Advices/encouragements needed? What is going on with me?

Hi All,

I think this is going to be a long thread.... Sorry for the long post but I am trying to vent out my stress and at the same time hope to hear from those who experienced something similar to my case.

Okay... here I come!

I've always had my period the same day every month.... DD is 8 months now and DH and I are planning TTC but my period has gone hay wire since having DD.

I stop breastfeeding when DD was 4 months old. While I was BF, I was on a birth control pill (a single component only). When DD was 6 months old, I switched to the combination birth control as I was not BF anymore thus would not harm DD in any way. I was on the combination pill for only 1 month and have completely stopped on contraceptives. I only started my AF when I was on the combination pill and that only happened that very once... my AF lasted for 5 days. Since then, I have not had any AF and I am NOT pregnant after 3 home pregnancy test 2 weeks after my AF due date. But the odd thing is when I am supposed to have AF... I feel cramps all those 5 days... When those 5 days have gone... the cramps went away...but now, I've been feeling cramps here and there even though it's not time for AF!?:(

DH and I are really hoping to conceive but it's impossible without AF!!! At first, I thought it might be stress... then I started worrying if there's something wrong internally with me preventing me from conceiving... I am so scared and don't really know how to talk about this issue to DH.

I am going crazy these days because I've been testing myself with HPT for so many times... I feel so disappointed in what's happening. Lately, I've been feeling a little off because of this. DD's been my sunshine everyday... without her, I don't think I could bring out the smile since I'm just stuck on worrying sick!

Did anyone go through the same thing? SIGH:crying::pray:

AF post partum can take a few cycles to become regular - breastfeeing or FF. You only gave birth 8 months ago....it can take time for your body to recover and get back into the regularity of menstruating

Maybe the stress of no AF is causing no AF- KWIM ??

Oh, and BTW - you dont necessarily need AF to fall pregnant. You must ovulate before you get AF, so theoretically you can catch the egg before your first AF.

But in saying that, maybe just taking a relaxed approach, enjoying your lil girl and getting in the bedding when you can may see AF arrive.....just a thought.

Good luck. !

I had my DD almost 11 months ago, and AF became regular after about 8 months, then I went back on BCP and again it went a bit haywire, so 2 months after starting BCP im back to normal. Id say that its a combination of your body going back to normal after the birth and that you went on and off the pill again in a short amount of time that has sent your AF cycle haywire. Give it another cycle or two and you should find that you will be somewhat regular again. BOL with ttc!

Maybe the stress of no AF has caused no AF! Those days that I hated when AF came have seemed to be so far ago. Now, I'm waking up everyday hoping to see something! ARGH!

DH and I have beec TTC based on my June cycle's AF. It's said that my most fertile days of this month is from 15-20. Hopefully something positive will show up.

Is there any herbal remedies for regulating AF? I have been on postnatal vitamins and have been eating a healthy balanced diet for 8 months now hoping for another miracle to come!

Honey, I know it's hard, but just relax! As the others have said, it takes some time for your body to adjust after pregnancy, breastfeeding, and the pill. Many say up to a year or more. One friend of mine has had three girls, all about 2 years apart, and hasn't had a period since she conceived the first!
Since it will be difficult to figure out where you are in your cycle, just make love when you feel like it. You are most likely to be in the mood when you are ovulating anyway. You could watch your cm for clues too - check out fertility friend's info on charting and observing your cm if you are interested. (google it)
Wait a couple of months, and if there is still nothing going on, then make an appointment with your doctor to discuss your concerns.
All the best!

Is it okay to conceive before having regular AF? My doctor urges me to wait until my regular cycles to conceive but I really am hoping to TTC now. Who knows how long it may take me for my body to readjust itself. Is it safe to proceed even without my AF?

I know it's a little harder to catch my ovulation dates, but I've been charting my temperature as well as noticing my CM and DH and I just DTD as soon as we have the mood hoping for a little miracle to come.

I've already tried 3 HPTs... I feel like a lunatic but am desperately waiting for that + to show up on the window....

I think the biggest reason they want you to wait is for dating your pregnancy. But a quick scan will solve that problem, should the need arise.
About the HPTs - I think there are lots of ladies here who've taken at least that many and more when they're waiting/hoping for a pregnancy. You're certainly not alone, or going crazy. :)
Just hang in there! Give it a little time, and try to relax - it'll come. :hug:

gosh it took my body abt 5 mths to get back to normal so ur not alone in that department... it just takes time which is the pain in the butt part of it....ive just recently gone off the pill this is my 2nd cycle without and yeah my body is all over the place...so i know how it feels...my period didnt come for 32days lol which it should be 28-30days

just relax take it easy and thigns will be fine

The waiting period is long especially when we're waiting for it to happen. Hope these days fly by and then I will have some great news to shout out to everyone! :dance:

Hi Carmen2,

I have suffered one still birth at 26 weeks and a miscarriage at 6 weeks in the last two years and after reading about the use of acupuncture to help with fertility, I decided to try it out.

I not only felt a lot more relaxed after about the third session of acupuncture but I also found that:
- my breast milk finally dried up (8 months after stillbirth)
- I experiencing more pronounced mood swings (eg: pms)
- I am getting acne on my back about a week before my period arrived
- I am warmer in general (I am normally the first person to say they are cold)
and I have a stronger constitution in general.

The acupunturist states that this is my body/hormones starting to function as they should and expelling all the rubbish in my system.

I was also put on magnesium, calcium and sodium sulfate, to build up the minerals in my body, which were lost when I was pregnant as I had morning sickness for the whole 26 weeks I was pregnant.

I am now in the TWW and feel a lot more positive about a possible pregnancy than I have in a long time.

My friends and work collegues have all commented that I look really well.

So maybe acupuncture could help regulate your hormones.

Warmest regards
Eloise

Hi

As Mbear said you've only had a baby 8 months ago. Personally it takes my body ages for my cycles to regulate. I found this out after ttc dd#2 when DD#1 was 10months old. I started charting after a mc when DD1 was only 6months old and my cycles were all over the shop.For months I had constant spotting and at other times no AF or ovulation.

I got sick of my body not doing what I wanted it too so I started taking Vitex and vitamin B, within a few cycles my cycles returned to normal and we concieved DD#2.

If you are concernedmaybe start charting to see what your body is doing (although be warned this can stress you out too). My other suggestion would be to see a Natural Therapist because you may not get much help from a GP...

Good luck

My AF is back since Jul 20. Well, I was so happy when it arrived! (The crazy woman who was begging for AF). Now that I have finally waited for this day to come, I have started charting. Not so sure how long my body will have AF for. It usally lasted for about 5 days. Hopefully it will be a regular cycle afterward.

Since we're TTC for #2. I was actually wondering about how possible is it for me to conceive base on this AF. My last AF was June 6, and this is July 20... so I can definitely say there's a big gap. Do you think I could calculate my ovulation date base on my AF now...

I thought of acupuncture but DH wasn't too keen on this idea because he wants my body to go back to its regular cycle on its own instead of me doing interventions... I felt like going behind his back to get my body fixed... but this thought gave me so much guilt as DH and I never hide things from each other and I know that he wants the best for me and that he doesn't want me to go through unnecessary stress just for me to get pregnant....

Should I try to calculate my ovulation date base on this cycle or do you think it's another wacked off AF cycle that my body has produced?

Personally I would start this cycle fresh and start temping now. Basically it is a wait and see game if your cycles are not regular yet. It is hard to "calculate" or predict ovulation when your cycles are not normal iykwim. Therefore observe your cervical mucus and take your temps. Record all your information and you may start to see a pattern. DTD when you see your mucus change to egg white or watery and then see if you get a temp rise over 3 consectutive days. By having a consistent temp rise you'll know that you have already ovulated.

Hope that helps.

Bekz,

Thank you. DH and I are hoping for this cycle too. I know it is hard to predict the ovulation date since my body is still a little all over the place. But you're right, never know what will happen until we give it a try. According to the ovulation calculator, I'm "supposed" to ovulate around August 1-August 8. DH and I are going on a trip to Mexico in two weeks to get so rest and to catch up with one another since DD's birth. I guess I will try it around those time since we're going on August 2... hopefully, I will have so good news.

I can't wait for my body to be normal again... I used to have regular cycles (same day every month). ARGH!!! don't you just miss those days?

I'm crossing my fingers for August and will probably be DTD as much as we can in Mexico since it's much harder with DD is around.... I will keep everyone posted if something happens... will try HPT around August 20... By then, DD will be 9 months and 1 1/2 week. Hope my body will take me up for it!

All the best with ttc. Enjoy your break away...I am so jealous.

Most importantly ENJOY your baby making!!!!!

Bekz,

Thank you. I will definitely enjoy the week off. I can't wait till it comes (then I'm sure it will go by fast!) Oh well, at least I can have some time with DH alone while DD stays with my parents!

I'll keep everyone posted if something great comes out of my vacation especially if I could announce myself to be an expectant again! :redface:

hi carmen

i'm very new here & i don't have any advice to give but i wanted to send a big good luck your way & i hope you have a lovely, relaxing holiday...and a successful one ;)

Sloane,

Thank you. Welcome to BB! This is a great forum for all your needs!

I would agree with the others it takes a while for your cycle to get back to normal and sometimes normal is not the same as it used to be, I went from a 28day cycle with a 7 day period to a 21 sometimes longer with a 3 day heavy period.
Treat this cycle as all fresh and enjoy your holiday, it's usually when you relax that it all falls into place.
I have had a series of MC's and my cycle always was messed up after that and they were all around 3 months or less so going full term you would imagine messes with it even more add to that BF and BC pill.
Good luck and enjoy your holiday!!!!!

Pam,

Thanks. I think hearing from others' experiences reassure me that my body is okay. What scared me the most was when I haven't had it for so long... I was starting to scare myself the more I thought about it. I know that TTC#2 plus thinking about this whole thing made my body become more unsettled.

I'm so glad that AF finally decided to come back. So, I am calculating my ovulation day as of this cycle and see if something good will come out of it. If it does, I'm sure everyone will hear me in BB.

Thanks for all the encouragements... I needed them so much to give me heads up