How did you tell your partner?

Hi everyone,

We've started TTC this month & it got me thinking about various ways to tell him when it happens.

Just wondering what everyone did when you told your partners?
My cousin got a father-to-be card for her DH.

The first time, I can't even really remember... cause it wasn't planned.
This time around, we planned it, and we took to the HPT together.

Congrats on the TTC. Good luck & I hope it all goes great!

xx

The first time I was pregnant I told DH in very loving, excited way and there were tears and laughing etc. et.c Then we m/c so that was awful. The next time I told DH we were very tentative so is wasn't as exciting which is a shame but it all worked out beautifully.

I've heard some good stories though and I like it in "Up the Duff" where she says about a girl who made meal for her Dh with veal, baby peas etc. to indicate a baby!!! LOL If I had my time over or for the next one I would def keep secret until confirmed by doc rather than telling DH I thought I was cause that way you can do the big surprise thing. Best wishes!

I just got that book today,can't wait to read it.

I wasn't very imaginative. I took a HPT after work one day for my OB appt the next day to induce my AF to start my next cycle and got a HUGE surprise. DH was out so I sat up and waited for him, he got home at 11.30pm and I had to be a work at 6am and when he walked in the door I just stood up walked over to him and said we're having a baby and showed him the HPT. He grabbed me, hugged me and kissed in a way that he never had before and I'll never forget that kiss. He was so happy.

I shoved that stick of wee under DH's nose 5:15am on a friday moring crying and laughing and shouting to him: YOU ARE GOING TO BE A DADDY!!
I was about three days late and DH was up in my face about taking a HPT for the whole three of those days. I just told him to wait till Friday. Well Friday got around and I got up and was soooo excited and just took the test without waking him. BTW he is NOT the morning type person. It took him about 10 seconds to process what I said, but then it was kisses and hugs and we told the whole family before 8am and the town knew before noon. ;) go figure
My original plan was to buy him a "best dad in the world" mug and give that to him with the HPT inside. Needless to say - I was to excited to keep that a secret for a second. Maybe next time??

I had plans.

I was going to do a card, a present, something with Daddy on, it would be so exciting...

Instead, I was 8w gone, did a blood test, called DH at work and it went along the lines of:

"Guess what."
"Go on."
"I'm pregnant."
"Thought so, your boobs had grown a bit."
"Really? Why didn't you say?"
"Dunno, didn't want to in case I was wrong."

Slightly anti-climactic.

LOL Ryn, typical bloke noticed your boobs!

Our First DH new I was testing & we debated if it was in fact a line as it was faint & he didn't think it counted.

2nd time I kept it a secret till christmas & gave him the HPT as a present. Poor guy says he almost died! He was very happy.

3rd time he was sleeping on Evan bed (well he was awake but not up yet) and I snuck in said there are 2 lines, He said I thought so. He now tells me he figured I was because I went of Sex LOL.

Next time I plan on putting a Bun in the oven LOL.

Rosehip, what a classic!!! Sorry if it was anticlimatic for you, but it cracked me up!!
For me - with DD i send my XP an SMS cos i was scared of his reaction!! (i was 18 when i fell preg and we had just bought our first house - DD would have been concieved the first week we moved in there)
and with my 2 mcs DF and i took the tests together - neither were planned but wanted so much!

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Next time I plan on putting a Bun in the oven LOL.

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ROFL, that's a good one.

With Zander, Aaron convinced me to test at 7am on a Saturday morning, so he knew.

With our princess, I was due to have my BT on the Friday (IVF bub) but I was too anxious so I tested on the Tuesday afternoon. I took a photo on my phone & MMSed it to him with the message "I couldn't resisit any longer!" To no answer... SMSed saying check your phone... No answer... Called... No answer... So he finally called back after 2 hours & still hadn't looked at the message!! So he looked while I was on the hone & he cracked up laughing!!

1st time I SMSed DH because he wouldn't answer his phone (coz I had chucked a hissy fit in the morning)

2nd time I walked out of the bathroom after doing a POAS and DH took one look at my smug grin and knew.

we were actively TTC, I had tried at 1 day past my missed period, negative. I made brekky and threw it up, did a HPT while in there and it was +ve. That was 3 days past the start of the missed period ... DF didn't want to believe it, so I did another a week later, still +ve ... he started to believe then. Meanwhile I was not drinking etc and he was offering me wine!

Next time, I'll just tell him I am preggers, not necc where in my cycle we're up to ...

Mine was terrible....

We had spent the night arguing and out of nowhere I just said I was pregnant, to be totally honest though I wasn;t actually 100% sure I was pregnant. The fighting stopped but I took him to his Aunts place to stay the night and we didn't talk the whole day. That night after work I went home and did I test, then to the doctors for another test because the tests were coming up so faint. It was after the doctors that I went to see him and told him I couldn't do this ( meaning all the tests, waiting for the blood test and even worse I wasn't sure I could have the baby - I was at the end of a year long application for entry into the police force - this meant throwing away all the hard work and putting it off for another few years).

He came home and we went to the blood test together. I called the pathology place 3 times before the results were finally in and they were faxed across to my work..... I was so nervous I was sick. I was 4 weeks pregnant. We decided to talk about it when he got home but I left work staright away and called a close friend. Although I don't think there was ever a real doubt that I would keep the baby my friends words just reiterated that - after all I knew I wanted kids since I was 15. I called DP back and told him we would figure things out and we would be ok and that I thought we could do it. Apparently it was the best news of his life and when he got home he had already been out and bought something for the baby.

We are so much closer now and I couldn't imagine things being any other way!!!

We weren't really trying but we weren't being careful either. I started to suspect something was up so i stopped changing the cat tray.

I took a test during the day when DH was sleeping after a night shift. It came up positive,,,,i wasn't surprised but thought DH may be a bit shocked..even thoght i told him that my period hadn't come yet. It felt like the longest few hours of my life while i waited for him to wake up.
He sat down on the couch and i sat on the floor, I told him that I had taken a pregnancy test that morning..then i started to cry as I was happy but worried about what he would thing. He smiled and said you're pregnant aren't you? I said yes and cried harder, he laughed, gave me a big hug and said why are you crying, it's good!

So definitely not the crazy happy moment that i thought it would be but it was still really nice!

With Kat, we'd been trying for 5 months and nothing. Then during the 6th month, we got married and on the drive over to perth for our honeymoon, I was having bad cramps and needing to pee CONSTANTLY. I told DH AF was going to be a BAAAAD one and I thought I was developing a UTI. I had NFI I was UTD! We got to Perth and AF was still not there (3 or 4 days late and no real sign of her, besides cramping) so the next day, we bought a HPT. I did it sitting in the loo and when I saw the wet patch reach the other side and there was only one line, I threw it out. There was no hint of a second line. I went out and told DH it was -ve and he was a little upset. So two days later, still no AF and a dh's best man said he thought I was pg, so I use the second test. I went outside and had a smoke while we waited. Thinking it would be my last if I was. Came back in and DH and I waited together for the 8 min mark, and I checked. Two lines. I ran straight out to DH and said "Ur going to be a daddy!!!!" He started crying too.
With Jess, I was only 10wks pp and I felt sick 4 afternoons running so I guessed I was. DH kept saying it was hormones re-settling. I went to Dr for BT and we went back the next day for results. The whole night while we waited, I kept asking DH if he'd be angry if I was. He assured me he was fine with it. After all it was his fault too. Well Dr said "Yep, ur pregnant" and Dh litterally had to pick his jaw up off the floor. He was happy, but it was a huge shock. HPT's were -ve till 10wks pg.
With this one, I suspected, went for BT and the result was -ve. Then next day, was still feeling dodgy and horrid so got a HPT while buying lunch for my sis's kids and my kids. I did the test and it came up +ve. I msg'd DH and said "Hello daddy of 3". He msg'd back and said "I thought u said it was -ve" I msg'd back "It was, two days ago. Today it's +ve. Twice." (I'd used both tests). Dr confirmed with BT a week later. He wasn't too happy as he'd changed his mind and decided we should wait another few months. Too late!! We worked it out tho and he's looking forward to meet our little man!

Awww... these stories are so touching and funny! I can't wait till I have a special moment to tell my DH (He's cluckier that I am believe it or not!). I like the one about putting a bun in the oven! Keep them coming.

With all of mine I've just shown him the positive test. With this one I had to sneak in the bathroom use the test as quietly as I could so as not to wake him (he didn't like me testing early, thought I was getting obsessed) and then when it came up positive I went back to bed and waited for him to wake & just showed him. He was of course delighted.

1st time I didnt know and had been going to the Dr's for 2 weeks with bad cramps etc, then decided he would check my urine again for a infection. DH said he knew I was PG when I came out of the toilets at the Dr's with PIAC.. the Dr had his back towarsds me turns around and tells me im PG.. I was like ''No im not"". When I walked out DH grabbed me, hugged me & said "'Your Pg aint you?"

2nd time I was really sick on a Monday morning and thought I felt fine when I got up to DD through the night, thats when it hit me that AF was 2 days late. Went in and tested (we had been TTC for 1 month)and I got a +, he knew when I came out all smiles!! Sadly it ended in a M/c

This time I didnt think I was PG but tested anyway cause I was 8DPO and got + so I did 6 more tests and got more + so I called him cause he was at work.

Mine wasn't overly dramatic... I got up at 6am and tested 10DPO. Shel knew I was testing but we were both sure it was going to be -ve, so it wasn't very exciting. There was a second line, and I almost jumped out of my skin. I ran into the bedroom and jumped on the bed (a water bed!) and said "come have a look" and Shel said "I don't need to, it's +ve isn't it?"

LOL, I bugged her so much that she got up to have a look, and the look on her face said it all. I didn't think she actually expected to see a second line!

We didn't get back to sleep that morning, we just sat around with these big cheesy grins on our faces!

i had been feeling sick for a few days but put it down to gastro was going around work and just thought it was that but on the friday i noticed AF was late!! so i went to the chemist to get a HPT came home and did it.. was sitting on the couch reading a mag and glanced over and saw two bright blue line and almost fell of the couch by this time it was 5.15 and DP should of been home but he was late so i called and no answer and called 2 more times still no answer.. i remember saying to myself while walking back and forwards 'oh my god i going to be a mummy" while waiting for DP to get home just then he pulled up i went flying out to the car and dragged him inside into the kitchen and held up the test and said 'im pregnant' he looked at the test with a shocked looked and said 'im going to have shower"!! when he came out he was smiling saying 'im going to be a daddy'!!

then to make sure i did 3 more tests and they were bright bright blue!!

We had endured our 5th cycle of IVF ICSI and I became really sick about a week and a half after embryo transfer. I had ovarian hpyerstimulation syndrome and was hospitalised. I had heard that having it come on so late after the stimulation drugs could indicate a pregnancy but the local GP didnt believe me. He eventually spoke with our FS who bet him 5Cents that it was true!!!!! (I cant believe only 5cents) I had ordered a big box of tests from the internet and when we came home from hosp DH had to go out and get a few things from the shops. He made me promise not to test without him, it was torture. The blood test still wasnt scheduled for about 3days. When he came home no mention was made of doing the test right away so while he was outside I did it and when I saw those two lines I couldnt contain myself!!! I rushed outside to him and just shoved it in his face, threw my arms around him and we stood in disbelief for a while before the kisses and tears and shakes started. Not quite what I had planned over the years but special anyhow. It was really hard to keep it from friends and the whole town as a lot of ppl were asking why I had been in hospital: we just kept saying a tummy thing but I think a few worked it out. Because I was still sick for a few weeks and because we had tried for 10 years, he was very attentive and protective of me for AGES. I loved it!!! And to make sure it was really true I used another 9 tests over the next week lol

Hey, does anyone else here still have the POAS they used? Or am I just weird?

lol well i do, but mine was done a bit mor recently than yours!

But my friend, whose eldest is 10, still has that test! (though its gone a bit yellow and gross!)

I have all my +ve tests from my pgcies with DH. The others I threw out when I m/c'd as I was hurting so bad. I wish I hadn't now, but teenagers do things they regret...
I have 3 from Kat, about 7 from Jess and with this one, I've got about 12 and all marked DPO as I was keeping track this time hehehehe

1st Pregnancy - Woke up at 4am to do the 1st urine test, positive so I sat on the lounge crying, smiling, shaking for half an hour then woke my husband up at 4.30 and asked him to come to the kitchen. I placed the test results on the box and he straight away knew what I was getting at. Hugged, kissed, cried together at 4.30am - it was amazing.

2nd Pregnancy - Away on holidays in Sydney and Ive been telling husband how im feeling sick etc wasnt really late for periods, anyway he said 'just buy the test and see'. Went back to hotel, did the test and positive straight away, went out to husband crying and shaking, hugged and kissed eachother, it was nice to have our daughter there so we all shared the wonderfull moment. It is an amazing rush when you find out, my whole day was filled with tears and joy - over the moon.

We had been TTC for a while before this pregnancy. When I got my BFP it was in the morning and DH was at work. I baked a cake in a log tin, then iced it white with two blue lines. When I brought it out after dinner that evening he didn't have the faintest idea what it was all about! Ended up having to bring out the pg test and show him!

we had been TTC too and my TTM had been all over the place beforehand so when mine was late, it wasn't unusual. but i was hoping i was pregnant so i tested after a few weeks.

i wanted to use my first morning wee for the HPT and that was just after 2am so at 2:18am i rushed into the bedroom and woke up my hubby saying :"guess what, i'm prengnat?" and he said "really??" we were so excited that we couldn't get back to sleep until 3:30am.

don't think we'll forget that!! we went to the drs to confirm that day.
and yay i'm 7 weeks, 5 days pregnant... i can't believe that i thought my morning sickness was me detoxing (cos i was trying to be healthy that week). haha.

We had a plan that if i found out i would send him a single red rose and that way if he was at work or whatever it would be a nice surprise but i did the test at 4pm just b4 he finished work and didnt have time to organise it and i was too excited to wait so i sent him a text msg saying "im sending you this instead of a red rose, i love you" Within a minute he was on the phone and we were both over the moon. Second time around it was more of a i think i'm pg might test got a pos but had some spotting so there was alot of unsurity and alot less excitement we both wanted it but wanted to make sure the spotting stopped etc so we missed the whole exciting first couple of days.

Good luck with the TTC

My DH knew exactly what was going on with my cycle, and I had warned him a few days earlier that I'd had a temp dip, which I wasn't sure if it was implantation or AF coming early. So I got up in the morning, and randomly decided to do a test, monstly to kill some time and to confirm what I was sure would be a negative, when a cross appeared! So after being hysterical for about five minutes, I had a whole thirty second debate in my head as to whether to call him, or wait for him to come home, but in the end I called him at work and let him know! He came through the door with a big grin on his face. So I couldn't really have kept it a secret for long, but I'm planning more exiting ways to tell my parents!

I tested the week before Christmas and got a positive. I called DF at work and told him I had an early present for him. He didnt want to wait till he got home to find out what it was and I said "You're gonna be a Dad" and he was so excited but he didnt want to tell anyone at work and they were asking him all day what he was grinning about

Sorry this might be long..

well with our 1st BHL had been away for 3 mths and I had rung him up when he had been away for about 3 weeks to tell that the test results for his sperm test had come back and we were told that he has a short supply and that it would take us longer that the average jo to have a baby ( it had alreally been 18 mths ) but as we were only 20 doc didnt want to try anything yet. So we thought that when he got back we would go to a new doc and start thing rolling anyway when he had been away for about 10 week I was feel really run down had the flu and just felt crappy so took myself to a new doc and he asked if I could be PG I told him No and told him about our results and way he had a poke around told me to take the pee test that there is was a big fat Plus I had been PG the whole time we must have fallen just after his test and just before he left.. Anyway I then had to ring him and tell my BHL that we were PG and that yes it is his ( well he had to ask ) so the next time he came home I was 4.5 mth PG with big boobs ( the first time ever ) and a not so little pot...

With our 2nd we had been tring for 2 year and once again had just had all the test but this time the GP was really nice and once realised that BHL count was even less than last time sent us to the gyno who was a real pig, as he kepted saying how great it was to look at young overies for onces and then looked at BHL's results and told us that if we were 10 years older ( we were 23) he would start stright away with helping us but as we were so young and had so much time he didnt want to see us for a year.. Still makes me mad who cares who old we were.. anyway I stoped all caffine and we went wild for the next mth and you we got PG so this time we were both watching the two lines come up I started to cry as did he then we had to go out with mil and fil and act as though nothing was different....

for our 3rd we had only just started trying ( 3 mths ) when I just new I was PG I told BHL he didnt believe me so we took a test then he still wouldnt believe me as the line was very faint so we waited a few more days and the line was nice and strong we were both very happy even if BHL may have felt a bit ripped off as he thought he had a good 6 mths of trying before we would once again head of to the doctors LOL ...

Sorry if this was a bit long a boring...

Awww everyones are so cute, mine's horrible. Sorry this is so long... We'd only been together a month (and yes using condoms) when I realised my period was late so jokingly my best friend bought a pregnancy test for me and bought it round to my place. I didn't want to do it but he talked me into it with the old "the old lady at the store scowled at me so now you have to do it" line lol, so I gave in and did as I was told. We were joking around that I'd get my 'monthlys' any second when he squeaked "it's positive" I was in disbelief so I did another. Same result so I decided to tell my partner but couldn't bare doing it face to face in case he demanded I abort or that bub wasn't his and was too hysterical to call him, so I was mean and SMSed him, explaining that I understood if he didn't want to see me anymore and that if that was the case I wouldn't hate him or demand child support. He didn't check his phone til he was at work and dam near had a heart attack. So happy my SMS was completely paranoid and that were now engaged all excited about bub coming!! Only 4 more months to go!! lol

My DP & i always spoke about how we loved the GOLDEN BOOKS as a child.

So, I had kept aside a for the day I would hopefully become pregnant a GOLDEN BOOK about a DADDY bear & his little bear.

When I finally found out i was pregnant after nearly 3yrs of trying to concieve I went up to DP telling him how I had a gift for him.

It was the GOLDEN BOOK with a little letter :heartbeat: popped in at the back page addressed DEAR DADDY, ....

I can't remember it right now (do have it hidden in wardrobe) but it was as if it was written from our unborn child about how he/she :stork-girl: can't wait for HIM to read them this book when they finally arrive !!

DH thought it was such a special way to be told ... And also a beautiful keepsake to keep for the baby when they are older :hug:

Best of Luck with TTC. I hope the journey is short for you :)

With DD I tested 19dpo (or 5 days after AF was due). It was a saturday morning and i woke up early
(6ish) and poas. The line came up straight away and was very dark (darker then control line). I walked out and woke DH and said "we did it!" his reply "really? let me have a look" LOL. We conceived on our 4th cycle :) (TTC#2 is proving a bit more difficult)

ETA: I don't have the stick anymore but I did take photo's of it. I kept it for a while but it ended up getting a bit discoloured LOL so I threw it out.

Im gonna do mine a bit like a time line, so it doesnt ge confusing.
Sunday: DP and I had a HUGE fight, which we put down to PMS...so went on thinking was over for that cycle.
Mid Week: I was sitting down while on my break at work, when i noticed a 'presence' in my tummy. I was pretty convinced i was, but DP wasnt when i told him of my 'signs'.
Friday: AF was due. Had AF cramping, went to loo and saw EWCM...and lots of it. So i msgd DP and asked him to research online if it could be a sign, and it came up that it could be (i was at work).
Saturday: Woke up, DP and i had both vowed to not test till Monday so that it cut back on some disapointment. We decided to test just because, and to see what the new tests were like. I see a VERY faint line, dont mention it to DP, then he mentions a faint line, and i was like yea i def see it too!! I was convinced, DP wasnt. We weren't expecting it...esp considering it wasnt first morning urine.
Sunday: Took another test and the line was still faint but more viewable. I took a photo of it, and the line was viewable in the photo.
Monday: Another test, still faint. Went to docs and got blood test.
Tuesday: Called for blood results. They werent in.
Wednesday: Called for blood results, they were positive!!

Ive saved my tests from the Sunday onwards. Might throw them out, keeping only one, coz im going to do like a scrap book thingy. It was just so trippy coz since the huge fight we had we both definately thought it wasnt our cycle..plus was the first time temping, and we didnt know which day i had ovulated coz it was all jumbled...and our BD patern around ovulation left 2 days between BD and ovulation. It didnt look promising, but we got the result we wanted but werent execting for that cycle, and now we have a beautiful girl growing in my tummy :)

I had been *exhausted*, practically falling asleep standing up, for weeks but we supposed it could be jetlag coming back to bite me. Then for days I felt like the worst period ever was coming, I was sapped and crampy and whiney as all get out. I just laid curled up on the sofa and watched crap tv. I've always been regular as clockwork, on the day I missed my period dh said "well you're pregnant then," and went to work. I fretted for a while, then went out and bought a HPT. Wouldn't you know it almost immediately showed positive, strong and clear. When I composed myself enough to be able to talk coherently, I called dh at work and begged him to come home. He asked why even though he knew. When he got home we laid on the bed and held each other for hours, didn't really have anything to say.
It was a bit of an adjustment, but I think now we're more looking forward to meeting our daughter than scared crapless.

Erm . . . we did it together. I didn't tell him, I just said "Um, Michael . . . " "Oh God, you're pregnant" and I ran out of the room LMFAO. Of course we're so happy to have her, she just wasn't expected! We were a tad shocked :P

Well as mine was an unplanned, unexpected surprise it was very much a me sneaking off to do the test. Then i sat on it (literally sat on it) for an hour and then i went of into my friends bedroom (we were staying at her place at the time) and i he followed and i burst into tears.
Not all too impressive...! But thought i'd share nonetheless.
Once we decided we were going to bring our adorable precious sooner than expected bundle into the world i just walked up to him one night planted a kiss on his cheek and said 'we're having a baby' and we both kinda squealed, giggled, and grinned for a while...