i hate him!!

OH MY GOD

I HATE HIM SO MUCH

Underneath all the lies, underneath the abuse and confusion, he is essentially, a bastard. A complete *******. One of those people who just fundamentally unashamedly incurably awful!

He is meant to be trying to show me he's changing, by sending over the rest of my things and paying child support. He managed to lose the money he had AND his car AND both of his jobs in one day. All I asked him to do was; put my things in a box, and email me his bank details. I offered to pay to have my things sent. I don't care what it costs, I just want them back, there are things that are just irreplacable. After having to plead with him, he finally agrees to do this. I tell him i'll call him later and see how he's going.

Hours pass. NO EMAIL. I call him. HE ISN'T ANSWERING HIS PHONE. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH HIM? IS HE BRAINDEAD? WTF?! *palm to forhead*

I JUST WANT MY THINGS BACK!! *cries* and I just KNOW he isn't sending them so he still has power over me. Even if I could just have the teddies my parents bought Aurelia from Europe, I can replace everything else.

I seriously feel like just bursting into tears right now. I know it's just STUFF, but these are things Aurelia is entitled to, things she loves. Apart from that, ALL of my favourite books are over there and its going to cost a fortune to replace them all.

Why does he ALWAYS make my life as difficult as he possibly can? I don't deserve it!!

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after calling 5000 times, I woke him up aparently, and he has renewed his agreement. We'll see I suppose. It should not have taken months like it has though.

So sorry you are still having such trouble Baby Socks.
He sounds like a complete prat.You are right...You don't deserve this.
I really hope things get better for you soon and sorry I don't have any good advise for you.Just lots of:hug:

oh hun i went through exactly the same thing with my ex. he still hasnt passed on some of my very precious things - even the photo album of dd's first year :(

i dont have any advice, just makes me wonder how many a holes are out there?

try o focu on yourself and your little one, he just isnt worth your energy :hug:

Whereabouts is he? If he was in Melbourne I would get them for you in a heartbeat.

Try going to the police and having them go with you to the house to collect them yourself. That way you know for sure you are going to get them and you will have protection from his abuse. The police can be very good in this way.

Good luck love

Darl all i can say is police... that's what i would be doing. Then you get your stuff back and he no longer has power over you.

I agree with the others about getting the police.
Good luck, you don't deserve all this cr@p, I hope things improve soon.

I fart in his general direction

:cryinglaugh::cryinglaugh::cryinglaugh:

Trust me girls, that's a SERIOUS threat...

ROFLOL! wow a fart threat, now thats big.

Seriously, police.

You definitely don't deserve it babysocks but sometimes *****ed up people use whatever excuse they can to stay in touch so maybe he figures that as long as he doesn't send you the stuff then you've still got a reason to call.

I'd maybe try saying you don't care about those things enough to keep hassling him. Reverse psychology might just work.

I hate dealing with people like this; they make life so friggin difficult. It's not easy, that's for sure.

If all BB ate baked beans for a day we could fart at the whole world.

LMFAO we should all send him farts in jars hehe (remember those on ebay?)

I don't know if I can call the police, he's in Syd and i'm in Perth, so I don't think they'd do anything. When I pressed charges for domestic assault, they wouldn't do anything with him being in Sydney so I doubt they'd worry about this, particularly since it's all just stuff with sentimental value. :(

Why dont you girls join me in the private single parenting section

Sorry you have to deal with such childish behavior. While you said police might not work would maybe getting some advice from a layer help. I don't know much about it much I think you can access a family layer through legal aid or center link, you would have to check. Good luck! :hug:

Yes, Police I agree.

But please also, don't underestimate the fart from my particular a$$. It's vego with anchovies

Fionas, are you free? I have a can opener, and with Miss Jelly Beanie permission, we can take all of sydney.

When the man has been knocked cold, maybe one of his two faced friends will sneak into his apartment with his keys and take your stuff back to HIS house, where you can arrange to get it send over in boxes door to door with truck company. They charge per meter square so be cheap!

and shu know, fionas and I could arrange a small exclusion zone around this particular two-faced friend or work mate if you happen to know of such one! Perhaps even just the threat of you talking to someone who is important to him . . . like his mother . . . i dunno, but I swear you let him know my a$$ is pointed his way, and I'm eatin' bird seed . . . . he'll cry I promise

Dont worry about his childish behaviour - its OURS you should be worried about......

Seriously, is there someone close to his home that could get your stuff for you?

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oh hun i went through exactly the same thing with my ex. he still hasnt passed on some of my very precious things - even the photo album of dd's first year :(

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my ex had a garage sale and SOLD my family heirlooms :( then didn't pay the mortgage for a whole year whilst living in our house!!!

and there was nothing i could do, despite threatening letters etc.

report your stuff as stolen and tell them you know who has it, you have tried to retrieve your thing but he won't return them and you feel they have been stolen. :)

oh and the farts in a bottle can be a thankyou gift when you finally get them back lol :)

I totally forgot I posted this lol.

Thanks for all your replies, everyone!

I was part of the single parents support group but I didn't have the net for ages and now it doesn't work for me.

I don't think I can report the things stolen because they weren't stolen, I didn't bring them with me (I was meant to but then they didn't fit in the bag, it was a chaotic mad rush to the airport bla bla), I haven't physically tried to retrieve them, and he's agreed to send them back. The trouble is, will he. He's sent one parcel with a few things in it, he rekons he'll send it all bit by bit. That's fine for him!! GRRR. He also sent me an ipod as a birthday present (my birthday was 2/7 wtf?) with no earphones. Guuuh.

Dragonfly, I cannot believe he did that, what an a$$!!!

I hope he sends the rest of my things soon. He ignored me when I said don't send my clothes EXCEPT for a specific jumper and cardigan. I've lost weight, other things won't fit. So what does he do? He sends the cheapest, ugliest shirt I own that also happens to be the biggest size I own. WTF? He didn't send my cardigan because "it looks crappy, I never liked cardigans" WELL WTF DO YOU NEED IT FOR THEN, WHY DIDN'T YOU SEND IT SO IT WON'T OFFEND YOU ANYMORE?!?!? :wall: