What's it like being a mum to a little boy?

We just found out yesterday that God has blessed us with a little boy. I am still getting my head around it. I am actually very happy that bump is a boy but I guess I just want to know what its like having a little boy. What are they like, what if I modicoddle him will he end up a wussy boy? Will he want me around, will he always want my cuddles and kisses? Will he be able to handle all the love that I have for him?
I guess I just want to know if I will be a good enough mum for him. I would probably feel this way even if it was a girl. Its just that from seeing my brother grow up he was not as affectionate as I was. And I love cuddles and snuggles.

Little boys LOVE cuddles and snuggles! I think they need it more than girls.

I have two boys and both love to be cuddled. DS#1 moreso and has turned into a real "boy's boy" IYKWIM. He is definitely not a wuss, he is very adventurous and into all things extreme. But at the end of the day he still needs his mummy :). DS#2 loves cuddles, but doesn't depend on them as much as his older brother, but he always likes to know I'm close by. I guess they're all different!

It sounds to me like you'll make an awesome mum!

My boy is only 2 but i find he is so much more affectionate than his sister. He loves cuddles and gives lots of kisses but DD doesn't. I think a lot just depends on the child's personality but i know that DH is still a 'mummy's boy' at age 22. Congratz on finding out it's a little boy though!

Forgot to add that DS is in no way a wuss either. He is very much a boy's boy. Loves dirt, trucks, cars, bashing things. He is also very care-free but still loves his cuddles from both myself and DH.

I was telling my mum one day it would be good to have a daughter because I never had any sisters to dress up pretty when they were little or anything and mum said you will want boys too, they're more affectionate than girls and give lots of cuddles (she has 1 girl and 3 boys).
So apparently the affection thing isn't just for girls!
You'll be an awesome mummy!!

Congrats on your little blue bundle of joy!

I now have 2 boys, one is 4/12 and the other 4weeks.
I always thought boys grow up to be mummys boys, and so far my 4yr old has.
He's a typical boy that loves the rough and tough stuff, but he knows he's gentle with mummy and mummy doesn't do the wrestling and rough stuff.
He loves cuddles and kissies too. He's my chicken and we're really close.
I'm not really sure how DS2 will grow up and be like, but so far he loves to be cuddled all the time, more then DS1, and I secretly think he loves my cuddles the best. :P

I'm sure you'll be a fantastic mummy and however your little man grows up, he'll know he's well loved.

(sorry if that doesn't help.)

All the best with the rest of your pg.
xx

Well I can only tell you whats its like with my boy and I have seen many different types out there...

My boy love cuddles loves kiss's always wanted his mum when upset needs reasurance that its going to be ok, takes on everything, feels everything, but he is the most loving child I have, will still tell me he loves me, will still tell me I look nice when he see's me dressed up, will still come up and just give me a hug.... And like today when I had thought he had stoped all PDA he held my hand while walking out of school, ( so be it was only for 5 sec but still more than I have gotten all year....)

I have know some checky rascals that you have to watch with both eyes open but they too when little are mummy's boys at heart...

HTH

Congratulations on hearing that you are to have a baby boy..... I would love another BOY they are just wonderful.....

Dont freak! You`ll be a great mummy and he will love you!

2 books that I recomend you read sometime over the next few years that will help your understanding of males and what are positive points for their upbringing are Steve Bilduphs
"raising boys" and "manhood".

Thanks girls, this is just what I needed to hear. Keep'em coming. I love the idea of watching my little man and my big man doing stuff together, building things like billy carts etc. I guess there will be plenty that I can do that daddy wont be able to do. I hope he is a mummies boy!

Thanks Salsa, I am a big researcher so I will look for those books and definately read them.

being mum to a little boy is fabulous! I have learnt so much from my son. I grew up with 3 sisters and my mum, an all girl house, so i sorta freaked when i found out i was havin a boy. I now understand boys so much more and also understand why mums tend to spoil their boys more than their girls. To have your little boy tell you that he loves you so much and to see him being so caring and gentle to other kids just makes me so proud that i am raising a loving caring boy who will treat women with respect. My boy is a mummies boy without a doubt, he is forever running up for a kiss and a cuddle, or telling me im a gorgeous mum. You will be an amazing mum toyour little boy, enjoy the ride!

Boys are FANTASTIC! I love my little man.

He's nothing I expected, I'll give him that. He's very tidy (puts his toys away, likes to load the dishwasher and washing machine, helps put the pans away stacked neatly) and HATES mess: I was expecting muddy clothes every day but he won't go near it (his only upset in nursery is when they do messy play and he touches something sticky or messy!). He's also really empathic and if he sees that I'm upset he runs up and gives me a huge hug. He loves his kisses and cuddles.

He's also not exactly behind on his talking, as everyone predicted. He amazes people by playing with a car and saying "brrrm brrrm" as he moves it around. He's very physical and loves exploring, but keeps needing cuddles so he knows he is safe while exploring.

He loves the big kids and keeps pace with his friends who are twice his age, which amazes me, he's very strong (all the little girls have told me how strong he is when he picks heavy stuff up!) and he's still kind and gentle... OK so he has to be reminded sometimes but he can play nicely with little babies, girls and animals most of the time.

I could post even more adoring comments but boys are great. OK, so I only really wanted a boy when I was pregnant so may be a little biased but you really can't love them enough.

I love my little man! He may only (just) be 1, but knows how to be a boy! Rough, in the dirt, not afraid of anything - but can get sooky and be a mummas boy. There will come a point where I'm hoping he'll grow out of that, but for now, love my hugs and kisses - most of them at the most unsuspecting times!

I didn't find out what I was having - and was sprung with a boy! What do you do with a boy? Love him all you can! You're going to be a great mum!

I don't know what I'd do if I was to have a girl next - what do you do with girls?! lol

Congrats on your blue one!

I have one of each and my little boy is as rough as guts - he's a man's man!! But he is also extremely affectionate, and he lives for cuddles and kisses and snuggles with his mama ;) Since birth, he needed to be held alot more than his sister ever did. He's also extremely possessive of me, he gets SO riled up at DD when she curls up on my lap or feels she's stealing my attention :lol:

Little boys are so much fun....they're rough and ready but they really, really love their mums :D

OMG it is sooo awesome! My DS gets lots of cuddles from me and DH and loves them. He voluntarily gives us lots of hugs and kisses. Of course now that he is walking sometimes is too 'busy' LOL but he is really affectionate little guy. I think humans are naturally very affectionate and allowing them to be that goes a long way in encouraging hugging etc. We also never force him to hug or kiss anyone so he only does it when he wants to. And he does it a lot!

After just girls for so many years DS has definitely been a steep learning curve but an experience I wouldn't swap for anything. I love watching him imitate daddy and be so boyish but then still give me cuddles and kisses when the mood takes him (and say "no kisses" when he isn't LOL)
I am forever grateful I have got to experience both daughters and a son cause its so different yet both so wonderful.

Puppies Im so excited for you..its so exciting!

When I found out I was having a little boy with Sammy, I was in such a shock. I have never yearned for either sex as I see a healthy baby as a blessing whatever the gender, but honestly I feel so lucky to experience having a little boy.

Hes such a cuddle pot! Not so independent as the girls..its just different. There is such a beautiful energy around little boys. Sammy is now 3 and its "Mummy is my dad tumin home soon."..or "Mummy i miss you so much...i love you so much."

It melts my heart seeing Sammy and Darren together. Sammy tries to copy everything Darren does and Darren is the least blokey man around but they do things together like bringing in the wood and chainsawing branches(Sammy watches by afar but feels included)

Now Sammy is going to be a big brother to a sister, so he will be the only boy in our family and i think its wonderful....you are going to love it!!!

Jo

What wonderful stories, thank you so much for sharing :hug:

My gf has the yummiest little man who loves cuddles & kisses, then is an excitable boy playing rough with daddy, then likes snuggles again. Very precious!!

My little man isn't quite one yet and I've had so many people comment on how much of a cuddle pot he is. I love when he snuggles up to me and rests his head in the crook of my neck. At the same time though he is a boys boy, he does everything with gusto, he loves his trucks and blocks and is very confident with other kids.

I just love him so much and I hope I'm still getting my cuddles in 20 years time.

I just love having Little boys..

I sometimes struggle to understand them but I am sure that is just normal parenting :)

One thing I have noticed from watcing my friends with daughters. Sons are so muc more affecionate..

Congrats on a boy. I think they are awesome :)

(ps I love my little girl though but she is to young to make a comment on which sex is easier)

My son is only 6 months old but I love having a little boy. I would have a dozen boys if I could. Boys are mummy's boys, loves cuddles, have a great sense of humour, are inquisitive and cheeky. They are amazing. Don't stress. You`ll be a great mummy.

I have 2 boys and 2 girls and my boys are 7 and 9 y/o. My oldest boy likes to show how tough and independent he is but he still likes to snuggle with me on the lounge. He has started to ignore me in public lol but I have expected that.

My 7 y/o is the complete opposite. He has always been a snuggle bun : ) He is starting to show his independence too so will expect all PDA to stop soon to.

All my children are loving and love to have kisses and cuddles (my eldest is 13). I'm glad that all of them have not stopped wanting our kisses and hugs.

I haven't found any difference between my girls and my boys in the affection stakes.

Given that I have both genders... 1 girl and 2 boys (and I was a bit freaked out when I was told I was having a boy the first time) I can safely say that you are going to love having a son. My boys are very different: my older boy is gentle and quiet... my youngest is chatty and active. But Both are big on affection.

Raising Boys by Steve Biddolph will give you some good insight on what it's like to have a boy. They are meant to go throught stages of being mummy's boys and daddy's son! this correlates with their hormonal development... it's healthly and natural. Some families try to mess around with this process and insist that their sons stay one or the other. Some dad's never want their sons to appear "wussy" or ever be a mummy's boy. This can cause real problems, especially in how the boy relates to women in the future, for example.

Anyhow... going off topic... relax :) you are about to fall in love all over again!!! :D

I was so worried about having a boy. I had real fears... mainly, because my DH is so charasmatic and fun. He's great at every sport and kids just adore him where ever he goes. What if he didn't love me as much as his Daddy? What if he only wanted to be with his Daddy and do "boy" things? My son is SO loving and sweet towards his Mummy and his Daddy. He loves cuddles and especially kisses. He loves falling asleep in my arms and only sleeps snuggled up tight next to me when he comes in our bed. He's always involving me in his play, bringing me toys or books to read with him. I adore having a son and wouldn't have it any other way!

Congratulations!!!

Celsie,
yes that is what I have been worried about also. My DH is the same as yours so very good at sport and building things and fixing things. I am worried that he and our little man will be as thick as thieves and I will be sitting back missing out. Needless to say my DH has the same attraction with kids and dogs. They all flock to him. If we are in the car at a set of lights and there is a car full of kids next to us they always wave and smile at him. Its amazing. Oh and my dog, when I bought her home at just 8 weeks of age she immediately started following her daddy around. She loves him and wont take her eyes of him. She is a daddy's girl for sure.

Puppies - our son adores his Daddy and they have lots and lots of fun together, but there are times where he just wants Mummy too. I think he needs "down" time from Daddy, as when they play together it's always full on and full of energy and excitement. When we play, it's much quieter and more relaxed. I think they need that balance. My DS is Mummy's boy, but I expect as he grows, he'll be Daddy's boy too. Don't worry, your little man is going to love you more than anything.

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I guess I just want to know if I will be a good enough mum for him..

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Oh Honey with just those few words I think you'll be a truely wonderful mum to your little man.

Being pg in astronomical itself let alone knowing what your going to be having and how that little person is going to need us in their ways.

Boys are just the most gorgeous little souls. They tend to nuture more of us then girls. I have noticed a big difference between Vyolett and my 3 boys. I find Vyolett highly independant with very strong will power were my little guys wanted support and lots of mummy time. I too was worried that I would wrap them up in cotton wool but I just let my natural instint kick in and followed their lead. I allowed them to bring their own personalities out and allowed them to be themselves.

You have truely beautiful heart..your son is so lucky to have such a loving and caring mummy to look forward too and so will your future children.

Maz, thank you. Your message brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for your encouraging words, it really means a lot me and just wanted I needed to hear. I am already in love with my little man and am looking forward to staring at him for hours on end. I can just see days flying past and not knowing where they went because I will be so wrapped up in him. I pray he stays safe in my tummy and grows nice and strong cause I can't bare to think of anything bad happening to him.

i have two boys and a daughter. My daughter, who is nearly 13, has always been an independent soul, it wasn't until my eldest boy nathan was born, that she decided to become affectionate...lol. having said that, Nathan's nickname is ferret - because he ferrets his way in beside me, and I don't even notice that he has done it - still now at nearly 10. Laura makes a big production about having a cuddle. Aston, my youngest - 2 in November, has started to randomly go up and cuddle anyone of us. Which of course just melts us all.

Nathan is my tender hearted boy. He is at an age where he is wanting more masculine influences, but still comes and gives me a hug and a kiss, and will declare that he loves me. When I had a son I was overwhelmed - I didnt' know what to do with a boy. I had grown up with a sister. They were alien creatures, and I spent the first 18mths of Nathan's life, trying to figure out what made him tick. Then I realised that I was never going to figure it out (much like I can't figure out the male species in general!) and instead of worrying it, I should just enjoy the mystery that is him. Having sons has taught me and helped me appreciate that the male species does things and thinks incredibly different to us females.... and just because its different, doesn't mean its wrong - its just different.

Anyway, I think I have raved on enough now.

As Maz said, just the fact that you are thinking about what kind of mum you are going to be, means alot.

Congratulations on your blue bump - may the next half of your pregnancy speed on by, so you can hold him in your arms and fall in love with this amazing gift.