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Found out yesterday that I have a missed miscarriage.
I am 11 weeks but baby measured 8weeks5days with no heartbeat.
I have only had light spotting, nothing at all really.
I am just wondering what happens next?
I had some blood tests done yesterday to check HCG levels and some more today and then another appointment with doctor this afternoon where I am thinking I will be in hospital to have a D&C..
Just feel like a deer caught in head lights.
:hugs: both my losses were missed miscarriages.. I had a D&C with both...
I guess if you opt for a d&c then that will go ahead within the next day or so..
Sorry for your loss..
I'm so sorry for your loss ll80. :hug: It's an absolutely devestating feeling...
Aussienic is right, chances are they'll be wanting to go ahead with a D&C, unless things start to happen naturally by themselves. I found the D&C I had with my first loss easy to cope with physically, but not emotionally. My second loss was much earlier, and it was the reverse - hard physically but not so difficult emotionally.
Hang in there, it does get better in time. :hugs:
BW
My missed miscarriage was also a D&C. Found out at 13 weeks I had lost my baby at 11 weeks. I was given the option of waiting it out for nature to take its course, or have the D&C. I have had both a "natural" miscarriage and a D&C and I honestly couldn't tell you what is easier to deal with - they both have emotional and physical repercussions.
I'm so sorry you have lost your baby, and wish you luck with whatever you decide.
Hi ll80,
I'm so sorry for your loss :hugs: It is so devastating finding out that your pregnancy that you thought was going along normally is over :(
I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, our bub had died a few weeks previously. I opted for a D&C as well. I had my DD to consider - I was worried about my ability to care for her while I had a natural m/c, and did not want to wait for what might have been weeks for it to happen, afraid to leave the house in case it happened while I was out somewhere.
Physically it was no problem at all - into hospital first thing in the morning and out again a couple of hours later. They only gave me a light general anaesthetic, so had no side effects except for being a bit sleepy that day - but that could have been due to getting no sleep that night because of the emotional stress :(
Emotionally, I am still dealing with it. It happened in October and it has been a hard road since then, but I think I am starting to come out the other end now. It is very much a step forward, two steps backward process though :(
Wishing you all the very best xx
ll80, I can fully understand the shock and absolute sadness you are feeling right now. I am so very sorry that things haven't worked out for you this time.
I had a missed miscarriage also. At 10 weeks I found out my baby had died at 6weeks 6 days, and I had even seen the heartbeat on an US at 6 weeks 4 days! It is a heart crushing experience, which there really is no comfort for right now.
My D&C was on 23rd October, and I am TTC again now, however it has been hard, and still is.
I found the D&C a quick, easy choice as I wasn't prepared to walk around knowing my baby was inside me and not alive, waiting for it to happen naturally. I also didn't want to be faced with the natural MC leaving anything behind and having to have a D&C anyway.
Whatever you decide, please know that you are in my thoughts and I hope you can find any comfort you can right now.
Take care,
Em x
I had a missed miscarriage in July at 6 1/2 wks.
My ob recommended that i wait and see if it passes naturally. In the end had a D&C and wanted to move on.
I know that this is a difficult time, but don't dispair. I had my D&C late Aug, had a period on the 17th September and then concieved overseas on holidays. Am now nearly 16weeks.
Hang onto the hope that your little bundle of joy will be in your arms very soon.
Take care,
Amanda
ll80: so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you.
Very similar here, I had the D and C done immediately for the same reasons.:
I'm really sorry for what your going through, it's absolutely horrible to experience this. I felt so incredibly betrayed by my body for not showing me that something was wrong.
There are plenty of us here who have come through the other side of miscarriage, talk, cry and vent all you need to hun :hugs:
Thanks everyone for your kind words.
I think I will opt just straight for d&c when i see my doctor this afternoon.
I also have a 3 going on 30 yr old and think it would just be easier all around, also I don't fancy keeping something dead inside me for any longer than necessary, wording may be a bit harsh but I think you will get my meaning.
Thanks again
Laura
I understand the feeling - I felt like my body had let me down not only by letting my baby die, but by then holding on to it afterwards. My FS did the D&C the same night as the scan which showed things had gone pear-shaped.
It may sound harsh, but I think that there's a lot of us that have shared similar thoughts. :hug:
BW
sorry to hear of your loss, sending you a big hug
Once again laura im so sorry :hugs:
After a few days of light bleeding I went to my Dr and she sent me to the hospital, after they did a scan and bubs had no HB they put me in for the night for the D&C to be done the following day..midnight I 'passed' our angel bub but they still did the D&C to make sure nothing was left inside that may cause infection.
ll80: let us know how it went
Hi Laura,:
I am in my 5th day after a curette and although I passed most of it naturally I'm so glad I got it over with physically, emotionally its hard and I'm still finding it tough to let go.. Be strong and believe in yourself.. As so many here have gone through this it's great to have them and to know we will feel better even if we never forget the little angel
HI everyone
I had quite an eventful night which saw me become a human pin cushion before rushing off for an immediate D&C after some scary blood loss.
Feeling very tired and lethargic will update you all on the full events when I feel a bit more with it.
Thanks again for all the well wishes
...Laura
Hi Laura
My thoughts are with you.
All the best for a speedy recovery.
Amanda
Best wishes for a speedy recovery. Get lots of rest and be real good to yourself right now.
I am feeling a bit more with it today and I think it will help me to get my head around everything by writing it down..
It's a bit long and might be a bit graphic for some.
My doctor sent me to the hospital straight away after the results of my blood test confirmed that I had had a missed miscarriage.
I was admitted straight away and some nurses and a midwife came in to check me over and take yet again some more blood. I had to wait a couple hours for the ob to come and see me as they were having a busy night delivering babies and she was doing a Caesarean.
So she eventually came to see me gave me the options and I chose D&C, as they were so busy I was told to come back at 7 the next morning. At this point I had no pain or bleeding so was pointless spending night in hospital, and I wanted to tuck DD into bed so they released me.
I hadn't eaten since lunch so had a quick sandwich and went to bed, by this time was about 9:30pm. DP and I were just talking in bed when I felt something come out and then felt all wet. So I got up and went and stood in the shower, a lot of blood was coming out. I just felt like I had my period at this point no cramps but blood was free flowing. So DP rang the hospital they said to come right in, I didn't want to wake up DD and see all this blood so we decided call an ambulance would be best and DP would come down in the morning after he had dropped DD at creche.
As DP is talking to the ambulance I can feel something solidish coming out. I started to freak out a little and decided to have a look and see what it was.
It was my baby half in and half out. I could see the sack and make out little legs. I am not sure how but I managed to keep it together and get dressed enough so that I would be a bit presentable when the ambulance arrived. I have to walk downstairs, by this time pad has already overflowed and blood is soaking into pants and everywhere.
Into the ambulance and off to hospital.
I am checked out straight away and they ask me if I would like a quick shower.
I then have to explain that I would but I have my baby stuck half in half out. The ob comes down pretty quickly and checks me out, she says yes it is and proceeds with tools and fingers to get it out.
The ob wants to do a d&c straight away but the anaesthetist wants to wait 6 hours as I ate when I went home, and there was a risk of vomiting into my lungs. I was happy to wait at this point I was feeling not too badly all things considered.
After that I go for a shower and come back and lie down for a bit. I start to get some cramping and my lower belly feels quite full, I am in quite a bit of pain at this point. The nurse come in and asks me how I am feeling, I tell her and she goes to get me some morphine. When she comes back I ask if I can go to the loo before she gives me that as morphine really puts me on a high.
Off to the loo I go, she leaves, tells me to buzz if I need anything, as soon as I lower my pants and the pad is removed a fountain of blood rushes out, I crapped myself, pressed the buzzer, nurse comes running in, uhoh I feel like I am gonna feint. Collapse onto the loo and end up passing out for a bit.
I wake up legs in the air and two male nurses/orderlies are lifting me up bottom half naked and covered in blood onto a bed.
Once I get with it a bit more I say "well isn't this a charming way to wake up" and had a bit of a giggle to myself, if I didn't see the light side I would have lost it. The nurses and everyone were really lovely and I think helped me to keep myself together.
I was pretty much sent straight up to theatre after that.
Woke up at about 3am and went into the maternity ward, stayed there til lunch time and was sent home.
Because I lost so much blood so quickly my haemoglobin levels where very low so I now have to take iron tablets twice a day for a while, and eat lots of meat.
My arms look like pin cushions, and are black and blue, I have 8 puncture wounds. All my muscles are sore, and I am just generally feeling sorry for myself, which is okay.
How I managed to keep myself calm and not cry at the hospital I don't know, I did fall to pieces when I got home had a shower and lay in bed.
Just taking things day by day and I know with time the pain won't be so deafening.
Thanks for reading and letting me get it all out.
...Laura
Laura im so sorry you had to go through that. Take care of yourself hun :hugs:
You poor thing hon :hug:. I hope you feel better soon. My thoughts are with you.:grouphug:
Laura honey i really dont know what to say other that i am so sorry you had to experience what you did. You are such a brave woman and i admire you so much for that. Make sure you take care of yourself and give yourself some much deserved pampering when the time is right. Big :hugs:
Oh Laura, what an awful experience, you poor darl, and sorry you had to go through most of it with out your DP. I hope you have a speedy recovery! I know it was graphic, but I am glad you shared your experience with us. I hope writing it down made you feel a little bit better. Big hugs. Jess.
laura - oh you poor, poor thing - i feel terribly for you. when DD was born 2 weeks later i had pretty much the same thing (not MC) happen as some placenta was left inside of me - blood gushed all over the house, i cant imagin having to go through that as an MC.
huge hugs to you - keep strong
Laura - Oh sweet I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that. I know how you're feeling as I was the same with our first pg. I know that it's hard now but it does get easier. Sending you lots of :hugs: and best wishes.
Mary
Nurture yourself and take all the time to heal you need:hug:
Oh, Laura, what a drama to have to go through. But it sounds like you were very brave. Obstetric stuff is just messy, isn't it? Try to keep your feet up and get help with DD and be very good and gentle to yourself.
(my last MC wasn't nearly as dramatic, but I had been bleeding lightly several days, then on one morning the bleeding increased a lot. But it wasn't until 6:10 that evening that I actually MC'ed, ie lost the sac. So I collected the sac and tiny placenta, put them in a clean container, and piled my girls into the minivan to go pick up my son from cross country practice. Looking back, I should have called another cross country parent to pick him up for me, but I really wasn't thinking straight. I was in bed by 7 that night, and didn't get up until the next morning)
I am so sad 4 you hun, please take it easy.
be kind to youself.
Much love.
Laura - My heart goes out to you. Be good to yourself, you have gone through so much.:hugs:
barbara
Thanks for the kind words everyone, it's very much appreciated.
My emotions are a bit up and down, had a very teary day yesterday.
I still feel very lethargic from all the quick blood loss and I think it compounds to my emotions.
I've got a severe allergic reaction to something they have used on my arms when inserting the canulas. So also very itchy.
I think if I didn't feel so crappy physically, I would be doing a bit better emotionally IYKWIM.
:hugs: to all
...Laura
Hi Laura
take as much time as you need, and be kind to yourself.
i understand your pain, and the emotional roller coaster that you are on.
thinking of you
Amanda
Hang in there, Laura and be really good to yourself.
Best wishes for a quick recovery and I am so sorry for your loss.
Debbie
I am so sorry for your loss and all that you went through. I hope you feel better soon.:hugs: