out how to breastfeed and had some nice mw's on nightduty talk to me about it!
I did however have one Mw (who had never had kids b4) when i asked for panadol cause i hurt all over say that if it is for sore boobs then i need to get used to it and panadol isnt the right thing to help with the pain... not impressed to be told this!
But i figured it out myself - found my local ABA group and it made things a lot better and easier!
I answered I was somewhat prepared, I felt I had enough at the time.
I did SO MUCH research, and classes, and preparation. I paid alot of attention to attachment, and I think that helped, we have never had any problems there. I agree with Rory, the book "Breastfeeding.....Naturally" was a great resource. As was, and is, BellyBelly.
I was, however, not prepared for a premature baby, and what that meant in regards to breastfeeding. I had very little info, and so was mistakenly guided by the health professionals in feeding my DS. As a result we have had a whole world of BFing troubles, but I am proud to say that we have stuck it out are still going :D.
Knowing what I know now, I would have done things VERY differently. But you can only go with what you know at the time. Next time WILL be different :)
I thought I was prepared because I had done a fair bit of reading and gone to classes, but there's really nothing like actually doing it - which obviously you need your baby for! I was lucky I guess in that my baby attached beautifully in the delivery ward and then in our hospital room the first time when the MW made sure she was there. Then unfortunately they just took the view that we had it completely under control so I got no supervision/help whatsoever. I had asked for help with various positions, ie lying down while feeding, and was told to call the MW the next time I was about to feed, but then had to wait for so long that I ended up having to feed DD anyway. Also, nobody told me about cluster feeds etc and when I queried if it was normal that my DD had been feeding for 4 hours straight the MWs were too quick to just say "yep, keep feeding"! Definitely a problem with the hospital that had too few midwivesto look after all the new mums and bubs.
I felt I was as prepared as I could be, while still knowing that the reality would be more challenging! It really helped that my husband and I went to a BF class run by the ABA before the baby was born, it gave us lots of time to talk about things like attachment and also see it in action. This meant my husband could give me great support and feedback when it wasn't quite right, he could see Angus' head wasn't in the right position or something.
One thing I wish had happened more is that the MW would have helped me get the baby out of the crib for each feed. As I had a c section, I just couldn't manage to sit up in bed and then lift the baby out. I had to get out of bed, pick up baby, then sit in the chair to feed every time. Very exhausting and not great for the swollen feet. If only they had come when I buzzed the first couple of days to help me get baby organised, I think I would have called on them more and wouldn't have got so worn out. In the hospital where I had the c section they were very busy so I could understand that. Then I transferred to the small hospital near home, where they only do vaginal deliveries (lots of natural births happen here) and so I think the MW treated me like I had delivered vaginally. In other words, it didn't cross their minds that I'd need help with every feed to pick baby up and get comfy. I think if I had had their help and been able to have more feeds in bed, I wouldn't have been so buggered.
I wasn't as prepared as I should have been.
At the time I thought I was sort of prepared... but I really honestly had no idea, or concept... due to not knowing anyone personally that had a breastfeeding relationship with their child.
There were many mistakes that were made at the hospital in Aidyns first few days of life, including FF him with a bottle, and not encouraging me to keep him attached as much as I possibly could. (I was under the impression that 10 minutes every 4 hours was enough? And no one told me otherwise!)
I think the resources were always there, but I did not know of them, or how to access them. Such as hiring an electric pump from a chemist, or contacting the ABA...
I voted that I wasn't prepared. However I felt I was just lucky it worked very well for me.
If it didn't I'm not sure what I would have done.
I answered I was somewhat prepared, I felt I had enough at the time.
DH and I went to antenatal classes and I read books and internet sites. DS was undiagnosed breech and arrived by emergency C/S. The next day he was in NICU being FF by tube due to low blood sugar. The Hospital is pro BF so all the M/Ws were really encouraging, but I got confused between the birth centre M/Ws, the ward M/Ws and the NICU nurses and all the advice was different. DH was great and actually remembered more useful info from the antenatal class on BF than I did. We ended up being discharged with a nipple shield and only 24 hours of exclusive BF. Once we got home DS failed to put on weight until we ditched the nipple shield.
The things that finally helped were:
- Listening to the advice of only one M/W who I trusted and was determined to help me BF;
- Watching an ABA DVD showing attachment;
- Weekly weigh ins to help build my confidence by seeing DS gaining weight;
- Practice and perserverance (even with a cracked nipple).
I thought wrongly that bubs naturally know how to BF, but I didn't realise they need to learn too.
I answered I was somewhat prepared, I felt I had enough at the time.
I went to the classes at the hospital, read on bf via ABA and BellyBelly websites and had friends who had or were having successful bf relationships with their bubs, so I was sure that I would be breastfeeding my DD for about 12 mths. I also watched Sue can't think of her surnames video about bf once I had DD.
When DD was born, I was in recovery and had asked to feed her there but the paed. was doing her apgar scores etc.... so I didn't get to feed her until I was t'fered to my room. MW atached DD but then all my family come in to see her and I took her off for them to cuddle her - I thought I'd be able to latch her back on no probs, little did I know that I would need help. Also DD had low blood sugar, so ff top-ups were recommended, which I agreed to b/c she was only just born and thought it would be just through the night. MW's bought DD into me throughout the night - 4 hourly as I had a c-section and was bed ridden for the night. After that I should have buzzed the midwives every feed but I didn't cos they would take too long to get to me and I thought, well the MW's aren't coming home with me so I better learn to do this myself and in the end I would just try to latch on DD myself, which was probably the cause of my cracked and blistered nipples.
My milk was taking quite sometime to come in and DD started to get unsettled and want more, which I didn't seem to be satisfing her, so the top-ups began. I started expressing and was still producing colostrum and I think the most I ever expressed was 20mls. I ended up going home on day 8, with my milk still not in and me becoming anxious everytime I had to feed DD plus my nipples flatening out, getting blocked ducts and then mastitis. MW suggested staying for another night, but I declined b/c I wanted to go home and start our life together as a family. After much angst and chats with DH and MW I decided to ff DD, as I thought it would be best - mentally for me. In hindsight I should have persevered, contacted the ABA, went back to the hospital and used their lactation classes (something I didn't know about until DD was 8 weeks old).... I probably could have bf and ff until my milk come in, then exclusively bf.
I thought I was prepared (only 8 days into it now so who knows what is to come), but wasn't mentally prepared for a surgical delivery or the after affects. Bubs was in special care for the first 3 days so we really struggled - no attachment issues, but my milk came in late and I physically found it exhausting having to go to special care for every feed, we also had to express for the first couple of days then comp feed because he was a big baby and was getting so hungry. Once my milk came in it became much better. He was up to 5 hourly feeds yesterday (I had to wake him for feeds) but today has been grizzly 1/2 hour feeding. The mws at the hospital were fantastic and incredibly supportive but I did get a little bit of conflicting info, mostly to do with changing over to the other breast on each feed. Some say do 20 minutes or thereabouts on each side, others say put them back on the first side after a burp so they can really drain the hindmilk and then offer them the second side.
I attended a class a couple of weeks before I was due, and at the time thought it was good. However, they didn't say it could be hard, or that it's normal to have trouble/problems. So when my milk didn't come in for 6 days I thought I was "broken" and nobody told me otherwise... This of course led to me being fearful of the whole experience and I only lasted 8 weeks.
This time I'm going to find a really good lactation expert and get it right from the start!
I felt pretty prepared...
I knew I wanted to breastfeed so I tried to gain some info but not too much as I didnt want to overload myself with info and freak out. I had booked into a breastfeeding class at the hospital (to go to before your baby is born) but I left it a bit late and Claire decided to be born a couple of days before the class so I never went.. but, I was given a little bit of help while in hospital ( only when I asked though and I didnt feel I needed help much at all so I only asked a couple of times). I also did sit in the classroom at the hospital while the LC talked about BF, attachment, how often and overcoming some BF issues.. I dont remember much of it though becuase I was falling asleep!
I was lucky that Claire and I didnt really have any problems with breastfeeding. I supppose the only thing that threw me off in the very early days was that my milk was not in till day 6-7, and I left hospital on day 3 with all the midwives and nurses saying "your milk will probably be in tonight or tomorrow."
DH's mum is a midwife, so I ws able to ask her questions as she came over every day to help me out once DH had gone back to work. And my sister is a Child & Family health nurse and a big part of her course was all about breast feeding so I could also pick her brains. And the MCHN is just around the corner and she is a midwife and lactation consultant. I didnt really ask any of those three for any help, but it was good to know they were there and could help, iykwim?
I also joined ABA, and although I have not called and spoken with the counsellors there, I did get some useful info from the "Breastfeeding... Naturally" book they sent me, as well as some of the info on their website. I wouldnt have know about ABA had I not been on BB though! (unless they haad told me about ABA in hospital.. I cant remember whether or not they did)
AND of course, Bellybelly is a great source of information and advice from lovely ladies who have done it all before.
SO I do think I did have access to enough resources to help me out.
I knew I really wanted to breast feed, so I read heaps and heaps of information.
In Earlyparenting classes (ante-natal classes), we covered it a bit- the thing that stuck in my mind from the class was- its like eating a hamburger- their mouth needs to be as wide as possible to fit a whole mouth ful in. It worked remembering that in the early days.\I also had DD in a private hospital, and whilst in Labour, i explained to the midwife my desire to make bf successful. When on the ward, nurses would pop their head in every few hours to see how I was going- and if I buzzed for help, no matter what time of the day or night, there was always a midwife to help straight away.
As one ferson has said, no one tells you how much it will hurt in the first few days, but once you are over the pain it is much easier.
Also, it looked easy- until you are actually doing it for yourself, and realise just how hard it is.
I answered I was somewhat prepared, I felt I had enough at the time.
In all honesty I'm not sure how perpared you can be for breastfeeding before you actually have a go at it. I tried to read as much as I could while I was pg, becuase my mum hadn't "been able" to breastfeed us kids, and she was convinced that I wouldn't be able to either. I was also worried about my (then) flat nipples. I think that wil be less of a problem next time around!
I certainly wasn't prepared for an uncooperative baby with a short tongue, and a tongue tie so small it took 7 weeks to be picked up, even though I repeatedly asked for it to be checked.
I did have a lot of post-natal BF support though, which was excellent.
When I last posted here I had only been feeding for 8 days, now 8 and a half months in I feel like I can answer the question better.
One thing that would have been helpful is a chart or table of what can be expected in the first six - twelve months of breastfeeding. For example, when to expect growth spurts and certain behaviours (like the typical four to five month behaviour of latching on and off, temporary breast rejection, cluster feeding, resumption of night feeds, etc). So much is spent preparing one for establishing feeding; there is very little support in the community for coping with the changes in bf-ing patterns that happen over time.
Ooooh, this is a tough one. I knew what I was in for and that there was no way I was doing formula. TBH, the determination was the biggest thing in DS being BFed.
But no, I wasn't adequately prepared really. I knew about the sore nipples and engorgement (which I didn't have) and the growth spurts, but I didn't know about tongue tie or evil midwives.
All the conflicting advice and different positions... I should have just had the courage to say "I know you don't like the look of DS BFing in this position but it works for us." Also, all the advice I had was on latching on (no problems really, though many were foreseen) and the first wonderful natural feed (big problems with no help) - but I had read a LOT about BFing and as I said the determination was the main factor in us doing this, not facts or figures.
So I don't know how to vote, I wasn't aware of how important this would be to me and I wasn't prepared for DS not having his first feed until he was a day old.
Good Question. If I hadn't of taken the steps to learn more about bf I would have known nothing. Midwifes/doctors never discussed this with me, if they did it was merely a question of "Are you planning to breastfeed" kwim. Even once dd was born there wasn't any real help. Once I was in recovery they pretty much just opened my shirt put dd on my breast and went on with their way. Then after getting out of recovery it was pretty much everyone giving different advice. "don't hold her this way, don't hold her that way, feed for this amount of time etc... Would of been nice to be better prepared for the world of breast feeding. Maybe I could of gone a little bit longer. Who knows
I was completely clueless as it never occurred to me that I might actually need information and help. I was under the false impression that a) I wanted to breastfeed and b) it was going to be a piece of cake cause it was all supposed to come naturally wasn't it?? :rolleyes: I went to one info session with a midwife and felt embarrassed when I did ask questions as I was made to feel that I really should've known that anyways.......:( so hence, didn't ask too many more questions for fear of being made to feel like a silly, young new mum - I was already in my twenties when I had my first.
Hmmm ... this is a tricky one. I certainly didn't read as much about BF as I did about labour. BUT, it wasn't like I was clueless. I expected it to be tricky, perhaps painful and very time-consuming.
What I didn't expect was having 20 different opinions on why it wasn't working from midwives and the hospital's lactation consultant. Nothing could have prepared me for how soul-destroying and completely frustrating those differing opinions were.
So if I wasn't adequately prepared then neither were any of those midwives/LC because they couldn't tell me what the problem was and their only solution was keep trying but comp feed with formula and express.
I was as prepared as I think I needed to be. I had signed up for a breastfeeding class 2 weeks before my due date but bubs came early so I missed out on that.
In truth, when I was pregnant I used to think it was a bit ridiculous- all the information and fuss over breastfeeding; classes, books, 'lactation consultants' etc etc... In my mind breastfeeding was the only option for me, and I never imagined doing anything else. I figured, 'hey- its natural- how hard can it be? Baby is hungry, put baby to the boob, and voila!' I just assumed that nature would take its course....And luckily for me it did. Bubs latched on beautifully a couple of hours after the birth, and has been happily sucking away ever since. I never even encountered the sore, cracked nipples everyone warned me about!!
However, I was in NO WAY prepared for the colic (indigestion, wind, or whatever you want to call it) that bubs got in the first 3 months after feeding. It was a nightmare. The only thing that would console my bub was offering him the breast, which only fed the problem even more as his poor little tummy was struggling to deal with the first load of milk. I just had to accept that he would cry unconsolably, lift up his knees and arch his back in pain after every feed, until he reached about 8 weeks and things started to turn a corner. Thankfully by 12 weeks his colic vanished completely, just as it says in all the books I'd read, and then feeding became an absolute pleasure. I will be more prepared for colic with the next bub however, ready to cut out the foods that upset bub no.1, and establish a feasible feeding routine early on.
Before the birth, I felt I was prepared and understood that breastfeeding might actually be difficult as it's something both mum and bub have to learn.
However, in hindsight, I think I could have done a bit more only because we've had issues with DS's weight gains. I think the antenatal classes at the hospital didn't cover enough on BF'ing. Next time, I am going to an ABA class. After the birth, I had a crappy midwife who wanted to take DS into the nursery because we were taking longer than 5 minutes to get him attached!! I'm glad I flatly refused and told her to bugger off. She was so rough as well, grabbing my boob and trying to put Josh on, she wouldn't give me a chance. But we got it.
Then all I ever heard from the midwives and hospital LC was that he had fantastic attachment and was going to be a great feeder. What rubbish, if someone had recognised he had a week suck in the first couple of weeks, I don't think I would have had all this stress and angst about him not gaining. Next time, I am going to hound them with questions and seek my own independant help early.
The midwives in hospital were all different in their advice about when to feed, how long, one side or both, etc.
Next time if a midwife tells me my baby has to have formula I am going to say to her "well, if he needs fluids that badly you can put him on a drip!"
So, yes in hindsight I was prepared for the easy stuff but not for when things weren't working.
I was not prepared at all the first 2 times.
My mum had trouble BFing, so had only attempted it with her first 2, so she couldn't really help & I didn't have ANY support at all.
I stopped at 6 weeks with DD1 as I have sensitive nipples & the pain was getting worse. I asked my MCHN about it, but all she said was that she was attached well & couldn't understand how it could hurt. She didn't tell me I could toughen my nipples up.
When pg with DD2 I knew a bit more & spent time toughening them up & there was not a second of pain! It was such a relief. But then at 4 weeks she got thrush. Noone told me that it could cause me pain, so when I felt it again, I gave up thinking I couldn't go through that again.
I had probs at 6 weeks this time, but I refused to give up. I've had a bit of sensitivity this time around, but I can deal with that. I could feel my PND finally coming on, but I wasn't gonna quit so easily this time. I called my MCHN & she got onto an LC & at just over 5 months I'm still going!
I was somewhat prepared. I was fortunate I didn't any real problems, I don't know how I would have coped if I did have problems. In hospital I had trouble with attachment, but it was fine at home, I think it was cause I relaxed once I got home.
Just as a warning - my DS lost weight, as expected, and ended up with an NG tube to help with the feeding on day 6. EBM was poured into his stomach after every feed. Not the best of things to end up doing! But that was the alternative to formula and bottles from birth.:
